| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 3:52:34 PM | | It irritates me how women pretend that men do not cook. In case you did not know, the average man has 9 years alone before he is married (18 - 27). He has to eat somehow and I doubt all these men are eating out for every meal. In addition, has no one noticed that the majority of chefs (famous and non famous) happen to be male? Many of the best cooks in the world are male. Of course men cook! Of course men clean! | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 3:55:25 PM | ^^^LMFAO! True men are on their own yes, but alot of them live like pigs and eat pasta every night. Have you NOT seen 'Queer Eye for the Straight Guy'?
I am NOT threatened by a man that will clean or cook - it's actually a really huge turn on to me when a man takes pride in the home and can put a well prepared, great tasting meal in front of me. Que Paris - That's Hot.
Now - I have no problem with doing some 'man' jobs but noooo - no mowing any lawns, unless it's one of those car like ones ya sit on - that'd be fun! Yeh, I would do that. No oil changes for me - for the simple fact I am not mechanically inclined. Heck, last time I put air in my tires i almost blew my car right off the rode - the mechanic told me i was lucky i asked him to check the pressure or half way down the street I'd have been flying through the air. Sooo best if i stay away from that kinda stuff.
I'm sure not many men would be threatened by a woman who will mow the lawn or change her own oil - saves him from having to do it.
Now ask if a MAN if he would be threatened by a woman who made more money (not a loser that has no problem living off of women) than he does or is more attractive then he is...
Neither of those would go over nearly as big.
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 3:56:38 PM | Hmmm... just mulling over this a bit and I realized that more than half of my closest couple friends have the woman as the biggest bread-winner right now. One other couple is likely moving to that status shortly so that he can take a break, explore other opportunities and look after the kids for a while.
The most traditionally manly of the men in those relationships is also the one that followed his wife to the States for her career, has a 9-5 job that he leaves at work and took responsibility for much more of the household chores.
Of course, maybe I'm an outlier. Over Xmas I selected fabric and recovered my dining room chairs in addition to falling down big mountains at great speed and drinking single-malt scotch. I outsource vehicle maintenance and live in a condo. No woman I know describes me as unmanly or wimpish; quite the opposite in fact.
Nervousness about 'traditional' gender roles? I leave that to people that want to waste their time and limit their choices. Nervousness is for the insecure.
Cheers,
Mike (and frankly, the toilet looks a lot better with the seat down) | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 4:07:29 PM | | I personally just think it's crazy that people still think that menn cooking/cleaning or women watching sport/fixing cars is practicing an "untraditional gender role". In the circles I run in, you would have to be cross-dressing and playing with strapons (and it's still considered perfectly acceptable - even desirable - behaviour)! | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 4:58:40 PM |
Where are these women that are cooking and cleaning? Maybe I have too many prgressive friends...
Exactly. I do not know one woman who knows how to cook. Even when the man is the bread winner he is also the one that cooks. I guess it would be much too oppressing if she was required to do some household chores. | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 6:41:01 PM | | where do i sign up to find these guys more than willing to clean? [i know enough guys who enjoy cooking]....cleaning on the other hand...that's on another level...=D | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:28:13 PM | I would be very open to a house husband or stay at home Dad!
Between working and running a house/raising a child I find being at home the much harder job.
Walk in kiss my husband ,,kiss a baby and sit down to dinner? where do I sign up.?
to the original question,,If we are both working,,I would not even consider a man who would not do his share around the house.. We're both bringing in money,,so why should the housework be "mine", he lives there too.
I can take the car to jiffy lube when needed and ride a mower twice a month . | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:33:57 PM | Living alone means I have to cook, clean, and do laundry. Fortunately, I was a saute chef many years ago and remember a few of the things I learned to cook. I still make an awesome eggs benedict if you want your arteries hardened in one sitting.
A woman that will mow the grass and change oil doesn't threaten me. I like a woman that can be independent when she wants to be. If she wants help, she can ask for it. | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 9:16:01 PM | Untraditional Gender Roles????????????
Do those go better with gravy and mashed potatoes?????????
Or do you make sandwiches with them???????
What is "Untradtional" about men cooking or a woman mowing the lawn?????? | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/4/2007 9:21:09 PM | | Not at all! My dad cooks and cleans a lot too! He cooks more than my mom does. It's mainly because he gets off of work earlier than my mom does. My mom does her equal share of cleaning and sometimes cooking too. I don't like the traditional gender roles where the wife is expected to clean and have dinner on by 6. It should be of a more compromise, equal partnership deal where there is an equal amount of work done by each party....take some, give some... | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 3:09:37 AM | I love the idea, mostly because I can't really cook (I mean I can to survive but nothing gourmet goin on here sadly!) and I make a fairly good living and have been with guys who couldn't handle the fact I made more money than they did.
bring it on! | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 3:12:50 AM | | lol, if a girl knows how to change the oil and be "feminine" I cool with that. More than likely the way I see it if she wants to do it, i won't forbid her it's her choice. | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:21:43 AM | | When I read this, I realize I had to post lol I am neither non traditonal or traditional. I do what has to be done. I have spent the majority of my adult life single. Have changed my oil, spark plugs, fuel filters, changed tires, bought my own home, pay my own bills and yes, cook and clean. Even fix the toilet when its broke and replaced a few outlets lol When I have been in a relationship it has probably been more on the traditional side coz I love taking care of a man (Im such a mommy type) To me its one way to show you care and respect him enough to see to his needs. But I have to say, If I come home from work and I am tired, I would like for him to share in preparing a meal then or helping me with a chore. More to the point, I would want him to want to help. You guys see the movie "The Break Up" I understand why she wanted him to want to do the dishes lol To me its about "Do you really care about me, are you paying attention to my needs today?" | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:32:34 AM | | My wife was VERY sick for quit some time.I did all the cooking ,cleaning,laundry,well you get the Idea.I found it a large help to fire up the smoker,season a beef brisket,or chickens,or pork loins,and smoke them .It took a while to cook and freed me up for the other tasks | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:57:36 AM | | I actually had someone from this site email me saying i need a lot of luck finding a guy since i cant cook!!! So i guess some people are still stuck on the so called traditional roles, however most men I have dated were great cooks and had no problem with me not knowing how to cook. | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:03:46 AM | Sure.
I love that stuff.
Now where is a girl that will mow the lawn, get under the kitchen sink or fix a toilet seal, and set up a furnace without me fearing she will make it explode? | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:14:15 AM | @dentedKnight...
 pick me, pick me.....
Now to find a guy who will clean the house, cook me dinner, do my laundry, wash my dishes... while I am kicked back on the couch watching golf.... | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:32:06 AM | Hey a person does what needs to be done regardless of tradition.
I cook,clean, do laundry, dust,fix the vehicles,mow and take out the trash. Hell I even rearrange furniture. | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/7/2007 12:14:07 PM | I don't know about other women, but I openly admit I can't cook. Maybe a few simple things. But I come from a long line of Peggy Bundy's (w/o the smoking). me, my 2 sisters, mother, grandmother really are terrible at cooking. I guess we just were never really taught how to cook.
My ex's mother used to buy me cookbooks all the time. The last one she bought was...cooking 4 ingrediences (sp) only. Still never opened it up to look at. I can clean a house do laundry etc. Wish I was like the other women who posted she changes her oil, tires, cooks, cleans,etc. Now that girl is a great catch for any guy. | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/7/2007 12:33:43 PM | Yes I can handle it. But then again, I am anything but a traditional man. And I am thankful for that. I am a man that desires a dominant woman in a loving D/s power exchange. It is more common then you think. If you don't know what D/s is, you may not understand it when a woman is the dominant one of power in a relationship. For many of us, it goes way beyond the bedroom and is part of everyday life.
For some of us, we believe that women have been used, abused, and made out to be second class citizens way to long in a male dominated world.
I am proud and honored to love , adore and respect women enough to submit to their wants and needs. That included the cooking and the cleaning. And anything else she wants. There is nothing more beautiful to this man then a powerful dominant woman that demands and commands respect from us, the weaker sex.
My reward is her happiness and some of the best sex in the bedroom a man can have! lol | |
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Keljo
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/7/2007 4:41:41 PM | Wow....I can cook & clean (thanks mom)...
I can do household maintenance and mow the lawn (thanks dad).....
I live alone, WHO else is going to do it? I would much rather cook and clean than mow the lawn though. Darned allergies leave me sneezing and wheezing after cutting the grass.
Nothing wrong with being well rounded.....men who can cook, women who can mow the lawn.....I say go for it! | |
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| Untraditional gender roles, can you handle it?
Posted: 1/7/2007 8:42:29 PM | lol I don't mind cooking and cleaning but its a 2-way street. People always seem to think they are the overworked ones in a relationship and they tend to have difficulty picturing life through the other's eyes.
FYI I said I don't mind cooking....I'm not very good unless I get lucky or good coaching so it'd probably be best if you helped me for the first few trial runs 
As for cleaning...its just something I'm used to. I'm not the cleanest person in the world but I get uncomfortable at home when things get crazy so I usually bypass my ADD and just mass clean everything back to start  | |
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