| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/14/2007 4:33:04 PM | For those who keep posting that the original poster is no longer here... I find this is a good topic even if the original poster is no longer on the site. It is a question I have asked myself when creating my profile - to list it or not. The question was a valid one and I enjoyed reading the responses posted here. Thanks to everyone who responded.
Lady Kay | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/14/2007 4:45:17 PM | /\ /\ /\
I agree. I've seen more than a few questions from people who obviously created a profile simply to ask it. In this case the original poster seemed to have a serious concern and was embarrassed (probably needlessly, from the nice men who answered her question), but it doesn't mean she's not still checking the thread with a new profile. (I know MORE than one profile is against the rules, but deleting and creating a new one must be OK. There are some on here who seem to do it every other week.)
Not to mention it's a topic that could help others. Like I said, I've thought about it myself (in the other direction). | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:15:33 PM | It doesn't matter if the originally poster is here or not. This topic seem to be on a lot of people's minds.
One thing I know is that men are visual. However what one man considers overweight may not be what another man considers overweight and vice versa.
I personally am a six, right now and feel that I have to justify why when on a date a few months ago I was a size two. However my dad died and I stopped my regular routine of exercise. We woman are obsessed with our size due to what the media and society has said is attractive. Well I personally don't find seeing someone's bones attractive. What looks good on camera doesn't off.
I dated one man who thought I was too heavy at a size 6,4, or 2, go figure he was overweight.
Besides isn't the average woman a size 14.
Men see one thing but I can tell you they never want to feel bones.
If you are a heathly size for your frame then don't change or feel less than because someone else places a value on something that can be changed. It means they aren't secure in themselves, even if they try an appear to be.
Let's face it people outward appearance can be changed these days, but you can never fix stupid or mean.
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/14/2007 6:16:32 PM | Yes, just go out and enjoy the fun of dating. I actually can't imagine the topic of health,our pasts,etc not coming up at some point. All in time! We all evolve,or should, over time so let that be and enjoy the moments of getting to know each other.
Mastermechanic | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/14/2007 8:42:42 PM | TMI = Too Much Information... lol
Definitely not something to bring up on the first date... However, if someone asks a question about something, I wouldn't suggest lying either....
If dinner is not something a person is comfortable with - suggest something else!
I HATE going out for dinner and ALWAYS suggest something else if it comes up; it's never been a big deal.
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/15/2007 2:49:39 AM | | i like women who look curvy not skinny and so do most men. Dont, be fooled by the magazines. | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:28:05 AM | I agree with what most people have put on here, men and women! Don't share the grand news of your weight loss with a new date. He can learn about that later as your relationship progresses. Most men don't care anyway or they don't want to know especially if you were less attractive then, in their opinion.
You are who you are now! I'm glad to know that men's desires are rounding back towards curvy from thin. Women do not look good as Old and Thin. They begin to look like a bag of bones, boys, so choose your body types carefully!
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:00:31 PM | Watch out! From a former wrestler(weight expert) and Bachelor----the weight can come back real quick. Especially when she/he's got nothing more to have to work for. i.e. the original physical attraction. And I aint shallow, just tellin it like it is!!! | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:03:28 PM | | yeah right what planet are you on "most men" I don't think so.... | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:25:33 PM | Perhaps it was someone who just created a name to ask the question because she didn't want anyone to know who she is..
Doesn't sound like a troll post..
For the record.. good for you.. | |
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| Formerly Overweight...
Posted: 6/5/2007 8:18:17 PM | | Never disclose this. Dieting info should really not be on the menu. You can suggest a healthy place... or skip the dinner date and go walk in the park. | |
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