| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:05:56 PM | "Leave my sister alone Uncle Dad!!!"
I'm with all the people here who suggested it is a bit on the creepy side.....
Same as dating first cousins. Has the dating pool become THAT shallow? And before anyone jumps on the "southern bandwagon" any further, y'all need look no further than various royal families. Too many generations where the eyes looked suspiciously too close together.  
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:13:15 PM | | Ok this is one of the more interesting questions I've seen posted on here by far. The words dating your sister don't go together. You should count how many times the word creepy has been used, just by alone this is not good. That being said that point has been driven home quite well here so I'm going to try and take a different angle. Although she is not a blood relative you should consider her a relative in that your parents are married and emotionally there are familial bonds there. That alone adds a whole new dimension to this that a normal romantic relationship cannot sustain. How would a relationship effect others in your family? What would they think? What happens if there is a break up? How would they handle grand children? How would it effect your kids? Maybe it's just me but even for a non-traditional family I see serious problems arising and you throwing something way out of wack. Something just doesn't compute. That's the best way I can describe it. I think you should draw some emotional and physical boundaries here for the sake of everyone involved. Bring your parents to the bday dinner and please leave alcohol out of the picture. Distance yourself afterwards, find a date elsewhere, and build your confidence. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:18:16 PM | you're from east central, MISSISSIPPI ??
ah, i understand ... Mississippi -- where the family tree is a wreath! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:20:12 PM | okay - your parents married when you were in your 20s, you never lived together and didn't spend much time together before the past year, so -
I agree with those who say it is up to you. I think you are right to talk to her about her expectations/hopes and see where it goes from there. You know that, so you don't need all these people telling you what to do or not to do - just do what you think is right and try not to worry about what other's think.
If you had grown up as siblings, then I would not think it was appropriate, but you did not.
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:20:13 PM | ^^^^ Nice mindset. Message 51, 53 AND THE REST OF YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE. Ignorance is bliss In this and other like comments. Though I doubt any will catch my drift. I just had to add my cents errrrrrrrrr common sense here. I just have too. I have this overwhelming desire to stir the pot. :P
Step family = non blood relatives. Dohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Emphasis on the word relative. As in thinking relative. If you need too............look it up in the dictionary. :)
Though traditional closed minds, ignorance and antiquated thinking frown on this topic, It would depend on the circumstances of each party. Listen all you ignorant holier than thou dough brains. Would you also give me this bashing If I came on here saying I was dating my step cousin? Probably. As you don't seem to know the difference between your own ass and elbow. Think before you speak. Boneheads.
I thank you.
Edit: STUPENDOUS: Another great thinker below me. Where's that tequila bottle?
@roller girl. You flunked science didn't you. If you think RELATIVE people this is really like your mom and dad meeting prior to marriage. If you choose to think outside the box that is. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:25:04 PM | Hi---
If you have dinner and talk that is not a date. But dating you step-sister sounds like incest
which is spoken against in the Bible. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:39:00 PM |
Step family = non blood relatives. Dohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
an aunt and a nephew and an uncle and a niece can be non blood relatives too.
should they date?
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:42:46 PM |
Yes, Canadians enjoy sex but we know enough not to "date" family members...
And hockey.......don't forget hockey!  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 11:06:52 PM | .
Hell yes, two of my sisters would be very interesting, were they not my sisters. So would a couple cousins.
If I had a “step sister,” (I do not) I would treat her as any other sister in the family. Which means, she would be a very important person to me. And, yeah, if she focused on me and wanted me to come celebrate whatever, Big Brother that I am would do that. No problem whatsoever.
Some people around here do not really understand “family” stuff and I have learned to understand that.
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Posted: 1/12/2007 11:31:24 PM | I have learned (human nature dictates) it more comfortable, and easy to condemn what we do not find in our own comfort zone rather thanconsider other views. I have learned many people post with out reading relevant facts relating to the topic at hand. I have learned many people walk around this earth of ours with their heads up their butts. I have learned with (alot of people) reason takes the back seat to knee jerk reactions. I have learned. cLosed minds and pompous asses irk me.
I have learned to understand that.
I thank you. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 5:24:29 AM | And another thing you holy roller wannabes/hypocrites/religiously repressed narrow minded dwarfs.
The word step and sister/brother, etc.. are man made words that never would have come into being if it were not for man/woman having divorced. Contrary to what the bible dictates for those who believe or use it for their own interests at any given time.
Ponder that awhile.
I thank you. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 6:15:10 AM | | who-the-fox....how do you know that statement is true?......you dont!! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 7:54:52 AM | Space if anything you're the one who is being narrow minded here. Your are comparing apples to oranges when comparing a step brother and a step cousin. That being said, even with a step-cousin I personally would seriously stop to think about how a relationship could effect the psychological makeup of the family. Granted in the case of a step-cousin "significantly less", but with a step-sister there would be a "high probability" of some sort of emotional backlash with the potential to seriously hurt the stability of the family now and in the future. The word "relative" goes way beyond genetics and religion, and into relm of emotional psychology which is just as essential for a healthy relationship to be sustained, and cannot be denied. To me and any sane person emotional and psychological bonds are weighed when considering any romantic relationship and therefore just as important. Personally, I think that is the reason why the original poster even posted his concerns, because inside he himself has trouble dealing with this idea. At this current stage in the game this guy's sister is vulnerable and in need of attention(actually both are), I can just imagine what would happen if they hooked up. This would be the rebound from hell! Once she came to her senses it would not be a pretty sight, but I would buy tickets to see this fallout.
Now for all you Canadians taking this as an opportunity to poke jabs at us Americans because of this, not funny! Not funny at all!  But just in case how is real estate up there at the moment?  Nah I couldn't live in Canada! lol Too cold.
Oh and space...you're welcome! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:00:08 AM | Hey El Quapo:
That was harsh. So I have deleted my remarks in this post to you. Except the howdy doody remark that is. :P Ever consider television stallion?
@ just me bobby. Though I'm not impressed with the response from Howdy doody above. He does raise a valid point. You go slow there bud and think only of this girls emotional well being. It is obvious from your posts you have the hots for her. Do not take advantage of this girls vulnerability or your no better than that low life from the previous page who took advantage of a twelve year old girl. Yea. I don't sugar coat it much. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:31:31 AM | | Dude I can't believe you even posted this lol. I can't imagine a positive response to this... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:24:28 AM | OK...this has gone about far enough I guess....the truth is I dont consider going out with my step sister as a "date" and I dont want to hook up with her!!....since we have been spending more time together recently she does actually tell people we meet that I am her "brother"...and I feel the same way about her... she is my "sister "....so that is how the situation REALLY is...nothing more and nothing less...
I posted this thread with a "twist" to the situation to find out what people would think about it....I found out most people who posted here are just looking for someone to bash because it makes them feel better about the faults and shortcomings and disappointments in their own "twisted" relationships...
Yeah....I am from Mississippi .....right now it is warm and the sun is shining and I have a great relationship with my "sister".... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:35:21 AM | I guess it's okay if you live in Hazzard County and drive an orange Charger with a large "01" on the side.LOL
But honestly, she is still your "sister" no matter what. Maybe she just enjoys your company and needs a shoulder to lean on, that fine. I would have a hard time living with myself if something more than "buddies" developed. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:35:58 AM | Well, gee....it isn't rocket science to guess that most people are going to figure hooking up with a SISTER, step or not, is just a little bizarre.
As for you claiming this thread was just an experiment to find out how people think....damn Bobby....too late to retract now | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:37:42 AM | | Does anyone else hear " Dueling Banjos " playing in the background? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:09:57 AM | My friend married a man and a few years later her divorced mother married his widowed father. Should my friend then divorce her husband- technically and legally he is her step- brother. ???
omg- If you didn't grow up as siblings and there is no blood relation- there is nothing wrong with it. Talk to her and see how she feels. Then go live your life. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:18:50 AM |
I posted this thread with a "twist" to the situation to find out what people would think about it....
Good job! 
I must say this has been an interesting thread. One great thing about these forums is that sooner or later one can learn how (er...maybe "if"?) some folks REALLY think. Almost all the people who said it was WRONG, said IT JUST IS because she is your "sister". They seemed to think that was enough justification to force their own values on someone else. How two people in such a situation actually regard one another is purely subjective. "Step-sister/brother" is simply a label used to identify a pseudo-relationship formed when two people with existing offspring join in marriage. Whether any form of "sibling-like" relationship develops among the offspring depends on many things, including the circumstances and the ages of the individuals involved. People assume way too much.
Bobby, I wonder if your "sister" would get a kick out of reading this thread? My guess is she would be flattered by what you have said, and the two of you could probably get a good laugh out of it. It might be interesting to know what she thinks! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:32:18 AM | | Good luck with this one. Putting all the moral and ethical issue aside it really comes down to one thing. Is she hot?? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:41:13 AM | I think it depends on how old you two were before you became step-brother and sister.If your parents married when You both were in Your Teens or older ..than she really wont feel like a "sister"..but a friend who happens to have a Mother or Father who is Married to your Mother or Father(whatever order that is).I feel you wouldn't have that brother ..sister feeling if you were older before yoy both became step-related.......you both aren't blood related...so I think it isn't "gross"..if you two were much older. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:42:03 AM | Howdy doody...that's actually really funny!
But I actually want to apologize to bobby if I unintentionally bashed him. I think more people than we think have these thoughts, just very few have the guts to say it or post them in a forum for advice or people's opinion. You both are in a very vulnerable state with emotions flying all over the place, and I would just be very careful when dealing with family. You can't replace that. I'm sure Mississippi is an amazing state as well. Hope everything turns out for the best! | |
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| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:57:51 AM | | You are 50 years old and at this time in your life you shouldn`t have to worry about what other people think about it.Maybe you two were meant to be together all along. | |
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