| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 3:54:40 PM | What an awful dating experience if I were you she'd never hear from me again.........doesn't matter what she meant to prove with such rude, stupid behavior
Sounds childish............I wonder how old is she | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 4:12:36 PM | It's made me feel quite good, when women talk about
the various losers, they have met! I take it as a
compliment of sorts!
But no, talking about other current interests, would
be rather cold and unfeeling! And obviously, the
interest wasn't there on her part! | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 5:20:28 PM | OUCH! That is just plain rude, disrespectful and immature. It's one thing to make conversation by discussing your POF adventures -- it's actually a great icebreaker -- but to actually log in and then talk about other fish she has on the line? That's just not right.
My advice: release this one and throw your line back in the pond. | |
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Deor
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Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 29 | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 7:46:39 PM | | Hmmm, totally mixed feelings on that. It would definitely throw me off -- especially if I was interested in her and she seemed more interested in the other guys. I'd be questioning my future with her, that's for sure. But depending on the situation? If you were on a definite "date," especially at a nice restaurant or some such it would be totally rude to log into POF like that -even bringing up ex's or other people your seeing could be kinda rude. But if you were at a bar or coffee or something more casual or espcially if you just met to hang-out or literally just met? Since you both have trying to meet people in common it's something to talk about. And aren't you the least bit curious? It's a strange conversation but it's one I've had a couple of times. At the most extreme, I actually met someone totally randomly and I thought things were going ok until her POF date (actually that's how I found out about POF) showed up. That was kinda funny, actually. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 31 | |
| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 7:58:48 PM | | Someone said "she's just not that into you", well, I don't know if that's part of it. But, here IS the problem...she's rude! I would never be on a date and check my answering machine messages, let alone logging in to a dating site to talk about other guys who might have emailed me. What a loser! Be glad you're rid of her, she sounds like a flake. | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 8:39:50 PM | I found the wording in the subject line awkward. If it is to read, "Ladies, never discuss potential interests to us guys." Yet if it is to read, "Ladies, never discuss potential interests, to us guys."
When taken in the original subject line context, the subject line's insistance upon women not to discuss potential interests, is contra to current practices of successful relationship development, and places its author as canadidate for the TV show - "Bllind Date".
Its first rewriting asks but one question, "Its quite an honour when a woman discussess potential interests in a certain way is a prelude to good things to come, literally." I for one am in favour of female agression.
The latter rewrite is something of a combination of the others. My point is that the more we invite the opposite sex to share our interestss the closer our life experiences will approximate euphoria!
Douglas | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/10/2007 10:43:04 PM | | Dude, its a matter of simple respect for the other person, regardless of the situation, regardless of whether or girl or guy does it. There are nicer ways of telling someone your not interested. | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:15:19 AM | Who knows but maybe she did that to try n make herself look good.Hoping by showing u others r into her would make u either jealous or want her more cuz others do.Honestly though I would have no prob talking about pof but would never sit and check my phone to see who on etc...especially if your on a date or just having a coffee with someone.That was in poor taste .this is pof though so have fun fishing cuz there is plenty more in the sea lol or lake ...depends on where u r.I hope u find what your looking for have a great day n the best new yr.Chow | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:15:46 AM | I always though it was rude for men or woman to talk about ex's or other men/women while first getting to know someone. Maybe after a period of time when both feel at a comfort level to discuss their pasts it's okay. And I only take calls if it is a family member calling me. I have 2 sons, a grandson, and both of my parents are having health issues. Other than that I do not answer my cell. And I also make it known to the person I'm seeing that I only will answer my phone for those given reasons. The men have always been understanding.
GUY....throw your rod back in catch another fish. This one is rude, inmature, and doesn't shows much concern for your feelings.
Best of luck. | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 12:29:33 PM | My initial reaction to your post was – What a b1tch. Then there’s the question as to whether or not you two were just hanging out or were you on a date? Are you two just friends or is there a mutual romantic interest?
But after reading this:
"Hey guys,
Thanks again for all the advice. I am going to post more details tonight so everyone can get a clearer and accurate view of events."
I’m much more interested hear her side of the story.
Move on. You can never recover time wasted dwelling in the past. | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 1:53:18 PM | Hey guys,
I would've have posted sooner, but life has a way of giving me a million and one tasks to do at once.
Basically, she initiated contact with a quick message along the lines of "you sound really cool... I would love to see what your all about". I replied with basically a thank you and suggesting we should hang out sometime. About an hour later, I get a reply with an invitation to get together the same night. I wasn't overly busy at the time, so I agreed and we met at her place.
We talked for about maybe 2 hours, just light stuff and teasing, mixed with conversation about life, friends and family. Very fun and seemed really into it. It was during this time she started talking about guys she's meeting off here and one she is thinking of meeting. I was unfazed at the time (the best reaction if you ask me). I just play it off.
She starts poking me in the chest and stuff, just being playful. I was a bit sore beforehand, but basically got into it and gently restrained her from doing it too much haha. It ends up with her on top of me and we start kissing and making out. No problems with that. Not much else except exploring each other. I had to back off a few times as I was recovering from the flu and having a bit of a time keeping my breath 
The only possible bad thing I could've done, in her POV, is not try for sex right away. Not that I wasn't into it with her, I just no longer want it right away with someone new. I learned that it generally seems to kill the chances of anything more serious, which is what I want.
Hope this all makes SOME sense to you guys! | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 2:37:59 PM | She was trying to do one of two things.
Either she wasnt interested and was wanting to ensure that you would get turned off.
Or, she was trying to sell herself in a facked up way.
Dont bother with her again... she sounds like a real loser. | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 2:48:57 PM | Obviously your comeback should have included pulling out and flipping through the latest issue of Penthouse while checking out any and all females entering the room. Double dog dare you, “ditch the ****” | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 46 | |
| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 3:10:42 PM | OP - how tacky!!! Yuck. On the flip side of the coin, I've gone out on dinner dates where fellas have bad mouthed their ex's for 2+ hours. Just as tacky.
Look, if you ain't got something nice to say to the one you're with, then don't say it. Also, golden rule of thumb: Three is a crowd! | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 5:07:44 PM |
She was trying to do one of two things.
Either she wasnt interested and was wanting to ensure that you would get turned off.
Or, she was trying to sell herself in a facked up way.
Dont bother with her again... she sounds like a real loser. Would you use good kissing to turn a guy off? that would make no sense | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 5:08:58 PM |
Look, if you ain't got something nice to say to the one you're with, then don't say it. Also, golden rule of thumb: Three is a crowd! Please elaborate on both points. I'm not sure what you meant | |
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| Ladies: never discuss potential interests to us guys
Posted: 1/12/2007 5:17:56 PM | Larwilliams, instead of your wisdom and advice, maybe you should read a book on how to hold a woman's attention. I mean, what are you, a farkin sage? I am one of 'us guys', and let me assure you, you are NOT my representative, ok? | |
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