| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/5/2007 12:50:58 PM | Personality trait with a biological component. One thing that players have in common is that they are quite intelligent. Scorn does not usually permit people to admit this, but it is invariably true. Women and male non players like to wish that players are insecure and childlike. Unfortunately, a wish is all that it is. Players are as emotionally developed as anyone else. The fact is that being a player is a chosen lifestyle and players work to perfect their art in the same way a tradesman develops his craft.
On the biological side, it is impossible for anyone who is physically revolting to be a player but that leaves a wide variety still. Even if the Elephant Man can be ruled out, arguably the greatest player of recent years, Giovanni Viglioto, was short, dumpy and impotent to boot. | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/5/2007 2:05:38 PM | I've said it before, I'll say it again.
Being a player is a learned trait - if it didn't work, they wouldn't do it. Here's proof;
I was on a cruise and the Capt's 2nd was hustling all the ladies. I was the "lucky" one to go to his cabin at night.
She knew he was a player, she knew he was hustling all the ladies, and yet she still went to his cabin "just to see".
Sure, players may attract "weak" women, but they're getting laid and "nice" guys are not, so the ultimate question becomes, are you willing to sacrifice your principles (if you actually have any) in order to start getting some kitty?
Faced with never getting laid, a lot of guys are obviously answering "yes". | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/5/2007 3:14:01 PM | ^^^
I was on a cruise and the Capt's 2nd was hustling all the ladies. I was the "lucky" one to go to his cabin at night.
Sorry pal. But that's not a "player". You have to get the definition right.
That's a guy that just wants to get laid. Is obvious about it. She recognized that and decided to do him.
To the best of my knowledge, a "Player" is a pathetic guy that pretends to love and respect in order to get laid. | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/5/2007 5:14:50 PM | Sorry pal. But that's not a "player". You have to get the definition right.
Well see, there's the problem, isn't it? Everyone has their own definition. I, and I'd wager a lot of other people here, consider a "player" someone who will do anything to get what he wants, which is often situated in a woman's trousers. They'll do anything or say anything; if feigning love and respect would work, they do that. If something else, like being super-suave and charming, works, they'll do that - and they'll do it to five different people at once if it'll help.
But regardless, your point is moo because the lady I was quoting said herself that the guy in question was a player.
I wanted to find out what made that player tick
So, there ya go. | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/8/2007 1:13:33 PM | ["I saw a bunch of ticks on that player."]
OH WOW, maybe that's what kept me from "doing" that player. It was the "ticks".
Unfortunately for the good captain, he didn't get any.
(In plain english -- we didn't sleep together, have sex, and some kisses were all he got)
I did have enjoyable time sipping brandy & hearing about life in Greece (if he was actually telling the truth about that -- which I have my doubts) when he kept his hands off me.
why I went with the player?
It wasn't the uniform -- I had been the military.
It wasn't the because I was lonely.
He was interesting, had seen the world via ship.
And I ? Well, I just wanted to know why he was like that.
Still don't know.... I think he must have been "drawn" that way.....
But he had no aversion to taking to his berth a new woman and knew that he could be choosy on the cruises. | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/8/2007 1:37:18 PM | /\ /\ /\
I still don't see how that cruise guy was a player. Did he tell lies to get you (or other women) to go to his cabin and have sex (or not, in your case)? If he just asked, and the answer was yes (cabin or sex), that's pretty much an honest guy asking for company and/or sex. How is that a player? | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/8/2007 9:21:19 PM | Some folks consider a player someone who doesn't commit to a single woman - they just like to "play".
OK. In that case ... but I thought it was the deception part of a person's character that makes him/her a "player." I guess that's why I've been confused about why I've never been approached by one, while so many women claim to run into them all the time. If I meet a man who doesn't want to commit to a single woman, I think he's a man who doesn't want to commit to a single woman.
That's the problem with all these terms. They mean different things to everybody. | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:02:49 PM | The female version of the concept of 'PLAYA' is 'Whore'... So, let's look at this.
If a woman is able to bed-hop without any sense of obligation before she marries, is she likely to remain faithful while she's married?
And, if men have WAY MORE testosterone than women, would it be safe to assume that the playa's whorish ways are unlikely to change? | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:35:49 PM | I love this kind of question. I love it b/c there is no definitive answer.
You know how when you were a kid, you'd push your parents buttons to see how far you could push them? Maybe you were one of those kids that could lie so well to your parents that they never had a SNIFF about some of the goings on in your life...
"Players" aren't really "players"...they're just the adult version of those kids that enjoy seeing how far they can go and get away with it. They tend to be experts in the persuasion department...which means they've had a lot of practice.
Does this mean that every "player" will cheat...shit no. Just b/c that was entertaining to them in the past has no bearing on whether they will in a marriage or committed relationship.
If they're gonna enter into something as committed as a marriage, you'd think they'd have weighed the pros and cons and decided that there's something more desirable in marriage (though, I cannot think what).
Still, doesn't mean they won't cheat, either. | |
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| Is being a 'player' a personality trait or a phase?
Posted: 1/9/2007 8:38:33 AM |
they're just the adult version of those kids that enjoy seeing how far they can go and get away with it. They tend to be experts in the persuasion department...which means they've had a lot of practice.
That's one of the best definitions I've seen. All the players I've ever known have been like that and have been the sort who flouted the law and had no respect for authority either - not necessarily in a bad way, just in a laddish and usually charming way.
One would assume then that its a learnt trait and that they are likely to always be that way to some extent. Wouldn't you? | |
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