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Posted: 1/7/2007 1:52:41 PM | | well how many other 'ladies would like to be emailed to chatting and or coffee or are ya'll too shy to step out of your home!?? just curious. ps i'm approachable friendly well my file has more. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:29:29 PM | Don't give up kats ...you will find Mr. Right
and anyone want to make a small bet that he doesn't live in Boissevain?? (the song "your so vain" keeps popping into my mind now)
Well have to admit....not really looking for Mr. Right.....I am so busy making and
enjoying all the wonderful friends that I have made on POF.....guess Mr. Right will
just have to find me....
edit: On topic ...today I read a new profile...and he sounded like such a nice and warm, kind person....so I sent him an email this morning.....saying "what a really nice profile you have"....
well can you guess what happened..??? NOTHING........now seriously, how many of you guys would at least reply...saying "thank you"....
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:35:08 PM | Well srx 700 I tried to email you but you are not accepting emails from someone my age. Never know what you might be passing up when you restrict the age. Just my thoughts.
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:36:14 PM |
edit: On topic ...today I read a new profile...and he sounded like such a nice and warm, kind person....so I sent him an email this morning.....saying "what a really nice profile you have"....
well can you guess what happened..??? NOTHING........now seriously, how many of you guys would at least reply...saying "thank you"....
I always do on the few occassions this has happened.  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:39:23 PM | Well Midnite rider......that seems like the most appropriate thing to do....afterall,
just cause someone pays you a compliment and you say thank you does it mean your
stuck with them for life!!!
The way I see it......now this person doesn't know me...and I certainly/obviously don't
know them.....but what goes around comes around....they might have seen my picture
or read my profile and went "yuck"....but someday they may want to "date" a lady friend
of mine......and if she ever says to me.....so this guy "XXX" contacted me....do you know him.....
what do YOU think of him?? and guess what I would say........ | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:43:28 PM |
I sent him an email this morning.....saying "what a really nice profile you have"....
Just curious - was that all you said? Did you invite a reply?
Just wondering if you sent one of the "ambiguous" emails I had mentioned earlier... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:45:16 PM |
Just curious - was that all you said? Did you invite a reply?
well I did mention something about passing me his "visa/mastercard number"......
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Posted: 1/7/2007 2:46:51 PM | If somebody's going to go to all of the trouble of:
A) reading my entire (long) profile
B) taking the few seconds to send me some positive feedback about the content, even if both of us realize that we're not a good match
The least I can do is thank them for the comments. If nothing else, it's just common courtesy.  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 3:30:11 PM | | it doesnt bother me because there missing on knowing me and i'm a pretty nice person and easy to get along with and i know what i want so its all good | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:13:51 PM | I'm with you, midnite! I as well have a...well, an excessively long profile, to say the least. Although, the responses I've gotten (all 3 of them) have been very encouraging!
OT: I will say this. And I'm sure it's on both sides of the fence. I'm excessively shy. That, coupled with having 2 little fireballs (they may look like kids, but don't let them fool you....) leaves very little time to work up the necessary courage to "take the plunge", so to speak. I'm working on it, though. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:25:15 PM | Maybe I'm loco.......
I'm not all that shy to send an email to a stranger. I'll generally send a quick note to let the person know what made me want to contact them. I figure that we could all use a bit of compliments? (Or as I like to say "Some sunshine up the bum-bum." :)
From there, I let the other person decide what they want to do. If my goal was to be nice, then I can only assume that it was received in kind from the other end. Regardless of whether they get back to me or not.
If the compliment is purely for compliment's sake, and I know from their profile that they won't be diggin' me, I try to ensure that I comment on that too, so they're not put in an akward position to let me know why they're not interested. (ie - based on age/location/bodytype/etc)
Seems risk-free to me? Give someone the knowledge that they're admired by someone else. Have a point-of-contact open if they want to reply in the future. What's the scary bit?
I'm more afraid of the people who *do* know me and don't like me. :P
Edit: If you're a girl, and I've emailed you..... I'm not diggin' ya. Just thought something about you was fun! lol | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:30:13 PM |
If the compliment is purely for compliment's sake, and I know from their profile that they won't be diggin' me, I try to ensure that I comment on that too, so they're not put in an akward position to let me know why they're not interested.
Exactly. Is that so difficult to do?
I have had emails (as I mentioned earlier) saying "Nice profile" - or something along those lines.
I reply back, saying thank you, and asking a question, and those emails are either unread/deleted or read/deleted with no reply.
Wouldn't it have been much easier up front to say "Nice profile - we aren't really a match or anything, but I just wanted to let you know your profile is great. Good luck in your search!"
Then, there is no ambiguity, and everyone knows where they stand!
Nah, too simple. Let's blame the recipient instead. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 5:09:06 PM | | lol....its like the time i asked a girl if she would dance with me ...and she said no ...because she was seeing someone else...jeez lady i just wanna have a fast dance ...not marry you.lol | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 5:19:50 PM | "You people arent meeting the right women. I think it's the men who are too shy to reply back to the women. They're thinking " Uh Oh this lady messaged me, she's the type who's in control, and I cant talk to someone who messaged me because it makes me feel like less of a man because I didnt message her first". LOL "
Thats not the case orangerum, I would love for a woman to email me first. Hell if you emailed me I would do some back flips first then respond....lol  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 5:36:45 PM |
its like the time i asked a girl if she would dance with me ...and she said no ...because she was seeing someone else...jeez lady i just wanna have a fast dance ...not marry you.
I was at a social with a group of friends... and all the other girls were up dancing, and I was left alone at the table with one of the girl's boyfriends. I said "This is a great social, eh?" or something to that effect. He said "Uh, I'm with CHRISTINE!" :) Nice. Who knew that could count as flirting! lol | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 5:58:16 PM | | To me it doesn't who i'm with ..i'll never turn down a lady i know for a dance..a dance is just a dance ..not a walk to the alter.....lol | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 5:44:54 AM | OT: I do my best to be polite and respond to all that took the time to write...its finding that honest middle with folks tho...if your not interested in learning more...then I keep it simple..look for examples from their profile that would tell me not to pursue it any further and I would usually quote those example in my reply. If I am wishy washy..then I do not give a positive or negative swing on things...its just Hi..and thanks...if I am interested...then the email is much more detailed...at least till I chat with them a little more...but then heck...for me I am on here at this point looking only for friends...so I may not be as discriminating as I could be if I was clearly on here for the man hunt...
However....when I start getting mail from 22 years olds who have nothing better to do than to act like they need a Mom...well guess what...I won't respond to my son when he behaves like a baffoon why would I respond to someone else's 22 year old son...I mean really..there has to be a line drawn in the sand here....and I drew one....
What in the world would I do with a 22 year old young man......oh neber mind...I bet there would be lots of comments on that one.....la la la la ..don't want to hear them...
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Posted: 1/21/2007 10:13:05 AM | Folks I've said it before and I'll say it again, no matter what volume of mail you may receive it only takes a few seconds to send a reply of something like "thank you but I'm afraid I'm not interested" to somebody who may have sent you a note. Anything else does not leave a good impression and if I may is rather rude and inconsiderate.
Sorry to beat this point to death but it appears that it has to be done. OK, I'll get down off my soap box now.  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 10:54:07 AM | So Kat, I gather he didn't send you a rose then??
I couldn't delete without reading an email either. I guess we are just too darn curious. 
I respond to all the emails I get. It is the polite thing to do. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 11:00:07 AM | KatKats the same thing has happened to me with trying to organize wing nites and invitiing someone new to the forums. I just laughed when I remembered that this person made a statement in another thread of how hard it was to either get involved or feel welcome. Ok, now I'm not a rocket scientist but even blondie here can figure out that guys problem. You cant get involved or go to a party if you dont open the invitation.........doesnt that just make one want to wonder about people. Myself, on the other hand would rather wonder on how they get the caramel inside the pockets of a caramilk chocolate bar...........ummmmm chocolate.........
I dont think it really matters if a woman contacts a man cause if he is rude, arrogant or just not interested his personality will definitely show through loud and clear. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 11:10:34 AM | Boissevain Kat? Sheesh, most don't even know were that is, and even fewer can spell it right. Hey it is just South of Minto and around the corner from Ninga. I wonder if they still have barn dances in Ninga. | |
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