| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:19:57 PM | So why don't you naysayers state that in your profile, if you have any favs or testimonials please don't contact me because I will not respond. You know I have contacted three woman in this forum already and they have added me to their favorites after saying they wouldn't But I will be deleting them shortly, just wanted to prove a point.
Holy crap can you people find anything else negative about a persons profile.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:27:55 PM | well I'm not going to ask perfect strangers to get into the mind of someone they dont know. I'm a big boy and if I am not a good judge of character by now, I never will be.
The problem with most people is not that there are no good people out there, its that people are poor at choosing the right one.
Look at the actions and not the words. The advice of strangers is not a big thing for me. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:39:11 PM | | It always makes me laugh when I see a testimonial on a mans profile left by a woman who goes way over the top in declaring how wonderful, sweet, funny the guy is blah blah blah. Well why arent you with them then? If they are so bloody amazing. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:40:55 PM |
It always makes me laugh when I see a testimonial on a mans profile left by a woman who goes way over the top in declaring how wonderful, sweet, funny the guy is blah blah blah. Well why arent you with them then? If they are so bloody amazing. I take it there is no room in your life for men who are simply friends? Not lovers who are friends, just men who are friends.
If so, then there's your answer.
If not, well, that's an answer to a different question.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:29:08 AM | I despise Testimonials.
They're self-serving suck-ups by the people that write them and do absolutely nothing to enhance interest by the vast majority of people that look at the profiles they're attached to.
I'm of the same mindset: If you're so amazingly wonderful that people are falling over themselves singing your praises, why aren't you in a successful relationship? In spite of being touted as the greatest thing since sliced bread, why are you rejecting every potential partner as unworthy? If so, that tells me something very different about you, and it's not very flattering. 
I'm especially irritated with these "GORGEOUS" ascii testimonials some horndogs routinely attach to hot-looking women with huge favs counts (guys that add them to their lists). Believe me guys, these women don't need the extra publicity. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:46:24 AM | | Turn off - most of the time they're from vague people who have never met the person. I'm sure Adolf Hitler could write a nice little profile and get testimonials - it doesn't make him a great person. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:11:39 AM | | To me, the testimonials are not that informative. I know of several people that I have met, got to know, then went back and read the testimonials that were posted. The ones who posted really knew nothing about the person that I got to know, they had only chatted online, never met in person, so did not know the truths about these people. I do know that if I try to post an accurate testimonial, it probably would never be seen by another human being, IMHO. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:12:44 AM | Complete crap...I agree with (Catinka2008)..."Turn off,most of the time they're from vague people who have never MET THIS PERSON..
I'm sure any one of us could find some lunatic to pose as a suitor and add a testimonial saying "What a beautiful person, writes poetry, gives money to charity, works at the food bank and gives of themselves 24/7"...Oh, "I havent met this person yet"...Geez
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:33:09 AM | I take it there is no room in your life for men who are simply friends? Not lovers who are friends, just men who are friends.
If so, then there's your answer.
If not, well, that's an answer to a different question.
To be fair there is no room in my life for any man right now.
But yes of course I understand they could be just friends, but why go on about how superb and wonderful they are? Surely if they are one in a million then they would want to date them??
ps the person on my profile, I have known for frikking years and have spent loads of time with him, before you start lol | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:57:25 PM |
But yes of course I understand they could be just friends, but why go on about how superb and wonderful they are? Surely if they are one in a million then they would want to date them?? I don't know about everyone - I'm not the one writing all the testimonials. I've written one or two, I think...and, yes, I did drone on a bit...
Circumstances sometimes prevent dating - age, distance, finances, family committments (I'm talking about single parents here, since, IMO, married folk should only be dating their spouse) - who knows what else? And it may be that the person is just(oh, how incredibly wrong it is to say, "just") a friend...not a potential lover, partner, or date.
But that doesn't prevent me from being grateful for the friendships I've found, and appreciating the person on the other side of that friendship.
It is, after all, called a testimonial - "a public acknowledgment expressive of appreciation or esteem"....
As a friend I hope my testimony will make others look at that person's profile as go, "Wow! What a neat person!"...
But I see that many here are too jaded to hold that view also...
and perhaps that answers questions about me...
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:02:19 PM | | Personally, I've never taken a POF testimonial into much account, if at all. The relatively few I've seen have been either been from women friends, or men who apparently didn't "make the cut" (or vice versa), but friendship ensued. If a testimonial is too intimate, or sounds like the man saying them is still hoping for something, then I'd likely stay away entirely. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:04:04 PM | It's not just you Marc,
The testimonials turn me off too....if the person is that great why aren't they together? I won't even consider dating the guy who has testimonials.
If you're in control of which ones are posted then how would you ever know if a potential interest really isn't some weirdo?
And what's the point of a testimonial anyway?
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:07:47 PM | | Well I'm still single after many years and I'm a great catch. I'm kind, warm, caring, thoughful, all the good things, but there is no where to meet men. I have very few friends and I do not like the dating sites. As far as testimonials go, I think it's great. First of all, 75% of the profiles are misleading. I also love reading about success stories, I hope that for myself one day. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:08:04 PM | I am very indifferent as to whether they exist on my profile or not even though they do. The point is, however ... that I don't require anyone to inflate my worth or nonworth but it is not my place to take the words of a kind individual and remove it like a slap in the face. I value another's kindness and won't remove a testimonial because I think it is cramping my style?? Wow, loosen up .. this is a free dating site where people should simply be allowed to be themselves. In my eyes, they are there for one reason and one reason only ..... for entertainment purposes and I totally get a smile or a laugh out of them with the people who have gotten to know who I am. If you need to rely on a testimonial without finding out on your own who that person is, you need to start thinking more on your own and not allow others to do your thinking for you. It doesn't really matter what others think re the testimonials .. but I do care about the people who are writing them and who I have gotten into my heart. Let them be. It's supposed to be lighthearted and fun ... not a sell job for me. Maybe others need that kickstart, but I do just fine on my own. I won't allow myself to be pretentious where I feel the need to delete something that was written with a genuine thought in mind and all in a fun manner .. all because I think it cramps my style ..?? Relax! This is far from the centre of my life where I am particularly concerned about others thoughts re me or my testimonials on a dating site. But I do value the kindness that others display and I won't knock it.  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:48:19 AM | If there's mutual interest, the "only" thing that's important is meeting in person. Testimonials have zero bearing on success or failure and have no redeeming value in my eyes.
I'm not even sure how they appear? The "Help" blurb says anybody on your favs list can put one your profile and you can approve/delete them at your discretion. Apparently that means it's automatically visible, and the only way you'll know one is there is if you periodically check your own profile? If I ever see one I'd delete it and send a nice message to the author explaining that I don't accept them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 7:21:05 AM | Most of the testimonials I see on POF about women look something like this:
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I don't think it adds anything in terms of information or content. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:05:48 PM | | Big turn off. I dont think they do justice for anyone...especially where a woman tries to sell the guy..I mean if he was so wonderful what happened with her. I have to say I bypass any profile that has them and frankly he could look like Benicio and it would still turn me off...I also stay away from anyone with a big list of favs and keep my favs list to almost none for that same reason. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:15:22 PM | I think they are pointless. Most are of the "GORGEOUS" or "SO HOT" variety written in dollar signs and seem to be territory marking like animals do. It's usually some guy from one side of the country putting it on the profile of a woman from the other side of the country. Hey it's great that people might feel that away about another person, but why does it have to be advertised on the profile for everyone else to see? Why not just have them printed up on t-shirts so you can wear them around? Same thing isn't it?
I think a private email saying whatever the testimonial might say would work.
And I don't care what anyone's opinion is on a woman. The only thing that matters is what I think. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:44:56 PM | I know others have pointed it out but if they think the person is that great......then why aren't they dating them......and if they are that awesome why are they still available?
The whole thing gives me memories of grade school LOL | |
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