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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/12/2007 8:17:15 AM |
I also think that men often don't really "hear" the woman when she is specific. Or he might hear it once, but then forget about it. It seems that men can easily remember the scores in the 2000 Super Bowl, but can't remember that they promised to pick up a bottle of wine on the way home from work.
Remember it 20 times and forget it once, the forgotten one is the one remembered
When a woman humbles herself to need a man, it is an act of submission. All a man has to do is recognize when this has occurred and either accept or decline the offer. If he accepts, he is accepting a responsibility unlike the casual responsibilities of his own daily business. His responsibility to her is implicit, even as her needing him is implicit.
I really loved this paragraph, it feels very poetic and touched me in a way I didn’t expect the material on this thread to do
The same effect applies in reverse as well. As a man can be the protector, a woman can be a nurturer… | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 2:24:23 AM | That.... if you don't tolerate a certain behavior toward your Mom, sis, Aunt, niece, then we expect you should know better than to treat a woman that way. Fvcking hypocrites.  | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:34:56 AM | This may have been touched on, but I would love for men to understand that I change my mind a lot! Interests, goals, life changes, I go with the flow to a large degree.... Happiness is the only certainty I chase.
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pensky
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Joined: 12/19/2006
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:09:23 PM | A man was walking along the beach in California when he stubbed his toe on a bottle in the sand. He reached down and picked the bottle and rubbed the sand off of it and a genie popped out. The genie was in a bad mood and said "I've been stuck in that stupid bottle for 1000 years and you're the lucky dummy that freed me so I'll give you one wish. make it a good one.
The man thought and thought and finally said "I've always wanted to go to hawaii, but I get sea sick and I'm afraid to fly. Build me a bridge so I can drive there." The genie looked at him like he was nuts and said "what are you crazy? Think of the logistics involved, the concrete and steel and hotels, gas stations, restaurants and people it would take to man them. Forget it, think of something else."
The guy says ok and starts thinking and finally says, "ok, I've been married and divorced three times and every ex-wife said I was an insensitive jerk. Mke it so I can understand what makes a woman a woman. Why she thinks the way she does, says the things she says, and feels the way she does about things."
The genie looks at him and say, "do you want that bridge 2 lanes or 4 lanes?"  | |
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pensky
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Joined: 12/19/2006
Msg: 34 | |
| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 3:55:13 PM | Yeah trolling dude, lol. That's fair enough.
Turns out when I walked away from the computer after making that last post, I got the humor of what you had said, duuhh. It's sad when you've dealt with alcoholics enough to forget that people find them funny.
I wonder how many people out there have ever met a spry old man, happily married to one woman all his adult life, who ever said, "I'll tell you how I do it. When she says jump, I say, how high?" I wish there were more to it than that, but I think that's about the size of it. | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 4:22:25 PM |
Doing something for me, but begrudging it is worse. A hundred times worse.
yes, that's happened to me and knowing they resented it made me shrink inside....
I wish they knew when we said we're leaving, it's not an ultimatum. The ultimatum came about six months before, when we discussed whatever was bothering us. The time to negotiate and compromise was then, not when we're on our way out the door.... | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 5:19:13 PM | I wish men understood that we women are not all the same, like men are not all the same. I wish they would see us as individuals with individual needs and desires. And though flowers and gifts are nice...I wish men would take the time to find out what we really want. It is such a turn on when a man is curious about what really matters to you. And it is a turn on when he does sweet things for you showing he really cares...and going out of his way. It melts my heart when they make you feel special by digging deep with you and really wanting to know who you are. I wish they new that they don't have to work so hard...it is the small simple things that rock my world. | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/13/2007 5:53:06 PM | "I also think that men often don't really "hear" the woman when she is specific. Or he might hear it once, but then forget about it. It seems that men can easily remember the scores in the 2000 Super Bowl, but can't remember that they promised to pick up a bottle of wine on the way home from work."
I don't know any superbowl scores but I'll share my secret to the bottle of wine on the way home from work. I carry a cellphone with me at all times, and it allows me to set and name an audible alarm to a specific time and date. When I was married I would set an alarm for the night before if I had that much advance, and an alarm for shortly after I expected to get off work. The key is to set it as soon as you know about the thing you need to remember. Set it and forget it lol | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/14/2007 6:18:08 AM | | Personally, I hate it when my guy friends stare at other women in front of me or say other girls are hot. It makes me feel self conscious and insecure about myself. | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/15/2007 5:29:50 AM | | There is no understanding us. As soon as you get close to thinking you understand we rewrite the book. It's a fight you guys will never win...sorry | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/15/2007 10:37:54 AM | I say what I mean and I mean what I say. It is what it is and nothing more. I don't normally offer an opinion on everything under the sun, if I have something to say I will say it, otherwise I keep my mouth shut and listen.
IF a guy has done something wrong I wish that he would make an apology for "whatever trangression" and then let it go, no need to keep beating a dead horse aplogising over and over.... I can't stand it when guys will not listen when I say, "it's fine, no problem".
Not everything in my mind is deep and meaningful, or filled with hidden context. | |
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Joined: 11/25/2006
Msg: 41 | |
| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/15/2007 6:49:56 PM | | I wish that men would understand that not all women are out to hurt them like their 'ex's' did. I wish men would understand we can't help who we love, and by shutting us out, it hurts more than u realize. I wish men would understand that basically we're all looking to love and be loved in return... | |
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Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 42 | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/16/2007 9:39:25 AM | | in a word P M T need for choccy/coffee and mega attention we are creatures that love good thing and pampering and a bloke who says ok pmt it will be over soon honey buys choccy for you hes a real man | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:45:16 PM | I dont know about the rest of the women but me personally,I want a man to understand that in order to understand me you have to ask me questions.Talk to me about stuff.Even if it is an uncomfortable subject. Be HONEST!!!!!! Lay stuff on the line!!! I am not a mind reader and I hate trying to figure things out!! In short,understand that I need to be informed. Thanks for listening | |
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| What do you wish men understood about women?
Posted: 6/5/2007 11:38:46 AM | Who I am as a woman starts in my head, NOT in my vagina. Not with your arms around me. Not with an expensive gift or flowers or chocolates. Although I like chocolate! Stimulate my mind. Make me think and make me laugh. The truth is, you don't have to understand me. I don't understand you. Just accept what you see and figure out and believe what I tell you.
Many times, I don't know why I do some of the things I do or why I feel the way I feel. Oh, I can analyze myself and probably figure it out, but regularly I find that my feelings can change on a whim. Sometimes there's just no rhyme or reason for what I want/think/do. Just accept me as I am and get to know me. When a man cares enough to listen to me, to ask questions, to trust me with who HE is, well, y'all, that's really hot! | |
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