| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/3/2009 5:58:14 PM | | Beware of the stealth viewing ninja-ettes...they view with out leaving a trace. Seriously, you can turn that feature on and off. | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:15:21 AM | I'll take a no reply.
I'm a big boy and check the "Sent Msgs" tab. If I see an email was read/deleted, I move on.
But as for me replying, I'll, at least, thank someone for the email. No reason to get all nasty about it though.
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:11:55 PM | | I prefer a cold response too. Heck, I would prefer someone telling me to **** off rather than to be stood up or see "read deleted". | |
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Posted: 4/5/2009 2:26:34 PM | Cold response at least lets you know where you stand. No response makes you wonder a bit.
I have to say I do like how one can tell if iyour note has been read , espeically when you actually do get a response thats not only days later but a week or more after they read it. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 2:53:26 AM | Not gonna bother reading all of the replies, but it probably has something to do with you spelling Response -> Responce.
Thanks for playing!
Type like you're 9 and get an internet brick wall. ;-) | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/12/2009 5:41:33 PM | | I think that it is extremely rude to simply read and delete. If someone has taken the time and the "coconuts" to craft an introductory message, the least the recipient could do is politely dismiss the sender... no need for cruelty or coldness. I guess if it came down to it I would rather receive the cold response than none... at least would I know where I stand and that I dodged the bullet of being with a cold, unfeeling snotrag. That's always a good feeling. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 2:22:15 AM | i just had this outrageous thought.
E-MAILS ARE FREE HERE!!!!!
why not spend them like you would your ex's money  | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/14/2009 2:58:36 AM |
If someone has taken the time and the "coconuts" to craft an introductory message, the least the recipient could do is politely dismiss the sender
the person never asked for your time or letter jayman, they owe you nothing. l'd say grow some "coconuts", put your big boy pants on and realize this is online dating and not church. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 10:41:50 AM | bo said
the person never asked for your time or letter
ummm ah, this is is dating site where people place "want ads" looking for people who "might" be interested.
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Posted: 4/14/2009 11:36:59 AM | Some people are stuck up - let's face it. I sent a guy an email complimenting his art work and he blocked me. 
What a strunz. Then I saw another pic he put up much later and, dang, he's scary looking! I dodged a bullet there 
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:28:38 AM | BO,
Wow - your responces to this thread are pretty harsh. You having a bad day, week or month???
Makes you sound very jaded. Your posts do show up on your profile and I'm
thinking that many who read this will be put off by your attitude.
OP,
I would always rather get a quick reply than none at all. I think being kind and polite are good characteristics. One reply I use is "thank you for your interest but i've just started dating someone else and want to see where it goes."
Good Luck : 0 ) brenda | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 1:47:41 PM |
Wow - your responces to this thread are pretty harsh.
What is harsh about saying that one isn't owed a response to an e-mail? Unless the ones l receive are sexual in nature, l respond to every one. Do l expect responses to ones that l send? Short answer, no. l don't expect people here or in real life to have manners just because l do.
As a side note, what appears in/on my profile is of no concern to me...l wrote it, it's me and my thoughts. lf one doesn't like it, oh well! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 4:50:34 PM | ^^^^^^what Bo said. I am who I am and if people don't like it well I am sorry, but I am not changing.
I am bald and I have people all the time ask if I have ever tried ragain(sp). That answer would be a big NO and never will. I am meant to be bald.
Responses. I don't have the time to worry if some woman I don't know has replied or not. Her loss anyways.
Bo,
The thing that I think some people have a problem with is us who speak our mind whether people like it or not. At least they know where we are coming from. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 6:18:02 PM |
I think being kind and polite are good characteristics.
l think we can all agree on this
"thank you for your interest but i've just started dating someone else and want to see where it goes."
Good Luck : 0 ) brenda
l don't see where lying to someone is either kind or polite..why bother with a reply at all if this is what you dish up? | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 8:52:03 AM |
l don't see where lying to someone is either kind or polite..why bother with a reply at all if this is what you dish up?
I will agree with you on this one. Its really strange when someone uses the "I just met someone" excuse, yet their "online" light is on quite frequently.
Hey whats wrong with the truth like "I dont think we are a fit" | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 10:44:36 AM | More times than not, when I've sent a "thank you, not interested" email I've been grilled on why not, that I'm just a c*nt for not giving someone a chance (truthfully), and others. I don't say much now.
I know it's a dating site. I'm not appalled when I get messages from anyone, I'm just not interested most of the time. Only once or twice I've gotten BACK an email bawling me out for not responding....and then I will respond, once.
People claim to be graceful in accepting a "no thanks" but honestly, most are not.
When I send a first email out, with no response....it doesn't cross my mind that someone owes me something for the 10 seconds or 5 minutes it took me to write an email expressing interest. It's just not something that makes me mad.... AND, when I do see these angry emails expressing their literal anger, or guilt trips or whatever....I'm GLAD I didn't go forward with further communication...because their anger and/or guilt trip for me not responding to their "hey" is a pretty true peek into what they will be like if I don't do something the way they see fit in a relationship. It's a crystal ball of sorts.... trust me, if someone gets mad over little shit.... they're REALLY gonna be a ray of sunshine when something doesn't go their way all the time! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 12:09:50 PM | | Blue, you must be fishing in a nasty pond. I always reply and there are times I say no thank you, but I've not once gotten a nasty gram back. I am glad the ponds on my radar have classier men. | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/18/2009 11:51:07 PM | | After reading all of this from all of you and responses on another thread, I am going to change my habits. If I get a message I will at least tell the person thanks. If thye turn out to be a stalker I can always block them. Plus there is always the chance I might make a new friend. After all you can never have to many of those. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 10:38:20 AM | How many have gotten an email only to go to reply and its alredy gone...Hmmm
Guess I waited too long LOL. (2 hours). | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 4/21/2009 10:41:12 AM | | Wow 2 hours. That seems awfully quick. I have a few emails that I sent out a few weeks back and all is says is "read". I am assuming they are still in the receivers inbox. | |
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