| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:18:12 PM | There are some gentlemen out there however from what I see it's the less attractive guys that have these traits.
Good looking fellows know they can get away with being rude since their physical attraction will make up for it. Girls will cling to any other decent traits of his personality to justify dating him for a reason other than his looks.
Less attractive guys will mostly try to compensate their lack of visable appeal by being well mannered, kind and gentle. Sadly it seems this is rarely enough.
That's my observation, however I happen to believe good manners cost nothing and everyone should be polite and 'a gentlemen'.  | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:39:24 PM |
There are some gentlemen out there however from what I see it's the less attractive guys that have these traits.
Good looking fellows know they can get away with being rude since their physical attraction will make up for it. Girls will cling to any other decent traits of his personality to justify dating him for a reason other than his looks.
Less attractive guys will mostly try to compensate their lack of visable appeal by being well mannered, kind and gentle. Sadly it seems this is rarely enough.
That's my observation, however I happen to believe good manners cost nothing and everyone should be polite and 'a gentlemen'.
I agree with this, wholeheartedly, as an average-looking guy. | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/16/2009 1:25:42 PM | | I am the best looking and most interesting man in the world, but no matter what, I will always be a gentleman, thats how I roll. Many years ago, I held a door in the pouring rain for a couple of ladies, and they said nothing, acknowledged nothing....it didn't stop me from being a gentleman, but it did show me that some women could care less, and are just plain rude, and those idiots better never complain about so called "Forgotten traits". | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/18/2009 11:31:05 PM | | jeez all this fuss about opening doors. frankly i open doors for females and friends and don't make a deal about it at all. if i get thanked for it i smile and nod, so maybe yes it does make an impression on people when you show a little courtesy. forget the dynamics of male-female relationships, it would be easier for everyone to get along if they just had a little more consideration for other people. | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:30:45 PM | I prefer to open doors for a woman, help her with her coat and so on, but if she prefers to do them for herself, so be it. Part of being a gentleman is to recognize a ladies preference and treat her accordingly. But that's just me]
just what I am looking for! sigh....
seriously; I open doors for anyone, let them go ahead of me if we come to the same place at the same time; etc. I was brought up with manners & enjoy the same. But when I am old with my cane some young whippersnapper will probably run me over to get to the shoe sale! | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:53:25 PM | | I sure don't see chivalry as a "weakness".......it is actually a masculine trait to me.....I would prefer a man who treats me like a woman.....yes, we are different (but in a good way).....and that is not a bad thing! | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:57:26 PM | | And I always try to say "thank you" for those gestures, regardless of who makes them. I love seeing a complete stranger look stunned when they hear "thank you".......although that is kind of sad, when you think about it......to be stunned at simple courtesy..... | |
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| Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits..
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:51:01 PM | | I am a younger guy and just by observing other guys my age or even older, I can say that chivalry is rare now adays. But the dinosaurs, as you compare it to, are extinct. Chivalry isnt. I may be of a younger generation, but I am what people call old fashioned. So I like to open the door for a girl im with (car or building), I pull the chair out at resteraunts, help with the coat, buy flowers for no reason at all, etc. I like to be romantic. But I can admit that it is rare among guys to do so. It does often times go unappreciated. But as for me, it isnt me "playing" as you say. I was in a year and a half relationship and I still open the car door for that person and everything. I never stop. | |
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