| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/19/2007 6:43:02 PM | | I'm not sure, but I wouldn't trust someone who cheated on me. I don't know what I would do if I found out that someone I was dating had cheated in a previous relationship. Thankfully I haven't been in that situation. | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/19/2007 7:12:56 PM |
I just won't put up with it at all.....or trust anyone who has the balls to admit they cheated on their partner...
I guess it's straight to hell then... thank you, for your time... | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:00:54 PM | | well ive been cheated on b4 and i guess my rule is, if my gf was drunk at the time and told me(didnt try to keep it a secret) and if she regretted doing it and was sorry, id try to let it go(for the first time at least) but if she knew what she was doing id leave her | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:13:29 PM | Well I never cheated... he did... given the chance he still cheats on the woman he's been married to for the last 15 years. She knows he's done it and she keeps him on a very short leash. Unfortunately he just came off active duty in a state away from where he lives... who knows what he did while there.
So to answer your question... once a cheat... always a cheat?... YES! | |
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Joined: 11/26/2006
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:30:55 PM | | Cheating is a choice. Everyone has the ability to cheat as long as they have control over their own body. It's all about a choice, do they choose to be faithful or act on urges? | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:28:57 PM | | It depends on the person. It all comes down to an understanding of the impact that you have made on another human being's life that you had no right to make, the ability to accept whatever consequences are handed down to you, and the desire to learn from your transgressions. If all of these things are not present then the past will repeat itself. | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/23/2007 10:42:05 AM | hey Ash,
lol....you fixed one and did another bobo!!! lol thanks for the laugh, thats soo cute!!! ;p
its funny, but I just go an message from someone that wanted to confess that they did, and actually are presently cheating on their spouse. I guess that they wanted to tell me personally rather than on here, which is cool. I read her message and responded to her with how I felt about it. If anybody else wants to , they can do the same.
thanks
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 1/24/2007 10:32:27 AM | | i think people can change, don't think u can salvage a relationship where cheating has occured, the trust is gone and you drive each other mad. i feel some ,not all cheats can go on to have a totally faithfull furfilling relationship with the right person. | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/6/2007 4:27:57 PM | | I believe it is true people can change, I personally have never cheated and never will, but I have known many cheaters men and women and have never known any of them to change, it's apart of their mental ability or lack of, to commit, I have found it stems from deep rooted trauma, but like I said I think everyone can change but wanting to and doing it are two different things. | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/6/2007 5:34:08 PM | People can change all they want on someone else' time. I deserve much better than to stay around and see if a cheater changes or not. Psychological research is not my thing anyway.
Besides, one guy cheats, there are other men waiting around. Why would anyone give a cheater a chance? If so, you either have a very low self esteem and think you deserve crap or you are a stupid bimbo lacking in intelligence. Cheaters don't change.
I don't speak from personal experience, thankfully. I've seen my friends being cheated on by their men and they did not change. | |
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Joined: 1/12/2007
Msg: 65 | |
| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/6/2007 8:39:32 PM | | Cheating is one of my deal breakers in an exclusive relationship so I guess my answer is that I don't know because I wouldn't hang around after the first time to find out if they can change or not. If they do change, good for them and hopefully they'll have a good relationship in the future...it just won't be with me. I've never cheated and I expect the same courtesy and respect. I really would much rather be dumped BEFORE he does any cheating...!! | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/6/2007 9:16:11 PM | | People can change! I, myself, was once an habitual cheat. At the time, I was also a heavy partyier, & my idea of a good evening was alcohol, drugs, & easy women. However, 3 divorces showed me the error of my ways. In 12 yrs, I have not had a single drink, or drug fix, nor do I cheat on my girlfriend. And, No, I am not dead, just growed up! | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/7/2007 5:47:39 AM | To be cheated on is the most heart-breaking thing I have went thru I met a man he was my everything(my first mistake) he had been thru a long ,term marriage etc etc his childhood sweetheart the whole bit..so when he got his freedom he ran with it, he had had about 3 previous relationship, all short term before me..The first time I was with the man (yes I took him back for # 2) he just got tired of the relationship wanted to whore around whatever his reasoning he just said I cant do "THIS" anymore and left... I felt like someone had hit me upside the head with a 2x4 so I cried my tears alot of tears ..went thru the next 11 months ..tried to date ,what a joke and then he came back well he owed me money so he made a feeble attempt of heres $200 and I promise yad yad.. so because I still loved the jerk I took him back we played house another 6 months ...I LOVED that man but he didnt return the feeling, he just SAID he did .....he was loving,at first but then when wed get closer hed back up...well then I caught him cheating or at least making plans and etc with with his ugly ass ex not his wife but another bimbo....It hurt like hell AGAIN I know shame on me...I dont know if one can change.. if you trully love someone and they are true to you ...why cheat on them ?????to me its just immature and soooo hurtful..when a person has given you their heart,trust in you,would do anything for u. dont make a fool of them what goes around!!! Im still healing and its been going on 3 months the slowest healing youll ever do!!!Dont play with peoples emotions its sooo cruel!!  | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/7/2007 12:38:11 PM | | I don't think that's true cause about 90 % of people have cheated atleast once in their lives and if the saying is true once a cheat always a cheat then no one would ever have a successful marriage..lol | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/8/2007 12:33:08 PM | hey Summerbaby,
just wondering where you got the 90% information?!?! that seems really high, and since most people that cheat lie as well, it seems a little hard to believe?!?!
anyways, I guess this coud be one of the reasons that its soo hard now to find someone decent... a 10% margin is some pretty poor odds!!
thanks anyways, and to the woman who is still healing, I know its hard, I went through it myself, and yes the first time I took her back too just to have her do it again to me. All I want to say is there ARE good people left in this world, read most of the other posts, aside form a few most people are just like you, and yes, there are a few good ones left, so get back on that horse and ride on to the next clearing, he just might be there!!
thanks
PS; just before all of our snow melts a few of my friends have a little something for all of those who cheat........ alright guys......... get em!!!!! lol | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/9/2007 5:19:31 AM | | When some 1 cheats it can never be the same you can forgive them but deep down its all ways there. people can change but can you ever trust them again i dont think i could. | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:59:11 AM | People cheat for various reasons. Men are programmed to have multiple partners, it's for survival of the human race. Women cheat when they feel emotionally isolated. If she's cheated before and has a reason to cheat again, she will. Don't give her a reason to. | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:30:37 AM | Well I can't say for ALL cheaters...but I can CERTAINLY say that "once a cheat, always a cheat" qualifies for my ex, Kenny from Braxton, Mississippi...and he will NEVER change, either! He cheated on me (twice) & he has already cheated on his next 3 relationships after me...SCUMBAG!  | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:49:17 AM | Just reading the posts. Aside from the reasons for
cheating, it just hit me, how very disrespectful
such behavior is. How can anybody, that claims
to love someone, or even care about them, do
something so utterly disrespectful?
Well DUH! | |
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| once a cheat, always a cheat, or do people change?
Posted: 3/15/2007 10:18:16 AM | Yes,
well generally I would say that no, I don't think people really change. At the most people will "upgrade" - get better at whatever is in question/in this case hopefully not at cheating - or better themselfs if the situation permits them to do so if allowed (by a person - wich I wouldn't.)
A cheat is a cheat,and yes once/always! Hope you never had to deal with such a situation, since giving a second chance to someone is not always The Key. As they say in French that would be "Tourner le Fer dans la Plaie" - Twisting the Blade in the Flesh (Meaning : Difinately Not Pleasant.) People who will accept to cope with such a situation will probably score points in their "Karma Sheet", but really who needs more stress these days,right! Yeah, not me,and hopefully not you!
/Jay.Hdz  | |
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