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Posted: 1/29/2007 6:47:55 AM | | It is very important. and you are not shallow for that. All of our senses are shallow; sight, sound, smell, taste, touch. They are what we use to communicate with all of life around us and are indispensable in relationships with those we love. Yeah you were not that attracted to her at first. Those are the key words AT FIRST -- SIGHT. After a while, you got to HEAR her voice and she connected with your mind. Then i am sure you got close enough to have a conversation and you SMELLED her pheromones even though you didn't know it. After some more time, i bet you TOUCHED her with a hug or even TASTED her with a kiss. That was when you realize attraction at FIRST SIGHT doesn't always end there. just my opinion..... | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 3:47:33 PM | | As far as physical attraction, I prefer women that have one or two minor, visible physical flaws - they are marks of distinction and are usually what catch my eye. I usually look over the clones without even really noticing them; they're such a dime a dozen, especially in Soho. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 9:50:06 PM | | We CREATE attraction by our BEHAVIOR, not our LOOKS. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 6:08:06 AM | | I agree some what with CK but now looking back I remember how I admired her smile when I first saw her. After that I would see her and always think theres something special about her. Then of coarse getting to know her was the real kicker! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2007 5:33:25 AM | | I think the issue that I have on here is the deciept that leads to the no attraction. I have had a few first dates, if you will. and they were after talking on the phone etc. everything seems to click and all is well and I am excited about the date and then we meet and WOW! I have to wonder where the heck they got the picture from they posted. Now I am not shallow, but when you are expecting a certain type person because of the picture they posted and then when you meet them it is like they are not the same person. If people are honest up front it leads to a better attraction at first sight. Shock value can ruin a first meeting. Why cannot people be honest wtih who they are and what they look like. I mean if you meet it will all come out right. So don't set yourself up for failure be honest with each other and it will lead to a better chance of that instant Click when you meet. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 12:16:00 AM | Msg21
Msg.21:
Krystalray:
I've been trying to chat w/U 4 a long while. Message restrictions do not apply.
Would U Email me?
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Posted: 3/18/2007 8:18:55 AM | There are those that say that looks don't mean anything to them. I'd have to disagree, and I use this analogy:
You go to a book store or a library, what possess you to pick up a book? Would you pick up a book with plain leather binding ( supposing you are NOT a collector ) like a Readers' Digest Condensed Book? Or would you pick a book with a cover that "meshes" with things that you look for?
Personally, I would not look for a "Barbie Doll", I think that most, not all, have attitudes, and are useless to me. Add to that, I prefer a woman that is all "home grown" then a woman with plastic surgery ( too many reasons to note here ). On the flip side, I would look for someone that would be pleasing ( to me ) to look at across the table, or in bed ( yes, even in the morning  ).
I can expand on this, but I just looked at the clock, and I have to go....
Ron V. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:51:24 PM | | You know the same thing happened to me with an ex-boyfriend. When I met him I was not attracted at all but made the best of it. He was much shorter than he stated but as the night went on I had the best time with him. He made me laugh and he was incredible. I was with him for 2 years and the height difference didn't bother me after a while. The problem is most men and women don't give anyone a second look or a chance to show what they are about. Many people just see what they want to see and turn away. I am glad that I am the type of person who at least tries to see what's inside a person before rejecting them based on height/weight, etc. Attraction comes in many forms. Wish more people felt this way. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 3:46:23 AM | I actualy look at a womans eyes first.If you look deep enough,you can get a feel for who she realy is.My G/F has eyes that I get lost in!
There has to be some physical attraction but that cant be all that a relationship is based on. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 10:34:10 PM | I'm not saying that it's all it's based on... what I am saying is that it's the motivation or driving force - the attraction that makes you want to know about this person.
That's why I used the analogy of the book in the book store. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 10:35:20 PM |
We CREATE attraction by our BEHAVIOR, not our LOOKS.
This may be.... but what GETS your attention first?? | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 11:02:23 PM | | For me someone becomes more attractive the more I start to like them. First time I see someone it's brutal as I have nothing to go on but there looks. And of course we make judgments based on preconceived notions, or take a heuristic approach. So I'm shallow in the first meeting as I think we all tend to be at least somewhat. I don't lower my standards as I get to know someone better, however, that person literally becomes more attractive to me. I have been with people who I was not first attracted to at first physically, this coming from an extremely horny 21 year old mind you, which turns into me lusting after them because they became so beautiful in my eyes. The more I like someone the more physically I'm attracted to that person. And if I fall in love with you, watch out ;) | |
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Posted: 4/8/2007 8:47:27 PM | Physical attraction starts with the eyes for me. Many times even before that it is the sense of humor, intelligence and finally sincerity.     | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 4:23:30 PM | lol attraction is the main reason why people date each other
why would you want to be with a person you werent attracted to?
attraction btw can be obvious such as looks , or less obvious like when she makes you laugh or is really nice to you and makes you feel good
i guess you could be with a person because of their money or status, but i don't think thats the reason to be with someone
so yea if wasnt attracted to someone then i wouldnt be with them | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 5:34:21 PM | | I have much better luck meeting women in person than on the phone or through the ads. As far as what attracts me, I look more at her behavior & words than her looks( though I do consider that in part). The type that impresses me is one who does what she says she's going to do or initiates pleasant dialogue without having me to ask her over and over again. As far as looks, I really am looking for someone in the middle who is normal; I don't want no self-centered Miss-America Barbie doll, but I don't want an airhead either. *I don't want a golddigger, but I don't want no homeless panhandling wannabe either. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:56:49 AM | | Beware... it's the TAXMAN........ | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 5:58:37 AM | | I had a internet date a little over 2 years ago. She was moving here form the North and we exchanged emails for a few months. When we finally got together she had put a fair amount of weight on and the picture I had seen of her was a old one. During a first date I always ease any nervousness by telling them to lighten up, at the very least they will have a good time on the date and possibly make a good friend. This works really well and seems to truly lighten up the situation. At the end of date she looked at me and said, "I know Im not for you but will you be my buddy." I told her sure and over the next few months took her to some of my hangouts and introduced her to my friends. She is still a friend to this day and one of my better ones... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 2:03:24 PM | Thats great Sherlock that you could salvage a friendship out of that relationship. Unfortunately most of the women I have dated have just vanished in to the world. Once in a blue moon I get a "How's Life" email from one of them. LOL!
As for your topic of attraction, I was going to post something very similar. Let's all be honest with ourselves: Looks are what usually draw us together. Everyone has thier own thing. Maybe it's the eyes, or hair, or legs, or whatever, but there is SOMETHING that attracts you to that person at first.
Not bragging, but I have dated (and married) my fair share of beautiful women. Strippers, business women even a Playboy Playmate, but after awhile most lost my attention. Yes they were beautiful but lacked that special something inside - at least for me. It's the chemistry you share with that person that makes it truly special.
Now I'm not going to rush out and sleep with some bum on the street, I still have my standards (and weakness for beautiful blonde women) but over the years my eyes have opened to other qualities I want in a mate. So the next time I meet a "hottie" if she doesnt have the other qualities I'm looking for, I'll just move on to the next one until the right one walks into my life. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 9:19:26 PM | Hear Hear!
I'd say you and I think pretty much alike... and no... I haven't been around as many beautiful women as you have... but I like the way you think....
I still have much to learn from you though :)
Ron V.
(yes, I'm a guy, but I like hanging around people that think like I do :) ) | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 2:39:06 PM | hahahaha.. well Ron I am the LAST person to ask about relationships, but I have learned quite a lot in just the past year about myself and others. Women have told me that I am pretty well in tuned with them so I guess that is a plus of some sort! lol!
I seem to be a bum magnet - if there is a female bum within 100 miles I'll attract her!
See ya at the PoF party this weekend! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 7:58:04 AM |
See ya at the PoF party this weekend!
Can't wait  | |
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