| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:14:42 AM | Well thankyou Vulf - what a sigh of relief I just breathed. I omitted the final curtain on this type of situation - constant phone calls and requests to meet again, and I really don't want to so I'm always too busy, until finally, two days later (after date one!) I get a pithy email that says something like "Sob....sob..... I thought we would be so good together, but you're always too busy for me....sob....sob..... why didn't you say you didn't want an LTR when I first contacted you?" -- That's the bit that floors me........................ I desperately want to scream back "Listen DOPEY! - I DO WANT AN LTR - it just isn't going to be with you - Only I was trying not to hurt your feelings! Now, Sunshine - how does that feel?" You see Vult, I could never do or say anything like that, so I take in on the nose and feel like I've just been dragged through a bush backwards. There ya have it! | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:28:25 AM |
So move on. You don't owe anyone anything that you have not actually promised them.
The problem seems to be that there are a lot of people,of BOTH genders, who WILL make promises they have little or no intention of keeping, in order to secure whatever it is they happen to want from that other person.
I for one do not expect the"world at large" to follow my standard. Especially since my standards include honesty, fair play, doing unto others as you would have them do unto you. That said, I have no intention of LOWERING my standards to "fit in" with "the world at large".
If I have to stoop to dishonesty, false promises, and "head games" in order to "compete" and "win"...win WHAT? a relationship based in and built on, bad ideas??
In the words of the great Yogi Berra "Include me out."
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Posted: 1/22/2007 12:07:59 PM |
"Saying what women want to hear is like giving them candy. In response they reward you with what you want also."
Yes but kicking a guy square in the nads when it becomes evident that he DIDN"T MEAN the words "women want to hear"-ooooh! That's BETTER than candy!!
Ladyc4, that post made my day. Thank you so much for saying what I would have said, only less succintly.  | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 12:11:30 PM | That's right, Cindy. Lots of people say things they don't mean, and all the time. That isn't limited to social circumstances, either.
So, again, here's the real question. Since we all know lots of things people say are not really true, why do so many puppies believe the first nice thing out of a stranger's mouth? A little caution, a little reserve, a little 'wait-and-see,' are standard issue for any adult life. You know, when you're responsible for taking care of yourself, and nobody else is?
So, all that prevarication is not the problem. It's the condition on the ground. The problem is all that credulity. After all, anyone of these buttercups can pay a little more attention and use a little more judgement. That can change. The world's abundance of dubious statements cannot.
Cheers!
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 1:37:45 PM | Hmm-mmm Sportsdesk... I wish I had about 5 cents for every gal friend of mine who said the same thing... so, please don't go there... That's generalizing...
Headgames = playing with peoples' emotions.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:06:37 PM |
Manipulation through deception.
That's a pretty good definition right there...though sometimes it's a question of perception. It seems there are those who honestly believe that dating and relationships REQUIRE skill at head games; that's what makes ME uneasy.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:10:31 PM | Mesg 108
Are you recommending that women become CRITICAL listeners?! What a concept!
Seriously, I have certain buzzwords and catchphrases that will put me on alert...
See if y'all can guess some of them LOL.
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:23:46 PM | Saying what women want to hear is like giving them candy. In response they reward you with what you want also.
Yes but kicking a guy square in the nads when it becomes evident that he DIDN"T MEAN the words "women want to hear"-ooooh! That's BETTER than candy!!
Supposing it became evident that a women was playing head game's with a guy ....I'm just curious ....what would be his appropriate response?...do you advocate a similar response?
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Posted: 1/22/2007 4:38:04 PM | I am a victim of headgames...my ex was a master of them..everyday!!
Promises made and never kept is my way of putting it...and the famous words of..."I don't remember telling you that, I don't remeber saying that, I can't remember, I didn't mean to do that, I didn't do it on purpose, I am sorry" and then do it all over again. Over and over and over!!! Telling you that he wants to take you out and then saying he was just joking and won't go out with you. Promising you that he is going to do something "special" for you birthday or any other time but then says..I forgot!! Says you are so sexy then in a few minutes says that you need to loose a few pounds...the roller coaster ride. Tells you that you said something or did something that you know for sure that you didn't. Tells you that he can't remember where the money went. You go on a trip and half way there tells you he forgot his wallet and then after you having a stroke, he says he was just kidding. I could go on and on but I think you get the idea...it runs in the catagory of Mental abuse when it gets excesive. All in all it is a big set up with words just to pull you self esteem down. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 4:47:22 PM | Son, if the woman who's playing head games with you has 'nads, you might want to re-think your dating strategy.
What I said was a humorous exaggeration, in response to a post that struck me as a little bit demeaning to women.
To be totally serious, I don't recommend that either gender commit violence on a member of the opposite gender( or their own).
As to your specific question, your "appropriate" response is pretty much up to you. Drop the gal, play her game and go her one better, write" For a good time call...(her name and phone number) on the mens' room wall at your local bar and grill and bar,whatever. And these suggestions are just educated guesses on my part...since I don't personally go around playing head games on guys, I don't have a lot of firsthand info to give you. I'm sure there are men who felt like I played a head game on them, although what I actually did was to avoid THEIR head game. But that's a whole 'nother subject.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 5:05:46 PM | CindyO, I just had to stop and read your profile. I think you are witty, funny and down to earth. I will now change some things on my profile.
Very unique. 
Luv yr responses to headgames...could not say it any better.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 5:31:42 PM | Son, if the woman who's playing head games with you has 'nads, you might want to re-think your dating strategy.
Son? ...I feel young.....thank's .
Nope ....I prefer women without nad's, thank's ...LOL
But I think it is possible that N.O.W. might have " 'nads for all " in the work's ....or more likely 'nads for none!!
I understand your humour .....normally I would think it just funny and I wouldn't have commented if it weren't for the double standard's on these forum's....if a guy were to say even close to what you said ,there would be outrage ....I'm just having fun pointing out p.c. double standard's ....carry on.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 5:37:34 PM |
I think you are witty, funny and down to earth.
That and $2.00 will get you a  down at Murphy's Bar. Men don't know WHAT the hell to do with it.
But that's OK, I've come to see dating and relationships as sort of like recreational gambling, odds are against hitting a big jackpot,but it's fun.
Trying to change myself, or pretend to be something I'm not, in order to get a relationship, seems like it would be the equivalent of betting the rent money on a lame horse.
But these forums sure are FUN!!
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Posted: 1/22/2007 5:44:01 PM |
N.O.W. might have " 'nads for all " in the work's ....or more likely 'nads for none!!
N.O.W gives me heartburn.
I personally do not consider myself as a feminist...no, I'd have to call myself a humanist, I guess, if I had to call myself anything.
Yes I absolutely agree that the comment about kicking a guy square in the 'nads was little...well, radical. But it sure got everybody's attention,didn't it?
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:53:28 PM | Here's the problem .....your joke was just a joke..and it wasn't to be taken seriously ...people take stuff too seriously ...
Especially when it come's to "priviledged group's"...men are supposed to have a sense of humour and be able to take a joke ...but other group's are "sacred"
Practically every t.v. commercial is "dumn guy" /smart wife.
I prefer joking, even if it's directed at men ...but I would like to see the same returned....some balance.....
It's the "sacred" crap that I can't stand.
Anyway's enough about it ... and ......what is the smartest thing that ever came out of a woman's mouth?.....LOL | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:12:01 PM | head games:
things to get into someones heads (both male and female) example: saying somthing that you truely dont meen or telling only half of the truth. this is a form of deseption a smoke screen if you will to cover what is true (moast because one is afraid of who thay really are) this are not limited to the above example as long as there is some sort of deception there lies a head game | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/26/2007 3:10:34 AM | Page 3, Msg 65, Posted by kisssme87
Headgames are a women's best friend, the key to a man's heart, entertainment for the sick, and the cause of 90% of break-ups.
Page2, Msg 39, Posted by aalhazzred
Seems to me it would be a much better world if people would simply accept the fact that other people DO NOT do what you want them to do.
Men do not do what women want them to do.
Women do not do what men want them to do.
People are just faking whatever they need to fake in order to get what they want.
Men fake relationships to get sex and women trade sex to secure relationships.
What head games?
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Part 1.
Ok, I read all messages so far in this forum. So, what do we have now?
5 pages, 125 messages. And except 2 quoted above messages (sorry if I missed few more) all another
generated word exchange can be easily substitute with just one simple word: “LIES” (meaning Head Games = Lies)
Part 2.
What if this process (5 pages, 125 messages..) is the headgame itself
by spending so much efforts to mask so simple truth described by single word?
Part 3.
That is why I put in my profile in Interest section: “Head Games”.
Why, you would ask me. Ok, here is the answer. I would expect that
anyone that have in their profile “no headgame” entry, will see it and they will run out!
Why, you may ask? Because I don’t like headgames too! Not clear?
See from the Part 1 again. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 1/26/2007 3:29:10 AM | | Flirting with someone you are not really interested in,asking for thier number and not calling,saying you are going to take them riding on your harley before the end of the summer and never do,telling them that you love being with them and make no attempts to do so for 6 mths. to a year and coming to ones job giving them passionate eye contact like your interested but too chicken to admit it in front of public.Things like that.And let's not forget- asking someone where you stand with them if you are not really interested.I would call all the above headgames,wouldn't you????? | |
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Posted: 1/26/2007 9:49:26 PM | This is what I found to describe the definition of HEADGAMES... on the internet..very short and to the point!!!
Noun: head game
The act of deluding; deception by creating illusory ideas
- delusion, illusion
Derived forms: head games
Type of: deceit, deception, dissembling, dissimulation | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 12:50:10 PM | | I too have mused on the definitive meaning of the "head-game", and come to the conclusion that head games encompasses any attention that proves to be misleading in nature (a misrepresentation for purposes unclear), and I believe most often has to do with the feigning of interest in another for reasons aside from personal dating interest. In my view, it's simply manipulation, and regarded as abhorrent behaviour conducted by an immoral and unscrupulous types. It seems such a shame that the earnest individual must be regarded as suspect because of the actions of such people though. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 3:32:32 PM | Head games?
For me that usually means manipulation. There's not much to elaborate on, really. If I feel like a girl is manipulating me dishonestly, I'm not going to play along. I don't really care what the intention is, be it out of love or just to use me, those kinds of games are a deal breaker.
Granted, I'm less likely to contact a woman who goes off on a tangent in their profile about it because that comes off as abrasive, to a degree, and makes me feel like I'd be starting off on the defensive with her. | |
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