| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/28/2007 8:13:49 AM | I am not sure who the question is posed to Aniana. But, if it were to me. I have had a couple of local women email me up. Basically asking me if I had talked to men that they were talking to and until a few weeks ago my answer had always been no. Then finally one hit on the right one. I stupidly believed that I was enough for him and he had stopped looking for "something/one better." Not that he ever said anything about it being an exclusive thing, I just assumed because I am one awesome woman/person. My mistake.
Apparently, I was just the fall back girl. The when I don't have anything better to do woman. I believed it fully when he said he was busy etc. I have never considered myself a stupid woman. But, now I feel pretty dumb and am angry with myself. But, you can't control who you develop feelings for. On one hand I should be happy, because until I met him I didn't think I would ever "feel" anything for a man again. On the other hand I am truly sad because he didn't return the feelings.
I am trying to remain friends with him. Mainly because if nothing else I actually did like him as a person long before I felt the romantic attachment for him and I still do. I honestly hope that he finds what he's looking for in a partner. Obvisously it's not me, but he is a wonderful man and deserves all the happiness in the world.
As for me? I will get over it in time. Everything happens for a reason. Life and all its experiences are lessons to learn and grow from.  | |
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tazbe
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:54:00 AM | Well, I have not been on here long at all, and WOWSER some of the wackos from wakos I have come across nuthin but pure pervs....and far in between have had a few that was honest bout their relationship status...so it goes from both I guess, here to meet friends and talk chit, and nuthin else....wished I could get the same respect....geez....sure the box is not the only place this happens.....take it easy...Tazbe | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/29/2007 9:55:48 AM | | So thats what my problem is.....and I thought I was a total loser, so, I take it someone is savatoging my efforts? | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/29/2007 3:40:40 PM | | Might be lookingformygirl....But, I doubt it....Like a previous poster stated...it's almost like high school bs all over again. Thing is it's still as hurtful if not more so when you get older. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/30/2007 10:47:20 AM | | I never knew that girls did that but maybe its a good idea. Ihad some really bad dates. Much better to work as a team trying to figure out who the good guys are vs. the bad. But what if you end up liking the same guy or became jealous. I wouldn't take it to heart. You are on a dating sight you have to assume that he dating others. Most women date one guy at a time. I think most guys date several. It's in a guy's nature to always want something better, the brand new toy. You need to have the talk and not assume anything with men. Unless he told you your the only one then move on to the next guys that thinks your worth the time. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/30/2007 11:07:18 AM | | They should have a "black list" on here and if they get 10 or more complaints about someone, that person's screen name gets posted. That would weed out an isolated incident of someone being bitter from getting turned down and slandering someone with no reason. But it would also bring to light some of the people on here that are into playing games and hurting people, or even someone that is potentially dangerous to go on a date with. If you're a decent person who treats people with respect, something like that wouldn't be threatening at all. Something to think about. Although it wouldn't keep the person from coming on POF with a new screen name. I didn't say it was a perfect idea. lol | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/30/2007 1:05:11 PM | It's not at all a bad idea though....I hope you submitted to the powers that be Luv....
It's unfortunate that people have to be less than honest about who they are and what they seek. However, that is the way it goes sometimes. As long as we remember MOST people are actually good and don't loose the faith, it'll be fine. Goes back to the whole karma thing. When you treat people badly or wrong, it will come back and bite you on the rear at some point. Live your life the best way that you know how to, treat others as you expect to be treated and in the end you have nothing to fear. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 1/31/2007 2:09:01 PM | | To be completely honest here. Just because you have a bad experience with one person doesnt mean that the next person is going to have a bad experience with that same person. But as for the Players on here that give the men that actually want to settle down a bad name I think it is a great idea. How in the world do you find out what people are on others friends lists. You cant. Unless there is a Forum out there dedicated to the men that treat women badly or the men or women decide to message every person in that area about that person. It truely hasnt happened to me but I am only talking to the people on here and getting to know them which is the proper way to do it. I have met a couple of people which turned out to be good friends and I wouldnt have it any other way. I wouldnt necessarily label just only the men on here because in this world it is a 50/50 thing now. Women do it just as badly as the men and believe me I have ran into a few on here but that is only my opinion. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/1/2007 10:01:15 AM | | I think I stated earlier in this forum that it is not gender specific thing. I doubt anyone will argue that. Some PEOPLE play games, some don't it boils down to being as simple as that...... | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:04:26 AM | "They should have a "black list" on here and if they get 10 or more complaints about someone, that person's screen name gets posted. That would weed out an isolated incident of someone being bitter from getting turned down and slandering someone with no reason."
I think the above comment makes so much sense. This site is growing into something really nice. Perhaps this should be sent to the administration of Plentyoffish. I would do that but do not know who the administrator is. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/3/2007 6:45:22 PM | I agree with you most people who are real and kind and good get the players. We all have learnings but we need to learn what to look for and not all men are blacked listed but if they are they deserve it and it does help the ones that are trying to avoid going there. So speak up men and women. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/3/2007 7:13:57 PM | if any females wish to contact me, i will give you several names of guys i have met that i can give you warning flags about. the most recent one pursued me for two weeks; was as sweet as apple pie; went on about how he was looking for his "life partner".... but i can't blame it all on him. i should know by now to stop falling for this crap.
i am deleting my profile very soon; this has been such a humiliating experiencing. if men want sex from me, all they have to do is ask; i can say yes or no! but to come in with a line about love and long-term relationships.... how immature can you get?
i think the main thing to screen for is this: intelligence DOES matter. if his IQ is not bigger than his shoe size, then know that the only head he is using is the one between his thighs.
Ciao! I found a site where I can at least enjoy an intelligent conversation and straight forward statements of intentions. | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/26/2007 5:01:33 PM | I will have to be ashamed to think I would ever check a so called "good reference on a lady" based upon some interent posting,,,or listen to someone unkmown,unverifed post something,,,who knows maybe your names are on it,,,would you be laughing if someone turned you down or you turned them down,,or how about the "head cases" that are on this site or have been banned,,,,,Just think of what you posted,,,think what your ex would post there,,,
Me,,I could care less about any lady,,,I would have to base her as a person,,a human beaing if she made a mistake in the past ,,,its none of my busness,,,base everyone on who they are,respect them,trust them,,,look to tommorrows,,,not yesterdays,,,
To judge a person by a rummor,,,,thats sad,,,,very sad,,,I think if you could you would remove the wrong impression you have placed upon yourself,,,whats even worse what you posted the uneducated may base thier thoughts on such reference you have provided,,,if such ,,they may have missed the soul mate,,,if you smile at that,,I can understand,,,maybe you posted someone just to try and get ahead ,,,,, | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/26/2007 7:32:15 PM | First of all it's rumor...one m...
Secondly, the forums are here for venting. No one mentioned any names or even hinted at them. The original question was just me being curious. Nothing more nothing less...I rarely base my feelings on anything lest than cold hard facts. No, I've never used the site that I mentioned. Have had no reason to.
Thirdly, DJ...I took a look at your profile. Do you really think there are that many women under 24 that will email you here or any place else? (I am hoping it's a mistake on your part and am trying to be helpful not mean) | |
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| Women do talk to each other on POF
Posted: 2/26/2007 10:06:35 PM | Sorry that I just now replied. But, were you born yesterday? Not to be a ****, but this is the way women share the new about a man's lack of talent in the sack. 
If you don't trust me, I guess you can find out how bad/little/short/uneventful it is all on your own. | |
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