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Posted: 1/10/2007 12:46:50 PM | | Without sounding too New Age, it's the INTENT behind the touch that determines if someone is comfortable with it. Really. Most people have learned to lie with thier words, but few with their bodies, so it's a very honest form of communication. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 1:27:10 PM | ^^^^
I agree with that neon...a hug can tell u so much...was it warm and welcoming, or like hugging a 2x4?
I find that lately, in my 40's, I am so touchyfeely, it isn't even funny, fun though..
I used to be shy and so reserved, it is as though a beast has been unleashed...and now I find i need the touches more then ever...so if I guy is reserved, then it ain't gonna work
a touch says so much...I understand...I care, ur hot, I like you, hey, listen!!! hehe, let me help you, and ur mine!!! hehehe
on first dates I don't mind a hug when meeting at all, I mean after all we have been talking right...and like I said, the warm welcoming ones make the cut all the time.... | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 1:29:11 PM | I have a really good male friend and we were talking the other day. He was telling me about his New Year's Eve date (This was about their 5th date) He said it was one of the best dates he's ever been on, and was going on and on about her...
One of the things that made a huge impact on him was the way she held his hand a few times during the night. He said she did the other-hand-on-top move, lol. (they're holding hands, hers on the bottom, his on top and then she put her other hand on his) He was blown away by this simple gesture! It might just mean he's fallin' in lurve. Or, it could be the reason! haha
He says to me... "Di, if you ever want to drive a guy crazy....."
He should know better, lol. I don't do anything as a "move", only from genuine feeling. Come to think of it....I do hold hands that way when I really like a guy  I never thought about how it can be taken. Interesting. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 2:53:43 PM | I am all about the touchy feely....affection runs in this Latina's blood!!!!!
I recently coined anew Acronym for a certain someone...... HKS ....
Hugs, Kisses and Spanks.......like it better than XOX! | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 3:03:04 PM | | i dont like it when it is being done by someone creepy | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 3:09:43 PM | | In many ways we communivate as much if not more information through touch than we do through speach. So if touch is creepy it is likely because the communication behind it is creepy. Friends can communicate support, playfulness, attention, and many more things without going overboard. Having said that, where there is the intention of more intimate touch, wow...the rest of life should be spent finding ways of expressing ourselves through touch to those we feel about.... | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 3:14:42 PM | touchy feely hmmmmmm
well i consider myself affctionate when with the right person if it is with a signaficant other then a certain amount of PDA's are not ony expected but apprecated now with just a freind i am well known in my circle of freinds for touching someone's arm to talk to them or hold a hand so ya i guess that would make me touchy feely but when first meeting someone i always warn them so i know and so do they what to expect its only respectful to do so | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 6:12:39 PM | | If only there was a way to be clear about the intention behind a touch.... Especially in a dating context, even friendly touch can seem very intimate... | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 6:23:03 PM | | onlyfoxhere remind me not to sit next to you when the Oil scores LOL I must say Im a very touchy feely kinda girl. The bald heads are my downfall they just look so inviting to rub I dunno what it is about them all shiny and soft. I completely melt when a man touches the lower part of my back or brush the back of his hand against my cheek | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 6:28:29 PM | ^^^ And by WHEN you mean IF ... Right???
OT - Touchy feely... I never was... wasn't even much of a HUG (friends) person except with my kids, but it's growing on me! Now I'm loving the hugs!!! Why do you think I go to the events!!!!!
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Posted: 1/15/2007 6:41:22 PM | | You ever want to see the extreme of that, go to a massage therapists' conference....we're completely out of control....there's so much hugging going on its a wonder we get a damn thing done...having said that, I dated a guy once who was TOTALLY and completely uncomfortable with just non-sexual touch...it just about killed me. Its really sad how paranoid everyone has become over touch. I've always said that a lot of patients I see are single people who, although they may not even recognize it, are coming in because of the stress of not being touched. Heartbreaking. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 9:11:58 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I hear ya on that one...I notice the same sort of thing going on with some of my old folks at work. Just a few moments holding hands, or a stroke on the arm makes sooo much difference sometimes...
One up: OH YES!!! The hugs at meets saying hello and saying goodbye are often the best part! Bring on the hugs...
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Posted: 1/16/2007 8:01:47 AM | Depends on the where and when,
After dating someone I really liked for a few weeks,lots of hand holding, etc, anyhow we were out in public at a soccer game, and he decided to grab my ass......WTF?
There's a line, speaks volumes about the respect someone has for you, and he crossed it.
In all fairness I did speak to him about how the behavior made me feel, but it happened again a week later, this time in the middle of the public library, and I was very embarassed. I then ended the relationship. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 5:58:19 PM | | It depends on who it is ... I dated this guy a few years ago ... and I just couldn't keep my hands off him ... on the first date ... I needed to touch him ... on his leg, on his arm, his face, his hair ... not groping or anything just brushes, here and there ... and truly I am not a touchy feely person ... but yeah ... it was like he put a spell on me ... and when he kissed me good night ... he swept me off my feet ... truly ... so obviously, some people do for you and some people don't ... | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 6:50:13 PM | I'm still... looking for someone who won't keep their hands off me. I thrive on touch. Even just a hand rubbing up and down on my arm drives me crazy.
I take affectionate to the extreme level.. but it's nice because I am 0% clingy.. just enjoy showing that I care. It's hard to find someone who appreciates it though, and wants to give back just as much... I attribute it to the giving nature that I've been accustomed to... it's SO hard to find such a playful woman. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 7:13:31 PM | ..omg...
someone else pretends to read palms ... lol | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 9:58:31 PM | | I am a very affectionate person, i tend to touch alot when i am talking and such. And it is amazing what a hug can do, or just holding someones hand just because...affection is a lost art i am almost certain, cause there is definitely a creep factor sometimes that some people give when they touch....ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww you have to know when it is ok! | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 10:30:17 PM | That ass slapping thingy ... it doesn't have to be painful ...  | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 10:53:33 PM | | ramp ... oh sh$$$t, you are only 19 years old ... | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 5:51:51 PM | hahaha. I'm starting to feel like I don't belong here
ya I'm young, participated in a 4 year spree that just didn't give me the affection that I wanted... live and learn right? Not like I wasted my 20's. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 5:55:43 PM | Iam touchy-feely to the point of Blue Eyes asking me to stop....or settle the ol hormones.....Or Easy Does It There Nymph!
Meh...Boys! | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 6:36:56 PM | I am not a touchy-feely person socially. I tend to have a comfort zone that I don't like people indruding in.
Lets just say if you are going to start something, you better be ready to finish it. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 6:49:27 PM | | I am very touchy feely although I have to say there is a difference between touchy feely and being grabby and just plain rude lol | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 9:39:03 AM | I am definitely a touchy feely kind of person and I am proud of it! 
I see nothing wrong with holding hands, a gentle touch, a hug, or a kiss, just to name a few. 
However, because there are people who are uncomfortable with the human touch, which is perfectly okay, I only touch those who enjoy it. 
Oops almost forget, a squeeze of the butt cheeks never hurts either. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 2:40:20 PM | | being gentle and playful is the most satisfying experience | |
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