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Posted: 1/9/2007 7:46:37 PM | Virginity at any age isn't pathetic.
If the reason is some kind of sexual or social problem, it might be a little sad.
Even a moral/religious belief, which in itself isn't pathetic, might be unfortunate if you're "holding" onto your virginity into an older age despite being a healthy, sexual person because you just haven't had the luck to meet the right person for you.
Other than that, there's no real RIGHT age. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 12:44:02 AM | | Huh? How do you know that Mother Teresa was a virgin? She was 18 when she joined the convent---- maybe a bad experience with a man drove her there? | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 12:47:00 AM | I don't think that it would be pathetic...I think that it would be a triumph...
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Posted: 1/10/2007 2:58:26 AM | | it's not pathethic to be a virgin. Actually it's very smart. with all these diseases s#@$ flying around it's better to keep that zipper up. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 5:15:17 AM | | It's more pathetic to care/worry that some people find it pathetic to be a virgin at a given age. If that makes sense. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 6:36:24 AM | monissmokin is right you would get a lot of respect, i knew a woman whom was 27 before she found the one whom she would be with for the rest of her life. for her it was part of her religion, and you may find a lot of guys will find it very sexy that you are a virgin.
its nothing to be ashamed of. dont be pushed or rushed into something you are unsure about you have plenty of time in the world to enjoy more of life's pleasure than just sex.
i was 12 my first time, had no clue what she was doing lol..
if you are curious you could have oral without penetraton leavin you a virgin still, but definately wait for the right person to come along. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 8:56:11 AM | do any of you even know what you're talking about? this is the illustious use of womens virignity currently in certain parts of the world:
In India there is a centuries-old custom of "Kukari ki Rasam" (thread ritual), where a skein of thread is used to detect the presence of an intact hymen. It isn't just used to torture women, but is often used so that the bride's family can make money "Impure" brides are beaten to reveal the names of their "lovers" and then these lovers are forced to pay large amounts of money to the bride's family. Sansi women will often name any man that they know just to stop the torture that they are undergoing. A local schoolteacher says that it is irrelevant that they are forced to name the men. He says, "Here the brides are beaten to make them admit to affairs." The police claim that they are unable to do anything because this is not illegal, rather just immoral. Virginity tests are not covered under the Indian Penal Code and therefore cannot be considered a crime so a case cannot be filed against these practices.
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In Turkey, the government has stepped in to try to curb the controversy over virginity testing after five girls, aged 12-16, tried to commit suicide after being ordered to have the tests performed because they came home late to their dormitories one night. Women and Family Affairs Minister Isilay Saygin tried to say that the situation was of little importance. He said, "Girls of 12 and 13 are falling pregnant. If girls commit suicide because of the virginity tests, they would have committed suicide anyway. It is not that important. We need to lay down certain conditions as a deterrent." (Associated Press)
Virginity is seen as highly important in Muslim culture, but the tests seem to mainly occur in Turkey, where Turkish law states that the husbands are the head of the family. For a new bride, virginity is of extreme importance, symbolized by the red ribbon belt that she wears on her wedding day (Associated Press, )
In Turkey, a cross-sectional study in the form of a self-administered survey was given to forensic physicians in Turkey. 118 physicians completed the survey and the results are quite interesting. 68% believed that virginity examinations are inappropriate if there is no allegation of sexual assault, however, 45% had conducted examinations for social reasons. Most respondents (93%) believed that these exams are psychologically traumatic for the patients and 58% reported that at least half of patients undergo these exams against their will (Women's Health Information Center)
to name two examples of what female virginity is traditionally about and how it is used to abuse and control women. obsessing about it for a reason other than having a special someone you want to share it with is giving tacit approval to the reprehensible treatment many women get. it's naive to think of it as a romantic thing without any life experience or no understanding of the symbolism involved.
don't get me wrong i'm not against virginity per se, i waited for my first love until we were both comfortable and willing even though i had many offers thrown my way, but to do it for religious or societal reasons is pathetic. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 9:18:57 AM | | I would never think it was pathetic if a man or woman was a virgin at any age. To each their own. As for preference...it really wouldn't matter to me....it is all about the person not their sexual history. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 2:15:41 PM | | I think the majority agree that it's not anything to be concerned about. To each their own. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 2:31:44 PM | Monissmokin.. very well put advice for the OP. OP listen to her words of wisdom! And I have to agree, no set age is pathetic, it is one's personal choice...if they chose to stay a virgin forever who are we to judge them! | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 2:33:26 PM | Your sexiness is not measured by your experience. Many people have no sex appeal at all, but have humped their way through life anyway. LOL. Does that make them sexy? No. It makes them used. Sex appeal is measured by just that, your sexual appeal.
I'm 38 and my sexual experience is virtually nil. You're 18. You got your whole life ahead of you. In some states, you are not even a legal adult yet. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 10:18:14 PM | Wow alot of people seem to care about this, I lost mine back when I was 15. I honestly don't think its destroyed my life or made me whole, just kinda happened. Take your time, if you meet someone and it feels right go for it, if not then don't. Its not the end of the world either way.
Then again I will say if I met a 30 year old girl who was still a virgin I could be kinda wierded out by that, its never happened though so I'm not 100% sure. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 10:21:51 PM | I lost mine at 18, and I honestly wish I still had it.
Keep your virginity as long as you can, because it means something:
You deserve better.
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Posted: 1/10/2007 10:57:39 PM | | 104 and ready for the gold coins to be placed upon your lids - but dear, I think you have a long way to go before you get there. Besides, every one is different. Go at your own pace. Do what you wish, when you wish it. It's not a race. Lots of people regret it when it's not the right time or person. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 11:14:16 PM | | I think it's odd (rare?) to be a virgin after the age of 30, but is it pathetic? God, no. On the other hand, I think it's pathetic to lose one's virginity because of others pressuring one to do so. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2007 1:21:53 AM | pathetic?
a woman becomes PATHETIC simply cuz she is "matured" and still a virgin? i think the one who habours such an idea is PATHETIC! i mean cmon... sex in itself cannot give an extreme makeover to an ugly person nor can it make a foolish person wise.
the best things in life are very few and virgins r very few.
BIGGUPS TO ALL VIRGINS IN THIS PLACE!
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Posted: 1/13/2007 3:46:35 AM | Man, I wish I hadn't been a virgin till I was 21. Then I wouldn't have spent 5 years having lousy sex with a woman I thought was "the one."
Also, having said that, I'm glad I waited till I was out of my teens because if I had gotten a girl pregnant at that age I wouldn't have been able to handle it emotionally (instead of just financially, like now! )
My advice is: You're ready to have sex when you find someone you'd be willing to raise a child with, because it's almost always a probable outcome. Think about it that way and you'll know when to become a not-virgin. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 12:05:56 PM | Absolute Virginity. There is nothing wrong or shameful about it.
The person is merely treating their body like a sacred temple.
I know some naughty and randy middle eastern girls who "wanted to keep their virginity" and practice oral and anal sex. Something about the particular Muslim/Islamic society that they live in would get them into major trouble. THAT to me is not virginity..that means they have gotten saavy about sex. I guess they wanted tohavetheir cake and eat it too.
Pathetic is really about how one feels about themselves and how they allow themselves to be mistreated. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 12:00:12 PM | I've never met a pathetic nun so I don't think virginity ever becomes pathetic.
OK Sister Margaret, there I said it so stop whacking my fingers with that ruler. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 7:39:55 AM | It is NEVER pathetic to be a virgin. Sex is a choice we make.
I would respect someone even more I think since I tend to be rather conservative myself.
At 29, I haven't had many partners and haven't been sexual in quite a while now since I haven't had the luxury of being romantically involved.
For myself, I see sex as a part of a relationship. I have no issues with those that have casual sex (assuming they're safe), but it just isn't my thing.
I will mention somehting that is a bit of an issue for me and would love to hear the ladies' comments on this.
I tend to feel somewhat insecure when I talk about not having many sexual partners in my past as I have this idea in my head that women look down upon it and think there is something wrong with me.
Deep down, I know I shouldn't feel like this and should be proud of my beliefs but this still enters into my mind.
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Posted: 1/18/2007 8:42:18 AM | | Virginity is never pathetic at any age. If you have not found teh right person, then you haven't foud the right person. I can't tell you the number of people I know who wish they hadn't lost their virginity when they had. If someone thinks your pathetic because your a virgin then they just aren't the right person. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:15:20 PM | When the times right she should no unless she is one these femanist types, and just bin the mind set of just being anti men, or sumit along them lines.
....um......what? | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:18:23 PM | WHO THE HELL TOLD YOU IT WAS PATHETIC TO BE A VIRGIN? I WISH I STILL WAS A VIRGIN... YOU'RE AVOIDING SO MUCH HEARTACHE BY KEEPING "IT" TIGHT. VIRGINS ARE SEXY AND ITS PATHETIC THAT YOU SHAME THEM... PURTIY IS BEAUTIFUL GIRLFRIEND!!!
FOR MEN TOO! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:23:47 PM |
Mother Theresa was a virgin......
She might not have been. | |
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