| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 9/25/2009 8:13:59 PM | Gee Mike, I didn't know you had such a strong effect on women ~ what kind of cologne do you wear? Oh! Maybe now you'll report me for harrassment for asking you about your cologne! Some people
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 9/25/2009 8:18:56 PM | I dont know.. it seems asking where the hell is a bowling alley and talking about bowling is harassment? You better watch out !!! LOL hmm either way I think Im bored / tired of POF so Im just going to use it to read the forums and be glad Im still single because just trying to talk to people for random conversations is too much to ask it seems...
Jeesh I really do pity the people who actually try to actively date here seeing as it seems the vast majority of users actually lack regular interpersonal skills at all.. I mean someone asks you about your interest equals harassment... I wonder if they ask for restraining orders if you say hi to them in person LOL Of course this is excluding some of the people here in the forum they have been enjoyable.  | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 9/25/2009 8:28:27 PM | You know, it could be she was in a foul mood because she just got back fom Honolulu and they tried kicking her off a bus for being smelly
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 9/25/2009 8:29:35 PM | She also could just be a racist and dont like asians? 
Oh wait to get back on topic.. yes cold response is the best option.. Just block them if you arent an adult and cant handle being asked about your interests.. for that matter just delete your account now and save everyone the hassle LOL | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 9/28/2009 3:29:00 PM | | Yes, and thank goodness there are all kinds. So when we are deleted by some jerk, there are plenty of other fish out there. | |
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| Cold Response vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:27:44 PM | Then, there's the third type (women see this more than men) where you feel any response will wind up with you having to get a police escort to shake them off of you. (Nothing says "I love you" like a restraining order). Yeah, no response necessary, it's kind of like the homeless crazy guy who feels you would understand his situation and could sympathize with his plight against his alien overlords (is our tinfoil helmet on just a bit too tight?) so he buttonholes you on the bus. You just hope your silence will make them go away...
Thank you for mentioning this rust mouse. I tried being polite and doing the thanks no thanks, here's why I don't think we'd be compatible approach with 2 guys my first week on here and all they heard was "she wrote back, she must be interested, I'd better try harder to convince her we should go out!"
So now I'm part of the read and delete crowd. I don't think it makes me a rude person. Especially for the one line messages and bare bones profiles. I know my profile doesn't have a lot on it, but when I've contacted people, I took the time to point out a couple things we had in common and why I'd like to hear back from them.
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| Cold Response vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 11/13/2009 3:12:01 PM | In my opinion, it should be human nature to at least reply with a " No thanks" rather than not replying back at all. People only naturally feel connected with others when there's communication, even if it's not necessarily what they "wanted" to hear.
A non-reply I think is rude...kinda similar to what you experience in job searching.
Here is a solution that would help based on issues:
I understand that women get a ton of email, which a good portion of it isn't very well thought out..."You're hot", " Whad up?", " I liked your profile. Please write me back!" etc...
Solution - How about the site moderators/owner create an auto reply response to incoming email? Something as simple as "Sorry, not interested" would suffice or since people are often busy and can't necessarily reply back right away...instead of seeing "Read" with no reply, how about creating another response that says something like "Will respond back later"?
These are easy fixes to do and would be a welcome addition. It would be fast and easy and you wouldn't have to manually respond back to 50 people each day, just check mark the ones to send the auto replys to. Simple and easy! | |
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| Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted
Posted: 11/13/2009 4:45:43 PM | An 'unread/deleted' is about as cold a response there is
Not cool to treat others like their feelings don't matter ~ just have to consider the source, I guess
If it's a first message then that's not as bad as when someone who 'supposedly' likes you slams the door in your face and gives you the cold shoulder
Ah well... such is life | |
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