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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 1/10/2007 7:23:04 AM | Well now Sefra your story seems to be changing..........in your op you said...
(not a peck, but a full blown french necking session).
We kissed at work, continued in his car in the parking lot, and then kissed again on subsequent days.
This is far from............
We kissed, that's all we did. It was gentle, tender, and without ill intent toward anyone.
When you have a "necking session" that you carry from one location to another,
and continue on "subsequent days"......to most women in the position of being
the wife.......this is more than "a kiss" and is at least bordering on an "affair"......
especially since you express "love" for the guy.
Like I said in my other post {#20} put yourself in the wife's position.....IF this was
YOUR husband and this happened with another woman he works with, would YOU
feel that he'd cheated on you? Would you feel that he "betrayed" you? Would you
want to know? Would you want to wonder every day he goes to work if he's having
"lunch" with that "other woman"? Would your trust be broken? What would YOU
think of the other woman?
You also don't know that he never cheated in 22 years......you only know what he's
told you and his honesty is certainly in question here. IF he never "strayed" before
.....he certainly has now.
It's one thing to post here ASKING how bad this is, but it's another to try to defend
it from your position, or his. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 1/10/2007 3:56:20 PM |
You don't think that sleeping with him would be much much worse????? I mean c'mon.
Seems you have a working concept of what's right and wrong but tend to think of it more as a matter of degrees----sorta built in justification for your actions. I wonder if you'd be this nonchalant about it were it your husband???
Oh well---it felt right so it was okay and we're not allowed to have opinions about it---at least ones that disagree with OP.
Kiss away HotLips!! LOL | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 1/10/2007 5:19:33 PM | I don't understand why you are asking this. You had to know that you would get flamed, so perhaps you just felt like you had it coming. Or perhaps you thought enough people would go along with the "if it feels right" blah blah blah.
When a marriage is failing, you don't euthenize it. It' just not right. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 1/11/2007 3:38:55 AM |
I don't understand why you are asking this. You had to know that you would get flamed, so perhaps you just felt like you had it coming. Or perhaps you thought enough people would go along with the "if it feels right" blah blah blah.
THIS is a GREAT question---and probably rhetorical with this OP. How could anyone post such BS and NOT think it would get flamed? I'm thinking the same mental deficiency that "allowed" her this co-working kissing also affects her ability to see past her nose with decision making. My comment about right and wrong being measured by degrees applies very much to her original actions and her subsequent "question" here. It's nearly impossible to NOT think of her as a bottle-blonde bimbo who can't or won't control herself, as though all this happened beyond her control or knowledge. I'm wondering how people like this explain it away or justify it to themselves--which so many seem to do with ease and success.
She'll keep posting in her own defense because no one else will---there's nothing to defend her against really. Needing the last word, hoping just one more comment or "explanation" will finally make us all see she was right she won't quit until this thread dies of old age. Soon enough she'll be back about one more married man she's "accidently" become involved with, all in an innocent, "it felt good at the time......" excuse.
I'll bet smart, good hearted women just hate this type of chick!! | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 1:57:30 PM | Sefra
There is a Law on the books of NC and a lot of other states that alow the spouse of a person who looses the effection of there mate to sue the person who took there mate away from them.It has been used and it can cost the guilty party a LOT of money.
Just food for thought.You are bad bad bad.But I was once bad bad bad too.
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 2:14:16 PM |
What I really want to express here is that this man is not a cheater.
Actually... yes, he is.
In the 22 years of his married life, he had never strayed.
Except for making out with you?
Tell you what... if you don't think it's cheating, ask his wife if she agrees with you. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 2:27:59 PM | | Hey OP. Don't you forget about the biggest (well they are both big) taboo here. You are kissing a co-worker!! I sure as hell hope that he is not your boss or vice versa as that would mean both you guys jobs. Besides, dipping the pen in the company's inc is a hughe no no and will always have disasterous outcomes. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:08:40 PM | Not could be MSG#2... 'IS'
I'd divorce my wife in a heart beat. Kissing another not their spouse is as close to cheating at it comes without the clothing coming off.
So you could be a home wrecker. I bet you feel proud of yourself. Take your clothing off and finish off his Marriage. Cause I bet he'd have sex with you for the polite way of putting it.
There goes another marriage to unfaithful spouses. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:14:31 PM | Ask yourself: if he was your husband, and she was a woman he worked with, and you'd decided to bring him lunch, and you caught them at it, how mad would you be?
I'd be surprised if you hadn't visited a lawyer by the end of the day.
You bad, bad girl(spanks).
And just because he has never strayed before, you think that makes it OK?
Do men get special dispensation to cheat, after 10 years of marriage?
What planet are you from?
Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus. Not the other way around. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:20:51 PM | putting stipulations on cheating is what i am hearing. You have kissed a married man in numerous places. If that is not cheating i dont know what is.
This is bad news and your both setting each other up for disaster if it continues. I wont even put a number on it as i dont see the point.
good luck and my advice...stay away from those who are in relationships. And this isnt just on you...he has totally not down his part either. Shame on him as well. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:24:43 PM | | thats a 9. Why not ask yourself... How bad is it that some random co-worker of my husbands kissed him? (I wanted to say 10 but you didnt have sex.... Hopefully) | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 5:28:48 PM | A married person kissing another person is ummm well...BAD
It's definatly divorce material for me.
So how about an 11?
But feeling guilty is good! And you said you wouldnt do it again..so DONT. :) | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 5:52:53 PM | People are human beings. I don't know this man. Maybe he was going through a rough time in his life and in a moment of weakness did something he knew he shouldn't just as you felt vulnerable, and there is a connection between you two, and you made each other feel good. Does it mean you are bad people? No. It means you did something that you shouldn't have and that would have outraged his spouse. Just kiss single men next time. You can't change the fact that he kissed you.
Does he love his wife, at least? Sometimes telling the truth about some kiss that was done might be worse than not telling. It could cause years of bitterness, anger etc... He sounds like a decent person, over all. He did cheat on his wife, even if he didn't sleep with you. I am not going to judge him and say that every person who has cheated at one point in a very long marriage is a bad person. I don't think any of my own parents did, but I know I wouldn't want my wife to cheat on me if I were married.
I think what you wanted to hear was the fact that he kissed you which is an infidelity was due to a temporary failing on his part, a vulnerability, and you connected and responded to the passion, but it doesn't mean you are bad people. Yes, that is true but marriage is a contract that should be honored by both parties.
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:43:01 PM | I'm doubting very much that it stopped at kissing.
It's a vialation of the 10 commandments go I guess it's a 10. You should be ashamed.
You say he never strayed in 22 years. What you mean to say is he told you he never strayed in 22 years. Cheater/liar go hand in hand.
Your answers show your lack of moral fibre. Likely this is why he targeted you. You'll do it again. You'll do it until he stops making the advances. You are both low and deserve each other. I'm sure these words don't bother you in the least. I hope you both get caught at work and get fired it's the only sort of punishment you'll both recieve for your reprehensible actions. | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 8:12:29 PM | OP,
Not sure how your laws work up there but down here in certain states if the marriage breaks up?
1. You can be held financially liable for breaking up the marriage.
2. If the company had any and I mean ANY knowledge and did not act to cut their losses? They are also held liable...that means, down here if I'm your boss and find out about it? You AND him both get fired, no warnings no nothing. AND if his wife calls to find out why? YES, we WILL divulge it.
NEVER dip your pen in company INK. Not with a lower, equal or upper co-worker.NEVER NEVER NEVER.
Cheers! | |
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| How bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?
Posted: 5/21/2007 9:19:31 PM | You're asking how bad is it to kiss a married co-worker?? let me think about this one for a minute?? okkkkkkkkk and you're asking this question for what purpose?
I found it funny that you think that your married co-worker confessed to you , that he never strayed from his wife and you were the first??? you cannot be a dumb as this thread? can you?
If you truly believe that there is nothing wrong with you kissing your co-worker who's married I have some waterfront property in the Antarctica up for sale, its the property between the tooth fairy and Santa Claus second cousin on his mothers Inbred niece's side
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