| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/11/2008 11:53:13 AM | | POF really would be a better place if they ditched the cheesy testimonials as well as the favorites list or at least didn't have the number of favorites on a person's profile. Neither feature helps a profile. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/11/2008 12:19:32 PM | they don't bother me, if someone thinks they're great, that's lovely for them
it's not gonna influence me one way or the other - i don't know the people who've written the testimonials either | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:37:30 AM | I find testimonials to be strange on a dating site. I ask myself this, if the lady that the testimonial is being written for is such a great catch, why have you not acted for yourself? I sometimes see that the testimonial writer lives far off. Then I ask myself, how could you possibly know enough about the person to render a very intimate opinion of whom the testimonial is being written for and about? If the writer spent enough time to gain the intimate knowledge about the person, then he should have been able to start a relationship for himself.
Testimonials are great for things like; insurance sales people, plumbers, lawyers and toilet paper. But on these things we can always say that testimonials are like opinions are like a*s holes, we all have them and some of them stink!
Does any one think that these testimonials are written at the behest of the person whose benefit the testimonial is written for? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:40:41 AM | What's funny is, I see ALOT Of Testimonials on Women's profiles by men....so I check that MAN'S profile to see if that VERY woman (the one who wrote the testimonial about), wrote a testimonial on him.
Answer: Nope.
It's one-sided most of the time. 
POF really would be a better place if they ditched the cheesy testimonials as well as the favorites list or at least didn't have the number of favorites on a person's profile. Neither feature helps a profile.
Yeah, not to mention the "last 5 posts you posted" link at the bottom of your page....sometimes I wonder if these "Nice little features" are sabatoging our chances with members of the opposite sex. lol
1. Favorites list
2. Testimonials
3. The 5 links to our last topics we talked about. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:47:51 AM | Maybe the man writing the testimonial for the woman is hopeful that it will get him somewhere with the subject of the testimonial!
I would love to see a real honest testimonial. Something like this;
She is a great lady, knows how to cook and really knows her way around the sheets. I recommend her highly to any of you guys out there, who likes a good meal and a great romp in the hay. I definitiley rate her ***** (5 stars)     | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:53:57 AM |
She is a great lady, knows how to cook and really knows her way around the sheets. I recommend her highly to any of you guys out there, who likes a good meal and a great romp in the hay. I definitiley rate her ***** (5 stars)
LOL Y eah, I wonder if the testimonials are meant for people who had past tense DATED them. Then they rate them based on their experience with them? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 5:56:52 AM | Testimonials are subjective if you ask me... also if a really cute gal, for ex. gives a testimonial for a guy I'm into, and she's not his sister or mother, I get put off thinking the guy has alot of females in his corner... so maybe the competition is too tight...
Just a thought. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 12/31/2008 11:22:54 AM | In almost every instance the Testimonials I’ve seen are either self-serving, suck ups, or attempts to curry favor or gain better standing with the person in question.
Many are also bogus for the very reasons many have already brought up – the persons writing them live way too far away to have any real, day-to-day insight of the person they’re writing about. I even know of one instance where someone was actually “elicited” (asked) to write a testimonial, even though the would-be writer has never contacted the person???
As much as I love this site and Markus, another POF feature with good intentions run amok. People either don’t do it properly, take advantage of it for the wrong reasons, or simply screw it up (Favorites being the other). | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 12/31/2008 1:22:30 PM | | To me a testimonial is an incredible waste of my time. Personal chemistry with the person is a singular event, either YOU click with them or you don't. It really doesn't matter what someone else might think. Also, the testimonials from personal friends are nice, but are they objective? The ones from chat friends or email friends are nice too, but they are done with the buffer of distance, not knowing the inner person. The ones from other dates have to have at least ten grains of salt attached. If you depend on someone else's opinion of what this person is like, then you aren't fishing, you are buying packaged fish sticks. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 11:45:24 AM | wow, I am surprised by the responses on here about this! I think testimonials and faves lists are great! But then, I do view this more as a networking and dating and community site more than just a find my husband/wife site as many do apparently. If I saw a guy with testimonials, I would enjoy reading them and the more he gets along with women and has been found favorable, the more I think well of him. I have only one on mine, and yes, I did meet and date the person (when I lived in Seattle) and it was a joke referring to a title I had once posted on the top of my profile, so it was kinda a fun thing that he could add. I certainly don't think what it seems everyone thinks, why aren't they with this person? I think there are as many answers as there are people. But then, I have learned through time that you can love someone to death and they you, and not be right for each other. It's reality and it doesn't mean it's bad or wrong. We don't always get what we want. As for faves, I am constantly reminded by some emails on here of how many I have, but honestly, many are friends from Seattle, some are true faves interested in me, and many have boldly stated they just like my pics with no interest in me, but want to save my page for future reference! LOL I think that's fine, and don't see a problem with it. If I like a guys pics, I will probably save him too, so I can find him easier, even if he doesn't live nearby and we probably won't meet or get together.
I wonder, is it because I do other networking sites and am used to these forms of communicating and am not seriously looking for someone right now that it bothers me less? Or am I just weird? Well, Happy New Year everyone!
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 12:38:14 PM | why would a guy (am a guy). leave a testimonial about a woman that has clearly put me in her friends zone. Sorry just funny to me that a guy advertises "hey I met her she's great but she rejected me  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 12:42:47 PM | | I'm not a fan of testimonials. The first guy who put one on my profile scared off a few other guys - it weeded out egotists who were put off by it, and weak-willed men who tucked tail, thinking they'd "lost out," but in general, I thought it was a presumptuous thing to put one up in the first place. I don't like it. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 1:22:19 PM | Yeah, I mean, I think the only kind of guy that would leave a testimonial for the lady is a relative
or a guy she just friendzoned. Also, I wonder what would make a guy that was just friendzoned post a testimonial? Is he trying to demonstrate he's being a good sport about it?
Anyone care to email the guy that was friedzoned, "Hey, why did you leave a testimonial for that girl? "
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 2:30:42 PM | A turnoff for me. As I had a previous profile up here before someone I had only emailed left a testimonial on my profile which baffled me. I did not really know this person and he was constantly sending me emails to which I had to insist he shorten them. It got to the point I had to block him and then so bad I had to delete my profile because I am sure he made up fake ones and was still contacting me. It was annoying. This time I will keep my profile hidden as I do enjoy the forums.
So, yes I find them a turn off.
However, I do wonder about the ones that say the person is so great and someone should give them a chance. Why isn't that person with them if they are so wonderful? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 3:21:36 PM | However, I do wonder about the ones that say the person is so great and someone should give them a chance. Why isn't that person with them if they are so wonderful?
Because most writing the testimonial secretly desire a more intimate relationship with the object of their affection, and if circumstances were different would try hooking up with them. Instead they write in almost third person about how wonderful he/she is (depending on the gender dynamics) as a way of hiding their true infatuation, but hopes the person they're writing about picks up on it for later, follow-up opportunity.
For the most part I can see through the ruse and know exactly what they're trying to do.
Obviously "some" testimonials are genuine, but most are fake or written with alterior motives. The problem is we don't know which is true. That's why whenever I see a woman that has them on her profile I immediately dismiss her from further consideration. She's either blind to it or loves the attention so much she can't bring herself to just delete and have a "No Testimonial" policy to avoid misinterpretations.
If the testimonial defenders don't like my "opinion" on the subject, too bad. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 4:03:47 PM | wow again! I thought for sure I would come back and see some people backing me up, but again everyone is afraid of these harmless things.lol Well, it's probably good so many are dismissing me then otherwise who knows how much more mail I would be getting! (please note, I am injecting humor so don't anyone get huffy from my response now ;) ) But then again, I am on here for friends and not really going for a serious prospect, so I probably really see it in a different way than most on here. I was indeed "friendzoned" by my testimony person but I have no hard feelings and love having it there to remind me of the silly day we came up with all these crazy profile titles to see if we can entice people to our page, and so you can understand my testimonial better, mine at the time was "Chariots of Fire really makes me hot!" LOL
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And yes, I love attention, there, I've said it! Now, give me more! LOL | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 4:14:54 PM | | ^^^^ evrybdy, like you said, it sounds like you use the features on here more for social networking than dating, kind of like how people accumulate "Friends" on My Space as some sort of competition. If that's the purpose you seek then I'm obviously not talking about you. I'm talking about the others that use testimonials for less than sanguine reasons and try hiding their true intentions, and they seem to be the vast majority. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/1/2009 4:20:39 PM | Aaah, good point then, motownmaniax, I figured it was something like that. True, ones that are too syrupy and gushy aren't really such a good idea, but friends letting others know that that person is cool to get to know, would be ok with me. I guess I need to invest some time in seeing what kind of testimonials everyone is talking about. Thanks for the heads up!
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/4/2009 7:25:53 AM | I didn't go through all the responses - but I did get the gist that most thought they were a little ewwwwww. Especially when it is people in my age bracket - kind of looks like the stuff you would read in a high school notebook - juvenile and "high schoolish"
But to each his own - the favorites list is comical to me as well (yes I am on some so that makes he a hypocrite), and while I am on a rant, the "emoticons" kind of creep me out as well, if I look at a profile and there are 986,000 of these little critters running around on it, that is a big turn off.
But I do like "Do you own a car"? Where the heck did that come from? How about "Do you like house plants"? "What is your favorite vegetable?" "What color are you curtains?"
But other than that, I love Plenty of Fish  - Did I just do what I think I did? | |
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