| Going back to the Ex!!!!
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:19:57 AM | | Msg. 88- I agree, your grandmother sure got wise. I also feel that when one returns to an ex they get what they ask for. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice then shame on me..for not learning the first time around. I had the chance to reunite with my last ex and was too reminded of why I broke up with him when he asked to try again so I refused the offer. I since moved on to my current bf . He is nothing like the last ex. I couldn't be happier. I learned in the past that an ex is best to leave behind as you are the same two people as when you first dated each other. What a waste of time and effort. Why go through a mistake twice when you already see the writing on the wall? | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:21:46 AM | Everyone makes mistakes including bad decisions,
You may love them but unfortunatley you need more than love to make a relationship work. Think Carefully before acting and do want you want to do not what other people tell you afterall its your life ! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:43:17 AM | | funfungirl, hit the nail on the head when she listed all the reasons people go back to an ex. I would say loneliness is probably at the top of the list. But, yes, you can buy a pet, or even buy a huge stuffed animal and put it in the chair at the kitchen table. Sex is another biggie but hugs and affection are a big part of sex and those you can get from other people in a non-sexual way. As for that person being all you know that may be true but give yourself enough credit and believe that you are capable of knowing other people as well. And regret is something that can be overcome by listing all the things you did for the other person that you didn't regret. I'm sure the second list will be much longer. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 11:02:17 AM | do not go back to your ex. You will probably always have a place in your heart for that person...a small one, lol, but do not put yourself through the heartache again and again. We cannot change them and you know what? We shouldnt even try. If they wanted to change they would. Sometimes its just better to come to terms that you are just incompatible and move on. Let them find someone (or not) that will like the qualities that you dislike....and wait for someone who will treat you right.
Sure, it is hard to find a good match, but it is not worth settling for any loser who will take you. Become happy alone and then when you aren't looking, someone will appear. I think. lol | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 7:53:35 AM | From experience, you can't go back! Don't even try, I did for a week and guess what everything was still the same~~~ would never do that again ~~~~~
So happy to be free ..... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 6:24:56 AM | Hiya Jim :)
I think your so right on what you had to say , Mostly bout going back for the kid's children don't need that in there life a unhappy mom n dad , But if you think there maybe achance then go for it , This life come's with chance's . But i been with my ex for 4 years and for 3 we been parting n getting bk together it never worked the harder i tryed the harder it got i still love him n may allway's but he has no love left for me . But life go's on yes it's going to be hard but this time around i'll no he's the one . I am 44 i feel like just giving up and stay to myself but i love a man's touch , It's hard getting up every morning making one coffee n not two i really miss that , But for now i'll settle for friend's the four years i been in ontario i never met any because of my ex so now it's time to start looking . Take care all n don't give up if you think you n ur ex has achance go for it but dont do it for the kids do it because you feel it may work this time . Hug's for all who needs one :) | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 6:28:27 AM | | You can't say that just because it dident work out for us don't mean it wont for other's it's a chance we all take i took it n so did you , So why tell her not to we have no right . Go for it girl and best of luck :) Hug's take care . | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 8:46:58 AM | Hi Hellfireclub,
I went back to my ex and not only did it not get better, it became even worse (he started cheating on me). Unless you two are serious, and I mean serious, about reconciling your previous problems (perhaps through couples counseling and you BOTH put your hearts into it), then you can expect the previous issues to continue to haunt the relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 10:46:03 PM | | I'm not sure if I would. I'm leaning against it. My situation is I filed for divorce in March and he now wants to work it out. I've changed in a lot of ways and he recognizes that, but he wasn't there for me when I was in a crisis a couple of years ago. Seems to me he wants me now that times are good, but he wasn't there for me when I most needed him - a "Good Time Charlie" it seems. Fast forwading to present. He's made some efforts, but not nearly enough. He's slacking already. At this point, he'd have to move Heaven and Earth on a very consistent basis for me to even consider it. Even if does everything perfectly, I don't know that I'd go back to him. For the next few weeks, I'm just observing his behavior and also monitoring my own feelings from day to day. My feelings are significantly waning for him as time goes by. I have maybe about 2% left. I've had since the fall of 2005 to psychologically move on, and I have for the most part. I'm quite ready to let divorce proceed unless something drastically (and I mean drastically) alters my views. I have the strong feeling that it'll be too little, too late. I'm sort of torn between telling him outright he needs to do a LOT more (I did tell him a few weeks ago, but he seemed not to take it seriously) and quietly observing him (and also my reactions). I'll probably do the latter as I don't think I care enough at this point to spell it out again. The other thing is: the less effort he puts in now, the easier it is for me to let the divorce proceed. It confirms in my mind I've done the right thing. UPSHOT (and back to the thread): I stongly doubt I'll take him back. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 12:58:29 PM | | one thing i know...going back with the ex isn't an option anymore...we lived together for twelve years and not saying that we didn't have a good time together...it wasn't all bad...but eventually the bad times overcame the good ones and after awhile things things never change...even if we hope they will...they just don't...it's the same thing waiting to happen and there's a reason why their called an ex...the caring part is always there...but once the love is gone...that's it and it took me awhile to understand that and now that i do...i'd never go back to her...eventhough...there are times i get lonely i wouldn't reconsider going back to her... | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 1:22:52 PM | me and my ex have been sepertated now for 4 months and we still cant get over each other. is it love. who knows but i o know we have been though alot together and we are still friends and spend alot of time together still we even call each other and i just spent the night last night with him we are very close and hang out with each other over friends house when ever i need anything he has been there these last 4 months even when some treatin to kill us if we were in the same room togther and didnt saying thing. he stude up for me and has never left myside since and it has been a week like this what would you say to someone who loves one person but knows that that person cares alot about you too. when all we broke up for was spending to much time together and he lie so he could spend time with his friend. when al he had to do was tell me....  | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 2:00:52 PM | "Let me put it this way: If someone goes back to their ex without resolving the issues that drove them apart in the first place, it will 99.9 percent of the time be a *waste* of time."
couldusecompany said it best. I'm sorry but... going back to the ex for comfort or because you NEED company, is just bad news. Bad. They're an ex for a reason. And that 'reason' needs to be solved and worked on before anyone goes 'back' to anyone else.
Trouble. Trouble. Trouble. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 3:23:00 PM | | if u have to go back to your ex instead of finding yourself then that shows u have a very low self esteem.................. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 3:32:14 PM | I'd go back to my 2nd last ex if he had a complete personality transplant and was able to extract his head from his a$$  | |
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