| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 5/11/2007 11:57:44 PM | | point blank, head games are lies or misleading actions used to illicit a disired response from another person, its just plain wrong,, | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:04:55 AM | You can call it what you want sport I call that being spoiled sport but whilst im here i'll put my 2 cents worth in.
Headgames:
Posting a picture that is over 2 decades old and expecting no reaction when your date walks in. Like im suppose to ignore the fact that you've packed on 70lbs and that you dont know what hygienic products are or how to use them .
Yeah my idea of headgames.
To think it took me hours to decide what to wear for that date
So in the end, men are just as guilty of playing headgames as well. Some are even better than women | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:42:27 AM | | Head Games - Head games are exactly wahat it sounds like. You screw with someones emotions for your own personal gain. Just had one like that and my feelings are so hurt that you lose trust in others. Telling someone what they want to here for whatever reason that makes it work for you. People (men and women) have done this forever so it is not anything new only it hurts when it happens to the person who falls for it such as myself. Please remember we all have feelings. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:30:21 AM | Definitions have already been given. I'll echo the sentiment that anyone who puts this in his or her profile is someone to avoid. Same goes for "no players", "no cheaters", "no drama" "no manipulators" "no liars". These are all giant red flags that the person has become bitter as a result of a past experience and instead of working it out, gets defensive about it. Also, it indicates they lack a certain pragmatism. Because not all head game players, etc. are aware that they are doing so, which means they're not going to self screen on that little blurb.
Even if someone is aware that he or she is a headgame player, they're not going to care enough to self-screen. Because if he or she cared to begin with, they wouldn't be playing games. Does the profile writer honestly think the headgame player is going to say, "oh look, this one doesn't want to play headgames, I won't contact this person & will instead use the interest feature to search for someone who likes headgames!" So basically those blurbs in the profile are completely ineffective at doing what the profile writer hopes they will do. And instead are a tip off to other that this person has some issues & is likely bitter. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:46:24 AM | That's when you're dealing with a manipulative person who has deep rooted personality issues and is possibly a sociopath. They are often very charming and personable, but will turn and drive you away only to rope you back in later.
As an example here: You're in communication with someone and you decide you want to meet. You exchange phone numbers and they ask that you call that evening. You don't get the message till the next day so you call then. They let it go to voice mail and respond with an email berating you for not having called when they asked (more like demanded). They block you from responding, then send you a message a week later wanting to explore the idea of meeting again.
Or when people want to email for weeks and weeks. Never wanting to meet, never calling or giving their phone number. They are not willing to take any risk and are manipulating you by holding all the keys to your communication. It's a frightened little power trip concocted by a fearful mind.
Learn to recognize these kinds of manipulative behaviors and act accordingly. I'm not saying write them off, I'm saying know who you're dealing with. Just knowing that you're being manipulated gives you a huge amount of power. We're all wierd in some sort of way. A person like this may be just what you need to compliment you. I used to love a woman with a mean streak. Not so much any more. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 7:23:28 AM | I disagree with th emajorityof posts here. Lies and deception are just that. Flirting is flirting. Not responding to emails: There are many reasons, some are very legitamate. Most things mention thus far are games people play with their own head.
I think headgames are (mostly nonverbal) emotional manipulation. One girl i knew would threaten to burn her hair or cut herself instead of just asking for me to do something for her.
Tears too. BAbies cry to get what they want because they can't speak. It's a behaviour some haven't grown out of.
Say what you mean, say what you need. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 7:32:13 AM | | It's deliberate manipulation in order to keep the other person unsettled so their true intentions aren't discovered. Any time a persons actions and behaviour don't match their words, or if they make conflicting statements, watch that they aren't trying to manipulate you into emotional upset. This keeps you distracted, wondering why you are feeling so confused so they can act as they want without you calling them on it. Don't worry, as soon as they realize you are on to them they'll move on to see if they can find easier prey. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:44:19 AM | "Head games" - I think that most of us use that phrase to describe what other people do to confuse us, implying that they meant to confuse us for some selfish purpose.
I've just been through a bit of that with a woman I was briefly dating. I don't think she meant to confuse me - she just didn't know what she wanted.
We want people to be honest: Honesty isn't only sincerity, it also absolutely requires self-knowledge. Without self-knowledge (who she is; what she really wants), she can 'honestly' tell me one thing one day, and its opposite the next. It's easy to have compassion for someone so confused (as many are); at the same time, you just have to know what *you* want, have reasonable limits and stick to them....when I encounter these 'headgames', I steer away.
'Head games' is a phrase with limited usefulness in my opinion. It makes a negative assumption - that people are trying to manipulate you in some sort of evil way. Sure there are some of these people around, but most that get tagged with this phrase are just confused and lost, bulls in the (relationship) china shop. Best to give them a bit of distance until they figure themselves out. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/3/2007 11:45:25 AM | Head Games are when someone misleads you into thinking they are interested in you over a period of time and then out of the blue... BOOM...they say "You're not my fish!!"
Consider it a learning experience and never let it happen again. Look for the signs! | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/3/2007 10:12:43 PM | | When you see the same people viewing your profile, night, after night, after night, and seem interested, but an email sent to them gets read and deleted. I call that headgames, and although their profile might say, friends,dating or long term, actually it should say... Ima disrespectful b!tch!! | |
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| New Question
Posted: 10/3/2007 10:17:25 PM | Ok, new question:
What is the difference between :
Head games
Mind fuc*king | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 2/15/2008 5:30:01 AM | | telling u things that u want to hear and never come through on any of it. jsut messing with you more or less. some guys and gals do it for fun. but its never fun to mess with someones heart. they say they are gonna do this and that and dont do any of it. say they will call ....call never comes. say they are gonna meet ya...they dont show up. jsut a bunch of lies. if that happens to u jsut one time.. please say goodbye to them or ur wasting ur time and effort on someone who is not deserving of it. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 2/16/2008 1:07:01 AM | | i had a guy on here play headgames with me, i had met him on another site and for jsut over a year he kept telling me he loved me and he sent me roses, promised marriage and all sorts but then christmas day i found out he was getting to know other women but the thing is he knew in the begining i was greiving over the death of my partner so i fell hook line and sinker | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:49:27 AM | | Are people playing head games with us or are we hearing what we want to hear and seeing what we want to see.I am always circumspect about the people who contact me. If I know there is nothing there on my side I wont phone, give my number or meet.They say why not be friends, but they obviously want more and it would become hurtful for that person in the long run.I am not in the business of hurting people and would not start anything I had no desire for.I am just being mindful and thinking ahead not playing head games.It is always obvious when someone is not interested in us, we know it in our gut. If we get embroiled in games it is our choice.We have to take personal responsibility for our lives and not play the victim. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/27/2008 1:38:34 AM | women don't want you to send them mixed signals... mixed signals usually are the result of dating too many women at the same time... as a result one minute you like her... the next you think maybe the other one is better... but then you can't decide again because one makes better meatloaf then the other.. but yet the other one went to a better school... etc.
it all gets really confusing you see...and makes the woman confused as well. we call that being a jerk...
smart girls dump jerks, dumb ones stick around and try to figure out the "puzzle."
lar | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/27/2008 9:57:12 AM |
I'm new to all of this, and I swear 90% of women have the words "no headgames" on their profile...can someone explain what this means, because I don't understand...
When someone's words and actions don't line up, or are unstable and inconsistent, so much so that it destabilizes you, leaving you frustrated, unsure....
Ambivalence. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/27/2008 10:49:31 AM | Posted By: Caro11yn on 1/5/2007 5 20 PM
Subject: Someone explain what headgames are?
Message: Catch phrases like headgames can mean many different things. "mind" games is probably more accurate. Can be by lying, leading someone on and then disappearing, being hot and cold emotionally, saying you want a relationship but then doing/acting like you don't, in other words playing with the other person's emotions or mind. And, yes, I believe the poster that said something like "saying what you mean and doing what you say" is defining what headgames are NOT.
this says it right there.
here is another way to look at........ headgames or mindgames are like how politicains promises somethings to you but never deliver.
oh god!!!! the promises the 2 idiots that are running for president....... now thats a headgame! | |
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