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Posted: 1/13/2007 6:46:08 AM | so did Dr. Phil or Dr. Laura send you?
What one does in their profile is a perfect first introduction of who they are. First impressions make a difference.
At 36 you really sound like you're more a grandfather. Who exactly was this post intended for? Maybe you should put it on My Space and Bangme, too. Sounds like dating advice from the early 60's. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 7:27:40 AM | Point 1 - I agree a pic is good but please and up-to-date pic.
Point 2 - Guys and girls be honest your not all average...look in the mirror.
Point 3 - I don't want to read a book but I do want to know something about your likes and dislikes.
Point 4 - Yup! Take the hint.
Point 5 - Even 2 hours can be shear he double hockey sticks...boring.
Point 6 - Agree. No exes, not even blacked out ones...surely you have more pics.
Point 7 - You need to get over that one. My cat pic stays! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:13:44 AM | I have gone out an met someone without ever seeing their picture- they were fine! THis whole picture obsession drives me nuts. Most people look better in person than they will taking their own picture and if they have the right personality then a "ok" looking persaon can become very attractive to you over time. I say get over it!
I know a lot of people hate pet pics. However, consider that its a bit of an ice breaker having them there and it can generate some basic discussion until you get a conversation going. People can ramble about their pets for quite some time.
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:35:05 AM | OP... you forgot one...
8) NEVER confuse someone not respecting your boundaries with someone who is really, Really, REALLY eager to meet YOU. Odds are, he's NOT really, Really, REALLY eager to meet you because you're "special" -- he actually IS violating your boundaries and you're about to be "played" by don juan. The honest, sincere men really DO respect your boundaries and don't push the envelope. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 5:59:50 PM | WOW firefighter ,,,,,
One thing I have learnt from here,,,if they are new to the site and they contact you,,,then they realise that there is more than one person on the this site,you never hear from them again
If you were somewhat older, and a little closer I wouldn't need or want to look for another one on this site,,
Love your profile,,, realize you are a very caring, sharing kind of a guy,,,,,,,,,,,,
Like your way of looking at life and helping those who are less fortunate than we are,
I believe in the same things,,,,,,,,,, | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 12:13:39 AM | I've learned...
that this thread is hilarious
that everyone has a completly different experiece here, depending on a lot of factors,
and no body trusts santa. | |
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Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 35 | |
| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 1/14/2007 2:26:08 AM |
I loved this. And all so true. The reply that pissed me off the most was message 12.....
**Second, if you condemn a person because they stretched the truth some,,,,then it is your loss,,,just because they are not a beauty queen,,,or nicole richie,,,that dont mean they are not a good person with a good heart**
Firstly, anyone who 'stretches the truth' is a liar, simple as. Second, if anyone has to lie about height, weight, etc, they obviously have an issue with how they look. Personally I want someone who accepts themselves for who they are and what they look like. I don't want someone who is insecure or feels inadequate. No doubt they might have a good heart, but if everyone were honest, looks DO matter. That doesn't mean that the person one chooses has to look like a model or have a fit toned body, as long as they are attractive to you. If looks didn't matter, why the hell are they so many single people?? after all, there are enough 'good hearted' people out there.
And how is it someones 'loss', if they never wanted that person in the first place?? I'll never figure that one out.
Anyway, great post.
Haha i totally agree here...
I've had a hell of a time with this whole "body type" thing because of the fact i go surfing and see average when its an obvious bbw.. and see few extra lbs when infact i wonder how they are breathing with all those chins..
Ive had mine set to few extra lbs because frankly i want to get down one more size, however after meeting a handful of people I've been told I need to be set to average as I was hardly what they were expecting..
So confusing.. you dont know wether to be truthful as to what you think or follow the lying sheep.
I completely agree with what was posted here.. who wants to date someone who is at the point of having to "lie" on an online profile because they dont think their real self is worthy of any attention...especially online.. thats definitely a person with some self image issues. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 3:43:02 AM | OP
Q:Why does Santa only come once a year?
A: Because for the other 364 days he's locked up and gagged. He may be good at delivering presents to millions of people in just one night, but he sure as hell ain't any good at giving dating advice!!!
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Posted: 1/14/2007 5:12:20 AM | | RIGHT ON!!!! makes you wonder what are they gonna do/say IF you meet ? and the pet oics? i'm not lookin on a "dating site" for a pet | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 7:06:32 AM | | I have found out on internet dating it is hard to get someone to meet off of here.I realize that Some people have busy schedules and if you are serious to find someone you would think make the time.The point you brought up about finding the Perfect match,well guess what? You wont meet Him or Her unless you go out to meet.I find alot of the women shallow and wont give you time of day.Too bad Too sad,I am just telling it like it is from my perspective,So last week I tried a chatline and the women actually wanted to talk and meet,I met someone yesterday who was much more than her profile said,shes down to earth,spontaneous and appreciated to go out and drive around stanley park,and later to a blues club for the jam,she was also very attractive,So point is get out and meet you might be suprised,Hey you might even have a good time. Theres alot of guys on here that have alot to offer. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 7:34:45 AM | I read your post so decided to look at your profile. Funny, there you are with a cat, then there you are with 2 gals kissing you, then there you are with 2 of your friends. Right below that in your description you write about how its not cool to do all of the above in a profile.
Like several of the responses stated; looks like your just wanting attention-noticed your only on 2 peoples favorites list. Not that that is such a big indicator of anything, but to me, it sounds like your a pretty shallow kind of guy. Gorgeous on the out-side{men and woman alike}, doesn't always mean the same on the inside. Also, some people purposely don't post a pic so you can get to know who they really are. Doesn't mean they aren't attractive. And isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder???
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Posted: 1/14/2007 9:44:45 AM |
8) NEVER confuse someone not respecting your boundaries with someone who is really, Really, REALLY eager to meet YOU. Odds are, he's NOT really, Really, REALLY eager to meet you because you're "special" -- he actually IS violating your boundaries and you're about to be "played" by don juan. The honest, sincere men really DO respect your boundaries and don't push the envelope.
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Posted: 1/14/2007 2:07:56 PM | Here, here! Thanks for telling it like it is!
Yeah, why do guys post pics of themselves with skanky-looking, barely-dressed, bleach-blond bimbos? Guys, if you're trying to depict yourself as having women crawling all over you, take it from me, it BACKFIRES! dum-dum-dum-DUMB! | |
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Joined: 8/15/2006
Msg: 45 | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 2:30:44 PM |
Don’t post pictures of your pets in your profile. You with your pet is fine, but a picture of JUST your pet is silly.
Hey - my cat gets more mail than I do  | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 2:45:27 PM | skynomad,
Q:Why does Santa only come once a year?
The rest of the year he is busy laying dolls under the christmas tree,, and spending time in jail for it,,,,,,,,,,,,,
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Posted: 1/14/2007 6:05:12 PM | Hey Santa,
Great points...and here a few more from a different perspective....
1. I can easily forgive those with pics of dogs and animals..if there is only one....Simply reflects a love of animals..a good thing..
2. Don't Post pics of yourself with tons of family members, or women dripping off your arms..because you want to ensure that everyone sees your This is pathetic.
3. Don't post pics of cut off faces, blurred images, or photos you found interesting that don't include you at all. Posting pics of your kids is a bad idea on many levels...privacy, etc..safety of your kids...
4. Having communicated and met with just a few online and in the flesh...Humor..is definitely an appealing quality BUT Don't post a sense of humor, unless you REALLY HAVE a sense of humor. Laughter is a great thing...if you are light about life...don't lie. Can't hide this issue even in email.
5. Spontaneous, adventure seem to be popular words in this service. Don't include these unless you are genuinely spontaneous.
6. If you are looking for a mother, father, counselor, or slave. Return home, or seek professional help.
7. First connections should be brief...coffee, or lunch..or else you are stuck. ....
8. Literacy in these profiles goes a long way. Perhaps there are women who long for guys who simply look great in their photos..I for one think think it's a bit sad..for those who don't read, know how to spell, and simply desire a dinner? What is that....They just eat.
9. Obviously, fitness is important..Fit is fit....Not twenty pounds over, and eat pizza. Don't lie in your profiles..because you will eventually meet someone.
10. Also, headliners like Looking for Nice Girl, or Dream Girl are ridiculous. The flip side of Looking for Mr. Right is simply stupid. What does nice mean...or dream girl...Get real. Nice girl translates to slave, or disempowered yes girl....to many ..not all. Dream girl...translates to shallow bimbo...(Again this doesn't apply to all guys..but many on this service.) Hee. I do disagree with Romegaguy..on the portrait issue.....If the person is completely hung up on the photo....shallow is not what you are probably looking for anyway. Don't misunderstand me..Chemistry is a great thing, but these photos..don't say a whole lot | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 11:35:27 PM | OP said
Just because all your friends are a size 24 doesn't make it average.
Dude, here's a quick statistic for you: the average adult female weighs 164 pounds. Get used to it. Enjoy the lady for what's between her ears, and pretty soon, that gal will be lookin' real sexy. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 3:50:21 AM | Other annoying things people do with their profile photos:
1. Tiny little photos so far away you can't possibly see their face. (I don't need to see a lovely mountain background, I'd rather see who I am talking to.)
2. Photos of thier car / boat / cat / dog / gerbil / ex gf / kids / parents - really... we would rather look at the person whose profile we are reading.
3. Photo with numerous friends so we can't tell which one is the poster. Annoying.
4. No photo at all or a photo of a body part (bott0m, lips, feet, pecs etc) which gives us no info that is useful.
5. Out of focus or much too dark photo.
6. Photo from 20 years ago. Not useful at all. I'd like to see one not more than 6 months old please.
7. Photo of some famous person instead of your own photo. not useful at all.
Yes I know it's all about photos but I feel people need to show us who they are if they REALLY are serious about being contacted. And before I get accused of being shallow, I don't care if people are not Brad Pitt. I just want to know who I am speaking to. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 5:39:17 AM | the farther you go from average size= the larger the cleavage shot
bikini shot= +250 favs list
"prefer not to say"= come on who are you kidding?
love to laugh/ have fun= really? that's new
"amazing circle of friends/family"= why be here, instead of being out doing things with them?
"very busy"= not interested
posed pics on a bed some other guy took= self explanatory
bar pics with all your friends= there's a tug of war you'll never win
any mention of stalker/player/one night stands= red flag for drama and issues | |
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