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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:40:07 AM | not saying what they truly think or feel, but doing or saying things they think will 'work" to make you attracted to them..
basically, attempts at "MANIPULATION" of emotions, feelings, and thoughts of another person
an example would be the 1990'sbook "the Rules" which was a 'guide' for women on how to manipulate men's emotions and feelings into pursuing the women and proposing marriage.
as I recall, e.g. "NEVER call a man, let him call you; NEVER go out with him more than once a week", etc.
if these things are different from what she might "naturally" WANT TO DO..
of course both men and women attempt to manipulate others; some guys apparently have a whole list of 'unwritten rules', (I have heard) e.g. don't call her more than twice a week, or sooner than 3 days after a date, or whatever.. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:45:50 AM | LOL, people who play" head games" usually get bit in the a$$. So to those who DO this watch out because when you finally find someone you really like ..karma will be right there waiting for you. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 10/29/2008 11:06:51 AM | ^^
yes and the 'funny' thing is, that the people who complain the MOST about 'head games' or 'mind games' and state "NO MIND GAMES" , etc.
are often the most 'skilled' players of these 'games'..
that's why they bring the whole topic up..
stating "no mind games" is often the first move in starting a NEW game..
because naturally seeing that statement will be a 'challenge' to the skilled mind game players, and they will be attracted to that person..
because so often when a person says "no mind games" they are REALLY attracted to the whole 'game' aspect, so they issue a challenge..and want 'takers'
does stating "no head games" or "no mind games" ever really keep such game players away? I sincerely doubt it..
(that was my attempt at amateur psychoanalysis/transactional analysis) no I'm not "Dr. Phil" in disguise.. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/6/2008 9:59:11 AM | That's so funny...because most of the guys say the same thing! "No games....been there, done that"
I'm thinking "If I AM the kind of person who plays 'headgames', am I actually AWARE of it?" And who's going to read that and say to themselves "Oh, I better stay away! I LOVE playing headgames!" 
Plus, for me, when I read that it just makes me feel 'icky'....it's a negative vibe..it makes me NOT want to contact that person, because who in the world knows what his definition of 'games' might be? And it makes me think that the guy has resentments he's hanging on to.
Anyway, I would love to know what people mean by 'headgames' too.
Thanks! | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/6/2008 12:20:07 PM | headgames are when the other person deceives you somehow and it hurts. Your feelings hurt and your head spins as you think to yourself~why did this person do this to me? | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 4:42:50 AM | | Also called mind games. Push me-pull me. Come here-go away. Telling you who you are, how you feel, and what you want, as though they would know better than you. Throwing every conflict back on you as though you are the one with the problem. Laying bait to see if you'll take it, then pulling away to see if you'll chase (ex. They ask if you would you like to go out to dinner. You say yes. Three weeks go by until you hear from them again at all). Leering at other men/women in your presence to see if they can arouse jealousy in you and prove to you that you're not the only fish in the sea, then acting like you shouldn't experience the very human emotion of jealousy or hurt feelings. Saying something, then denying later that they ever said it or saying you misinterpreted it when it was very clear at the time what they said and meant. Games, games, games. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 8:27:08 AM | | Headgames are another word for 'mindfvckgames'. It's basically being anything but forthcoming in your words, deeds, and intentions, specifically where the so-called 'relationship' is concerned. Most try to cover the headgame with dancing around the subject, or skirting the issue. Good luck with dealing longterm with those who enjoy the said 'headgame'. Most should wind up with a bullet between their eyes to cure them of the affliction. Love, Titus | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 1:10:57 PM | What headgames are ... oh, my, another greenie to the machiney ...
Head games are sadly what this website is all about. Women, men do it too sometimes, put stuff in their profiles like 'looking for someone to chat with' or 'looking for a nice guy'. The fact is, over 90% of the time, these women are looking for nothing more than attention. Don't play that game, don't even bother writing to anyone who claims to be looking for a friend. If they were worthy of your friendship, then why the hell would they be looking for a friend here and not out in public? It's a head game, they are only hoping that you will write to them so that they can say 'Yes, sucker, just got another one'. Ha, ha ha ... yea, it's a really funny prank until it happens to them and then it's 'Waaaa haaaaa haaaa .... ' until the next sucker comes along.
Of course my profile makes me look like a head gamer. So much stuff in my profile that just couldn't possibly be true. White, come on now, how could I possibly be white when my picture shows a ... wait a sec ... a ... oh ... hey, what do you know, I really AM white. OK, better example, my profile says that I have many interests. How could I possibly have many interests if I still have time to check in on this website from time to time? Come on now, who's kidding who here? Of course I'm lying about who and what I am, I'm just here to be accused of something.
And God forbid you should ever actually meet one of these whackoes in person. Your entire life history will be probed, examined, judged scrupulously and meticulously, and anything found to be of wrong doing will be held against you. Like, for example, that girl that I shoved on a school playground because she wouldn't give me my ball back in 1972 ... that was a felony, of course I'm guilty, and should be sent to Folsom prison for the remainder of my days. Or get married, same damn difference if you ask me. Anyway, people make way too big of a deal about stuff that isn't really any of their business. However, it's something to nitpick about and that's why these losers [or at least the losers that frequent this stupid website] do what they do.
Hope that clears it up a little for you ... | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 3:32:18 PM | can someone explain what this means, because I don't understand...
IMO I think there's two versions of it.
1. honest miscommunication
2. deliberate no communication/miscommunication
Either way...the results are likely to be the same.
Abuse (intentional or not) and eventual destruction of the relationship.
As soon as one or both parties attempt to manipulate the natural progression of feelings and a relationship or refuses to communicate...deliberately or not...
I think there's little hope.
Best to be honest and upfront...and resolve any issues ASAP
I also believe that people who complain about it the most...as well as people who complain about control issues etc...are infact the worst perpetrators and more often than not are playing "headgames" within themselves.
And ditto to smileee's post below me.
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 3:50:48 PM | | This is a good post, because many profiles posted by males say the same thing... No Head Games. I have always wondered exactly what that means, and it seems there is no exact definition, except for the basic sins of lying, betraying, exaggerating, puffing, cowardly disappearing, boosting other's ego, in order to win self-gratification. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 6:33:29 PM | Let me tell you what happen to me,now I am not a stupid women nor am I nieve,but I met a man,not on this website,and yes he is on this program.. I just recently found his announcement I call it....I had been speaking with this man,via the internet,phone texting msg,aol and on the phone for nearly a year...the whole time he asked to see me,pretty much begged to see me,,,,,,,so finally I said yes......I made arrangement's for a hotel room,took time off work.....changed my schedule around,got in my vehicle and drove from NE OHIO to QUEENS,NY... 394 miles,1 way......we are texting on my drive..... then he disappears.....I get to the lincoln tunnel and text him about the traffic NO REPLY.......I get to my hotel....and I text him once again........ NO REPLY,I get in my room...... and still no reply,no call no nothing.....so I fall asleep... the next day around noon I text him,asking where he was at.......????? I get this msg back telling me to go **** myself.......all kinda cussing and rude stuff.......I couldn't tell you what was going on..... Then I get this text msg going......... DON"T EVER CONTACT ME AGAIN!!!! I WAS LIKE WTF........so I just shut up and let it be.... while I fumed...later that evening I texted him again......... and get cussed out all over again....... after I drove 400 miles.....and spent........ my money to go visit someone,who had been asking to see me........ he goes off at me like that.....want to talk about mind games!!!!!
But it's ok....... KARMA IS A **** AND WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND.... | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/7/2008 8:13:05 PM | ^^^
He got scared. When people are scared they either lash out or withdraw internally because not many people are capable of drawing a balance.
Men particularly do that as they've been conditioned not to be emotional...so aggression and anger is their primary outlet.
It was emotional for him
Rather than turn his anger at himself ...he's turned it on you to alleviate himself of his own guilt and fear.
Fear = Anger = Blame
Dont chase him...and see if you can forgive him before or if he comes back.
If he behaves like an ass though...kick him in it.
Chin up ok?
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/8/2008 5:01:04 AM | | You have to experienced them really. You probably have. The Taming of the Shrew is head games. Anyone who challenges your perception of reality. Or plays with your feelings.Blowing hot and cold, lying. | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/10/2008 9:29:06 AM | Chin is always up!!!! Now I have another one been speaking to for about 3weeks... I logged on to check my mail and read in the forum... clicked on my favorites.... LOW AND BEHOLD.... this one...... deletes his profile.... SHITZ......... I am not doing well in the man department........LOL
and thank you for replying....
Kate........ | |
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| Someone explain what headgames are?
Posted: 11/10/2008 11:05:41 AM | Head Games? Well the list is long and pathetic but maybe we should look deeper into the issue here.
BOTH women and men play these so called head games but the reasoning isn't just to get a quick lay or to get your car fixed. Lets take a typical male head game as an example.
The guy has been seeing you like a few dates and he says, 'I love you'. Girl thinks awww, thats so cute and they get down to play hide the sausage. Now, a few days later the guy is GONE, and I mean like he left the country. OK so is him saying I love you a DELIBERATE lie to get the girl to give him some. Well on the face of it, yeh it looks that way. But what if we suppose that he actually meant it, not that a man generally has any particular grown up mature thoughts in this department. But, when we get close to someone we generally say something like 'I love you or Your great. Its what happens after this is said thats kind of interesting!
Because you see a woman who has know a guy 5 minutes and then has him say those three words 'I love you' to her, has got to be out of town if she ACTUALLY believes him!!
No what s really going on here is she is looking for a reason to sleep with him, so that she doesnt feel like a slut and ILY, is the words that she wants to hear. The thing is the guy actually believes that he does in most cases and its only after the event i.e. sex that he suddenly thinks 'oh shit, did i really say ILY' and because he's JUST a guy, and finds it hard to talk about his real feelings, he will often just go AWOL to avoid having to explain himself and avoid the pain of havimng to admit it ILY was just a faux paux...
Ok, now obviously I am generalising here, there are guys that know that ILY is a pants of situation, but really most guys are just lame asses and it kind of sneaks out in the moment.
Ok, no lets turn our attention to the girls. Becasue you have a little trick or two up your sleeves. There was a survey done some time ago, 100,000 women where asked as to who the genetic father of their offspring was. The answers where rather surprising, apparently 3 out of fathers who thought they where the Dad, where in fact NOT..!
Thats a lot of kids...lol | |
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