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| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 1/15/2007 9:55:15 AM | The main thing I've learned from online dating is that it's all about money,
receiving excuses, making offers and sending gifts.
Most people are,
-internet only
-business only
-mind games only
-sex only | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 10:57:50 AM | | I find your Post "obnoxious". For one thing your advice about not having other people/things in your Profile photo is contradictory. Why are you pictured with Santa Claus? or is it Santa Claus that is pictured with you - Is he the one looking for dates etc? The whole tone of your Post and Profile is really off the wall. But it's a free forum and anyone can say whatever they like here, so I've said mine. Thank you! | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 8:01:53 PM | Samdog, I think you were talking to me, I do want to laugh and have fun with a man, I do have a great group of friends, I am on here for dating... I do go out often with friends, I want to go dancing and it is just not the same with a group of girls (fun, though) I know I am not original, but I wanted to be honest in what I am looking for..
**there are just as many men whos age is 45-55 with photos that are waaaaaaaaaay too old to be recent, some black and white... I am going to go change my profile to be as "original and creative" as yours..  | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 9:06:10 PM | Things I've learned from online profiles:
Piercings, lots of tattoos = undereducated, underemployed, unsophisticated, poor
Pics of him in his dirty/cluttered room = poor
The shorter the guy, the more pics are shot from below
Pics of him in various hats = BALD with misshapen head
Pics of him shirtless or sleeveless = he's spent more of his time weightlifting than reading/traveling/talking with people/living
Mentions custody of his kids = poor previous choice of mate (methies/other variations of scumbuckets), he will try to control the next chick better
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Posted: 1/15/2007 10:55:14 PM | sounds like you have had a few negative experiences,,, i truly am sorry but there are men out there who are
A ... educated and tattooed employed with a good job, whom are neither uneducated or poor.
B... keep there domicile respectable and dare i go so far as to say with pride :)
C.. i have never shot from below nor do "I' have a napoleonic complex.LOL
D... i have and own hats and neither am i bald or have fear of going bald. perhaps the hat is as much a fashion
statement as it is to women who negate the fact that all they want is money or the model but are not willing to take a good look at themselves?
E... simply put .. is a woman who has a beautiful figure and is proud of her accomplishments not aloud to post a picture of herself in a nice dress or a bikini for fear of repercussions and pre conceived notions about what and who she is ?
I am proud of my body and like the way it has treated me and therefore it deserves my respect and if i choose to summarily post a shot of me with my shirt off does not make me shallow ... or stupid ,I love to read and no not comic books and i love to converse ,debate and be able to do so on pretty much any given level or depth :)
F..... doesnt really even merit a response but since i have gone this far.... i know lot's of men who wish they had custody of their children .. because they love them PERIOD! but societies views are still geared towards the "mother" as the main care giver albeit this is slowly changing but....it takes two to tango and i was married for 15yrs so i do know the work involved, i nor my ex ever did drugs nor did we fool around on each other nor were we poor.... we just grew apart. why on earth would you want to control someone you loved? | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 7:34:14 AM | Things I've learned from online dating:
#1 You will have by far fewer responses, dates, etc. than you thought you would have
when you signed on (even if you are attractive, intelligent, have a good job etc)
#2 People don't always put their best self into their Profiles but rather their worst (you
would think they're trying to repel rather than attract a potential partner)
#3 Rude people are everywhere and the internet is no exception
#4 Most people you are interested in will live at least one or more States away
#5 From the grammar used in some Profiles it's hard to believe these people are even
Grade School graduates
#6 POF is as good a dating site as sites that charge a lot of money to join. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 8:03:19 AM | What do you think of someone who emails you and after responds instead of him telling you not interested,,,put you on block,,,,I knew the guy was one oar short of being enough but heck couldnt he have said not interested,,,, | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 8:03:47 AM | OP...... When you strarted out I was with you... but, by the time I got to the end... not only had you lost me, but I'm quite certain you have set yourself back a long time in your own search for fullfillment! If you thought you were going to be funny....you failed.
Even though I actually did aggree with several of you points... your over-all tone and attitude along with some of your sterotyped "man" behaviors that we all get tired of being generalized in here, had me cringing. As you can easily see from the ensuing thread...the majority of the ladies absolutely wern't impressed. Har.
You are here-by ordered to go back to Internet personals 101 and take the class over. Do not post again until you have successfully completed the course with at least a B! | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 9:36:57 AM | Things I'VE learned from Online Dating......
I have yet to date anyone by means of online dating. For many reasons. However, NONE of the reasons are due to what the person LOOKS like!
....Internet communication is a "stepping-stone" to getting to know more people in this crazy world of ours....it is not meant to be a "means to an end"......and certainly should NEVER be the ONLY way you meet people......
That being said.....the creator of this site was very smart indeed.
Post a picture (if you don't - due to privacy and/or business reasons - at least have one to send to somebody who will prove worthy of receiving it).
Read their profile. THEIR very own words about themselves will tell you a little bit more - as long as your not reading what you want to hear.
An excellent example right here:
.......[Just the fact that you mention having kids should be enough to scare off most people – you don’t need to post proof of the little brats.]
......sadly, you actually do have children.
......and, even more bizarre, you have "prefer not to say" in the do you want kids?
THAT says enough!
....by the way......animals and children have an innate "sense" of goodness in people (no preconceived expectations or hang-ups is my guess....)....so....IF you make it to bringing said "date" home and the baby cries, or the "dog/cat/horse/hamster/bird" behaves badly......trust THEIR judgement......and let the dog/cat/horse/hamster/bird kick his ass on the way out the door!
And read the posts that they put on forums.........
This is the biggest indicator of what type of person your going to be talking to.
Just my opinion......
Angelheart | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 11:22:47 AM | So, Spittdog--
You have photos posted of you and a cat, you and two chicks, and you and two other guys. You want to talk about confusing? Post a photo of yourself with members of the SAME sex!
I agree with all of your points, but just thought it might be a little case of the pot calling the kettle black?
*grin* | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 1:49:24 PM | | i loved what you posted one thing i have to say is. why do you men romance on line and lead us ladies on. you say you want to meet us and plan a time and then we never hear from you again. for me i don,t care but some ladies get hurt. they are really here to meet someone for me i can take it are leave it. but men should know about feelings. there i have said it feeling and if you don,t like kids just say it i do | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 7:05:59 PM | This has been quite entertaining. Some of you get it, some don't.... which is about right.
Responses I've gotten to this in my profile have been the same mix - from women who thought it was hilarious and either wanted to get to know me, or just wanted to tell me how much they enjoyed the read - to others who responded just to say what a pr*ck I was for saying those things. I even had one woman stalk me - IMing me everytime she saw me online (over like a three day period before I finally had to block her) just to keep telling me what an a**hole I was. She wouldn't let up; it was pretty funny. I guess some people really DON'T have anything better to do! FYI - I've gotten probably 3:1 more positive response than negative.
For those of you who can't figure it out, I'll spell it out for you: The whole thing is a joke - it's supposed to be tongue in cheek (or wherever you like it best ;-) - it's not supposed to be taken seriously at all. I take few things in life as serious as some of you take a stupid post like this. Of course there is truth in it as it's based on my experiences, but come on - if I was really that serious about it I would just give up on the whole online thing.
Just to clear up a couple misconceptions... first - I don't have a problem with women's weight. Hell I've banged lots of fatties in my time...  (that oughta get some of you going again...lol). Seriously though, I really don't. I only have a problem with people misrepresenting themselves. Be who you are. If you've got a few extra pounds on you - choose that option under body type. We're gonna figure it out eventually so you may as well be honest up front.
Secondly, the pet and opposite sex picture thing - yes I have both in my profile - it's a joke - sheesh! (Though for the record that's not my cat. I don't have a cat - that was taken at a friends house. I have two dogs and two rats, uh, not including my kids.  )
But by far its the kid thing that gets to most. Come on people - lighten up! If you read the fine print - like few have done - you'd see that I have kids. I'm a single father raising two kids myself - who are teens now. My kids are THE most important thing in my life and we have a great relationship. We spend a lot of time together talking and laughing. I try to raise my kids with a sense of humor - one likely to be as warped as mine - but at least that have one...something many of you could learn from. I don't have a problem with other people's kids either. In fact I really only date women who have kids. Those my age without kids don't relate well to my situation. But I keep my kids comepletely seperate from my dating life. They don't meet women I date. They won't until I decide meet someone with keeper potential.
Anyway, I know some of you will keep ripping on this thread...and probably pick apart this post too. That's fine - go for it if it makes you feel better. But do yourself (and those around you) a favor - lighten up! Don't take life so seriously...who knows, you might actually smile once in a while.
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| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:45:15 PM |
the farther you go from average size= the larger the cleavage shot
bikini shot= +250 favs list
"prefer not to say"= come on who are you kidding?
love to laugh/ have fun= really? that's new
"amazing circle of friends/family"= why be here, instead of being out doing things with them?
"very busy"= not interested
posed pics on a bed some other guy took= self explanatory
bar pics with all your friends= there's a tug of war you'll never win
any mention of stalker/player/one night stands= red flag for drama and issues
i kinda liked this... cause its so very true as well | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 4:02:21 PM |
Do you know how many guys give your their number or want to meet for coffee/drink right away? No woman has time to meet them all! If you give up on a woman just because she wants to get to know you a bit before committing to giving you a phone number, or meeting you in person, then you just don't get it.
well said one beachlvr | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 12:59:13 PM | betterlate*
No, I did not have you in mind at all, never even looked at your profile.
It was a general synopsis of what I have repeatedly read for over a year now and MY observations.
Lastly, I designed my profile to be SPECIFIC, to reflect who I am, what I want and what attracts me. It is also designed to eliminate unwanted mail. It is the straight up truth about ME! I feel it's very original and creative. Whether appreciated or offended.......I stick to what it says!
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Posted: 1/18/2007 3:01:16 PM | | Hi there spittdogg, just had a look at your profile and what you said about photo's but I can't quite see all of your face with that white hair and everything, LOL. Have a nice day seriously. | |
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| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 1/18/2007 3:04:49 PM | "Thing I've Learned From Online Dating"
With a mug like this, try going photoless.....
Wait, my photos still up.....d'oh!
Oh well, Toronto school of the Blind, here I come! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 8:39:06 PM | Things I'VE learned....
1. ALL the bullshit excuses for not being able to cough up a single photo before meeting;
"I'm not very photogenic"
"I'm always the one who takes the photos"
"my scanner doesn't work, can you fix it?"
"I don't have a scanner"
1a. I'll never, ever go on another blind date, unless I'm drunk. 
2. Photos with an ex or a beer bottle in the shot kinda turn me off. 
3. Being dishonest with me about ANYTHING really turns me off. 
4. Owning a Harley is a prerequisite for dating 90% of the women. I'll never own a Harley, ride a Harley or want a Harley. Hello 10%. 
5. Pet shots are fine. I love animals. My dogs are HAPPY to see me EVERY day when I come home from work.  | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:19:57 AM | Here's my list - Things I've Learned Summed Up Nicely
The profile is a NEVER a true mirrored text representation of their true lives. Profiles are either underplayed or overplayed. I ignore what people are looking for because too many times "Long Term" actually meant "Player". I also learned not to analyze spelling mistakes in profiles - hey some men just can't spel bauetiful correctly (chuckles) and based on a lot of profiles, way too many two fingers typists...I could go on - but we all know it's all the same blah blah blah. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 3:18:49 PM | I love an honest post, especially when there’s bitterness and/or anger involved.
This post was ****ing hilarious, my personal favourite quotes are 'you don’t need to post proof of the little brats.' and 'If I read one more time that “you must love my dog to love me” I’m gonna frickin lose it'.
It's nice to see that rather than trying to SCORE POINTS i.e.: "oh I love your pet, he/she is so cute " *lick lick* or "Aren’t your kids adorable, you know I'm great with kids" *slurp slurp* - this guy is telling it as it truly is.
My point is instead of trying to score points I wish everyone would just be honest; the world would be so much better. I'm sick of hearing people pretending to be interested in others hobbies when really he/she doesn't give a shit. People pretending to be charitable, or volunteering to helo the elderly just to score points. The worst example ever is the classic and highly detestable "I don't go for looks", give me a ****ing break (although as you will read in my other posts people can often be deluded with that one). | |
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