| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:23:20 PM | Urban dictionary defines as -
1. Head Game
when a person makes his/her potential sex partner to graphically describe everything about the promised sexual act, and then never talk/chat back to them.
Likely used for self stimulation in chat rooms.
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:03:07 PM | Headgames-
Waiting 3 days to call when you know you want to call 1 minute after you've got the #.
Saying you have plans when you really don't to make yourself appear busy when your really not but their busy and your upset by that and you know you'd break any plan just to be with them.
Being the nice guy/girl, or bad boy/girl to accomodate the others personality instead of being yourself- then when you are yourself-they are shocked.
Any hard-to-get technique learned from a book.
Acting out in order to push buttons that trigger emotions like jealousy and insecurity because you need attention and will play dirty to get it.
Flirting to promote interest when you know your not interested in them whatsoever- you just want everyone to want you because its good for your low self-esteem problems-then ignore them when you have their undying attention not realizing that it may be a good thing.
Pulling someone in/out as you feel necessary -somewhat on a string-holding them there in case you do want them but not really sure- in case someone else comes along thats better.
Here's just a few examples I can think of- I personally don't see how the player wins in these situations. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:10:25 PM | Ugh, unfortunately my head played a very nasty game with me this morning. Nothing worse than waking up to a migraine. Those types of headgames really do suck. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 3:04:07 PM | I find ALL women and men play head games.............no matter how you put it,there are some way to play head games.........
Not sure what not playing head games are anymore....you get caught up with all the game playing you just walk in and add more..............
Would like to find a special guy to share my life with at one point in my life.....just not sure where else to look..
We just all play the game.....maybe because we all have issues.....but I find men just don't get it most of the time...
When a woman says, she just wants to find someone that is honest, reliable, one that would not let us down in life.......as others have done...why is it so hard for men to be that person.....don't they want the same thing in life
Just wondering if there could actually be a real man and not someone who only plays head games.
Married couples do it to make the other jealous and want them more.......so why is it so hard to find true love anymore..........I really don't think it exists .......its all a dream....... or a nightmare. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 3:32:39 PM | Ladies --free profile writing advice.........
Don't use the phrase 'no headgames' in your profile
'headgames 'is a used up word..........
like
-'all that and a bag of chips'
-'uh uh no you di in't'
people that use those phrases aspire to be on one of those
'you ain't da babies papa"
shows like Jerry Springer or Maury Povich
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:14:34 PM | Ditto what everyone else has already said...*headgames* a lot of times means basically to lie about something...such as that a person is really married, but lies and says that they are single to get something, or to toy with another person's emotions. There are books written about this stuff...one well known one is called literally "The Game"....and it is all about playing *headgames*...but in the end...it is the *gameplayer* who suffers most...
It is the very opposite of being straightforward, honest and *playing fair* on a dating site or in real life...
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:28:53 PM | I like runtome's idea's as to what headgames are all about,
Like it or not, it appears that most people play out many of the games that runtome has
listed in this post.
I am a honest person, and in the beginning of any relationship, I may be very cautious,
but I communicate what is going on with me, ya I know that its somewhat dangerous,
because it requires me to open up and be vulnerable, but if the woman who I am attempting
to get to know, is honest as well, then the head game stuff need not be played out on
such a grand scale?
Sorry Kaos, the dictionary version does not go far enough to explain the true meaning. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:29:56 PM | Headgames
Saying you love someone and want to be with them forever but it's not true and thus you end up hurting the person you were with, Choosing alcohol over the person you say is the love of your life. Saying you'll come over at 8 but don't show till 10 Cheating on your gf or bf and things like that. Just Vanishing after taking them somewhere for a date and ending up hanging with another girl you say is like your sister. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 12:32:34 AM | Have you ever noticed that the people who put "no headgames" on their profile tend to play these games themselves?
You need no definition, all you need to know is that you don't want to play... | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 2:20:19 AM | | yes I find that most women play head games like replying to an email and then when you respond you get no reply? I don't get it, some women want to be chased, others are turned off by it? Women who go for married men or players hoping to change them, the whole concept is quite bizarre | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 8:59:32 AM | | It sometimes means they have had bad experiences with understanding what men truly mean. They place a lot of credence on to what you say, so do them a favor and not lie so much. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 9:11:54 AM | Seems to me it would be a much better world if people would simply accept the fact that other people DO NOT do what you want them to do.
Men do not do what women want them to do.
Women do not do what men want them to do.
People are just faking whatever they need to fake in order to get what they want.
Men fake relationships to get sex and women trade sex to secure relationships.
What head games? | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:05:47 AM |
I'm new to all of this, and I swear 90% of women have the words "no headgames" on their profile...can someone explain what this means, because I don't understand...
Headgames are actions and words that are used with the intent of inciting feelings of attraction, and FAIL TO DO SO.
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:08:57 AM | Careful ladies! Check out OP's profession..."Marketing - Media Producer ". I think he's trying to play with our heads....if we let him... | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:10:59 AM | Generally everyone has "played headgames" -- but those who do never think they do. It's always from someone else's perspective that the label gets used.
Ask yourself: Have "I" ever played headgames? Most of you will say no, but you'll be sure to tell us of someone else who has. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:16:10 AM | [qupte]say they love you when they obviosuly dont know you.
That is definitely a headgame.
Telling someone you love them when you obviously do not know them screams, "I'm needy!"
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:20:30 AM |
I'm new to all of this, and I swear 90% of women have the words "no headgames" on their profile...can someone explain what this means, because I don't understand...
It's what your doing by asking such a question...!! | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:48:26 PM | | Telling you things that you want to hear even though they don't mean it. Usually it's for their benefit. Sometimes it's just to lead you on and they have some fun doing so in the meantime and don't care if you're hurt in the end. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:48:34 PM | I find that there are two different kind of head games
1) fun head games;
as a sort of test, to playfully see if your significant other is in tune with you. usually it's done when the person has a fear of expressing true self or just does it to have a little fun (in this case, it's really not a meant as a bad headgame...unless the person on the receiving end is too serious in life. Make sure to take things with a grain of salt...you could seriously hurt the other person if you dont know how to communicate effectively. As for the game player...make sure you know the person's not the serious type before you even think about having fun! LOL)
2) mess with your mind head games;
tells you that they care, yet avoids you at all costs; makes plans with you, but its all about what they want or they ditch you; gets you provoked into an argument then denies what they said and makes it out like your nuts (called crazymaking or backlighting), twists everything you say to their advantage, runs to you when you need help, then piles all their garbage on you, breaks you down so they can 'fix' you. etc....
I"ve noticed this "no headgames" bit on men and womens profiles...usually (not always) those are the ones that play them!!!
When you see a post that includes "I never play headgames" be careful (chances are they are aware though and that may be a good sign...maybe)
Same goes with "I dont know what games are" (denial...emotionally unattached)
It would be ideal if people could be just upfront and honest, in a kind way...but we're not in lala land here. There are people that are really shy to be upfront...and then there are those that are just plain mean.
The fun is in the challenge...of learning how to harmonize the beautiful differences that men and women have and learning to respect one another!
By the way...we ALL play/played headgames of some sort. (unless you are Christlike...good luck with that.) Some are just too afraid to be upfront and honest with themselves let alone others.
Be careful out there and have fun!  | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:21:02 PM | when there status says ..........married when they are single
when they tell u" i love u !" when they don't they say it to shut u up !
when they change plans alot they can never compromise on one set date | |
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