| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:26:33 PM | LOL Kymicat...good points all!
I'd like to add to you guys that if your only profile pic is of you from your webcam and you're shirtless, we ALL know what you've been doing on cam!  | |
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| Things I've Learned From Online Dating
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:03:33 PM |
1) First and foremost, never - and I mean NEVER meet someone without seeing a picture first.
If anything, this should be the cardinal rule for online dating! But to expand on that, it should definately be a current picture.
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Posted: 6/30/2007 3:52:21 PM | | Online dating isn't for desperate people...it's just another convenient form of entertainment for anyone who's kept up with the times. And yes, hot guys and hot girls join online dating sites, too, just like anyone else in society who knows what's what, and can take their pick from any of the following...TV, DVDs, video games, computer games...online shopping, online gambling, online friends, online dating, online porn, etc. All of these are designed to provide us with fun or whatever emotion we need, without ever having to leave the house or establishing any real human contact. PoF is my first and only dating site, and it seems to me that in the online dating process ... I have to sift through the short attention spans and indifference to really make any kind of human connection...and even then...(imho) something integral is lost in the mix. I can't really explain what it is. We all want to believe we are being productive, writing these profiles, sending or replying to all the emails or posting our profound forum messages... but in reality, aren't we all alone in our own little worlds, staring into a computer monitor? It's hilarious and sad at the same time. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:01:32 PM | | That people make stuff up in their profiles. That some people delude themselves. A lot. That I don't really want to have anything to do with most people and it's hard to find the ones I do want to have something to do with... | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:11:34 PM | | hmmmm lol well i'm sure your right for the most part but some of us are genuine, i.e. have a bunny picture i send that's a big part of my life since i have no kids, i've had 3 over the yrs and the perfect pet as far as i'm concerned, litter trained quiet n fun, kinda like me lol but im sure there are men who do put pictures of animals that don't own them but not always, and the same with women who are 300 lbs and say they're a few lbs over but again that's not always the case either. i'm sad that this seems to be an issue on the net, dishonesty bites but as long as it shows you something that people will do almost anything to not be alone and other's just can't be satisfied with what they have, whatever the reason it sucks to be them. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:19:52 PM | | Dude (OP), your humor is NOT lost on me. That is the first post I read in a long time that really cracked me up! It's hard not to see the humor in internet dating and sometimes you just gotta write about it. For me, I did a "top 10" list of all the things in a person's profile that are a turn-off. It is clear, however, that you are not an animal person. Those of us who love animals do not wish to meet someone that will only "tolerate" Fluffy the burmese python (or in my case, 2 boa constrictors). Gotta love snakes or it won't work. Oh also, I was curious about the hypocrasy of posting a picture of yourself being kissed by a pretty girl, while putting down that kind of photo. WTF? That notwithstanding, you should keep writing about your misadventures in internet dating, for the entertainment value. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 4:40:33 PM | Seems you've learned a lot from on line dating.We all have had our experiences.Thought you were talking mostly of your experince with dating not with just looking at profiles.Sounds like you spent more time talking about the profiles than an actual on line date itself.
I myself have been dating on line guys for a long time now,something over two years.I normaly talk in lengths to the person before I leap to meet them.Thats one of the first things one does.As far as your advice on how to do on the date..well..I think each date is to be treated individualy,each is different.Some of my dates have lasted for hours where some are short and sweet.Most do say they would take me out again but don't ask.That now I'm trying to figure out why they would say one thing and do another.Guess they are just being polite.
As far as what I put on my site,well,I put what Im comfortable with as Im sure thats what others do.
Everyone has a right to their own opinon and ideas.I don't like to diss someone.But just add to what they say. No offense. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2007 3:32:45 PM | | my tidbit if helpful info.. and I got this off another thread.. people who tend to spend too much time online on the dating sites and "other" creepy sites... tend to stick with a "log on" name the same for all these sites.. Google his login name and see what else he's doing.. you could be in for a big surprise. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 3:46:31 AM | OP, I just read your profile. How much do you weigh??? Are you muscular?? 
Oh, and you have some nerve stating that if someone has kids, it's enough to scare someone away. You have kids, who the hell are you?? Are your kids better than someone elses?? Your profile is probably the worst example of a double standard I ever read. Yes, and just to show you how deceiving my profile is: Here's part of my sense of humour: BUUUUUUUUURRRRRP!!!!!  To you!! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2007 6:07:43 PM | That alot of people cannot communicate. Also that you get judged completely right off the bat based on a profile. Sortof like if you are actually looking for certain things you must be a liar, or if you fail to make a good first impression then you don't get to make another simply based on your profile, not who you actually are. I got a hello email from a woman who got in touch with me first wanting to talk I email back. Then get this email back stating why didn't YOU read my profile and see that I only date older men(i guess I was 5 years to young). I politely replied I'm sorry you contacted me ,and my ex wife was 13 years older than me. I guess she judged me pretty quickly she contacted me first OK I dunno about that one.  | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 12:52:04 AM | And yet another Santa joke:
Why does Santa have no children?
He only comes once a year and when he does it's down a chimney!
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Posted: 12/10/2007 6:25:51 AM | Good advice, sir.
Plus-Never spend much $ on a first date.
& If a woman starts telling you soon she loves you, she's probably a phoney or a user.
And then-Don't do long distance relationships-Believe me they don't work.
Finally, if a woman cheats on you, then dump her as: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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Posted: 12/10/2007 9:55:22 AM | | I have learned so much that I now have a Phd in onlines wow and to think I had to be a senior citizen to learn the other side of Love and dating rules in the year 2007? Amazing and now I trust no one and watch my back, Lots of red flags. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 2:26:19 PM | My thoughts:
1) First and foremost, never - and I mean NEVER meet someone without seeing a picture first.
Agreed. If I don't have an accurate view of what this person looks like then I'm not going to bother. It's why I put all sorts of shots on my profile. There is no hiding what I look like.
2) People have varying ideas of what ‘average’ body type really means. Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve always considered ‘average’ to mean height – weight proportionate. Come on people - you know if you are overweight or not! Here's a good rule of thumb - if you waist is wider than your shoulders then you are probably slightly heavier than average. Just because all your friends are a size 24 doesn't make it average.
Totally agree. If you're overweight or obese, then just say it. I don't care who wants to complain that "no one will message me if I put that. no one ever puts 'a few extra pounds' or 'bbw' in their searches" I know that if I come across "average" and it's really "obese", then I'm moving on, and I don't care who wants to call me shallow for it.
3) Long profiles are – YAWN – boring! If it’s more than a paragraph, you’ve lost me already.
I disagree to an extent. I hate long profiles where the woman is beating into my head how she hates liars, players, and cheaters...but won't tell much of anything else of herself. I don't mind if she talks of what she likes in a man, but if it's a long shopping list for some alpha male who wouldn't join POF in the first place, then I move on.
Just tell me about yourself, what you feel, what you like, what you want out of someone...and post your interests as well. I agree that conversation should be where you get the details.
4) If you don’t get a reply after your first (second or third for that matter) email, then they probably aren’t very interested. Take the hint and move on. Sheesh.
I only email ONCE. The minute I don't get a reply I move on. No second or third unless she replies to me. I will not annoy someone thinking they'll cave in and talk to me. I don't care who thinks being persistent pays off or what woman uses the amount of attempts to measure his interest. We're all adults here. Let my conversation sell or sabotage me, not how many times I email.
5) When meeting someone for the first time, keep the first ‘date’ short and sweet!
I always plan first dates to be simple. Like coffee or dinner. If she's into me and wants to stay out then I'll have backup plans in my mind so we can keep going. I also make that night totally belong to her. I don't pull this BS where I'll plan to meet up with pals later so I'll be checking my watch to get out of dinner at 8 or 9 so I can make it to the bar. Uh uh...night belongs to her.
6) Don't post pics of yourself with someone of the opposite sex. It's just frickin confusing.
I personally don't like photos where it's anyone else. Online dating pics should be alone shots. No male or female friends in there. I can't stand it when I see a profile where it's a woman in a pic with 1-2 other girls and you have to guess who she is. Cameras are easy to come by. Get one and take your own pics.
7) Don’t post pictures of your pets in your profile. You with your pet is fine, but a picture of JUST your pet is silly. Like we really care. If I read one more time that “you must love my dog to love me” I’m gonna frickin lose it. We don’t need to love your dog – only tolerate it…and resist the urge to kick it when it jumps on our new khakis with it stinkin muddy paws. While we’re on the subject, don’t post pictures of your kids either. Just the fact that you mention having kids should be enough to scare off most people – you don’t need to post proof of the little brats.
I think the pet thing is fine. My best friend can't stand cats because he's allergic. He'd rather see she has one than find out later. Same deal with children. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 8:23:23 PM | Thats very true, you can talk to someone for months, but when you meet them for the first time, youre pretty much starting from scratch......
If they aren't up to meeting you, move on 90% chance, they never will.
If they don't show up on the first date, they'd better have a really good reason. Odds are, you wasted your time.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 12:58:19 PM | OK I see now Spittdogg is from Oregon lol
Moved there got married left after 3years and came home to sane people.
If Spittdogg is 37 I will sell my knickers to the highest bidder.
Bottom line if your profile makes me laugh you have my attention.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 7:05:21 PM | | I have to agree with the part about giving up after a few emails and no response because obviously the person is not interested. Better yet- give up after ONE contact if you get no response. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 7:18:39 PM | This could come back to bite you in the butt. I've Googled screen names I've used in the past for various sites (not just the two dating sites I've belonged to). Some of the people who come up aren't me at all, and some of the stuff I posted on sites years ago frankly embarrasses me. Things you sign up for or post to tend to follow you for years.
Google his login name and see what else he's doing.. you could be in for a big surprise. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 1:32:04 AM | | one thing i've learned from being on here is that a lot of the women on here (referring mostly to my age range) have no intention of really starting anything let alone meeting you. so i wonder, if they're not serious why be on here? and i think its more for a confidence boost like seeing how many favorites lists they'll appear on. granted, there are a lot of messed up people on the internet looking to hurt someone, i understand completely on that but there are nice and serious guys out there who are trying to meet that special someone. i sometimes wonder why i'm still on here. | |
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