| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:24:32 PM | | Don't let it bother you. If the person is too lazy or rude to reply, he or she is not the sort of person you want as a friend. | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:28:05 PM | ^^Well I've pretty much thought about that too. But I think sometimes it's too hard not to take it personally.
Everyone here knows how difficult it is to make the move to send someone an email in the first place. So sometimes it's a blow to the ego (if you will).
But you're right, I respond to EVERY email that I get. So if someone can't do the same, then I don't need that person around. | |
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aba209
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Joined: 10/1/2005
Msg: 28 | |
| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:18:58 PM | | I always try to respond to every email I get even if it's to just thank them for their interest but decline their invitation to chat. I think I might've gotten a couple of responses (one of whom I've become friends with), but most are read / deleted or just read with no response. I don't understand the reason, but I just think that if they can't take the trouble to respond with a short thanks but no thanks or something of that nature, they're not worth the effort in getting to know. | |
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Srooc
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Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 29 | |
| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:25:08 PM | ^^^^ Do you even respond to the guys that wanna lick your anus?
edit: and be honest Aba.... I just might add you to my favorites!.............lmao | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:34:15 PM | If someone emailed me to lick my anus, I would most certainly respond! We might even set up a date right there and then !
Geez. What kind of girl do you take me for? | |
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aba209
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Joined: 10/1/2005
Msg: 31 | |
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Srooc
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Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 33 | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 3:19:58 PM | It is somewhat comforting to know that some women occasionally experience the same rude (in my opinion) behaviour that men seem to experience pretty regularly. However, despite all our admonitions, it is unlikely to change. Many people seem to believe that anonymity grants them permission to treat others poorly. I don't personally subscribe to that. I have never not responded to an email unless it was worded in such a way that it would appear no response is either desired or required.
I do think that it would be nice if ladies were a little clearer in their initial emails though. While it is nice that you think my picture is {cute, funny, scary, etc.} are you emailing me just to say that or are you interested in chatting? I have responded to such emails, only for them to end up read deleted. Frustrating. If you can use anonymity to sidestep courtesy, surely you can use it to get over fear of rejection and say what you want!
Hopefully this post will help to steer the banter away from the frightening scatalogical direction it was taking... | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:12:56 PM | | It happens to me all the time if i didnt respond to men, unfortunately id get no responses or very few and most of the ones i respond to do the same thing.. read delete.. instead of saying no thanks however i did get two like that in one week .. still doesnt make me feel very good about myself but at least they don t leave you hanging...... DCG.. i responded to your profile a long time ago and you did just that read delete so dont say you respond to every email you get as you didnt to mine....... | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:24:22 PM | In checking my contacts (which lists everyone who you have contacted or has contacted you on POF) it would appear you are not on the list. Perhaps you just thought you contacted me. I have been on various web sites for a long time, and I don't recall ever not replying to an initial contact, however uncomfortable. It is possible, but highly unlikely.
That being said, if I saw someone posting things about people that were best left to private messaging, I would likely terminate any communication with them as soon as possible. | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:34:59 PM |
(which lists everyone who you have contacted or has contacted you on POF)
I think if someone deletes their profile.....they disappear from the "contacts" list.....yes, no? | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 5:10:23 PM | | At least they bothered to read it. I've noticed in my outbox "unread deleted". Sorry if I dont meet your standards that you cant even read what I'm saying. Obviously your not worth my time if you cant even read what i have to say. Im not looking for "long lasting love". I'm looking for friends if anything. If it leads somewhere, great, if not, oh well. | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 5:31:23 PM | Have to swing this thread around the other way. It is sounding so negative and depressing. Yes, sometimes I have not gotten a response when I have sent out an email. Then again, other times I have and have enjoyed numerous chats with all kinds of people. Not saying they have become the love of my life, but have made some acquaintances and some friends. Some have just remained chat buddies.
As far as I am concerned...you can't complain about not meeting anyone if you ever send out an email. | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 5:37:33 PM | I think that more women would contact men looking for a long-term relationship if there were pictures in the profile. I find that many do not have any photos at all. I mean.... what if it were your boss??? Or a former boyfriend?
It's easier to bypass those seemingly "anonymous" profiles because too much is unknown. Photos of the person with something in the background or even posed photos provide a bit more information and makes the person seem more real. An interesting or funny photo - even if it is not of the person, provides an opening to make contact. | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 5:58:41 PM | | I agree. I havent messaged anyone who doesnt have a pic. Mainly because it could be anyone. I like to put a face to the words. | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:24:40 PM | ^^^^^^Or an <<<<< azz to the words..?.....
Legs to the words..?
calfs..?
I mean Calves..?
( see it just isn't as funny with a character restriction..... geeze ) | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 8:15:11 PM | | Don't forget about the not even read and deleted emails...I read certian things find it humorous and I comment. Its like beating a dead horse. shrugs | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/6/2007 8:16:38 PM | | well i've been on here for what seems like for ever and actually it'll be 1 year anniv since being on this calling around for coffee meetings and still no one is 'brave' enough to come on out for a bit!! so what 's up with that?? it's not like i'm gonna bite or anything! | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/7/2007 10:18:27 AM | Ladies and gentlemen.... it's like this...
On here what do we have to go on...? precious little.
#1) We have a profile...in my own experience I have come to realize that precious few truly know themselves enough, deeply enough, to actually write more facts then fiction. Most profiles are to be taken with a grain of salt as is everything said and written back and forth... for a large number of reasons...
#2) Each and every experience I've had with profiles without seeing a pic haven't turned out well. I've met some good people, but they just weren't "my thing" ..you know what I mean.
#3) a pic... kudos to all of us that have RECENT pics up... many have a "look how pretty I was ten years ago" kind of pic... geeze .. deal breaker right there...!!!
#4) This one is for those that have a "weakness" with the written word. You'all could be great people... but this "thing" just isn't your strong suit. We all want "the best" we can get. So those with weak written profiles... have less of a chance... but then if you have some smartie pants ( no reference to our smartie of course) ;... rewrite your profile ..you'll ruin any chance of meeting anyone once you open your mouth ( or start typing replies) ...
#5) Then there is the whole "INDIVIDUAL" and "specific " circumstances of each of us... where we're at... what happened to us.... how we handled it... how it changed us... what stage of the healing cirle we're at....
Some have damaged egos, some are truly and deeply hurt, some are truly and utterly desparate that they'll take anything to avoid the loniliness, some are serial daters... manageing contacts, dateing up a storm, chaseing shiny..( theres allways something better, why settle..) ..
Some women have sent me mails about my posts, my profile, my goofyness... and to all of you thankyou... but. If you read between the lines above and in my profile... " I get it", " I know all about peopleand circumstances", and I'm going to go super slow and start off with meeting people in a group setting... or in the jacuzzi with the candles lit ... ( opps getting horny again.. us men have thoughts about sex..what... 60 times a minute..? )
Oh yeah then theres those that have no respect for the opposite gender... "use all men" or " get what you can out of her".. then a move on type of attitude...
The odds are long.... yes! It will take both an open mind and a open heart,.. plus a ton of other variables.
Harry this is just for you.... quit complaining about no one wanting to date you or responding to you. If you read your own posts..... how will those staemnets want to make any woman want to contact you.... for a mercy fluck..? ( a ohhh, i feel sori for him ..kind of thing..??) psst Harry if you haven't got it yet.... you won't.
We all get rejected... you kind of have to either get used to it or move on to something more suited your strengths.... me I take the club and go trolling the lanes and alleys... drag home some fresh meat.... ... do I need  ?? you bet cha...
I look at it as, their loss... and honestly believe it... I know who and what I am !
It's just that "THEY" haven't classified me yet...!!! Cuase I'm all over the place.. from "pig" to gentleman.... keep them guessing. Only the special will ever know.... and no telling you TWO... hee, hee.
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:03:10 AM | | wow that was a mouth full ^^^ it must have taken a long time time think to say all of that! | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:33:26 AM | | Not too many ladies on here won't contact me ...'cause i'm tooo far away from the 'peg..let alone check out my profile ...but hey ...i dont give up that easily | |
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:38:00 AM | I would email you.....^^ but I am too darn OLD.....sighhhhh and there could be a few other things wrong with me too.....
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| ladies contacting the guy
Posted: 1/7/2007 1:39:48 PM | EdJoe
I really like your term “chasing shiny”. Some people should realize that shiny on the outside does not always mean shiny on the inside. See what you can pick up off the Forums lol. | |
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