| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:52:25 PM | I totally understand that you still want children, problem with todays society is its always me, me, me, I grew up with a single parent.....it wasn't that fun. I thought my partner would live forever and it didn't happen so......
What I said/ meant was some people out there later on inlife just want to get pregnant cause they are running outta time and be damned on who its with (I have seen this happen myself)
I also believe kids will magnify problems in any relationship 10 fold so it better be pretty damn stable (just go cruising through the profiles) and you think you will know your partner in 1, 2, 3 years?? C'mon..........
Maybe you do go all the way, great but if you are single and you don't then what??? who's dealing with what?? Nice life for your kids.......
I do like the other posts as to adoption though, make a crappy situation better and give something back to humanity, now theres a thought...... | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:49:54 PM | Three of my friends had babies with older men (42-47 years old) One child has autism, one child has brain seizures and is severely retarded, and one was born with a heart defect. There is a reason why fertility clinics don't take sperm donors over 40 years old any more. I'm 47 years old and all of my children are grown, but if I were a younger woman, I'd pick a man under 40 because I sure wouldn't want to run the risk of birth defects. Sure, my friends all love their children, just as I do, but I'm glad mine were all born healthy.
You think that any man over 40 is going to have genetic problems? That you have to have kids with a man under 40 to have a healthy child? And what's this stupidity with your glad your kids were born healthy? Are you kidding me? Being mentally retarded or having autism or brain conditions doesn't mean they are lepers and it doesn't mean they aren't wonderful, creative, loving children. They have problems. You should try being more open minded and realizing that not everyone is like you and that you are blessed to have children at all. Your post is self righteous and demeaning to all parents with children that have any of the above conditions. You are totally out of order. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 5/25/2007 4:14:44 AM | I'm soon to be 34, and am still undecided about children.
I do however want to make sure that when I am 40 or whatever, if I want kids, I want to be able to be with someone who can have them...
I'm not ready for kids at this point in my life, nor will I be pressured into that by a woman's biological clock.
I'll have them when I feel I'm ready to have them... | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 5/27/2007 4:45:03 AM | People can want what ever they want. However If i were a woman i would not be having babies at such a late stage in life. The risk is to great for problems simple as that. I think if a man pressures someone to have a baby when the health risks are high that is a problem but not in regards to your question.
When men can have babies by them selves they can make choices by themselves. *smiles* until then it would seem both people need to be in agreement.
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 5/29/2007 8:22:48 PM | Wow, you just cant tell. And there are so many types of families. So my mom just turned seven zero and is more the lively adoring mother most of the time to her grandbabies (than her Kids) still likes having babies but she wants them all happy wanted and well cared for . So there Great Grandmas want babies too, get that and the babies are pyramiding at that stage LOL . | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 5/30/2007 9:48:32 AM | Curious that when female celebs are 40+ and say they want (first time) children, no one ever questions that. Better access to the best medical care, maybe?
My Mom had me when she was 39 and I turned out okay (I think - LOL). I love kids. If I can't have my own biological kids (and more and more it's looking like that probably won't happen), I would still love step-kids or to adopt. I was engaged a few years back and he had three kids and I loved them like they were my own. I'd do it again. :o)
I'm not freaked out by older guys who want kids. I'm more freaked out by guys my age who have grandchildren!!! | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/1/2007 6:21:44 AM | | Im 40 yrs old and i still havent had any kids...like someone else said i came from a broken home and had a very unhappy childhood and consequently wud not have children until i felt sure and was with the right person. As it turns out for me i have never met that person and i have to come to the realisation that i may never have children now but i certainly dont think its too old at my age. As long as that child is loved then i dont think age matters | |
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Algy
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Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 83 | |
| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/1/2007 8:37:37 AM | | I'm about to have my first and I'm looking forward to it. I'd like to think it's the start of a big family. I'm going to shoot for 5 by 50. Abraham ain't got nothin' on me. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/1/2007 1:54:50 PM | Three of my friends had babies with older men (42-47 years old) One child has autism, one child has brain seizures and is severely retarded, and one was born with a heart defect. There is a reason why fertility clinics don't take sperm donors over 40 years old any more. I'm 47 years old and all of my children are grown, but if I were a younger woman, I'd pick a man under 40 because I sure wouldn't want to run the risk of birth defects. Sure, my friends all love their children, just as I do, but I'm glad mine were all born healthy.
You think that any man over 40 is going to have genetic problems? That you have to have kids with a man under 40 to have a healthy child? And what's this stupidity with your glad your kids were born healthy? Are you kidding me? Being mentally retarded or having autism or brain conditions doesn't mean they are lepers and it doesn't mean they aren't wonderful, creative, loving children. They have problems. You should try being more open minded and realizing that not everyone is like you and that you are blessed to have children at all. Your post is self righteous and demeaning to all parents with children that have any of the above conditions. You are totally out of order.
I agree with bridge jumper. That statement that other poster said that bridge jumper quoted above, is ludicrous and very crule I migh add to describe children that way and to also say it has something to do with a mans age.
The honest fact is this. Ussually if the child comes out with some "deficiency" it is because the mother and father were doing something they shouldn't have been doing before the child was born, such as alchohal, smoking, maybe some hard drugs, bad life style ect. It is NOTHINHG to do with a mans age. Also to classify children as you did in inhuman and very insensitive and not to mention grossly ignorant. | |
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Algy
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Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 85 | |
| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/1/2007 2:30:17 PM |
The honest fact is this. Ussually if the child comes out with some "deficiency" it is because the mother and father were doing something they shouldn't have been doing before the child was born...
Oh sh*t!! I told her we should have skipped the thing with the hot wax and feathers! | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/1/2007 4:58:22 PM | | I want to child and I already have a great son ( he's 18 years now ) what is a problem about it.... I have a 12 uncles ..yeah I have a uncle younger than me .. If there is love and the Man and the Woman agree with that ..everything's fine. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:18:56 AM | | The truth of the matter is that woman past 40 pass child defects to the babies. It is also a fallicy to think of autism as a form of dibiltation when hidden in the minds of autistic chidren is unreal talents and itelligence higher than the norm, when actuallized with extream attention too complicated for the average persons mind unfortunately this is also subject to varying degrees. They have not only discovered sperm of even the most elderly men can produce healthy babies and a young mans sperm is the immature sperms of the bunch that can produce far lower IQ's than sperm in men 40 and up that have more potential. It helps a older woman to have a husband her age compensate but in the scheme of thing a young wife Like Princess Dianna and and older man like Prince Charls are the better match then a young couple. This is due to the fact that woman carry ovum from the beginning and men rejuvinate and produce daily and this production gets better with practice over the years | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
Msg: 88 | |
| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/5/2007 8:29:42 AM | ^^^ whatever- I just turned 40............and still want kids! I'll have to tell my mom that she must have a low IQ- because grandma was 37; grandpa was 44. BTW- how many men have had kids in their 60's...........and up?? and; Princess Di was picked by the royals because she was more likely to be a virgin.......... | |
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matou
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Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 89 | |
| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/5/2007 9:50:15 AM | | i unfortunately got a bad deal when i married the wrong woman. I would love to have my own kids one day, but the reality of it is it could be another few years before i meet that right lady. Which is fine as i am in no rush for love, but it means there's a good chance i might have to accept someone else's kids as my own. Once i get up over 35 or so i'm probably gonna have to think twice about having babies. Not so sure i want to be 60 with a 20 yr old. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:14:52 PM |
The truth of the matter is that woman past 40 pass child defects to the babies.
The truth of the matter is that the odds increase as you age. There's nothing special about 40. I think they just had a woman on TV last week who's having a baby at 60.
My mom had me when she was in her late 30's, and I think I came out fine. Personally, I'll probably give up on the idea of having kids by my mid-40's because I don't really want to be retired with kids still in school. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:11:44 PM | | My first posting I agree woman can and should be able to have children until their bodies end in menapause ans some woman have had children after menapause was way over. Older mens sperm is just the fact that the mechinisms producing sperm daily become more efficient. Sorting the goodin from the baddins. you know how competitive men are. As much as everything about a womans pregnancy is standard I really think all births are a different as the person being born. The say Higher risk for this higher risk for that but what is the actual risk and are these more acceptable than if youre in the higher age majority .If one egg gets one sperm they must be just as lucky as a man or woman finding the right partner so why knock em. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/8/2007 8:23:20 PM | | Well speaking just for myself. I had a career beginning at 22 yrs old and many of the women I dated did not want children because they also had careers. That does not mean I would not date a woman with children, most of the women I have dated had children. But I would still like the opportunity to have a child of my own. That also does not mean I am only looking for young women, her age does not matter, I just someone that I connect with that would still like another child. But many of the single women my age don't want more children and perhaps if I had children at an early age I may feel the the same way. Does that make it wrong for me to still want a child? | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/9/2007 12:56:17 PM | I have always wanted children, still do, to me life is all about children, without offspring there would be no life. It's what we were put on this earth to do.
I've often commented about the dumbing down of society, intelligent, educated people busy with other stuff, not having children, or maybe just one, while the slums are having families with 10 kids. Not trying to say people in the slums are not necessarily intelligent, but I would guess there is some correlation. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:56:34 PM | No it's not fair on all parties. Let's take for example that 60 year old woman giving birth - those twins will not be able to experience all their mother has to offer because her life expetancy might only be for another 15-20 years, if that! Besides, they might think of her as grandma instead of mom.
As for myself, children are a handful within itself. I couldn't imagine having a child after 35 years old. It takes alot of physical/mental energy to perform the daily activities that children need. At 31, I have a 3 year old daughter and 11 year old son. Believe it or not, it's much more challenging now with my 3 year old than with my 11 year old when I was 21 years old. But at my current age, I have the energy to enjoy my children, running after them and playing with them.
Just my $0.07 cents... | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/9/2007 9:25:04 PM | | I've talked to older parents and younger parents. It seems there are trade-offs to both. The younger ones have more energy and less complications with the pregnancy/birth part of it while the older ones are more financially stable and patient with their kids. I think 50 is the end for having kids and maybe 40-45 for women because menopause is an issue at that point. It's kind of selfish to have a kid when you will likely be dead by their high school graduation but anything under 40 is still kosher, IMO. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/10/2007 7:16:58 AM | | Having children will keep you active, many that have not had children till 40 or later are in excellent physical shape, very active, don't smoke and have other life shortening bad habits and they will probably live long past the national average. I agree that with women 45 for a active very healthy woman is considered a max, and maybe 40 for a smoker, not so active and healthy, but I have a couple good friends who have given birth in their early 50's with no problems. They didn't plan it that way (a surpize but welcome,) they got lots of good medical attention, where educated about the odds, had the money and in the end everything was just fine. It's not something you can put a hard answer on, that's what keeps me hopeful. I'm certainly not planning on being in the grave at 70. A healthy and very active life style should help with that. Though one never knows, any one of us might be gone tomorrow. | |
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| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/10/2007 5:32:57 PM | | I am 45 and I would like to Marry and have another child. Some would say that I am being selfish. HUH? I will be in my 60's when the child is a teen. That does not mean I can not be a good father to my child. Sure, I will be a bit slower but I will also be oh so wiser. | |
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Kazot
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Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 100 | |
| When is it too old to still want children?
Posted: 6/10/2007 5:40:12 PM | I am soooo much better with children now and enjoy them soooo much more than when I was younger.
I don't feel the need to have more children but if I had the opertunity I would like to. | |
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