| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:36:18 PM | Testimonials?
Drunken haiku of lost love?
Or sucking-up friends?
The [ENTER] keystroke:
Really meant for paragraphs
And for poetry.
The written language,
Suffers by the hands of hacks.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/2/2007 3:40:08 AM | DIGITALWONDER,,, I was as serious as a heart attack darlin... However, not the time or the PLACE to post that, but this person just kept on showing up wherever I was posting and writing and then sending me stupidity.. Anyhow your right, lets get on with the post and leave that stuff alone..
Testimonials can be a very nice way to say something great in someone's favor, so I don't disagree with them, or agree. I feel the same about favorites though, I don't feel the need to be on a list of favorites so that someone would look and see that I have a load of people who have added me and I look popular. Again I'm not here for popularity so they don't do anything for me personally and I delete asap. JMO | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:06:29 AM | Q T Patutie NO ONE should have to endure what you have had to put up with.
i was going to mail you but iam 6 years off your minimum age requirement on your profile.....ooopps........its obviously too public to write much on here and most likely you dont want to talk about it any more.
i aggree with you totally regarding faves lists and testimonials, my 3 testimonials are from friends i know and have met.
take care miss.................... | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:23:47 AM | I have no problem with Testimonials because they're a separate, unique forum. I know what I'm in for before I enter, so it's up to me if I want to read or not. Testimonials in profiles are no big deal because I rarely scroll down that far....lol.
What I "don't" like, however, is people that put their love drippings about finding Mr Wonderful (since I only look at women's profiles) right in their profile text. If you're REALLY off the market and not available for dating, then simply state so, or hide/delete your profile. To have these long-winded, giddy "Look at me, Look at me" self-promotions after clicking on what I "thought" was a single, available woman smacks of grandstanding and ego-stroking. Kind of like "Hey, look at my bright, shiny, expensive new car....aren't cha jealous, people???"....lol
Wonder if Mr Perfect turns out to be not so perfect months down the road, will she "also" post a heartfelt apology for going off the deep end so early in the relationship?? Hardly.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/2/2007 6:12:30 AM | I think that testimonials are a turnoff as well if people say after 1 or 2 months that they met the one for them. That their new person is perfect for them... That makes me laugh everytime..
That is way too soon to determine if there is a long term relationship for them in the future.
Unless you are psychic, you do not know the future about events.
Even after 4 months, some will think that a friendship or relationship with another person may last, but even long term relationships only last so long as well. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/2/2007 6:19:00 AM | | Well....here's my take on "testimonials". It's like having references on a job application....are you really going to put down a reference that is going to say bad things about you?? I view testimonials the same way, anybody giving them will be having great things to say and if they don't, then the testimonial won't be there so it all seems redundant to me. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/14/2008 9:14:19 AM | One or two well writen testimonials is fine (when the two people have acctualy meet in person), countless ones saying how great/sexy/smartest/funiest person in the world dont really mean a thing!! esspecily when its oviouse the two havent met !
Could be a case of trying too earn extra brownie points before a potential date..and thats prety lame. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:18:06 AM | Waaaaaaaaaaay back on page seven, I had written how one particular man who I have been chatting with for a couple of years had received 15 or 16 testimonials from women. Some had been nice, friendly cutesy notes, others were expressing how deliciously naughty and sexy he is, and others expressing their 'love' for him, but none really bothered me too much.
Well, I still chat with the man, but since then there have been at least 10 more testimonials (and I have no doubt that there will be more) that he quickly deletes off his profile. (I usually tell him Had he left them all showing and I was viewing his profile for the first time, I would have thought, this man is doing nothing but toying with women's emotions here and I doubt I would have said hello. Now, seeing all those testimonials, I must say, I have lost a lot of respect for him.
Testimonials can be a really nice way to express one's friendship or to let others know what a great person that person is...I have learned in this case, that it is also a really good way of exposing the ones who are only here to play games!
testimonials are a way of saying "if you don't want me, the ones in my testimonials do!! and i'm currently f**king them until the right one comes along"
LOL I think that is what I was trying to say, but you say it with so much more eloquence!
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:25:50 AM | Total turnoff!!!
To display one shows a high school mentality where you think this a popularity contest...the more you have the more popular you are. I refuse them and do not contact anyone who has them.
What amuses me is 9 times out of 10 if you click on the person who wrote a testimonial about someone, that person has written one for them. It is almost like they say: "You write one for me and I'll write one for you."
A complete stranger's opinion is not going to affect who I contact or who I reply to. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:37:08 AM | Its not jsut you testimonials are always fromt he ebst friend of the girl. she has to be on your favorites list in ordert o write something about them. When it does not work people take eachother off their favorites or delete their testimonials. Hell I went on the date from hell and Ic an;t write a testimonial becuase:
1. she'd have to be on my favorite's list
2. he/she could deltete a testimonial they did not like.
3. testimonials are from friens and usually not epople who actually dated them or I would have blasted a few of the bad dates I had.
I have 3 POF dates that turned into something more for months. but had 2 dates that were jsut awful.
1. was a girl who met with me and hung out I bought her a drink she initiated a make out session and then said she'd call me and never did. I think her friends might have spread some old highshcool rumors about me. when I run into her in town she ignores me. The last time I saw her she smelled literally like human poo! I guess she does not bath regularly but she did not smell like BO she smelled like poo! At 4 am.
2. I had a date I met on POF she asked me out ona double date. her friend was a jesus freak with track marks on her arms probably a former drug addict who hit rock bottom then turned to religion. who dated my friend. the friend was nice at first then very critical of me and my morals. Who is she to judge me.
As for my date she would not get off her cell phone and got picked up by her "mother" I walked her to the parking garage and thsi mini cooper clown car pulls up with a huge black guy inside who wanted to fight me. She left with another guy and told me that Iw as rude for interupting ehr when on her phone but she was talking to her ex the whole timke whom even her friend was a big violent F- - - -. That was teh date from Hell.
Testimonials are like the the golldes. Oqw my eyes! The goggles..They do nothing! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:22:04 PM | I find them a total turn off. Especially when Its someone sprouting how fabulous the other persons keyboard Is on the opposite side of the world. Ie someone they dont even know and have never met.
But locally still a turn off - not Interested In all the women the man doesnt want but they still pine for him telling the world how hot he Is and not to miss out ( may as well add like me as he didnt want ME - or I am blatantly lying and didnt want him as hes NOT good enough for me - but hey he's all that for you  ).
Total turn off and I wont even contact a man with them there. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 2:20:50 AM | | OP.....of all the testimonials ive read, everyone say what a great catch this girl is, great fun, lovely girl, a pleasure to have met her, one of the funniest girls ive ever met, dont let her down, shes worth more than that, etc. etc. well if thats the case, why arnt they with her, they obviously met and had a great time, so why tell everyone else how great she is, and let her slip away, or is it that she didnt really like you, but you liked her, and by saying all these nice things about her, you hope she might give you another chance.. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:21:06 AM | I agree, testimonials are a humourous distraction. If they are so great etc... why aren't you with them ? Is this sucking-up cyber style ?
Another question.... have there been any juicy but damningly bad ones ? | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 7:13:08 AM | Sorry Rory but 000firefighter did have well over 300 favs before he left this site, it never happened to you so you think it was a lie, I heard he is coming back again, can't wait he was a very nice man. But as far as testimonials go I don't believe in them, why; because most people have only dated them once, date them a few times and their true colors come out, the men I have dated from this site before turned out to be very immature so much for their great testimonials. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/18/2008 7:41:44 AM | Mr Op !
I think you are totaly correct !
Whenever I see a so called "testimonial" I think it's a bit like a car sales broucher, telling me all the good point's of the car !! and just like a car sales broucher. all testimonial's will only tell you all the fantastic features !! and non of the problem's that the car has !!
But then if you are the weak minded type that follow's rather than leads then these Testimonial's are just the thing for you to help you in makeing up your mind to date Mr or Mrs Wonderful. . . . . Everyone to there own!
I like to make up my own mind.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/18/2008 9:37:08 AM | | if they were that good and they had met, why didnt that person stay with them? its a bit wierd to me to write a testimonial about someone, also if they have a few testimonials, they are basically just on here to play around | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/21/2008 3:53:13 AM | Well I've been reading more testimonials and well... how many times have I seen the word 'lucky'.... oh the fella who meets her will be lucky etc.....
Does your testimonial mean you weren't lucky enough ? :) | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/21/2008 9:18:01 AM | I wrote a testimonial just yesterday- about a friend of mine. I think she's the bee's knees, and I said so in the testimonial.
I agree- having prospective or past dates write about the person in the profile might be a bit icky, but at the same time, you can glean a lot of good information from them. | |
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