| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 11:29:53 AM | Isn't it funny how when people don't get the favourable responses that they wanted from their threads, after a few days they turn around and go...GOTCHA! I was just kidding! I added some 'twists' in there to see what you all would say!
| |
|
| |
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 12:03:13 PM | Nice thread!...
Who cares what other people think, it's their opinion! 
Go out with her on her birthday, have a nice time, talk, get drunk, fall down, laugh, make up stories, drink some more, reflect about life, enjoy yourselves! 
 | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 12:52:48 PM | step sister goin thru bad sepreation...shes vunerable..gullable an shes on an emotional roller coaster right now...probably doesnt know which way to turn next....shes probably afraid of being alone right now...and shes tryin to get back on her feet...so she looks for your support. i hope you give her your support by not interring with her emotions and let her find herself again before proceeding in any way...otherwise its a dead end on your part... rebounds don't work...its a short term affair. worst thing to do is get involved with anyone who is in an emotional state....support her an let her find her way again.
if she hasnt flirted with you its because shes hurting an the last thing on her mind right now...is being intimate with anyone....and she sees you as a brother.
as for her bday...dont u have female friends? if so...do u date them ..no u dont...you hang out with them. its not a date...take her out on her bday...so what she asked you out...shes only asking for someone to keep her company on her day so shes not alone. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 3:42:16 PM |
And another thing you holy roller wannabes/hypocrites/religiously repressed narrow minded dwarfs.
Geez! Talk about harsh! Does that mean everytime mine and other posters opions are different than yours that would makes us...repressed narrow minded dwarfs??
After all.... Posted by Bobby....
my question is....is this a date?....and is dating your step sister against the "rules" or "codes" or what ever else you can think of in dating?...can I get some help on this one?:
Now here is the place I'm confused  here I thought Bobby wanted advice or an answer, just because he did not like what he heard ~big deal~
FYI.... I have 9 brothers! 8 are half brothers -meaning same dad-blood brothers and I have 1 step- no shared blood, but when someones kids call me aunty and we have sat at family dinner together, opened Xmas presents under the same tree and when I introduce them I say b.r.o.t.h.e.r....I think that makes them off-limits!
Now I don't judge anyone, however if you ask my opion.... I will give it to you...like it or lump it! | |
|
tdh46
|
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 81 | |
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 4:13:23 PM | ANYBODY GONNA BE HAVING SEX WITH MY SISTER IT'S GONNA BE ME..... <img
Only in the south would anyone think is might be ok. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 4:23:30 PM | I LOVE the fact this thread is still going. It has been HIGH-larious!!!!
Thanks to all for the great laffs.
WD | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 4:30:06 PM | Good, let's keep it going a little longer.
I totally agree with flowerchild.
They are NOT blood related. If his step parent happened to be the mother and his dad divored her, he could just as easily date his step-mom.....OMG he must be a pervert.
Hey, if there is no blood in the relationship then ask her if her intentions are honorable  , relax and have a fun time.  | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 5:59:30 PM | @red. You don't judge??????????? NEWS FLASH.. you just did.
I'm not surprised by your and other negative attitudes to this post. You're ignorant.
You're closed minded and you love listening to yourself. It matters not to you if your thoughts and words are not only so far out into left field you could never catch the pop fly. You can't even comprehend it. You hear the word brother/ sister and immediately turn holier than thou. Ignorance is bliis. Stay blissful. Nough said. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 7:20:10 PM | | tdh46..Have you ever been to the south and conversed with anyone there or spent any significant amount of time there?....if you have I have no problem with that statement....if you have not, you dont know what you are talking about....and I invite you to come visit the great state of Mississippi and find out for yourself.... | |
|
tdh46
|
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 86 | |
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 7:40:58 PM | Been all up and down the south Bobby, I still have family that live in that region. I now live in canada, but i was born and raised in the good ole U S OF A. but thanks for the invite .
| |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 7:50:15 PM | It's not a date. She needs some company.
If it were a date, it wouldn't be a problem though. You've never behaved as family, never lived together, etc..
However, you're both still related to everyone else in your respective families and that would make and rough times/break-ups miserable for everyone. So, it's not about you, or her, it's about the greater good. ;-)
I think it was a fair question. Good for you for thinking to ask it. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:51:58 PM | i just found out woody allen married his step daughter....so if that can happen without any charges brought up maybe the step sister is technically legal as well.
i think society in general though would think it is morally wrong, and i agree with them.
im sure your step sister, since she has not made any sexual, flirting advances that she is seeing this as a family thing, nothing more.
*edit* i did not see that this was just a twist.
thats good that you have a good relationship with your step sister! :applause: | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 1/14/2007 8:13:39 PM | What two consenting adults choose to do is there own business as long as they don't hurt anyone else or break any laws..... and hell, half the laws on the books shouldn't be there anyway. lol
And first, going out together is no big thing, but it would seem you sense something more could be coming up.... either in yourself or you sense something from her..... which would be why you're wondering about it all.
I'd suggest just treading carefully. Not because of any moral issue, (since there's no blood relation,) but like many have said, you may both be in emotionally vulnerable places in your lives. Family relationships have life long implications which can make things quite different than a 'fling' or normal 'break-up' with someone you would never have to see again, would be.
And hey....... wish her a happy birthday from me. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 3:43:32 AM | Wahoooo its wrong hello or they would call her something else, anything that has sister, brother, mother or father spells danger.
So best keep your pants on and find someone that will not get you or any potential children in the future stigma.
Good luck in the future.
David
I love plenty of | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 4:13:54 AM | Ya know OP I don't understand what all the hoopla is about. Just the other day I took out my mother's only sister's only daughter's only cousin on her mother's side and were it not for an issue over who would pick up the tab, and the argument as to who should drive how far and for how long to do it again, I might have honestly considered doing it again.
Oh wait a tick, I just realized something, my mother's only sister's only daughter's only cousin on her mother's side would be me. Perhaps I am in the wrong thread and need to go post my results in that "Would you Date Yourself" thread? In the end, I am inclined not to give myself another shot at it, maybe I should have put out or something. Or maybe I should start a thread about it; "How do you break up with yourself and not have hard feelings". Good luck with Sis though, I am sure the kids will look interesting, to say the least. Any thoughts on their names yet? Are you shopping for a doublewide now?
  
Have fun ;)!
PS: For the record I get the whole "no blood ties" thing, but it doesn't make the notion any less ridiculous, or any less hilariously steriotypically "Southern". | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 4:42:12 AM | | The truth of the matter is she is only your STEP SISTER not you sister or half sister or your adopted sister . Your parents married when both of you were adults . It is not like you were raised in the same house from the time you were children . There is nothing "sick" or "innapropriate" about this particular situation at all. You almost have never seen this person except for the odd family get together. She is not your sister in any true sense of the word . She just happens to be the daughter of the man your mother married when you were both adults already ,and you never lived in the same house together .I really fail to see where some posters think this is sick ,gross or just plain wrong .Ignore them bobby they are idiots.By the way nice generalizations about an entire group of people(southerners) of whom you have never met every single one of them . Seems to me from recent experience some people look down on generalization . I guess it is true talk is cheap , and people are hypocrites.Not to you bobby. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 6:41:15 AM | | I think I enjoyed reading this one more than the one about dating a first cousin. Thanks for the laugh! | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 7:25:01 AM | | taking your sister out on her birthday isnt a date,, i think you have more feelings toward that than you want to admit,, | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:04:19 AM | Hmm, I see a lot of social code paranoia taboo in here.
Why would it be wrong to fall in love with some one you are raised with just because your parents loved each other? It is not incest, because there is no blood relation.
Incest is pretty much a taboo in most cultures most probably because the results are ... disparaging. Lots of genetic mutations from interbreeding the genes. However, to me it seems that two people of diverse genetic origins could very well fall in love even if they were raised by the same family. I mean why not?
There seems to be a general sentiment here that if you were raised together from a young age it is not acceptable but if it was from an older age. This would indicate that the shared childhood experiences are what would make the relationship unacceptable.
In my opinion, the fact that she bears the title "sister" is what disturbs some people about the possibility that you could have a relationship, however the correct relational term is "step sister" and thus to me it is less disturbing then dating your cousin because there is simply 0% familial relationship in terms of genetics. The fact that you may find her attractive is unsurprising; your guys parents found each other attractive and there is a large genetic component to attraction. That is IF there is a mutual attraction.
I think that it is more likely that you are just displacing the strong feelings associated with breaking up on her and that since you are likely going through the emotional pain of a break-up which involves some rejection and so is she, that you are finding comfort in each others acceptance, and possibly mistaking this feeling for more then it is: A healthy familial one. So be careful, because if that is where she is coming from you could be making a big mistake by suggesting anything more.
If however she actually feels the same way for you and you are both genuine in that feeling then, well... love doesn't always have a reason or a rhyme . But consider that you will likely be dealing with people's VERY STRONG opinions on this matter for the rest of your life, which in itself will put a lot of pressure on you because of the criticism and ostricization. This in itself maybe enough to destroy any possibility of love and could end up alienating you from each other altogether. | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:23:23 AM | Wow...this was a fun thread to read...thanks for the laughs everyone! I loved it. I guess being single can be really hard but hmmm....your stepsister??
...by the way, there was a lifetime movie on this subject!
It was called "Sin of Innocence".......Also reminds me of a V.C. Andrews book called "Flowers in the Attic"....
| |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:30:27 AM | | Hmmmm after reading the other posts and situations, I don't know what to say. | |
|
| |
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:47:44 AM | | Must be nice to sit back and laugh at people. I wonder how you would feel about it if people laughed at you . This is to all the people on here who thought this was some funny joke. These two are not related and did not grow up together as brother and sister. It is so heart warming to see that hatefullness is alive and well in the hearts and minds of people. I hope someday people laugh and make fun of all of you as well . Now you would be the ones to actually deserve this kind of treatment . | |
|
| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:50:49 AM | Okay, my thoughts:
The "step-sister" part....it all depends on the family dynamics and the context in which you know her. Nahhhh, I don't really have anything useful to say on this subject.
Take care. I'm outta here.
Thorn, I'ma gonna follerr yew kay...just shew me werrr the dooorr es...dang it...my leg jus fawl off....k...dang it. Wha? | |
|
Home
login 
