| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 1:46:25 PM |
The logic is flawed, it would mean that every person you "liked" or got along well with you should BE in a relationship with that person.
Well, it depends on the content of the testimonial. If it's a general positive feedback, it's okay.
But I've seen some testimonials as if they "gushed" about the person as if they were in complete love with them. And it made me wonder if they have feelings for the person they left
Sometimes I wonder if the EXTRA features of this site is doing more bad than good. 
I wonder if such features are sabotaging peoples chances on here. But really, you can't judge anyone on here, until you've really met them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 1:57:30 PM | | I got a big kick out of the one that said, "He is married" and another one that said "Hang on to your wallet if you go out with this guy." I guess the recipients of these "testimonials" didn't notice them on their profiles. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:07:43 PM | God, I HATE TESTIMONIaLS...and was actually asked to GIVE ONE.
This is insecurity to the MAX......I know who I am and what I am worth..I dont need someone to validate me. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/12/2008 3:06:14 AM | Some testimonials give you some info... sometimes.
There was a testimonial on the profile of a guy who contacted me saying he's not in a relationship while a new testimonial left on his profile said "thanks for the flowers. I love you too. Your girlfriend so and so. Ladies this guy is taken". When I asked him he never replied and deleted the testimonial"
Another "single" man had a testimonial from his WIFE on the profile.
Some men have testimonials from scores of beautiful slim blondes for example, I would highly doubt he's be interested in me. The early days when I did not think it was relevant, I proved myself wrong. However, most testimonials are very badly written and it's a pain in the bum to read them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:08:42 PM | I'm finding them a turn off. Like someone else said, "if they are so great, why aren't you with them"?
On the flip side of that, I recently read one from an ex-wife about how she adored him, and would still be with him if she could. It was his only testimonial. . . .lol, imagine that. Evidentally they lived in different states. . . .for whatever reason. Ok, so he is on a dating site, and maybe she did it on purpose, or as a joke. . . . but considering that he did not have to display it, did he actually think it would impress someone? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 1:08:08 PM | Usually you find vice versa testimonials that speak the same  tune.
However, occasionally you can come across not reciprocated testimonials and these can be quite funny and worth every penny 
So yes, I do scroll down ... | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 1:42:00 PM | | It is a turnoff in the same way that if you were to hear "You and So and So would get along so well! You'll love him / her." That kind of throws a wrench into it by overhyping it. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:41:50 PM | I agree with you 1txgirl if he was "ALL THAT" you would still be with him!
So I have come to a few conclusions here if she is writng,
"what a catch he will be for the right woman" >>>means NOT INTO THIS ONE HERE take him quick(or she is his sister)
"he is just the most sweet and honest man", >>>means-as long as he is with you far away from me.
"he is a real gentleman">>>>means-Yeah no spark here, just checked his criminal history and found out he killed and ate a woman for not kissing on the first date!!!
LAST BUT NOT LEAST .........
" HE IS MY FRIEND, we talk we have great conversations about nothing but he is and will be good friend to you!">>>>means-Oh please if I write this damn testimonial will you leave me the hell alone.
(all in good fun here)
but hey isnt the testimonial the way criminals and total creeps are weeded out? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:57:39 PM | This isn't just a dating site, people also find friends, chat partners, etc.
And reading about a person can help make a choice. People who write things about you may be friends, or people who like you, they don't have to sleep with you...
Testimonials have their place. You just use some caution and try to verify for yourself if the person is all that.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:56:33 AM | I stay away from those, if the person is so great... like stay with the person who wrote the testimonial and don't bother me.
I also despise pictures with other women... immediate DELETE | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/25/2008 12:12:49 PM | I've often wondered about them too. I mean if someone thought you were so great, why arent you still dating them?
So I deleted mine. lol.
I dont think they can be "faked" though. No one is going to write one that doesnt want to say something nice or want others to see. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/11/2008 12:13:48 AM | Yes they are a turn off. I don't need advertising, I will figure it out myself.
Had a guy once ask me to give him a testimonial. First off, that was a baaad sign 
And second, I personally don't need praise from a now ex-lover or need to advertise the fact that I was with someone else.
 I stand on my own, thanks | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/11/2008 11:53:13 AM | | POF really would be a better place if they ditched the cheesy testimonials as well as the favorites list or at least didn't have the number of favorites on a person's profile. Neither feature helps a profile. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/11/2008 12:19:32 PM | they don't bother me, if someone thinks they're great, that's lovely for them
it's not gonna influence me one way or the other - i don't know the people who've written the testimonials either | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:37:30 AM | I find testimonials to be strange on a dating site. I ask myself this, if the lady that the testimonial is being written for is such a great catch, why have you not acted for yourself? I sometimes see that the testimonial writer lives far off. Then I ask myself, how could you possibly know enough about the person to render a very intimate opinion of whom the testimonial is being written for and about? If the writer spent enough time to gain the intimate knowledge about the person, then he should have been able to start a relationship for himself.
Testimonials are great for things like; insurance sales people, plumbers, lawyers and toilet paper. But on these things we can always say that testimonials are like opinions are like a*s holes, we all have them and some of them stink!
Does any one think that these testimonials are written at the behest of the person whose benefit the testimonial is written for? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:40:41 AM | What's funny is, I see ALOT Of Testimonials on Women's profiles by men....so I check that MAN'S profile to see if that VERY woman (the one who wrote the testimonial about), wrote a testimonial on him.
Answer: Nope.
It's one-sided most of the time.
POF really would be a better place if they ditched the cheesy testimonials as well as the favorites list or at least didn't have the number of favorites on a person's profile. Neither feature helps a profile.
Yeah, not to mention the "last 5 posts you posted" link at the bottom of your page....sometimes I wonder if these "Nice little features" are sabatoging our chances with members of the opposite sex. lol
1. Favorites list
2. Testimonials
3. The 5 links to our last topics we talked about. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:47:51 AM | Maybe the man writing the testimonial for the woman is hopeful that it will get him somewhere with the subject of the testimonial!
I would love to see a real honest testimonial. Something like this;
She is a great lady, knows how to cook and really knows her way around the sheets. I recommend her highly to any of you guys out there, who likes a good meal and a great romp in the hay. I definitiley rate her ***** (5 stars)    | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 4:53:57 AM |
She is a great lady, knows how to cook and really knows her way around the sheets. I recommend her highly to any of you guys out there, who likes a good meal and a great romp in the hay. I definitiley rate her ***** (5 stars)
LOL Y eah, I wonder if the testimonials are meant for people who had past tense DATED them. Then they rate them based on their experience with them? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/26/2008 5:56:52 AM | Testimonials are subjective if you ask me... also if a really cute gal, for ex. gives a testimonial for a guy I'm into, and she's not his sister or mother, I get put off thinking the guy has alot of females in his corner... so maybe the competition is too tight...
Just a thought. | |
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