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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/20/2009 11:37:28 PM | | Testimonials stink becuase onyl people in your favorites can give one. A bad date would no longer be in your favorites or one that did not work out. The only people who give testimonials are friends of the person. You really cant; trust a friend who ahs nothing but good things to say about them. No honest criticism. there needs to be a button that you cna click if you dated a person followed by them clicking on it in their inbox to agree to that. then they write a testimonial for each other. I got all the ideas! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/21/2009 5:04:20 AM | Feel ambivalent about them. Kind of like someone riding your bike, and saying "I give this ride two thumbs up!!" but really the bike might of been a piece of... well you know. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:34:06 AM |
The only people who give testimonials are friends of the person. You really cant; trust a friend who ahs nothing but good things to say about them
For this reason I don't take them seriously. What would you expect them to say? She's a super major colossal b*tch from the deepest darkest pits of hell who preys on the souls of young men and wants a sugardaddy, but she's a great catch?
I like to be the one to make my own decisions as to how someone is, you can say they're great all you want, I'll make that appraisal when we meet. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:41:30 AM | | I believe the reason the "great" person the testimonial is left for isn't dating the poster because they arn't that into them and got rejected and they hope the recipient will give em another chance | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 7:08:38 PM |
step888 said,Yes, OP, Testimonials are a turn-off for me, too. I immediately 'write off' any guy with a testimonial. First off anything good they say will be biased, and yet they're not married to the dude so there must be a reason for that.
Hey now,I payed these folks good money to give me a plug and now your saying it was all for not.
Either way it reeks of insecurity to me. A man should stand on his own, and speak for himself.
Right hon, and those folks who do not have a pic,oh but wait, you don't have a pic or is that a red flag too?  Have fun with that one and thanks for the heads up! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 9:17:56 PM | | I have many men comment on my testimonials...the first thing they say to me is, "I don't have muscles like your friends".... so many insecure people in this world.... my friends are very handsome and work hard on thier bodies... and if people get intimidated by them....oh well....too bad, its not and never has been a contest. I am proud that they care for me and are in my life, gorgeous or not. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 9:21:14 PM |
Testimonials stink becuase onyl people in your favorites can give one
I would not mind any man I dated from here to write anything he wanted about me... I would actually welcome it. It should be mandatory for people to give thier opinions...
because you know what they say about opinions...they are like a.........s, and I forgot the rest of the saying but its a good one. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:03:28 AM | Marc- testimonials are a crock of shit!
On the simple basis that a persons perception is their reality.
Oh and lets not forget theres a lotta vendiction and emotional instability out there too. Testimonials will be based on opinions and emotions and probability of 'just' the facts is generally likely to be last cab on the ranks. Hope I'm wrong on this one but I imagine many potentially damaging &/ or (even) hurtful comments likely come across. Look at the odds. People leaving 'testimonials' are doing so bc the relationship went nowhere for them. (Doin the maths ... ) Good Luck to u xx Suz xx | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:11:24 AM | Testimonials are very much like the favorites list..........something listed for all to see, but really not meaning much, or understood, until you actually get to know the person.......one on one.
I have given a few to my friends that I know on here from the forums, and have received some as well, but in the end, just as I have done with my favorites list, I delete most and keep my profile manageable, realistic, and much more private.....
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/28/2009 5:24:27 PM | | I agree that testimonials are a complete turn off. Exactly, who needs to know your sex partners. If I look at a profile that has testimonials I won't bother to message the person. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:42:07 PM |
I agree that testimonials are a complete turn off. Exactly, who needs to know your sex partners. If I look at a profile that has testimonials I won't bother to message the person.
That's a lame way of looking at things. I think people with an attitude like yours is more of a turn off than testimonials. I think the reason I recieved the testimonials is because I treated these womren with the respect and dignity they deserved.
It's you who is showing a lack of respect and dignity towards those who have something nice to say. I guess that kind of comrodary doesn't exist in your world. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/28/2009 7:54:00 PM | I read one man's profile who seemed to come across rather "rough around the edges". Not my type, but he had 2 testimonials from women who were saying how sweet he was, thoughtful, etc. So I thought I would give him a shot. Well, he came across even worse than his profile! He was crude, crass, inappropriate, was looking for sex and not a relationship......just an over all jerk! Without these testimonials, I would not have let this occur.
I have given one testimonial,and the same man has given one to me. If people can be truthful, and not overly gushy, I think they are nice to have. More than two would make me wonder. There is also one woman(lots of big, blonde hair) on here that seems to make it her mission to do testimonials. She pops up on several men's profiles. (This might have been mentioned already....didn't read all of the posts.) A friend of mine has her as a testimonial.....he has no clue who she is! He thinks she makes his profile look good! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:21:33 AM | if the end user controls what testimonials are displayed then its a total one sided view anyways
if you really met a person and they said anything to open the eyes of others the end user they left it about would never display it for public view anyways
to me a total wasted tool on here | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:03:30 PM | Testimonials are good. Saves time. I have seen them where the guys profile states he wants a long term relationship and doesn't want people who message others for sex or intimate encounters, yet that is all he wanted.
this particular one actually got very rude and said if there was nothing sexual to talk about he wasn't talking to me. Needless to say, after lying and claiming he worked at the same place I did because he didn't know I was their web designer and am there everyday, that I knew he was lying.
I posted it on his testimonial that if he claimed to work at such and such a place it was a lie that he was on disability and chatting on POF all the time. Also if the ladies wanted to basically just get laid he was their guy and that most of his profile is the opposite of what he says.
I guess it was a blow to his over inflated ego and he decided to threaten me because now he doesn't get as many emails as he used to.
Figured no sense in people wasting their time with a liar. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:09:50 PM |
On the simple basis that a persons perception is their reality.
Oh and lets not forget theres a lotta vendiction and emotional instability out there too. Testimonials will be based on opinions and emotions and probability of 'just' the facts is generally likely to be last cab on the ranks. Hope I'm wrong on this one but I imagine many potentially damaging &/ or (even) hurtful comments likely come across. Look at the odds. People leaving 'testimonials' are doing so bc the relationship went nowhere for them. (Doin the maths ... ) Good Luck to u xx Suz xx
there seems to be a lot of jealousy flowing in this thread. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:29:56 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^Snicker. I have to agree, my first testimonial posting friend. Oh how it makes us look silly and vain to have niceties on our profiles written by those who do know us, have known us a long time and don't care who knows it. 
~OT~ In my tme here, I have been through more rotten stuff than I care to think about. I once had so many testimonials it was probably silly, but as time has gone on, many of those people have left the site and taken their thoughts of me with them when they deleted their profiles. The ones on my profile today? When I think I am so alone on this planet, I read them or click on them to email those who do know/love me and have for a long time. I don't care who reads them to gauge me, I care what they say TO me about how they feel about me. JMO  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:44:02 PM | ^^^^^^   
I guess we are just a couple of the average garden variety attention whores.
<div class='quote'>Feel ambivalent about them. Kind of like someone riding your bike, and saying "I give this ride two thumbs up!!" but really the bike might of been a piece of... well you know.
naaa........ I can spot an as.shole posting a mile away...... | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:13:22 AM | | Generally its an idication that someone is just trying to make a freind look good. Everyone has friends although they may not be all on POF. I find those profiles with multiple testimonials questionable because if so many guys or gals finds them a terriffic person, what went wrong and why the heck arent these fouks seeing one another. I prefer to find out for myself and be my own judge of a person. | |
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