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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:52:44 AM | Jeep: Not a single one of my testimonials says that I am a great cook --- so it tells a reader something right there.
People love me in spite of the fact that I am not a cook 
And I think it was Justin who mentioned that he also looks at the profiles of those who leave testimonials. Just wanted to say that I do that as well. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:16:03 AM | I would only leave a testimonial to the girl I'm seeing and that's all I want on mine....it doesn't bother me if she has them on hers though because she's a great girl and I don't mind ppl knowing that......(even though seems like half the ppl don't read full profiles...lol) | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:19:34 AM |
Jeep: Not a single one of my testimonials says that I am a great cook --- so it tells a reader something right there.
People love me in spite of the fact that I am not a cook
Hey!! Maybe some people actually do have truly honest friends!! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:55:24 AM | Jeep: Honesty is something I certain value in the people who are in my life. So yes, I'd say my friends have written some honest testimonials about you... it comes up frequently that I like to talk and there's even mention of my nerdiness
I suppose though that having honest testimonials relies on having honest friends and not everyone values honesty as much as I do so... perhaps it is still all a guessing game after all.
That being said though - I think testimonials are a positive thing :> | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 11:48:22 AM | We need a "have you dated this person?" with a 1 to 10 scale.
________________Player---2---3---4---5---6---7---8---9---Husband
Smell
Humour
Cheap
Believable
Sex Talk
Presentation
Cute friend
(optional)
Good night kiss
Position variety
Breakfast chef
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Testimonials will prevent some people from sending you a message if you have too many. I understand why, but I'd never let it intimidate me. | |
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MISS13
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Joined: 12/4/2005
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 12:16:11 PM |
But, if a person is on a number of favourites lists and has NO testimonials, I'd wonder why they didn't have any friends singing their praises.
You can't write a testimonial about someone you have on your favs list.....they would have to have you on theirs....therefore the number of favs list they are on means nothing | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 12:19:14 PM | Doh!
*smacks forehead*
OK, that's a good point - though I have a lot of people on my favourites list who also have me on their own.
So the number of favourites list they are on compared to testimonials could be indicative of them not forming friendships online enough to add people to their list to write about them.
Or maybe they're afraid they will get bad ones?
*shrug*
I suppose if I was the sort of person to not want to write testimonials for my friends or to actually choose to have any listed on my profile - then I wouldn't care about them.
Realistically, I tend to think that they are fun and sweet and honest most of the time.
Edited to add: vvvvvv - I noticed you have are on a huge amount of favs lists and have no testimonials; thought I should mention that my comment was a general one not a specific one :> | |
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MISS13
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Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 35 | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 2:14:13 PM |
But, if a person is on a number of favourites lists and has NO testimonials, I'd wonder why they didn't have any friends singing their praises.
You would?? I don't get that one. Is this a high school popularity contest or something?? What if you just haven't been here all that long? There's lots of reasons for not having testimonials...perhaps even as simple as feeling people should be judging you on what you have to say about yourself?? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 2:47:10 PM | I always delete people who add me, and if I didn't, I would still delete testimonials. I never read them, because I like making up my own mind.
Of course the testimonials are glowing, who is going to leave a nasty testimonial in their profile? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 4:58:58 PM | Oh hevk there OP those are not from people whom have dated the person!
Most testimonials you will read on anyone on pof are from friends who know the person and their just telling you how they feel about the person .
And some are from people whom have met the person at maybe a pof meet or party and found them a really nice person . And so they posted a testimonial about how they found this person to be like . And yes it may help some others get a feeling as to what the person is really like if they should happen to meet them in person. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:08:41 PM | Ok maybe it's me, but if someone loves a person so much and they are soo sweet and adorable and only worthy of the best - they why isnt' the testimonial poster with that person????
Hmm????
Just a thought! | |
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Joined: 12/16/2006
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 11:17:27 PM | | Sometimes it doesn't work out. Sometimes you are not meant to be together. One person I dated from here gave me a testimonial and I did for her. She's a wonderful person, and any guy would give their right arm to be with her. It didn't work out between the two of us, for different reasons. That doesn't mean that she didn't think I was great as well. It's an honest opinion from someone, as my opinion was as well. I, for one, read testimonials. I understand that it doesn't work out sometimes between people, and even if it's the person's friends writing them, who knows you better than your friends? I believe testimonials give you an insight to the person's character. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 11:20:24 PM | re: cukymonster --
Hmmn...
Don't you have friends who love and appreciate you for who you are but you aren't compatible with them for a romantic relationship?
For example - the female friends who posted testimonials for me. We're all straight so no matter how fond we are of one another - that's as far as it goes.
And I *have* dated a couple of my male friends who wrote me testimonials. When it all comes down to how I see the world, I can live without a lover or a significant other but I couldn't be happy if I didn't have friends. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 2:40:48 AM | Hey S C
I have a lot of friends - but I don't need them to 'vouch' for the kind of girl I am - it all just seems like a ploy to try to convince people of what you are...
Frankly if my 'friend' cares that much about me - to say how great a kisser I am, how amazing I am or that I deserve to be treated right - I just don't need it. I know my friends think the world of me, I don't need them to market me...
I agree - couldn't be happy without my friends - love them all to bits. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:26:13 AM | I have three testimonials.
1) Is from a good friend who i met on POF. We got along great but distance was an issue... so we never got to meet..
2) Is from my sister-in-law who is a sweet heart to the end!! Looking out for her "older,richer,better looking" one of the family 
3) Is from my Girly Woman.. whom i have fallen for utterly and completly :) She is the super dee duperous person i have ever met. And i think hers basically warns people to stay away and that I am hers :)
See they have a purpose!!! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:32:38 AM | | The testimonials are nothing more than words on your monitor... behaviours speak volumes... it's quite possible some people do not live up to the praises placed in testimonials on their profile... that's when the truth comes out. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:41:13 AM | | ^^^^says the guys with 0 testimonials on his profile , who really cares what others write about you . Opinions vary , thats life , besides your own judgement is always used and words of others .... are hardly ever listened to | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:45:16 AM | Personally I find testimonials a turn off.
Thats why I've asked those who have offered to write one for me, not to.
I prefer to get judged on my own merits instead of what others say about me.
Additionally, the testimonials seem a bit cliquey to me and thats something i want to 100% avoid. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:56:03 AM | Hmmmm.....I have a lot of them. It comes from knowing a wide variety of people from various places and taking the time to form friendships with them. I don't want to remove them because they took the time to write something for me...in hopes of making me look good
I find them interesting and intriguing and I think it's really up to the individual who reads them how they want to interpret them.
We are always finding reasons to be put off......WHY? I just don't get that. If the only thing preventing you from writing someone is that they have lots of favourites or lots of testimonials.....maybe you need to look closer and give your head a shake. LOL These are people who lots of other people think are cool or whatever...why would you NOT think it's worth knowing them?  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:18:07 AM |
If the only thing preventing you from writing someone is that they have lots of favourites or lots of testimonials.....maybe you need to look closer and give your head a shake.
Perhaps its a matter of looking at the numbers and wondering... does this person have room for anyone else? Are they all about gathering lots of friends, or are they really looking for someone? If I contact this person, am I going to be just one of a crowd?? I never did like that being part of a crowd thing. It goes against my grain.
There's enough competition in the rest of life. I'm really just not that comfortable with what sometimes looks like a lot of competition here.
It's mostly just a matter of personal perception. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:20:26 AM | ^^^^^^^^ TOTALY agree with you d-belle !
If a man has Testimonials on his profile i'll read them.
I do NOT think any less of a person with 0 testimonials.
I wrote one for my friend bestknight. He was there for me after I was in a car accident a while back. Not just a massage LOL. He was there for me, he was a gentleman and he did Not hit on me. So damn right I am going to say nice things about him !
YES I know he has a LOT of testimonials from the 19-25 year crowd.
IT is extremeky stupid to ask "Why is he still single then?"
because if you actualy read his profile you would see that HE is looking for a woman around his own age. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:23:48 AM | Testimonials are like a popularity contest it seems. The more favorite's lists you are on and the more people you add as favorites, you have a better chance of having glowing praises heaped upon you.
Sometimes the best things about a person are those left unspoken. It adds to the mystery of getting to know that person a little better. | |
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