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Posted: 8/25/2009 11:04:55 PM | not really I've heard guys are distrbing and message many girls with lots and lots of inappropriate stuff LOL
and thanks.. now to find a job and figure out my shattered puzzle that is my life
Ohh just think I figured out a title to a new poem - theme a shattered puzzle mauwhuawh | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 11:08:35 PM | 
Yes, I've heard that too!
I miss this one guy's inappropriate stuff
Ah well, plenty more where that came from
Best of luck, Mike  | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 11:09:15 PM | | Mike~ When you get your life put back together and if you have any left over pieces let me know... I think I am missing a few. Thx | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 11:18:54 PM | yes indeed guy messages are just weird.... Then again my Hello my name is Michael and I found that we have similar interests such as being fans of rascal flatts to come off just as bad as Hmm are you an alien and can I get an alien encounter, maybe a probe of some sort I hear they are into? LOL No I've never said that but that's an example of what I half expect most guys to write. =P
Yah Lady maybe if I have any left though I doubt they fit what you are missing. hehe | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 11:32:41 PM | My thought on my missing pieces is that the wind blew them all over and they got mixed in with someone elses.
Hmm Alien probes.... Nope not gotten that one yet.
One guy came close to asking me that once though.
Most guys aren't crude, I have only come across a couple. One was relentless, my first response to him was polite, I just told him I wasn't interested in anything like that I really am out to just meet new people and hang out. He replied again and it was even worse. So I asked him not to contact me again, but was still polite (no reason to be rude). he replied once more and I told him that I was really uncomfortable with what he was saying and told him that if he didn't stop contacting me I would have to block him. Then he blocked me. I just had to laugh about it. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 11:13:38 PM | "...do you really want to be involved with someone that does read/delete and doesnt answer you anyways, look at it this way they are doing you a favor and saving you from getting involved in their miserable lives."
Short & to the point & very true.
When you write a thoughtful, respectful hello & introduction it would be nice to at least get some sort of a 'no thanks, not interested' response just out of common courtesy if nothing else though. Its like coming up with the courage to walk up to someone and speaking to them only to have them turn their back to snub you... pretty cold hearted, but you're right - if they're that cold, they're doing us a favor showing their true colors up front and that's just part of the joys of putting yourself out there today I guess. fun fun;p | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 12:45:36 AM | Ohh hmm *goes to write an alien message to lady so she'll have the experience of some guy writing her that*!!!  
Would anyone else like a crazy response? Just state the topic of choice or the persona you would like and I can spit one out real quick! I wouldn't know if people delete or read a message. As soon as I write something I often times just go delete it from my sent history so I don't have to worry about what did she do with my message.
The bad thing is you can't tell who you messaged, who didn't respond, and well yah LOL You get the idea... I really wish POF actually didn't show matches / people who you have written to or if you can permanently remove them from your search. Often times you click remove and they appear a few hours later... Then you click to remove again and it looks like you are looking at their profile constantly. =( Thats if they pay attention to who's view me.
I've been pondering maybe I should turn that feature off so I dont know who is looking at me and don't get curious to return them the favor of looking.. I mean obviously if they look and don't write it means they arent even interested generally.
I think personally I rather get a no response if they arent interested than a closed answer in the hopes you get the hint of not writing them back.. I mean 0 response is actually you know they dont want to talk to you. A closed answer thats not directly saying I don't like you or you arent my type leaves open maybe they aren't good at responding or left open for other questions. I mean if you ask a lot of questions and they respond with yes no yes no... thats obvious no interest other to answer your questions adn hope you dont message them back LOL
Hmm I have to make this alien introduction good now.  | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 11:06:03 PM | | I've posted on this thread before. I still say cold response over none. If you cant see each email as coming from a real person than you are shallow. Can you imagine someone saying "Hi" to you at the grocery store, not responding and pretending they are invisible. I get a fair amount of mail and I always try to respond to anyone who talks the time to say hi to me. There is an epidemic of loneliness and narcissism in the world today. How hard is it to just say hi and good luck to someone. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 11:44:20 PM | I even reply to the crude ones just to let them know I am not looking for anything like that and that I found what they had to say crude and offensive.
Mike~ Still laughing | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:28:18 AM | I haven't been on here for too long, but on dating sites in general I tend to do the "no reply" thing. Granted, I don't get 50 emails a day by any means, although I tend to have cycles of popularity. One week I get swamped, then nothing the next week.
Being a guy, my thinking might not be exactly the same as a woman's, but there are many reasons I might not respond. One, obviously, is that they're not what I'm looking for. Not that they're undesirable, but their life, goals and interests may not mesh with mine in the long term. I could go out and have fun with anyone, but if I don't think it'll work long-term, I don't want to just use them for temporary enjoyment only to let them down later.
Other reasons include being abnormally popular that week and being busy with life at the same time, so emails just slide and then it's weird to finally respond a week or two later. Or I just had a wonderful date with someone I might be interested in. Or even simply that I don't want to run a full schedule of dates booked out for the next month. I only get one girl, the rest I'll have to let down and I don't enjoy that. So fewer potential dates at once makes things a lot easier. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 7:25:56 AM | It's just rude with no response, but I turn it into a positive. SHe was most likely not worth my time anyways. If she is that rude to not respond, how rude is she going to be in a relationship? No thanks.
I like the comment on the saying hi at the grocery store and no reply. No matter where I am at, if I make good solid eye contact with someone, I speak, and I would say 25% of the time I don't get a response. I find it funny how rude or insecure people are. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 9:17:26 AM | | I sat and went through my mail last night and had I think 3 that were over a week old, or there about. I responded the those as well I just start off by apologizing for taking so long to respond. It isn't hard. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 9:25:50 AM | Yes, some lack common courtesy and that's the way the ball bounces.... the cookie crumbles
I've cried myself to sleep many a night over it...
Some people just think they're too important to bother | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 11:23:02 PM | Even Klexia got a reponse!!! ahh don't cry over spilt milk though maybe it was cries of laughter.. hmm Lady still trying to adjust the message to better fit my next victim.. I mean potential mate! haha
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Posted: 8/30/2009 2:44:21 AM | "Klexia is a lonely alien trying to find their soul mate on POF. I hear Lady got a visit... "
I didn't get a visit, I got a very flattering and tempting offer. Still waiting to hear if Klexia is still willing even after I explained to him that I am, what we earth people call, very high maintanence.
As I have stated before I really work to respond to all emails I get. I know a few have slipped through the cracks, but there is no point in being rude, even is to an alien species. They need to know that not all humans are a$$holes and that there is still hope for us. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 10:28:43 PM | I tend to try and reply to most emails (not like I get hundreds anyway) but when all someone can be bothered to say is 'skype me' or 'contact me' and then their email and say nothing about themselves and have taken a minute to write a profile, why should I bother writing back. They made little effort.
I always check out a guy's profile before replying back and if it consists of 3 lines saying he is a great guy, not looking for a player, wants a honest woman but nothing about him, his interests etc then I do not always reply. If the guy is serious about finding someone on this site (or any dating site) then to me a decent profile, longer than 3 lines is a must. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2009 7:51:20 PM | | Ugh. STILL dealing with this issue! I swear, its like some people lack any kind of social skills or courtesy whatsoever. I know I shouldnt let it bother me so much. But its like a total slap in the face to not at least say something. I could handle an honest rejection no matter how brutal. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 3:26:18 AM | You hit the nail on the head SJ, and again they are doing you a favor when they don't reply. If they don't have the common courtesy to reply to an email, what are they going to do when they are running a half hour late in your first meeting? Not call? | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 3:41:00 AM |
You hit the nail on the head SJ, and again they are doing you a favor when they don't reply. If they don't have the common courtesy to reply to an email, what are they going to do when they are running a half hour late in your first meeting? Not call?
nope .... they are just gonna show up late to a meeting that Im NOT gonna be at !!!!!
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Posted: 9/25/2009 5:38:39 PM | The correct cold response is to block the person. I just had a harassment filed against me because from what I can tell is I messaged a user asking about their hobbies who I must have messaged in the past? There is no way to tell who you messaged before if you don't recognize the photo / profile unless you mule over your list of users who you sent messages to constantly.
With this new experience I'm all for if you don't like someone just block them on your list so if they try to message you again they get a you can't message said user. Screw being courteous since it doesn't help and doesn't give the guy any means to know he can't talk to you even in the future months down the road when he doesn't remember he messaged you before but liked your profile anyways.
With people being crazy and thinking you are harassing them cause you ask about their hobbies weeks down the road from a initial message... the only option is to block. That or be a grown up and don't file random harassment files against other users because they ask you about one of your hobbies. That's way too much to ask about I guess in a message. | |
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