kce33
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Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 9:52:09 AM | hey blonde, you are hilarious, but i have to tell ya, not all guys homes are messy...
back home on the ranch i have a cleaning lady that keeps my house spotless... and my driver keeps the motor coach as clean as a pin, she is kinda hyper and has more energy than 5 people, always busy cleaning or arranging things....
and i don't have any young kids at home and i don't have any animals shittin, pissing and shedding hair all over the place and i intend to keep it that way....
the funniest thing is when she runs outa gas , she just conks out into a comma until morning..
funny thing is life is good and lots of fun but ya need a great sense of humor....
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:13:19 AM | Blonde Comet, if you figure the guys with messy places have a sick mind and is either
an ax murderer or a serial rapist, is'nt your real probem with all the guys like this you knew is that none have never attempeted to do anything to you or with you?. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:14:32 AM | Funny..my ex-wife was a complete slob when it comes to housekeeping and...to most the extent, so has every girl I've met from the dating sites. Some have kids, so..good excuse I guess.
BTW: I remember a guy I knew who was a neat freak, and he *was* an ax murderer (or attemped at least). Ditto for the ex-brother in law. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:15:13 AM |
I also try to eliminate guys who are insulting, condescending, rude and have no sense of humor. I guess that leaves you out.
^^^Even more hilarious than the original post---and just and goofy!!
Look---OP---NO WHERE in your "funny" little rant is there anything suggesting it's meant in humor---only YOU know what your intent was when this was written. Should any of us assumed it was written in jest? Do you care to know how wrong assumptions can be---and usually are? So before you get all huffy and think no one---or anyone in particular----has a sense of humor keep these thoughts in mind:
Don't post something if you aren't prepared for someone to disagree or take you to task for the post!
Not everyone "gets" YOUR "sense of humor" because we don't know you!
If you mean something in jest let that be known--but even then be prepared for opposing replies.
Many, many MANY people here are tired and disgusted by over generalizations that occasionally pop up here which begin: ALL MEN............ or ALL WOMEN........ Nothing could be further from the truth when you're are speaking only of your experiences.
And repeating: IF you don't like guys who are insulting, condescending, rude and appear to not have senses of humor don't post OR make your intent more clearly understood. It might make your experince here more to your liking. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:23:54 AM | ^^^Well said...
I have always said "We all see things in our own ways".
One person's clean is not an others.
Yes we all should make an effort to clean up when expecting company, but if you try to be something your not...no suprise later! | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
Msg: 31 | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:31:34 AM | The place is a total disaster and trash heap. Newspapers, mail and books everywhere, dirty socks and assorted shoes scattered on the floor, every flat surface covered with junk, a mountain bike in the middle of the livingroom, dirty dishes in the sink, clutter and some unidentifiable green fuzzy food all over the kitchen counter tops and table, computer paraphenalia strewn everywhere - no clean surface on which to sit. I won't even get into the condition of the bathroom! Let's just say the health department would cordon it off with yellow tape.
Ok, mom, but I'll do it later!
I don't understand this thread...."men are messes"?? Is that even in English?
Look, OP, maybe it's been a 1/4 of a century since you last had a date and
so 1 or 2 bad experiences does not give you the right to label us men
as swine. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 32 | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:39:24 AM | A dirty place isn't exclusively owned by the fellas, women can be just as bad. I know this isn't a comfort OP, at least you saw how he lived early on in the dating stage. Honestly, I'd want to see how my fella lives as well. If he hasn't cleaned his toilet in 6 months, or there's dirty dishes sitting in the sink for 2 weeks, or he hasn't dusted his ceiling fans in 3 years, I'd be deeply concerned from a health standpoint.
Clutter is bad enough, but filth, that's a deal breaker for me. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 10:59:53 AM | Lots of women are slobs, too. My best friend's house is just....icky. But, she doesn't seem to mind, and I love her anyway.
I had a couple of boyfriends in the past who were the absent-minded professor types. Yep, they were messy. I also had a BF who was a complete neat freak. Believe me, the messy ones were much easier to get along with than the neat freak. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 11:01:44 AM | | Over half of the women I've dated were slobs like that. It drives me crazy so I can see where you're coming from. However, I was dumb enough to keep cleaning up the place so they could just clutter it up again. I think I've grown out of cleaning up after women now. Just keep my own place clean - not anally retentive clean, but clean and neat. And, no, I'm not an axe murderer. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 11:04:08 AM | WOW! Sounds messy, but it certainly does not mean the men themselves are messes. Some females keep disgusting untidy homes also, and they are really great people. And some men have super clean homes...and they are messes!
I understand how that would be gross, but you can't read any more into that than "the guy is a slob". Perhaps, with some female guidance and help, he'd learn how to tidy up better...some folks just aren't brought up like that, and aren't sure how...my mom was a Neat Freak Fanatic, and I used to be really bad too, learned there are more important things in life than cleaning 24/7...but still keep a clean home!
Maybe put that on your profile "No Slobs Welcome", lol. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 11:06:32 AM | Come on now we are not all that bad, I keep a tidy house
toilets get disinfected weekly, Do my dishes right after I eat
Easier to clean now, than after a week of mess. | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
Msg: 37 | |
| MEN ARE MESSES!
Posted: 1/7/2007 12:09:13 AM | I guess we couldn't be friends at times my house looks like a landfill. Clothes all over in everyroom, newspapers, magazines, and dishes in the sink. And you wouldn't want to see my laundry room baskets of dirty cloths to wash. Not enough time in the day. Oh and I have a dog so don't feed the hair balls.
OT: Women can and are just as messy as men. I don't consider mens clothes lying around or newspapers around that big of a deal. It's when they have a dog and there's dog crap left on the floors, that's when I have to go. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 12:17:03 AM | It's always nice to see women make generalizations after blasting us men for it all the time. Good to see.
and is either an ax murderer or a serial rapist
And I always worry if she's a cold-hearted, self-centred b!tch but that's just me.  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 12:23:16 AM |
What is it with you guys? Do you have to live like pigs just because you don't have your mommy around to pick up after you?
I would suggest stop dating men from Plentyofpigs.com... | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 40 | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 1:26:37 AM | Ok, is there a differnce between 'messy' and 'filthy'?
Of course!! My house is pleasantly messy. The newspaper may be in the floor. I may have a dirty dish or three in the sink and laundry waiting to be put away.
I do not, however, have fungus or mold or anything like that growing anywhere in my home.
I like the lived in look.....just as long as it isn't bordering on a health hazzard, who cares? | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:43:33 AM | That is okay Comet.....
Most of the women that I have met - there houses are impecible, however their heads and their lives are equally a disasterous mess as the guy you mention.
Personally, I would rather have the mess on the 'outside' - I can always clean or hire someone to do so.
Can those pepople with 'issues' do the same????? No.
Yes, guys are probably more likely to have a messy house. However, I am beginning to think that women are more likely to have a 'messy' life or mental issues...... | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
Msg: 42 | |
| MEN ARE MESSES!
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:43:46 AM | Steve:
Hold your horses there studly. Just as many man have "mental" issues as women. Believe me I've met a few. IMO I'm beginning to think the "mental" problems women have are caused by men.
Why do you think people with issues can't help themselves? Not only is the on line dating a booming business, so is the mental field with people trying to get help, men and women.
Sounds like you may have an issue or two...... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 12:08:48 PM | OMG!! Let me see if I have this right....
Men that are messy= rape and murder
Men that are neat= substance abuse
Doesn't leave a lot to work with here, does it? What's with the inane babel?
A great rule to type by: Shift brain into gear,
Before fingers into motion............ | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:08:54 PM | Anyone else notice the "blonde comet" hasn't replied in quite a while?? LOL
Gotta love those who post BS like this then leave when it gets a few posts in disagreement! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:22:16 PM | | Typical, though. Not the first thread I've seen where the OP disappears when the avalanche hits. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 5:51:26 PM | | And I suppose all those years working as a door man in a club in montreal when I cleared out the club it was allways the womens toilets that were disgusting. The guys were bad but in general the ladies were worse. I have myself dated some women that would do better living in my garage then in a house. I myself am a tidy person with a hint of neat freak! LOL! So pleaseeeeeeeeeee cut the generalizing cause some of you women arent so clean your selfves. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 5:58:56 PM | | Ya... not all men are like that. Ok the dirty dishes in the sink, the mouldy food, the dirty socks, thats disgusting! but stuff lying around not folded away and papers and books on the floor... its not 'normal' but its no big deal... if the place were like a showroom... just imagine what the relationship would be like? Perfection is hard to live up to. Theres a balance. Ive been with 2 guys in the past who were from opposite ends of the spectrum on this one... the first... u could probably have ate ur dinner off the kitchen floor... the realtionship was a disaster... I could do nothing right. The other was exactly how u described.... I too was in shock but chose just to laugh at it... but that relationship too was a disaster... he was complete stone head... moddy and cranky and blamed me for our fights everytime... so u have to find a balance somewhere in between I think... or just find someone who's on the same level as urself.... but be assured... not all men have the same habbits when it comes to their homes and how they keep them | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 6:48:04 PM | I won't call my home as neat as Bruce Wayne in the Jack Nicholson Michael Keaton Batman Movie, but neither is it a disaster area. Each person has a different level of mess they are willing to tolerate. And believe me, if it is a level of mess you think can be improved upon, I want to hear it. Think about this way, many of us single men settle down and live our own lives in our own homes not wanting a mother moaning about us doing X,Y,Z all the time because we've heard enough of that. We need peace and quiet. When we are ready to take on a possible relationship, we recognize the fact that we need to shape up. But we don't have the feedback of a woman our own age to tell us what is neat in today's world, and what is not. What may have been required neatness of 30 years ago, makes a home hardly lived in today. In a way, we are hoping in finding someone to come into our home a feedback from someone we can consider our peers. So don't panic if a home isn't immaculately neat. It is just a sign of how out of touch the person is with higher class people who are social and go to everyone's homes. In fact, if they are immaculately neat, and you are someone who wants a monogamist relationship, perhaps that person is not for you because they have seen a hundred homes and know how to cater to others, and for all you know those 100 homes have a hundred mates they have slept with! The less neat a place, the less likely they will have slept with everyone on the block, and the more likely the person is to be able to be your dream person who won't fall in love with someone else while with you.
Strange as it may seam, neatness may be as much a curse towards finding someone who is just right for you.
So don't panic. Look at the bright side, they probably have not had the feedback of others to compare neatness with in a long time and are hoping to get good peer review feedback to know how to improve. Ask them if they would like to learn how to improve the looks of their home. Don't say you must clean your home. If you ask them, and they do want to know, you've got someone you can help mold into a better person for you, and someone who can be your mutual mate! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 6:48:51 PM | | Men that are neat freaks are usually crazy stalker control freaks, not always, but the few I knew needed to be locked up, take the messy guys, we rock.... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 6:53:24 PM | DANG AT LEAST THE GUY HAS HIS "OWN" PLACE! I JUST MET A GUY WITH NO "HOME"!! I MEAN HE WAS NICE ENOUGH AND DID PAY FOR DINNER BUT HAS NO PLACE TO CALL HIS OWN. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!!!!! | |
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