| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:10:32 AM | | Believe it or not a friend of mines fiance' is her step-brother... I know eww gross lol, but the thing is she was with him as b/f and g/f before her dad married his mom so in a way I guess it's not wrong to me, b/c I can't see either one of them with anyone else. BUT they do go through some bad sh*t with their parents now b/c they now think it's wrong for the two of them to be married? Hmmm talk about your parents screwing you over lol | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 10:36:58 AM | It is so heart warming to see that hatefullness is alive and well in the hearts and minds of people. I hope someday people laugh and make fun of all of you as well . Now you would be the ones to actually deserve this kind of treatment .
Soooo...it's not right to laugh, but it's okay for you to spew negative "I hope bad things happen to you because you derserve it" retaliation? Whatever. You should never wish for bad things to happen to others just because you don't agree with the way they are reacting. If you find it tasteless, fine, but don't hope that someone else will be treated badly as some form of karmic punishment. | |
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| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:58:21 AM |
Believe it or not a friend of mines fiance' is her step-brother... I know eww gross lol, but the thing is she was with him as b/f and g/f before her dad married his mom so in a way I guess it's not wrong to me, b/c I can't see either one of them with anyone else. BUT they do go through some bad sh*t with their parents now b/c they now think it's wrong for the two of them to be married? Hmmm talk about your parents screwing you over lol
So whoever marries first wins, and everyone else gets screwed? That makes no sense whatsoever.
If my brother and I fell in love with two sisters, should the person who's married first exclude the other couple?
This whole line of debate is silly. They aren't blood-related. They didn't grow up as siblings. They're both very mature adults, who until recently spent very little time together. And they were both adults when their parents met.
That's like saying that if they had met and married first, their parents should never date each other.
The only complication are the emotional ones, IE, if they ever broke up (or their parents did) they would need to deal with the complexity of an ongoing relationship. However, if any of them had children, they would have to deal with that issue anyway.
So here's another question... if their parents divorced, would it suddenly be "OK" for them to date? And why not?  | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 2:23:55 PM | This is to all the people on here who thought this was some funny joke. These two are not related and did not grow up together as brother and sister. It is so heart warming to see that hatefullness is alive and well in the hearts and minds of people. I hope someday people laugh and make fun of all of you as well . Now you would be the ones to actually deserve this kind of treatment .
Mary I like you, but please come down off the cross we need the room for your Son. You made your point once already, but apparently you thought it was so good it beared repeating. Point of the matter, is I don't think the patently obvious is lost on anyone here including the OP, despite how they choose to address it. The fact that some wish to make humor (and I among them) of a rather humorous question is their prerogative, it's certainly more desireable than getting ones knickers all in a twist.
As for being laughed at, only the clinically insecure are incapable of withstanding the laughter of others, whether those laughing are laughing with them or at them. I don't beleive anyone is laughing at the OP specifically, near as much as they are laughing at the scenario he is presenting us with. Despite the actual ramifications of what he is suggesting and the legitimacy of choosing to date or not date someone who is a sister in name only and even then, only by the thinnest of legalistic margins, does not take away from the potential humor of the situation, or ones ability to laugh as such.
So to quote the so frequently quoted Warren Oates as Sgt. Hulka in Stripes:
"Lighten up Francis"
Have fun ;)! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 3:23:55 PM | Well first and foremost, to the people trying to say the south has more inbreeding than the north is pretty much, wrong.
I live in the south, and was raised in the north in West Virginia, and I have seen more inbreeding there in the mountains, than here in the south. So why even start with the "southern inbreeders", whenever that can happen ANYWHERE in the world.
Personally I think the OP just came here for insight, and not to be judged, they are NOT blood related and did not grow up together, so well that's him, anyone who has put any negative input has showed what they would have done, so leave it at that, you are not him.
I'm pretty sure there are people in the world that have messed with their own family members without knowing, or even with knowing. Thing is she is family on paper, not blood related. They didnt spend their childhood days together as brother and sister, and did not see each other that much, I could see if they were related by blood, but they aren't. Bah, i'm done, whatever, do what you will OP, it's your life. Take care.
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Posted: 5/11/2007 3:49:17 PM |
I would suggest that it is "morally" wrong...she is your "sister"
No she's not. She's the offspring of the person your parent was ****ing. Totally unrelated by blood. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 3:59:54 PM |
I live in the south, and was raised in the north in West Virginia, and I have seen more inbreeding there in the mountains, than here in the south. So why even start with the "southern inbreeders", whenever that can happen ANYWHERE in the world.
Not for nothing friend, but we in the "North" never really considered West Virginia to be part of the "North", least wise not round these parts. It's considered part of the south to us here. For us the North ends in New Jersey as it's most southern border, and Wikipedia and other sources are want to agree. The "North" consists of 9 states; Connecticut, Maine, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New Hampshire, New York, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, and Vermont. You will note that West Virginia didn't exactly make the cut.
I am likewise want to agree with the reputation that West Virginia has for what you suggest, which is all the more reason why the " North" never considered the red headed step child of Virginia a part of our "family" so to speak, regardless of where the actual Mason Dixon line is drawn. And again regardless of what the OP's intent might have been for posting this (I dont presume to know so I dont know why you feel inclined to presume you do), I doubt anyone of right mind is juding at all, and if they are I am inclined to believe they are judging the situation (be it wrong or right) moreso than the person who presented it.
Have fun ;)!
PS: I have lived at one time or another in every state on the East Coast of this fine country, both in the North and the South, I am not simply some card carrying "Yankee Carpet Bagger". | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:57:56 PM | | I am not the one sitting here making a joke of someone else . I have had experiences with people like you almost all my life who think it is fun and something to pass the time to laugh and belittle someone else. I am not on any cross to whoever that guy was who said that. I do not consider myself better then anyone. Apparently a lot of people in here consider themselves so much higher then the op and laugh at him and make jokes .I do enjoy watching the bully fall .Yes i do think it is just punishment when the bully get a dose of their own medicine.No one was laughing good naturedly here so do not even try that one . Generalizing about an entire group of people (southerner) is stupid. All the jokes made about them what not in good fun and mean spirited . If you cant see that then poor you. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 5:26:16 PM | 50 yrs old?? u oughta be ashamed..askin a nasty ass question like this!!
doesnt matter how lonely u and her are..your sister is yr sister not a potential date...man how desperate are u?
u are sick !!
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Posted: 5/11/2007 5:27:31 PM | 50 yrs old?? u oughta be ashamed..askin a nasty ass question like this!!
doesnt matter how lonely u and her are..your sister is yr sister not a potential date...man how desperate are u?
this is incest and u are sick !!
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Posted: 5/11/2007 6:35:54 PM |
.No one was laughing good naturedly here so do not even try that one . Generalizing about an entire group of people (southerner) is stupid. All the jokes made about them what not in good fun and mean spirited . If you cant see that then poor you.
I made the "cross" comment, and I stand by it. I also made and laughed at the "southern humor". Being as I call the fine state of New Jersey my home, a state who I might add is routinely made the butt of jokes from one end of the country to the next, on TV, in movies, and what have you, perhaps I have learned to take and tell a joke better than most. I certainly am not as apt to rush out and look for any reason to be offended by those around me, as seems to be the case for some, including you.
While I am no fan of generalizations, I am a fan of humor, and more often than not alot of falsely made generalizations are in fact "humorous" and it's neither uncommon, nor unhealthy to find the funny in it. Laughter is and always has been good medicine and a means to bring others together rather than tear them apart. Even when it comes at the notion of someone wondering about dating a "sister" of any kind. If you can't see that, then poor you.
See Mary, I grew up in the Northeast and like you I have had the displeasure of knowing several people too. People who are more prone to look for offense than look to laugh. They are same kind of small minded , bitter little people who are want to sue rather than laugh at a silly situation, or the slightest sense of being slighted. So do yourself and the rest of us all a favor hon, and before you start presuming to cast stones at others for being "judgemental" be sure you have your catcher's mask on, lest you catch one in return and spoil your precious dental work.
"Lighten up Francis"
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Posted: 5/11/2007 6:41:52 PM | I have had no dental work done except for pulling a couple teeth. If i had not been in extreme agony from tootache i would not of gotten them out. Dentist terrify me." Go f**k your self ".  Rachelle. Lighten up man. | |
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| dating your step sister
Posted: 5/11/2007 7:42:52 PM | | if there are no signs of flirtation from her, she's probably just appreciating the friendship and sibling relationship you have | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 8:08:50 PM |
50 yrs old?? u oughta be ashamed..askin a nasty ass question like this!!
doesnt matter how lonely u and her are..your sister is yr sister not a potential date...man how desperate are u?
this is incest and u are sick !!
Sorry to let you know, it's not incest, they are NOT blood related so please read before you post. As I said OP, do what you want and have fun. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 8:11:56 AM | I may have let myself get a little too worked up here because i talk with the op frequently . I know him through chatting on pof , and i think he is a really nice and sweet guy who does not deserve this treatment . I do not like to see people i think are nice people laughed at for others amusement.You do not know him . In no way has he done anything to deserve being humiliated. Anyway i let myself get too worked up and for that i apologize .   | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 8:25:50 AM | Not in Mississippi .....
Do what you both feel. Better be certain shes thinking in those term or this could get down right creepy... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 8:29:14 AM | | How do you randomly know there is more inbreeding here, there, anywhere. What a strange thing to notice. How can I tell I'm in a location that there is a lot of inbreeding? | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 8:41:59 AM | Definitions:
Step = You have no blood relations with the person. Example: Your mother marries a man. He is your step-father. His children from a previous marriage are your step-brother or step-sister.
Half= You share one parent. Example: Your mother marries a man. They have a child together. That child is your half-sibling.
Dating a step-sister who you did not grow up with should be fine. I actually know one situation where a guy started to date a girl. They have an engagement party and their parents who are both single end up liking each other. Their parents are now married to each other.
So that was the father-in-law marrying the mother-in-law.
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Posted: 5/12/2007 10:34:28 AM |
And another thing you holy roller wannabes/hypocrites/religiously repressed narrow minded dwarfs.
Geez spaceman! I got some Midol in my purse if you want some! Sheesh! You want to get all mad cuz others are hurling insults....then you contradict yourself with that statement. I respect your opinion as well as anybody else in the forums, reguardless if I agree with them or not.
Now OP..your step sis invited you to a bday party. I wouldnt consider that a date. Shes upset and just wanted some company. You posted about "dating your stepsister." I would've hoped that you'd have expected some negative comments. Its a very taboo subject to some. Does that make me closeminded? Maybe. But in all honesty the whole subject makes me throw up in my mouth a little. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 12:31:50 PM | with all these women in the world,u want to mess around with your step-sister.. what are u a sexual pervert...  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 1:17:42 PM | Ok so now that hopefully everyone understands the difference between step-siblings and half-sibling and regular siblings.... here's my story...
When I was 14 I was 'dating' this really nice guy. We had soooo much in common, including recently divorced parents. (See where I'm going yet?) One day his dad picks him up from my moms house where I was spending the weekend and of course we introduce the parents. (Are you there yet?) Well lo and behold our parents are just gaga about each other.... a couple months later they get married. So... what to do, 'cause now we, who were dating and are only teenagers, are now step-siblings.
We didn't 'grow up together' I lived with my dad and he lived with his dad (and my mom). But we did stop dating, we tryed again when we were older but by then things were just too ingrained. Sometimes I wonder.... we've both been married and divorced. (In his case 3 times.) Did we miss the boat? Were we ment to be together? Its a question we've asked each other a couple of times over the years. We almost never see each other. (Its been over 5 yrs this time.) Its just easier that way.
So OP, by now her birthday has come and gone. I hope the two of you had a great time and that where ever your relationship goes, you follow your heart. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 3:54:02 PM | what two consenting adults do behind closed doors....
just don't let it out to the POFer gossipmongers. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2007 1:27:48 AM | Ya but even if you're not blood related it's a can of worms dude.
Can of Worms.
The OP might think it's ok, other ppl might think it's ok, but man, the family?
Can of Worms. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2007 2:32:46 AM | | ummmm the origonal post was like 5 months ago, what happened? Did it end up a date or not ? Seems like the question should have resolved itself. | |
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