| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/19/2007 10:55:59 PM |
I don't really believe, or buy into the whole "soul-mate" thing.
Perhaps because it isn't real?
I do however believe that certain people are better suited for each other, and those are the people that generally end up together.
I certainly felt that way when I got married. Actually I still felt that way when she left. But since I knew her so well I also knew she needed to go even if I didn't like it one bit. (there will be a short pause while I sigh deeply)
If everyone was so right on about finding their "soul-mate", then why is the divorce rate so high?
To give lawyers something to do?
Finding a person who compliments your personality, doesn't necessarily mean that you are a good match, just that you're more likely to succeed in making a relationship work, and we all know they are a LOT of work sometimes.
Ok, since when is a sarcastic smiley girl so damn serious? You're beginning to make me think you have a brain and we all know women aren't allowed to have brains! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/20/2007 12:22:07 AM |
Ok, since when is a sarcastic smiley girl so damn serious? You're beginning to make me think you have a brain and we all know women aren't allowed to have brains!
I am an enigma. I am a paradox. I am a smartas s. Occasionally, I'm even a sap.
What can I say, I'm just plain loco!  | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/20/2007 12:54:30 AM |
I am an enigma. I am a paradox. I am a smartas s. Occasionally, I'm even a sap.
Those are all good attributes. Embrace them...ah, never mind, you already are. 
What can I say, I'm just plain loco!
I have a friend that drives a locomotive? Does that count? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/20/2007 1:40:16 AM | you're so deep.
I know that my soul mate is out there somewhere. She may be boning some other guy for the moment, but that's just because she hasn't met met yet. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:27:49 PM | Maybe people who think there is such a thing as a "soul mate" are so focused on looking for that non-existent person that they miss seeing the reality of the fine people who cross their paths every day.
The concept of that mythical "soul mate" comes from Plato, who taught that you are not complete until you find your missing half. Well, phooey to that. I am interested in people who are already complete. My life is not about making up for anybody's deficiencies. The people I find most interesting are those who are not driven by neediness but recognize that they are already complete and fully human just as they are. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:55:36 PM | Because I am allowing her to find me. I have not given up because I am patient.
she is likely still weeding out the masses--This is preferable for me actually,
because once the constant looking and looking and looking is done...
Then there I will be- ready for when the timing is optimal.
When insisting on the very best one for me instead
of giving up and settling for an alternative
She will appreciate me all the more
and this will silently tell her
more than words can
express alone.
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:56:23 PM | ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Because she is still way over there-----------> | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 6/26/2007 11:08:00 PM | Oh boy ... here is the million dollar question!!! Well, how many people on this planet??? .........then you have that many reasons. We are not made from molds, and were not run through an assembly line.... and yet at some places there is something close to a catalog, that charge you an enormous amount of $$$$ to help you in finding your mate across the country and across the oceans....
What is it this difficult when Mom and Dad were dating??? I do not think so!
But with technology, we expect...yeah EXPECT to locate what the heart desires, yet the key part of this arrangement.... is not getting north and north magnets. or is it North and South that attract?? Any way you look at it.... Most of us have been burnt, hurt, and used... so NOW we will no longer settle. WHat a world we live in!
Chances are if we just live our lives as full as possible, love will happen someplace along the way...... but we want love NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 6/26/2007 11:26:44 PM | great post, wreck --
to the question "Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?"
I am going with ...
"Because sometimes we try too hard."
and most of us do not put ourselves out there enough...nobody is going to knock on your door looking for their soulmate ...and unless your soulmate happens to be the UPS driver ...then you'd be going nowhere fast in your quest for a mate by staying at home - and if you are thinking you will try internet dating - yes...do that , but do not make the mistake of leaning on dating sites as your single only venue for meeting people...the nature of interne3t dating is such the process takes much longer.
Be open and available to meet people in line at the bank, post office, bookstore /grocery store, etc...
peace
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Karen5
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 6/29/2007 4:27:03 AM |
Most of the single people I know want to be married. So why is it so hard for those of us who are nice people to find our "soul mate". Why do you think you're single?
Well, the "soul" is covered up by alot of other aspects - the physical body, the brain, ego, personality, defense mechanisms, etc. Human are layered beings. It's often difficult to see the soul of another person, much less bare yours to him. Sometimes it's hard for one to be in touch with his own soul. It's part of the challenge of being human.
I know why I'm still single - I never used to be interested in having a permanent romantic relationship. I was too busy learning, growing, living life, and having fun. I'm still doing all that. I'm just ready to to take it to the next level now. I may have waited too long so I may never find another romantic companion to spend the rest of my life with. If that's the way things turn out, so be it. But, I have a feeling that since I've been so successful in the past at "creating my reality", a lifelong companion is going to materialize for me sooner or later.
In the meantime, a great exercise in "soul mates" is to do some soul searching - search for your own soul and search for it in every person you encounter. We all have one (my belief system) and they're all unique. Don't limit yourself to one soul mate - every person on the planet can be your soul mate. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 7/18/2007 11:08:31 PM | | Soulmates, define soulmate is in lover, friend, a family member. Soulmates come in a variety of colurs... I would suggest before answering this google soulmates and soulgroups.. and read. but then again, depending on what you believe you may be enlightened | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 7/19/2007 4:14:49 AM | I agree with Paul.... I know who my soul mate is... we are so much alike and know how each other is feeling and can sence being down or something wrong without saying a word to each other.... and NO he is not my lover... But yes I do feel he is my soul mate and we are only 2 weeks apart in our age even. I guess you can say we are so close and so much alike we ended up being best friends and nothing more, But I am so thankful I have him!!!
so yes soul mates can come in ANY FORM and may not be you lover or husband ect... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 11/20/2007 5:48:11 PM | Hmmmm let me see.... still believe in what Wreckless1 stated! 
But even if time is not on our side what exactly is?? Who has not crossed the path of "The one I want does not want me!!" ...and the colored girls go ..do, da do, da do.. do do do.!!!
When did we get so fockin picky!!! Is is so frustrating most will agree, but hey would you rather be paired up with someone you never met, to marry...as some other countries still practice today???
I mean for some it is as easy as using a website to weed out all the weirdos, creeps, jerks, Aholes, and perverts!! While others are just as happy to find them at there local church, school, or Home Depot... (can you find love there... for real??!) I think I will try this Saturday!!! JK....
Seriously folks... When will we allow others to cross our barriers, When they have proven themselves... you say!! Well I know from experience.... you cannot Win at love, if you do not participate!! Spectators keep dreamin, while the particpants may make it to the 4th quarter... so to speak... or maybe even a Grand Slam... well I like Dennys!!  TTFN W2 | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 11/21/2007 1:22:42 PM | Soulmates: I believe that we all have them, but there's more than one. A soulmate is just someone who makes a great addition to your life. There are plenty of people out there that make great soulmates. Soulmates don't have to be a significant other, they can also be friends as well.
I think Dr. Phil said it today....We are always trying to look for the one that is better then the profile we are reading. We keep one upping ourselves out of meeting anyone who may be our soulmate.
My question to Dr. Phil, and many ladies, is why do we have to settle? We should be able to get the men that fufill our checklists by at least 75% to 80%. Why is it that men can get what they want but women always have to settle? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 11/21/2007 2:34:07 PM | I don't know if I buy into the soulmate concept.
Every relationship needs to be nurtured so that it can grow into something bigger and better, expecting the metaphysical boot to the head when you first touch hands is best left to the realm of Disney.
I believe that there are lots of potential partners for everyone, not just one perfect match.
--Serenity | |
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