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Posted: 6/22/2008 1:16:53 PM | Hey SmartAlec when someone really does offend me here I’ll, I’ll… I’ll stamp my feet and hold my breath till somebody cares. Or till I start feeling faint whichever one comes first. I am going to have to look at my profile to see if I have any requirements and if not I will have to think some up.
Too nice a day to think very hard I’ll leave it for tomorrow. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 9:16:01 AM | It should not matter who contacts who as long as the message is sincere. Personally I like to pick something from their profile and contact first or reply with humor. I too see the SLIM AND TRIM comments also, so joined the gym to ensure that my figure becomes trimmer. Not for the guy so much as for me. Now girls we all naturally check out the guys looks, yes the mind is important but eye appeal is also. Having said that, beauty comes in many forms inside and out, we all want someone pleasing to our eyes, to look into their eyes while the regale us with their many adventures or misadventures.
As for the read delete at first I was offended but changed my mind, if your mail box gets full from to many messages so you need to clear some out. When I contact a guy and there is no reply then he wasn't into me and I move along. We can not be a match perfect or imperfect with everyone.... it is more the point that I tried... how else will I find my true love if I do not step out of the box? What about you? Take a chance step out of the box, check the attitude at the door, if you can't then what are you doing here.
As for the x talk, well men are men, some talk some don't, just keep changing the topic away from x talk and if they continue then they are not for you anyways.
so I will now get off my soap box | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 3:55:39 PM | | ^^^^^ombre what gym you go to, need a little more push that way, instead of walking lmao | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 5:08:27 PM | Ive done it. I get a good rate of replies. I always send along a pic so they know who I am.
In fact two really special freindships bloomed from my first emails over a year ago. We have since drifted mind you, but I like my odds so far. I think Im a better picker than a pickee. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 7:33:24 PM | I have been contacted a number of times by ladies....not a problem !!
What gets me is that some think that inorder for ME TO TALK to them ( but they see no problem contacting me first) that I must be single....like what is with that ?
Like because I am in a relationship it is somehow sinful, disgusting, immoral to TALK to someone?? Give me friggin break !!
Maybe the most honest one was the one who asked me "are you really not single?"
I replied "Really" ! She just replied "Good Luck"!
But a few REAL ladies on here have talked to me like I am a PERSON not some objectified MALE! I like these ladies and they know I am always open to talk. It doesn't mean we are making plans to go F#@%& somewhere!
Some people really need to give their heads a shake! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 7:15:12 PM | sorry Printer 2 - those comments were not aimed in your direction .... I was just generalizing that some or many 50+ men are looking for barbies (opps another stereotype!) gotta stop that! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 7:19:09 PM | You mean I can stop stamping my feet?
So I only have two more years till I start looking for Barbies. I guess I better make the best of it. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:02:06 PM | Yes Smart Alec...its not good to stereotype...
Infact there are alot of women looking for "babies" these days too.
But I am glad you revived the thread for it appeared my earlier personal comments made people speechless on the topic for awhile. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:27:20 PM |
But a few REAL ladies on here have talked to me like I am a PERSON not some objectified MALE!
And what is wrong with talking to you like an objectified male? Doesn't it make ya feel sexy? I for one don't portray you as a ......double checking the word.....oh yeah, object.....objectified male (could you not have undone the shirt completely for the pic?).
Kidding Tempt My, I mean Your Karma! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 7:16:38 AM | Give a guy a little credit for trying to discreet about hiding his hairy beer belly!
But you are right, when I show a little cleavage, I find women never notice what color my eyes are. Its difficult at such times to have serious conversation about the Blue Bombers with them, for example. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 4:21:19 PM |
could you not have undone the shirt completely for the pic?
So that is what I am doing wrong. Will have a new pic up in a flash. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 1:08:36 PM | This whole thing is totally confusing to me, I did not ever think I would be in "dating" mode again...but oh well here I am....ahhh such is life
however, regarding the topic... I have contacted a couple of men on my favs list...and been answered. I am pretty careful to read the profiles intently...lol....really what is the point in messaging people if they are, point blank, telling you ... you are not what they want...eg, smoker's....(which is another whole issue ) I hate smoking and I smoke, I am trying to quit...it's not easy and it really bugs me that we don't have a "I am quitting" choice under the smoking tab. Bugs me even more that people are so judgmental..that they actually inhibit a smoker from contacting them???? wow..ALL smokers do not smell or taste like ashtrays, all smoker's will not expect to stink up your house or your environment with smoke, SOME of us are respectful of others even though we smoke..Not all of us smoke like a house on fire.... and some of us are genuinely trying to quit....*sigh* .... trying to be honest in a judgmental world.
Re reading peoples profiles....my profile is pretty straight forward...and let me tell you...the majority of people that email me or add to their favs are the +60 crowd...and the -30 crowd... It was my experience 12 years ago (the last time I was single) as well, the men my own age wanted the young women and the young men want us "mature" women...back then the bar scene was the only place you could actually meet people....scary.
I have to admit I don't always respond to the emails that I get, but again... READ my profile...I specifically say the age range I am looking for...and my mailbox fills up with emails from 60 yo and 22 yo.... I can't win! ;)
Ok one more tiny rant....WHY don't ALL people put a age range on their profiles....and be honest.... IF you are looking for a "young" woman ....say it....Ya some of us might think you are a tad cracked but hey...at least it is being honest....then you don't have to answer as many emails from old ladies...hehe...
SweetBabyblues - Oh wow I got the same email from that guy....god.. I didn't answer he just sounded too "off" for me...hahahaha..and that wasn't the first email I had received from him.. however I didn't have a chance to respond to the first one...but it was the same type of email...full of .. "I'm gonna try my darnest to "reel" you in lines..cuz I am such a sensitive guy"....
I just LOVE the emails that ask..... with in the first two sentences... "How much do you weigh?"
or another of my all time favorites (this is true!!) .. "Ohhhhh and tell me, HOW do you handle the lack of intimacy since you have been separated..." Hmmmmm let me think...I have become a close and personal friend of the energizer bunny??? Like WTF?? hahahahaha NO kidding ....no more than 2 or 3 questions in...after that one I disconnected the IM....hahahaha...
I'm too old for this crap!! :)
Susan CD...would those be matching maid outfits?? hehehe :) I look great in fishnets! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 1:54:38 PM | Susan CD...would those be matching maid outfits?? hehehe :) I look great in fishnets!
Hi justme.... no, they aren't matching ones. One is a home-made one , made for a Halloween party ( it has the shorter skirt.... hmmmm... actually, more like a really wide belt ) and the other I purchased at Lady Godiva's Boutique; needed it for a calander girls shoot ( I'm April ). It's more lacy/frilly tho ( want me to model them for you? ).
btw, I look great in fishnets too 
As to your smoking /smokers comment, I'm an ex smoker, but have no problem being around people that do smoke. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 8:09:30 AM | | Bingo you hit it right on the nose. Guys are so scared of being chased or stocked that if a woman shows any interest he runs for the hills claiming he is being stocked.... Personally think if person is not of interest let them know that you are not interested and thank them for messaging and move on if they continue to contact you then block them for unwanted advances end of subject. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 8:20:43 AM | | having pictures is not a full proof thing either. I message and met a guy off here that was not what he represented himself to be.... so one needs to be very careful. Ask all the important questions, be sure what you are getting into. Don't rely on those pictures as they can be fake, stolen just as names and stories can be doctored up. I am still open to meeting someone but my experience has taught me a valuable lesson | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 8:45:45 AM | Sweetbabyblues, I go to the Y on Portage. It is a good place to go and would enjoy the company. I go straight from work thou. Try to get other forms of exercise in also none bedroom while that is also fun not the only kind. 
message me to set up something if you are interested | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 10:14:44 AM | Ombre...the Y won't be until next May, I've signed up to Shapes but will be heading back to the Y. I miss my aquasize classes
I work downtown so I could go after work, that's the best time, because if you go home.......do I need to answer that | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 10:38:12 AM | I must lead an empty life, what with never being stocked. Never been stalked either.
Nothing wrong with a woman making the first contact, same rights as men to roll the dice.
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Posted: 9/7/2008 11:05:00 AM | Oh right sorry either stocked is not a good thing. lol
True women should be able to let the male know she is interested.
Just a little story here.....
I have a female love bird and just got a mate for her. Apparently the way the female lets a male know she is interested is she wiggles her tail feathers that means "Hey I like you can we play". So the point is contacting a male first is a way of wiggling those tail feathers saying "I like you, can we meet". lol we can learn plenty from the animal kingdom..... | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 2:28:36 PM | I have only been on POF a few weeks now, but my response rate has been rather abysmal. I've only gotten a couple short sentence replies, and nothing afterwards. I think the ones that say "read" annoy me the most. At least with the ones that get deleted, you know the intent. POF could use a shortcut/reject button for mail. Yeah it'd be blunt and impersonal, but it's better than leaving someone hanging.
I've only had one lady contact me first, where I replied the next day, and the day after her account was deleted. Guess I scared her away? I mean jeez, I don't have the prettiest pictures and I'm not exactly mr bubblypersonality, but I don't think I'm *that* bad. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 7:23:46 PM | | I think alot of us would not just like to del the email but would like to del their whole account. There are allot of nutty girls on here. who, I think don't have a clue what they want of need out of a relationship. Just keep going, you will weed through the idiot's soon enough. The real ladies will find you. Till then make sure the del button works on your keyboard. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 1:06:00 PM | I can't speak for all the men on POF, but if a woman showed me she was interested by shaking her tail feather's at me I'd be... well, "flattered" comes to mind.
Seriously, we still live with social "rules" that say if a woman approaches a man there is something wrong with her or the approach. I think it's utter crap and archaic, but I recognise it's the case. So I think a woman making first contact shows a willingness to step outside socially enforced "rules" and is pretty gutsy. It's like when a lady who isn't in my circle of friends or someone I've dance with before asks me to dance. I always say 'yes' because I know it was more 'work' for her than it would be for me. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 2:09:17 PM |
It's like when a lady who isn't in my circle of friends or someone I've dance with before asks me to dance. I always say 'yes' because I know it was more 'work' for her than it would be for me.
Hey RO.... I'm gonna remember that...  | |
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