| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:17:24 PM | | In order to testify for a person, the person must put you on their favorites list. As for being on a lot of favorites lists, I have learned that many people are "favorited" as a quick and easy way to e mail them: girl to girl, girl to guy, guy to girl, guy to guy----many people on this site meet at the parties and become friends. Friends e mail friends! It has nothing to do with whether or not they are dating...I have also noticed that some of the testimonials are written by people that live hundreds to thousands of miles from the person they have written about. The only way they could have gotten so "friendly" is through conversation---e mail or telephone. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:18:03 PM | GREAT GUY! AMEN brother..the first thing I am wondering is how many times they slept with whom (if there is multiple) and if they are 'so fantastic'??? why didn't the person in the testimonial snag them? doh | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/30/2008 7:17:19 PM |
Did you find the lyrics on lyrics.com? Nope, liner notes. If I know a song at all, I can usually name it in under two bars, sometimes from the first note or two. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/8/2008 1:24:21 PM |
Message: GREAT GUY! AMEN brother..the first thing I am wondering is how many times they slept with whom (if there is multiple) and if they are 'so fantastic'??? why didn't the person in the testimonial snag them?
because your not always the one robbing the train ~Sister,
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/8/2008 1:42:42 PM | For those who throw up (being the operative phrase) the question of if they're so great, why isn't that person with them.........
How many people did you have just one date with or maybe just met for a coffee or someone to do things with and they were a great person..........so why aren't you with any of these people?
The logic is flawed, it would mean that every person you "liked" or got along well with you should BE in a relationship with that person.
So let me ask all of you, why aren't you with any of the people that you've "liked" that were really good people........(consider it rhetorical.....for you Saints fans....haha that means you don't have to answer). 
As far as the assumption it's a person they slept with.........sheesh! Some people can have friends AND keep their clothes on the whole time......really. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:32:42 PM |
As far as the assumption it's a person they slept with ... sheesh! Some people can have friends AND keep their clothes on the whole time ... really.
 Amen bucsgirl! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 11:06:41 AM | That's my question! If you're writing a testimonial about somebody you've met/dated/emailed with and they're THAT FANTASTIC, then why aren't you dating them. When I read a testimonial, I always wonder what experience prompted the writing of it!
I mean, this IS a dating site right? If I met a really great guy, why would I want to advertise him to all the other women out there???
I guess the exception would be if you have friends that are on POF also and want to give you a plug - but if that's the case, then for crying out loud - say "I've know this guy/girl for x # of years..." | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 1:46:25 PM |
The logic is flawed, it would mean that every person you "liked" or got along well with you should BE in a relationship with that person.
Well, it depends on the content of the testimonial. If it's a general positive feedback, it's okay.
But I've seen some testimonials as if they "gushed" about the person as if they were in complete love with them. And it made me wonder if they have feelings for the person they left
Sometimes I wonder if the EXTRA features of this site is doing more bad than good. 
I wonder if such features are sabotaging peoples chances on here. But really, you can't judge anyone on here, until you've really met them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 1:57:30 PM | | I got a big kick out of the one that said, "He is married" and another one that said "Hang on to your wallet if you go out with this guy." I guess the recipients of these "testimonials" didn't notice them on their profiles. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:07:43 PM | God, I HATE TESTIMONIaLS...and was actually asked to GIVE ONE.
This is insecurity to the MAX......I know who I am and what I am worth..I dont need someone to validate me. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/12/2008 3:06:14 AM | Some testimonials give you some info... sometimes.
There was a testimonial on the profile of a guy who contacted me saying he's not in a relationship while a new testimonial left on his profile said "thanks for the flowers. I love you too. Your girlfriend so and so. Ladies this guy is taken". When I asked him he never replied and deleted the testimonial"
Another "single" man had a testimonial from his WIFE on the profile.
Some men have testimonials from scores of beautiful slim blondes for example, I would highly doubt he's be interested in me. The early days when I did not think it was relevant, I proved myself wrong. However, most testimonials are very badly written and it's a pain in the bum to read them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:08:42 PM | I'm finding them a turn off. Like someone else said, "if they are so great, why aren't you with them"?
On the flip side of that, I recently read one from an ex-wife about how she adored him, and would still be with him if she could. It was his only testimonial. . . .lol, imagine that. Evidentally they lived in different states. . . .for whatever reason. Ok, so he is on a dating site, and maybe she did it on purpose, or as a joke. . . . but considering that he did not have to display it, did he actually think it would impress someone? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 1:08:08 PM | Usually you find vice versa testimonials that speak the same  tune.
However, occasionally you can come across not reciprocated testimonials and these can be quite funny and worth every penny
So yes, I do scroll down ... | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 1:42:00 PM | | It is a turnoff in the same way that if you were to hear "You and So and So would get along so well! You'll love him / her." That kind of throws a wrench into it by overhyping it. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:41:50 PM | I agree with you 1txgirl if he was "ALL THAT" you would still be with him!
So I have come to a few conclusions here if she is writng,
"what a catch he will be for the right woman" >>>means NOT INTO THIS ONE HERE take him quick(or she is his sister)
"he is just the most sweet and honest man", >>>means-as long as he is with you far away from me.
"he is a real gentleman">>>>means-Yeah no spark here, just checked his criminal history and found out he killed and ate a woman for not kissing on the first date!!!
LAST BUT NOT LEAST .........
" HE IS MY FRIEND, we talk we have great conversations about nothing but he is and will be good friend to you!">>>>means-Oh please if I write this damn testimonial will you leave me the hell alone.
(all in good fun here)
but hey isnt the testimonial the way criminals and total creeps are weeded out? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:57:39 PM | This isn't just a dating site, people also find friends, chat partners, etc.
And reading about a person can help make a choice. People who write things about you may be friends, or people who like you, they don't have to sleep with you...
Testimonials have their place. You just use some caution and try to verify for yourself if the person is all that.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:56:33 AM | I stay away from those, if the person is so great... like stay with the person who wrote the testimonial and don't bother me.
I also despise pictures with other women... immediate DELETE | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/25/2008 12:12:49 PM | I've often wondered about them too. I mean if someone thought you were so great, why arent you still dating them?
So I deleted mine. lol.
I dont think they can be "faked" though. No one is going to write one that doesnt want to say something nice or want others to see. | |
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