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| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:41:46 AM |
Dude, here's a quick statistic for you: the average adult female weighs 164 pounds. Get used to it. Enjoy the lady for what's between her ears, and pretty soon, that gal will be lookin' real sexy.
Maybe the average English-speaking (American, Canadian, British, Australian) adult female weighs 164 pounds, but my guess is that the average adult female worldwide weighs about 120 to 130 pounds. Yeah, I guess any woman will start looking "real sexy" once you get inebriated enough.  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 6:52:44 AM | There's no such thing as free love on the Internet. Either you're going to pay for dating sites or watch camgirls do their thing (I don't recommend either), or you're going to pay through the nose on the dating or bar scene. And then if you decide to start driving non-American models  , then it takes money to travel to meet your dream Latina, Asian, or European girl.
There are good American women, but they're all taken. The ones who are not, for the MOST part they're looking for the perfect guy who's at least 5'10" tall and is rich. Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt may have the looks, but they've also got money! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 10:48:32 AM | Sorry SamDawg, I had that exact title on mine until I read your post... lol, I wasnt being mean, just feeling a bit guilty for not having the creative profiles some have.. seriously...
I agree with your latest post 100%, I do not want people to misunderstand, I want to eliminate unwanted mail... so, cool? Cool!
Better Late... | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 2:08:38 PM | I think every post here has been a reality for that person, and it is very interesting.
However, what I find hard to understand is how that experience can then be generalized. For example, I have a pic of me posted in a hotel room,  but after reading this post I would think many would assume a close male took that shot, and they would be right, but only partially.
It was my 14 year old son who was taking pics for our holiday to NS.
What bothers me is that if anyone read this post would immediately think something horrible about me, which is certainly untrue.
The other part that I found difficult was that "very busy" = not interested line. Not everyone is just sitting back waiting for their special someone to come along. Me, I decided to improve upon who I am so I would like who I am even more as I accomplished feats in life.
A teacher, university student, and a mom who is in the process of renovating her home is a busy lady for sure. But too busy to be here instead of trying to meet someone who will fill the half of me is not a reality. Because, here I am.
When that someone comes along, I am hoping he will feel that the person I am and who I have stretched to become while engaged in all this activity, is someone worth meeting and loving. Will I be interested? You bet.
Will I have time? You wanna believe it!
I guess what i am trying to say, is looks are more than skin deep, people have feelings, they love, they cry, they live, and they laugh. To generalize about any one person is a mistake because you could be missing a wonderful person, and then it is your loss.
Now that I have put you all to  I will say  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 5:30:32 PM | well all i can say, with the job i do, yes we come with a bad reputation, but also on the other note there is alot of uniform stalkers out there, some are easy to work out but there is a few out there that take a while to boilk to the surface, i do not hide to what i do, but all i can say is like the qoute say's "dont judge the book by just the cover, take the time to at least read it and see what you think by the end!".
To many people are to quick to judge a person, ether by age, or by proffesion, just give us time, as some times you can be supprised by the out come. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 5:41:25 PM | I spent waaaayyy too much time online dating!
The description "athletic build" does not mean SUMO WRESTLER
The first date should probably not be a swingers meet and greet
I refer to online dating as musical penises... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 6:22:15 PM | The only thing I've learned is that people love to hate each other before they love each other, and everyone is better than everyone else with online dating...
So much bitterness... I hate profiles that say this, I hate photos that look like that, I hate when women blah blah blah..., I hate when men blah blah blah... , Why do all men blah blah blah..., Why do all women blah blah blah... It just goes on and on!
If people were to act like this in the "real world", they would have the $hit slapped out of them, by those they claim to hate, and the world would in anarchy. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 11:14:54 PM |
Those of you who are new to the crazy world of internet dating can save yourselves a lot of time, frustration, embarrassment and heartache by heeding my advice. You may not believe me now, but you didn’t listen to your parents when you were a teenager either. Amazing how smart they are now huh? Those of you who have been on here for a while will relate…enjoy!
1) First and foremost, never - and I mean NEVER meet someone without seeing a picture first. It doesn’t matter how attractive they claim to be – what actor they claim to look like – don’t believe it! That said, pictures can lie - beware of glamour shots! It’s best to see several pictures and use the worst as a best case scenario. Oh – I almost forgot – head shots are no good – at very least you need to see their shoulders too. Trust me on this one people!
2) People have varying ideas of what ‘average’ body type really means. Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve always considered ‘average’ to mean height – weight proportionate. Come on people - you know if you are overweight or not! Here's a good rule of thumb - if you waist is wider than your shoulders then you are probably slightly heavier than average. Just because all your friends are a size 24 doesn't make it average.
3) Long profiles are – YAWN – boring! If it’s more than a paragraph, you’ve lost me already. Don’t get me wrong, I love learning about people. And I’m sure all three of your cats – Josie, Johnny and Juju are adorable – your kids are perfect – your ex is a cheating scumbag – your best friend in first grade was Kelly – and your mom dropped you on your head as a baby, but do we really need to know all that in your profile? Just hit a few basics and let’s cover the rest during some good conversation. And yes, I am fully aware that I’ve violated this point already.
4) If you don’t get a reply after your first (second or third for that matter) email, then they probably aren’t very interested. Take the hint and move on. Sheesh.
5) When meeting someone for the first time, keep the first ‘date’ short and sweet! Nothing is worse than devoting an entire Friday or Saturday night to someone you’ve never met in person, only to find out that they weren’t terribly honest in point number one or two above – or that there just isn’t anything there. You can get the same info over an innocent cup of coffee or a few not so innocent drinks. Either way, keep the first meeting light and informal; there will be time to get naked later.
6) Don't post pics of yourself with someone of the opposite sex. It's just frickin confusing.
7) Don’t post pictures of your pets in your profile. You with your pet is fine, but a picture of JUST your pet is silly. Like we really care. If I read one more time that “you must love my dog to love me” I’m gonna frickin lose it. We don’t need to love your dog – only tolerate it…and resist the urge to kick it when it jumps on our new khakis with it stinkin muddy paws. While we’re on the subject, don’t post pictures of your kids either. Just the fact that you mention having kids should be enough to scare off most people – you don’t need to post proof of the little brats.
So, I’m sure I’ve lost most of you by now…but if you aren’t completely offended yet, let me know – I’ll keep trying. ;-)
Amen Brother!!
Personally I try and stay away from serial daters. I alwasy ask a women how much she dates. If it's more than 2 dudes per month I'm not interested. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 7:30:12 PM |
1) First and foremost, never - and I mean NEVER meet someone without seeing a picture first. It doesn’t matter how attractive they claim to be – what actor they claim to look like – don’t believe it! That said, pictures can lie - beware of glamour shots! It’s best to see several pictures and use the worst as a best case scenario. Oh – I almost forgot – head shots are no good – at very least you need to see their shoulders too. Trust me on this one people!
Totally agree - beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and even if this person is somebody that is attractive to most people, he/she just may not "do it" for you personally. And obviously physical attraction is a big deal here.
2) People have varying ideas of what ‘average’ body type really means. Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve always considered ‘average’ to mean height – weight proportionate. Come on people - you know if you are overweight or not! Here's a good rule of thumb - if you waist is wider than your shoulders then you are probably slightly heavier than average. Just because all your friends are a size 24 doesn't make it average.
This is a tough one - since really, technically overweight *is* average now. I would say if you see "average" you probably shouldn't expect somebody who's really skinny or buff though.
3) Long profiles are – YAWN – boring! If it’s more than a paragraph, you’ve lost me already. Don’t get me wrong, I love learning about people. And I’m sure all three of your cats – Josie, Johnny and Juju are adorable – your kids are perfect – your ex is a cheating scumbag – your best friend in first grade was Kelly – and your mom dropped you on your head as a baby, but do we really need to know all that in your profile? Just hit a few basics and let’s cover the rest during some good conversation. And yes, I am fully aware that I’ve violated this point already.
Here I'll disagree. The short, don't-tell-you-anything profiles annoy the crap out of me. I don't need your life story, but it'd be nice to have at least *some* information on what your interests are and so on to see if we're likely to be a good match or not. I'd rather see right off the bat that we have absolutely nothing in common, rather than after getting involved with someone just because she's cute, and then finding this out later.
4) If you don’t get a reply after your first (second or third for that matter) email, then they probably aren’t very interested. Take the hint and move on. Sheesh.
Of course, this would be much easier if people would simply send a note back saying something like "Thank you so much for contacting me, but I don't think we'd be a good match." Otherwise the person may not know you even received the message - email, especially through a third party website, is not exactly 100% reliable.
5) When meeting someone for the first time, keep the first ‘date’ short and sweet! Nothing is worse than devoting an entire Friday or Saturday night to someone you’ve never met in person, only to find out that they weren’t terribly honest in point number one or two above – or that there just isn’t anything there. You can get the same info over an innocent cup of coffee or a few not so innocent drinks. Either way, keep the first meeting light and informal; there will be time to get naked later.
Yup... personally I like to call these "pre-dates." Meeting for something like a cup of coffee allows you to see each other in person, see how the other acts, talks, etc... and there's no pressures regarding if you should be more romantic, if there's a right time to "make a move," or anything like that.
If you really dig each other over coffee... either offer to meet somewhere else in a little bit to extend the meeting, or offer to take him/her on a full-fledged date in the very near future.
On the other hand if there's just zero chemistry in person, you can go on your separate ways without having gone through one of those Dates from Hell.
6) Don't post pics of yourself with someone of the opposite sex. It's just frickin confusing.
I don't get this either. I don't want to see a pic of you and some other guy.. or you and some other guy's arm. You probably have or at least know somebody with a camera, webcam, or camera phone. Get a new pic taken for heaven's sake.
7) Don’t post pictures of your pets in your profile. You with your pet is fine, but a picture of JUST your pet is silly. Like we really care. If I read one more time that “you must love my dog to love me” I’m gonna frickin lose it. We don’t need to love your dog – only tolerate it…and resist the urge to kick it when it jumps on our new khakis with it stinkin muddy paws. While we’re on the subject, don’t post pictures of your kids either. Just the fact that you mention having kids should be enough to scare off most people – you don’t need to post proof of the little brats.
hehehe depends who you're trying to attract I guess. I'm personally not a huge fan of animals, I can deal with somebody who has like one or two of them, but no I'm not likely to "love" your pet.
As far as the kids go.. I don't mind it really. It simply shows that he/she loves and is proud of their kids. And if mentioning or showing pics of the kids scares the person off, they're obviously not the person you're looking for anyway. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 7:51:18 PM |
Wow some of you really missed the point. Let me know when you get a sense of humor... We have one...we're laughing at your expense.
Pic of you with TWO women....I'm confused....?
Met someone without a pic once. I was very pleased. We dated for 9 months and two and a half years later, we're still friends.
You must love my dog to love me,(or at least LIKE him). Animals and nature are a very important part of my life, and my dog and me are a package deal. If, when viewing my profile, a man is offended by the fact that I have a pic of my dog, move on honey cuz you're not for me. Quite often, it's been a pic of someone's dog that's attracted me to view the profile. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 10:33:40 PM | OR the 1 yr. old photos with the makeover
 .......haha you talking about the Glamour shots! That shit is hilarious, or the 35 year olds that look like they're taking senior pics.
..........and why are all you Banshee's attacking the poster for saying what everyone else is thinking. Some people get so dam defensive sometimes.... I think what he said must have hit home. Feel free to talk shish about me to, cuz you already know I don't give a damn......lol | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 12:35:03 AM | I agree with Necosino.......all these things that the OP apparently learned from online dating are examples of a shallow materialistic person desperately trying to get attention. This site encourages people to sell themselves, and when they do you complain about an overweight person describing themselves as 'average'.....complain when women don't have pics in their profile, and then complain about the ones that do because they include pictures of their pets, or their friends......will you ever be satisfied???
I'll start my own little things I have learned from online dating:
1. Shallow materialistic people like the OP are too in love with themselves to love someone else
2. Throw away the dating rulebooks, every person is different .....some love attention, others need space
3. Some people are so quick to judge others based on ONLY their pictures, its a sad pathetic reality of dating sites | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 7:04:00 PM | I truly have met some very nice people, however this has certainly been a learning experience. What have I learned? Wow! A lot, not the least of which is what I call “online-dating-newspeak”.
Spontaneous = Erratic
Quiet = Doesn’t say a word
Talkative = Rambles on endlessly
Outgoing = Embarrassing
Fun = Clueless
Easygoing = I.Q. of a houseplant
Honest = Haven’t been caught
Successful = Either; I once was or I hope someday to be
Athletic = Not since college, if ever
Free-spirited = Flat broke
Loves to dance = has two left feet and knows how to move them
Average = Overweight | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 5:26:33 PM | LOL Kymicat...good points all!
I'd like to add to you guys that if your only profile pic is of you from your webcam and you're shirtless, we ALL know what you've been doing on cam!  | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 9:03:33 PM |
1) First and foremost, never - and I mean NEVER meet someone without seeing a picture first.
If anything, this should be the cardinal rule for online dating! But to expand on that, it should definately be a current picture.
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Posted: 6/30/2007 3:52:21 PM | | Online dating isn't for desperate people...it's just another convenient form of entertainment for anyone who's kept up with the times. And yes, hot guys and hot girls join online dating sites, too, just like anyone else in society who knows what's what, and can take their pick from any of the following...TV, DVDs, video games, computer games...online shopping, online gambling, online friends, online dating, online porn, etc. All of these are designed to provide us with fun or whatever emotion we need, without ever having to leave the house or establishing any real human contact. PoF is my first and only dating site, and it seems to me that in the online dating process ... I have to sift through the short attention spans and indifference to really make any kind of human connection...and even then...(imho) something integral is lost in the mix. I can't really explain what it is. We all want to believe we are being productive, writing these profiles, sending or replying to all the emails or posting our profound forum messages... but in reality, aren't we all alone in our own little worlds, staring into a computer monitor? It's hilarious and sad at the same time. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:01:32 PM | | That people make stuff up in their profiles. That some people delude themselves. A lot. That I don't really want to have anything to do with most people and it's hard to find the ones I do want to have something to do with... | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:11:34 PM | | hmmmm lol well i'm sure your right for the most part but some of us are genuine, i.e. have a bunny picture i send that's a big part of my life since i have no kids, i've had 3 over the yrs and the perfect pet as far as i'm concerned, litter trained quiet n fun, kinda like me lol but im sure there are men who do put pictures of animals that don't own them but not always, and the same with women who are 300 lbs and say they're a few lbs over but again that's not always the case either. i'm sad that this seems to be an issue on the net, dishonesty bites but as long as it shows you something that people will do almost anything to not be alone and other's just can't be satisfied with what they have, whatever the reason it sucks to be them. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:19:52 PM | | Dude (OP), your humor is NOT lost on me. That is the first post I read in a long time that really cracked me up! It's hard not to see the humor in internet dating and sometimes you just gotta write about it. For me, I did a "top 10" list of all the things in a person's profile that are a turn-off. It is clear, however, that you are not an animal person. Those of us who love animals do not wish to meet someone that will only "tolerate" Fluffy the burmese python (or in my case, 2 boa constrictors). Gotta love snakes or it won't work. Oh also, I was curious about the hypocrasy of posting a picture of yourself being kissed by a pretty girl, while putting down that kind of photo. WTF? That notwithstanding, you should keep writing about your misadventures in internet dating, for the entertainment value. | |
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