MISS13
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Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 26 | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/5/2007 1:39:06 PM | Thank you guys! Reading these comments really are helping me alot and to get my head on straight.
He sent me a text threatening me earlier! Saying that he can have me locked up for going through his e-mail.Which is true and I'm a little worried. He told me that he could file a lawsuit against me. I think he's just all talk and he probably wouldn't go through with it. I tried to call and text him back but the jerk won't reply. I'm not going to worry about it!
The guy has issues, he seems like all that he's concerned about is sex and he probably has something. I will get checked for stds though. What worries me now, is that one time he was sick and he said he was feeling very weak and he was coughing up this clear liquid substance. I thought it was weird at the time but is that a sign of some kind of std??
This is what I'm worried about the most. Everytime we had sex we've used condoms. It seems like he gets sex from a different person everyday and everynight. I can't believe I even slept with this creep. I feel rather dirty.. I only had sex with him in the beginning when he put on the act that he was such a nice guy. Which was too soon!!
I'm also a little worried about his text threat. What I did was illegal and I wasn't thinking rationally and now this creep could have me locked up for snooping around.. Should I worry about this and what can happen in this situation? | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/5/2007 1:55:38 PM | one word baby.... KARMA!!
dump his ass and don't look back! been there, done that... and don't worry about his "new" friends and activities... one day, he'll be thinking about his life and he'll probably be sorry or who knows? maybe he won't be... that's up to him.
but seriously though... it's pretty clear he's cheating and probably has been for Lord knows how long?
homework:
have a good girlfriend (or a few) come over, have a few drinks, shed some tears, and move on! there are plenty of guys out there who know how to treat women right! chin up! | |
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ya472
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Joined: 4/29/2006
Msg: 29 | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:30:45 AM | I have a good friend in a similar situation, and just like I've been saying to her...
It's understandable part of you still has feelings for him, even though he's treated you like crap, and you're trying to hold onto the good things.
But for serious, look at this guy. He's a jerk and obviously doesn't deserve you. You can find someone way better and more worthy or your affections.
It might take some time to move on and get over him, but do it. Don't devote your entire life to someone who won't respect you. It's not worth it. | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:35:01 AM | EDIT:::
About the legal threats, don't even worry about it. You can argue you were suspecting adultery and you were afraid of contracting STD's because you suspected he was cheating and he wouldn't give you answers. Or something.
If it goes that far and actually comes down to dealing with the law, chances are someone will take pity on you and throw his charges out the window.
I wouldn't worry about it. And if he's been hanging out with prostitutes that's worse then figuring out someone's password for Yahoo. | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:26:43 AM | Well that is very wrong of him and evil. Relationships are suppose to be good ones and secrets shouldn't be kept but for the record.... You shouldn't be nosing into his Myspace and Yahoo Passwords you shoulda broken up with him, obviously there were signs and I bet if you break up with him he probably won't be caring if he has a record deal and meeting famous ppl.
But yeah as long as he doesnt think about it, no one has a right to go into other peoples information and retrieve passwords thats barging into personal information and there are laws for that. But he probably won't do anything bout it. | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/8/2007 8:44:01 AM | I'll say it before like I said in another post! IT'S NOT ABOUT THE MONEY!!! It came out wrong. It would bother me that this jerk can screw and mess up so many people's lives and yet he gets to be a famous singer when he doesn't deserve it.I could care less about his money...
I can actually see him messing up and not making it at all. He had so much confidence in his music career that he would drop out of college and quit his job which was extremely stupid on his part. So now he's living with a relative working on an album that might not even hit shelves.He's been a vocal arranger here in Atlanta Georgia for awhile and he's worked with alot of famous singers and producers so there is a possibility of him making it since it seems he has connections or what not. I could care less about being with him, I just feel that if you are a good person, GOOD things should come to you. It just doesn't seem fair that me, who tries to do good always get the short end of the stick and the bad people always win!
He seems like a sex addict because in our relationship, now to think about it all he ever wanted to really do was have sex.If he makes it big, he'll probably end up doing the same thing with prostitutes and he'll probably get locked up. The one thing with fame is that your privacy is really gone because the press gets dirt and information on you 24/7.The past will catch up with him eventually I believe anyway... Right now, I'm very bitter and hurt and I just want him to suffer like he made me suffer....
I also think that text threat was to scare me, what a jerk! Right now I'm just going to focus on me and just learn to live life and love myself. It's really cold and lonely right now because things don't really look all that great right now and things look so good for him. | |
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diit
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Joined: 12/26/2006
Msg: 36 | |
| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:33:27 PM | Sorry you had to go through this. I can see where you are hurt, but there should be no confusion... if ever there was a man to walk away from and not look back, this is the guy.
All you can do is learn from this... you described lots of signs that should have been huge red flags. Next time, listen to your intuition, don't let yourself get in the same mess ever again. That, and get tested for STDs for your own peace of mind. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 7:08:59 PM | My husband has been on dating sites and sex sites.. they say it is an addicition.. Because we have been married only 8 months courts are reluctant to grant a divorce.. I have a prenup but it doesnt look good.. those things are solid..
Every lawyer I go to says counselling .. must go for 6 months then they will look at a divorce
He says he needs help.. | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/11/2007 10:53:45 PM | First, I am going to say that going through another's email is an invasion. I once stayed at a BF's home dogsitting while he was out-of-town and did not snoop (in hindsight maybe I should have) but if you consider yourself in a relationship, TRUST needs to be one of the elements.
Recently, I did a police report for a really nice couple, but then days later, I was contacted by the female. I had left their place with my Spider Sense tingling, but I thought they were very nice and liked them both.
She believes that there was no forced entry, and that one of his former (I guess still) prostitute friends was invited into the home while she was out-of-town and was the one that stole the jewelry (essentially all of the jewelry he had ever given her). If you knew the circumstances, that makes much more sense.
I suggested to her that there were many problems going on here. If he gets his hand caught in the kitty box, is he going to be bitter for her having caught him? If the investigation reveals that he was in the kitty box, will she be bitter? What will this do to their relationship?
She insists that she loves him, and holds no grudge against him, and only the thief. Perhaps he is going through a mid-Life crisis? Perhaps he is a sex addict? She loves him and is prepared to stay with him, regardless, she says.
I doubt a man would be that forgiving, but that is neither here nor there. | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:56:43 AM | | Wow... I hear what you're going through, but wishing someone bad on the talent they have has nothing to do with the situation...You're mad and upset, I understand, and you have every right to be, but wishing bad on someone will usually come back to the person doing that...His talent is his talent. Sounds like you don't have tie with him, so go about your ways and concentrate on you. If he trys to contact you, don't answer. You deserve better, and I hope you find all the happiness and succees in your life. Bless! | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/14/2007 12:08:18 PM | Thanks for the responses. He keeps sending me taunting texes about all I was to him was a h*e and that he never cared about me. Which really upsets me but I will be fine in time I suppose. Oddly I still miss the jerk, I miss the person he portrayed himself to be.
I'm very alone and confused right now. I went to the club with friends last night so that took my mind off of things for awhile.Focusing on me is soo hard but I just hope things will get better, it hurts when you've been betrayed and you feel so hurt... | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/14/2007 1:46:14 PM | unique - just walk away from the relationship. if he's been sleeping with prostitutes you don't want anything to do with him. you don't know what you might catch. don't worry about whether he has bordum from fame and glory and don't worry if he has failure following any success. you don't need that in your life. not from him, not from anyone. if he's not man enough to tell you that it's over and he's only using you for sex then you step up to plate and tell him. tell him to his face, not over the phone that enough is enough and just walk away. when you walk don't look back. if he honestly loves you and never cheated on you, have him prove it. | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 1/14/2007 2:10:34 PM | Please thank your lucky stars that you are not pregnant and hopefully did not get any STD's.
You could allow him a second chance at it, you would really live to regret! From what you are saying you already know, what time it is!
You are ahead, if you leave with the hurt you are feeling now, you'll get over him. You're so young, If I knew then (at 21 yoa) what I know now, I'd have listened to an older person, we know. Take some time out to reflect on you, practice loving yourself more, take care of yourself. Set some goals, get busy planning what type of life you want to live!
The right guy will come along sooner or later. I was telling someone earlier that body language, is huge player in how and why we attract certain people. Read up on body language, so that you can project a positive image.
I wish you a very blessed new year full of happiness!
~Faith~ | |
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| Boyfriend has been on sex sites & I think he's seeing prositutes...
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:33:56 AM | How long were you guys going together. From what I read today relationships don't seem to be as dedicated as in past generations. It seems that his success status in this carrer has brought others looking to exploit what he might have. Its what attracts women to guys, the possability of success, wealth, ect. Its a dog eat dog world and it seems the dogs are feeding on one another.
I wouldn't worry about if the guy makes it or not, find someone who values you. As my grandmother once told me you can love a poor girl just as much as a rich girl. | |
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