| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:58:43 PM | LMAO..........My wallet??????
The last time a woman asked about my wallet was to take it out of my back pocket to get a better view of my rear with my jeans on......
OT......All of us that are 45 and older and in shape would prefer to have those we are connected with in all areas and positions to be in shape as well.....
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:50:21 PM | Arugula; so you're saying there aren't any attractive, fit women who date rich fat guys? Really. Maybe you don't see any, but I sure do. Then again, I live near NYC. Lots of guys with lots of money. Maybe they only attract the gold diggers. But they're still women, right? So, fat rich guys do get hot women. No, they don't get to choose between ALL hot women, but there are always some.
And please stop attempting to read between the lines (I know, women are always wondering what a guy 'really means' by things, but we usually are quite literal). I didn't write anything even remotely about a woman's fiscal responsibility or lack of. Are you seeing something I'm not? I wrote that men don't really care how much money a woman makes; she can be flipping burgers at McDonalds or managing GM; doesn't really make a difference, as long as we're attracted to her. I didn't say we don't care if she works at all or if she spends us into deep debt.
And should we really start planning for the divorce before we even meet someone? Forget about whether we're attracted to someone or not, just make sure we don't leave ourselves financially vulnerable? Wow. No wonder there are so many people still single. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:38:56 PM | | Here's the thing. I like to work out, I like to be active and yes, I like to have an active life in the bedroom. Physical fitness contributes to all of those things, both mentally and physically. Bottom line is this; I want a man who can keep up with me. It is not just men who want someone who is physically active, it is women too. I cannot tell you how many men I have met who have an extra spare, who say they are athletic. It is a choice for men and WOMEN. In all honesty, and I may be slammed for this, but there are a lot of people over 40 who just let themselves go and frankly, that kind of mind set is not appealing to me. At this stage in my life, it is more about health than fitness. I like to go out and do things, I like to feel strong and healthy, and I like to know that I taking care of me for me and potentially for you too. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:55:07 PM | /\ /\ /\
The thing is, a person's size doesn't NECESSARILY reflect this. I've known bigger men who were VERY active both in the bedroom and outside. And there are a gazillion posts by bigger women who say they're active in both arenas. Some may be lying, but some are telling the truth. It has nothing to do with what THAT person finds attractive. A big guy (or girl) may have a harder time landing a fit, athletic partner, but it's possible. And if that's what they want, what's the problem? Accept or reject; it's simple. Depends on the two people.
In my opinion, if someone has a specific preference, it's no skin off my nose. I'm not sure why people are saying SAME should stick with SAME. That's not the way it works. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:56:11 PM | Why would you be slammed for saying the obvious?????
Many in their 30's, 40's, and 50's have decided that eating the same as they did when 20, working but not working out, relaxing but not enjoying the overall relaxing effect that exercise and activity can give you, have the net result in being fat and out of shape.
I look for what I think I am and wait for those that find me to either agree or move on, just as I do with them. It may be shallow to some to want physical sparks to go along with the mental attraction, but for me, it is a necessity.
There is really no excuse for not being thinner and athletic other than your input is more than your output.........
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/17/2007 8:49:11 AM | I prefer a stocky build on a man but the ones that seem to approach me are the very thin ones. I am a full figured lady at this point in time and just feel more comfortable with someone who is more like me.
Its been my observation the men who are stockier or bit overweight still see themselves as average and go after the athlectic, thinner ladies. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 9:15:24 AM | | Hey, if a persons lifestyle is active then they want a partner who can be right there enjoying that life style with them. There is nothing wromg with a person having a preference. I spend a lot of my free time in the outdoors and a mate who can be out there hiking, camping and canoeing will just make those activities all the more pleasent. Do I really want someone who if we go for a long hike is going to have to stop all the time to catch their breath. No ! I want someone who can keep up or even surpass me. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:10:08 PM | Funny thing there...
Athletic is BETWEEN Thin and Average.
Which says to me, if you are NOT thin, but you are NOT average then you must be in between, basically you are fit, ride bikes, swim, hike etc., etc. But you are in better shape than Average. You may be thicker than Average, however, the thicker is muscle, not fat.
Unfortunately, the majority of people (men and women, but mostly women) have applied the vernacular Athletic as being between Average and A Few Extra Pounds. Trying to beat the fudge factor of larger than they should be for the healthy size/weight ratio of their bodies.
Average AND Athletic has become 'A Few Extra Pounds' and A Few Extra Pounds has become BBW and BBW Has become a mix of BBW, Big & Tall and Morbidly Obese for those people who can't possibly fool anyone into thinking that they're 'A Few Extra Pounds'.
I don't think it's shallow if I am looking for a woman with the woman's version of a figure like mine, meaning she doesn't have to workout, she is just regular. The girl next door. Not a skinny model type. Not an imbalanced weight/height ratio person.
If you don't care enough about your body, why should I be the one who buries you after you die of Adult Diabetes, Respiratory Failure and any other problems that being overweight carries?
There are people that don't mind larger women, that like BBWs I'm just not one of them, doesn't make me a bad guy, just a guy that, like the rest of the world, prefers certain choices over others.
Seeking Long Term means long term not long terminal.
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/17/2007 4:23:37 PM | | It's ludicrous. The whole weight thing is ludicrous. Why would we judge a person on weight? Can you imagine saying -I don't want a truck that weighs over x pounds. I refuse to live in a house in which the bricks were over x tons. I would date a gal in a wheelchair as long as the chair does not weigh over x pounds. And men over 45 who want athletic women? Hah - the should order mail-order brides or date dancers. Half of America is overweight. Dr. Phil had a brilliant statement that I will not forget. He said "Love is not about how the other person looks, thinks or acts. Love is about how the other person makes you feel about yourself." If everyone understood how true that statement was, we could go on to issues more important than color of hair or pants size. I am over 45 and I am seeking a soul mate. He can be Captain Ahab with a hook and a peg-leg, a patch over his eye, deaf in one ear and have seizures as long as he communicates well, is intelligent, clean, handles his booty well and is fun to be around. And weight? As long as he is not pork-chop laying all day in bed....it is how he makes me feel about me....I am not going to put him on the pit. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/17/2007 6:46:04 PM |
men over 45 who want athletic women? Hah - the should order mail-order brides or date dancers. Half of America is overweight.
Why should we settle for less then we are willing to give ?
We shouldn't, plain and simple.
As far as half of america being overweight, that is not my problem.
I don't live a sedantry lifestyle and have no wish to do so after I find my mate. Solution ? Find a mate who is also athletic. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 6:59:14 PM |
It's ludicrous. The whole weight thing is ludicrous. Why would we judge a person on weight?
It's not ludicrous. It's about preferences, NOT making judgements.
Attraction has so many facets involved. Why shouldn't appearance be part of that?
And men over 45 who want athletic women? Hah - the should order mail-order brides...
Actually, many do. The number of American men applying for "engagement" visas has quadrupled in the past five years.
Again, this is an issue of physical preference. Your preferences might be broader than others. That's fine. But please don't judge others (or insult them, shame them, etc.) for
merely having preferences relating to physical attraction.
If I had a dollar for every time a female fishie has stated that I am poor match because I don't have a full head of hair then I would be able to afford a hair transplant!
You stated your own preferences quite clearly:
he communicates well, is intelligent, clean, handles his booty well and is fun to be around
Those are preferences relating to attraction. I respect those. We all should respect your preferences.
You should respect ours. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/17/2007 7:28:51 PM | I know it's been said earlier in this thread, but some of us just want to hang out with women who can be physically active. I don't drink. I don't bar-hop. I do like to play sports and work out. I'm about 20 pounds overweight, but I'm in very good health otherwise -- I can run, I can do 45 minutes on the ellipticals and push my heart rate up to 90% and not feel tired, etc. I'd love a woman who would like to go to the gym with me, play tennis or golf with me, etc. That's all.
I am trying to lose that last 20 pounds, but man it's hard! :) | |
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Posted: 3/18/2007 1:12:26 AM | Alright already - the "weight" thing has been carried on long enough! If you're not "athletic" then you're out of shape and fat. Enough said, we get your point!
But let's throw something else into the equation. Just suppose you find that slim and trim person that you're physically attracted to, and their sense of humour makes your head spin, and their smile makes your heart beat faster..... and you go on a few hikes or canoe trips together and you're thinking you've found your soul mate. Then you get to know more about them and you find they have some real physical restrictions that can't necessarily be seen up front, but that can occasionally interfere with "normal" daily living. Like severe arthritis that allows one to have good days and bad days.... old back injuries that can lay you out flat for weeks on end... hereditary heart disease that doesn't allow you to go jogging or work up a sweat... whatever!
Blessed by genetics, they're not fat, but they're not really into "physical fitness". Is that acceptable?
What would you do if your physically fit soulmate had an accident and could no longer share your active lifestyle? Leave them at home while you seek a new partner to be active with? I think not.
You've all been spouting off as if the physical attraction is the only thing you gauge a person by. But where the heart is concerned, I bet you'd make alot of allowances. After all, aren't we all just looking for someone that makes us feel good about being alive?
Be careful people. One day a chubby someone might slip through your defences and overtake your better judgement... and your heart. Never say never. | |
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/18/2007 3:46:45 AM | For me, a woman who is physically active is just one thing I'd like, but it isn't a deal-breaker. I'm used to women whose idea of exercise is walking from the parking lot to the mall entrance. That's ok too. I can get my exercise on my own. It would just be a nice extra to have someone to play tennis with, etc.
I think most of us want there to be some physical attraction too. The heavier a person is, the less attractive that person is. That's just the way it works. People who are in shape are probably going to be looking for a partner who is also in reasonable shape.
There's another issue here too -- people 45 and over who are significantly overweight are at much greater risk of developing physical problems, such as onset diabetes, and so on. That's also something to consider when you are looking for a partner. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 2:04:08 PM | | it sounds like a way of saying (no fat women) in a nice way and yes at 45 we all have changed in many ways so to me just be you and if the person does not like that then there is someone out in this big world who will and make you happy | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 3:27:40 PM | I just read some of these posts and I find them so entertaining...really got me laughing.
So true , so true!!! I consider myself an athletic woman, but I am not a waif, I have muscle and a nice layer of cushy fat over them. Yes looks can be deceptive.
I have found that there are many men out there that state in their profile that they are 40. Then when I meet them it is very obvious that they are almost 50!!! (If they are not already) they try to tell me that they are doing all sorts of activities, blading ,biking,yoga what ever...and meantime I can see that some of them have low back problems!!!( I am a physical therapist) That's not very attractive to a fit woman. The first thing I think of is how terrible they would be in the sack! And yes I would end up doing all the work.LOL!
Some of them start complaining of women posting pics of them selves that are 10-20 yrs old...meanwhile I'm biting my tounge ..I want to tell them that they are doing exactly the same thing. But I can't be that rude or hurtful. It is very annoying to take the time to go and meet a man that is not as young as he pretends to be.They have a distorted view of reality...and I don't understand how they think they can pull it off.
Wouldn't it just be wonderful if we could all be straight forward and honest. Sure would keep things simple. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 7:15:43 PM | My mama always told me....."You gotta be willing to accept your equal". I am more than willing to do that. I am full figured. Problem is that some men think they can be not overly intelligent, boring and have absolutely NO sense of humor, and still believe that I should be thin in order to be worthy of their attention.
I actually read profiles, yes even ones without a photo. I am of the minority who believes that what is on the inside is more important than how much money a man makes or how beautiful he is on the outside.
We are all different...and what attracts us is different. If you are out there reading this, and you have a good heart, are affectionate, intelligent and have a good sense of humor, look me up. A man who can make me laugh.....I consider that a very good thing. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 10:24:25 PM | Hmm I wouldnt mind dating an athletic woman. Or at least one keeping herself fit.
I tend to find the reverse going on for me. I work out alot and seems mostly overweight women contact me asking me if Id be interested.
I have dated some women with weight. It doesnt bother me as much as some others. But I do get a little upset when some women whine about men not wanting to date someone with weight yet they themselves wouldnt date an overweight guy.
At least be consistant. I dont demand that a woman keep herself in athletic shape but its a bit unfair then to turn around and whine because I am working out that I have to date them when they wont make an effort to at least try and better themselves. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 10:33:55 PM | "The whole weight thing is ludicrous. Half of America is overweight"
Half of America is male, too.
But I still don't want to date that half.
". He can be Captain Ahab with a hook and a peg-leg, a patch over his eye, deaf in one ear and have seizures"
It's Captain Ahab's job to chase whales, not mine!
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| Over 45 men wanting athletic women???
Posted: 3/28/2007 11:29:41 PM |
It's Captain Ahab's job to chase whales, not mine!
ahhhhh... hmmmmm. You have 'average' for build. Judging from the pics (I could be wrong) you might want to rethink for realistic sake and put 'a few extra pounds'.
Wish there was a 'petite' option. I'm between thin and athletic which is why I include my weight in the narrative part.
I will say this.... there are many many guys who put 'camping, fishing, travel, etc.' in their profiles and then let it slip that they don't really enjoy those activities. I know they're putting them in there because they think it's what women want to hear.
To me that is much more aggravating to find out the 'interests' is fabricated...although it does get real real real tiring meeting out men who put outdated pics and/or have a topside shot and 'claim' to be a certain weight. Just tell the friggin truth and let the one you're planning on meeting out make their decision based on honesty.
It's not rocket science here. Caught in a lie, there will be no second meeting...usually. Least not with me. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 6:24:19 AM | | Everyone has the right to date the type of person they want -simple as that. Isn't that wonderful we are all different and want different things and looks in life and in their soulmates? Why settle for less? If you are looking for the Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie look, go for it-- As for me, my best dates are the ones who have a personality-- | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 6:36:36 PM | "you might want to rethink for realistic sake and put 'a few extra pounds'.
190lbs puts me in the 55 percentile of men for my height and age. How much closer to "average" can you get? I'm happy with my profile, it drives away at least 99% of all women viewers (sample size of several hundred 'to date' (yuk yuk)).
"Caught in a lie, there will be no second meeting"
My goal was to avoid a first meeting by filtering out 99.9% but I may have failed! | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 7:42:39 PM | If you are 5'7" and 190 (!) that puts you at a BMI of 29.8. You are overweight, and with a BMI of 30 you would be considered obese.
That is what gripes me. Men who are almost obese are wanting thin women only and referring them to as whales....
If you want a thin, in shape woman, you need to be willing to lose weight and get in shape yourself. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 11:59:17 PM | Hilarious.
Obese?
Fricking hilarious.
http://www.halls.md/chart/men-weight-w.htm
There's the chart.
55% percentile.
I actually prefer full-figured women but i doubt if YOU could do a twenty-mile hike with me. I know that none of my thirty-year-old co-workers can, they don't have the patience or the persistence.
Bring it on, punk, anywhere, anytime! My most recent record was a 27 mile walk in Portland, OR in 2004 (from Washington Park to the airport) but it gave me so many blisters that I cut back to 12-15 miles on the weekends.
http://www.realmeme.com/roller/page/realmeme/?entry=i90_bellevue_to_seattle | |
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Posted: 3/30/2007 5:41:15 AM | Wow, I really hit a hot button, didn't I?
here's a BMI chart for you.
http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
You can deny it all you want, but clinically you are overweight. You have done a great job of making the point that you can be overweight and in excellent physical condition, just like many women out there. I know tons of women with a few extra pounds who are in great condition, and lots of skinny women who can't walk 2 miles. You can't judge a person based on his or her weight alone, as you admit.
If you had a nicer personality I might consider doing a 20 mile hike with you, but thanks, I will pass. | |
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