| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 11:37:24 AM | | cliquey , popularity , these seem to be the way most people think if they are standing outside the crowd they want to be in . I have many people that have added me to their favs list , which i find verry flattering , i also have a few people that have written testimonials for me which i also find verry flattering . Anyone that has met me knows that neither the popularity or the clique bullshit appiles to myself to me that high school sh it dont matter , you either like me or you dont . Stop using these terms as an excuse for not being socially accepted , its like beating a dead horse ... not everyone can fit in with the crowd they want to fit in with ... quite frankly I dont choose any crowd , i talk to anyone as for thinking less of someone that dont have any testimonials ... reread what I typed it has nothing to do with thinking less of i`m not that shallow =] | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 11:42:34 AM | i think the testimonials are a good thing ... i was seeing someone for a couple months in the fall ... she had debated on contacting me and it was what ppl had said about me in my testimonials that made her contact me ... now sure in the end it didnt work out relationship wise be we are still friends ... but we wouldnt even have our friendship if not for the testimonials
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 11:52:37 AM | | personaly i think the testimonials should be kept private, its someone talking about you, i wouldnt want someone to sell me to others about what i a m like or if i am liked or not i agree with some of what wbmn wrote i could careless who likes or dislikes me i am who i am not tring to be someone i am not and i wont change my ways bc a few ppl dont like it .. for some ppl they really do need to grow up smell the coffee and stop judging ppl .. but accept them pof is a cool site and so many ppl have the need to hurt other ppls feelings or thoughts ... just open ur eyes ya never know whats deep down inside a person .... just my thoughts | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 12:46:19 PM | Testimonials a turn off?? Can you think of ANYMORE ridiculous reasons to not give people a chance? "You have friends who like you so I must hate you!!" Yep.... that makes a whole lotta sense!!
In my opinion, someone that is loved by many tells me that they are a great person and definitely someone I would want to get to know. When I see a guys profile that had a lot of great testimonials in it i'm quite impressed. It gives me a good insight on how others feel about him. Someone who is respected enough to have testimonials written about them tells me that they must be good at giving respect also.
IT IS NOT a popularity contest and i'm sorry if some of you think of it that way... it must suck for you to still be living in the past thinking this is highschool.
To NOT message someone because they have a few or a lot of testimonials is really holding yourself back and making you miss out on meeting some really great folks...obviously they are great because people have taken the time to write it and say so.
A turn off to me is someone who is going to judge others for being liked... GRRRRRR you must have really hated the prom queen and king in the good ol'days eh? Damn popular kids taking the spot light off of you.
Someone who is well liked personally for me is someone I DO want to get to know... you can tell a lot about who a person is by the people they are friends with. If you can't depend on your friends to say nice things about ya then who can ya depend on?? I want to see my friends happy and I would more than love to see my friends find true love. I cherish and think very highly of all my friends and I have no probs making that known to others.
Just because a male writes a testimonial for a female or because a female writes one for a male doesn't mean that that person must be undateable. It means they are FRIENDS!! They don't have that romantic chemistry between and there is nothing wrong with that, that doesn't make them any less of a good catch in someone elses eyes. Like I said... I want to see my friends happy and in love, just because I personally don't have those romantic feelings for them, I still know they are a great people and will make someone very happy. If I can help them to find their one and only by saying a few TRUE nice things about them then what is wrong with that?? It's simply people saying how THEY feel about that certain person. If you think it's all kaka then well...that's your opinion but I feel it's really sad that people are being judged for having others say nice things about them.
In the end it all comes down to how YOU feel about that person but isn't nice knowing ahead of time that they are well respected, nice people in many others eyes? Ohhhhhh never mind, that's a turn off to you lol | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 1:06:42 PM | | LMAO too funny... i'm blunt and I get to the point lol We're all adults, no point in sugar coating things. Sometimes ya gotta smack the smart into a few folks when giving their head a shake doesn't work lol | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 1:24:48 PM |
If a see a girl with three testimonials and all of them that wrote one, have use drugs on their profiles. It gives me more information on her and her crowd.
Her 'crowd'? What is this, high school? I have friends who are occasional pot-smokers and some who are not. Just like I have friends who listen to hip-hop and some are into punk, some are Wiccan and some are Catholic. You can not judge me by my friends other than to say that I am open minded. I don't personally indulge, but don't care if others do (just open a window please!  )
My first testimonial is from a man I met on here who has become a great friend and the other is from an ex (yes, an 'EX' OMG lol) with whom I am still very close to. Now, because I'm not looking for long term, this may not be detrimental for me however, I can see how it would be if I were. Then again, I couldn't be in a relationship with a person so insecure that they'd negatively judge me by the fact that I have male friends. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:19:26 PM | Some of them.. seem like there is just words put out there for the sake of words.
Others.. well, Its nice to know how appreciated you are by one of your friends. :)
When I leave someone a testimonial..its because they've had a really great positive impact on my life.. and anyone perhaps checking those people out.. well its nice to see that.
I dunno. just my thoughts. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:19:51 PM | If anything I need more testimonials...I somehow think my stats are falling and need to show the ladies that I'm more then just a banana...I'm also a client. Wait a tick....that's not right. *Shrugs* best I can do I suppose.  I suppose I should put up a sign around my neck "Would you want this?"  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:30:07 PM | a see a girl with three testominials and all of them that wrote one, have use drugs on their profiles. It gives me more information on her and her crowd.
Justin... dood I have seen you write alot in the forums , i agree with pretty much nothing you have to add ... as always . I do have to say this tho ... youve reached a new level with the comment above ... sad that you would * judge * someone based on their friends , are you scared you might lack the will power and break down and smoke a joint ? addictive personality ? seriously...that was one dumbass thing to type
btw patch ... good post ...lets hope someone reads it | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:43:38 PM | PATCH (with great wisdom said):
Just because a male writes a testimonial for a female or because a female writes one for a male doesn't mean that that person must be undateable. It means they are FRIENDS!! They don't have that romantic chemistry between and there is nothing wrong with that, that doesn't make them any less of a good catch in someone elses eyes. Like I said... I want to see my friends happy and in love, just because I personally don't have those romantic feelings for them, I still know they are a great people and will make someone very happy. If I can help them to find their one and only by saying a few TRUE nice things about them then what is wrong with that??
^^^^^^ I completely agree so I just had to comment to add my kudos to what you had to say. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:50:25 PM | I do smoke a joint once in a blue moon whobanned, it was just an example. And everyone makes judgements to a certain extent. I think i phrased it as finding out as much information about the person I was going to message and would look into who were there friends to help me with who the person really is. In alot of cases, your friends do emulate parts of you and who you hang around with usually attracts to you for things in common. So the statement is not that much of a dumbass one. But, I hear what you saying. I am not gonna make a judgement purley on those facts.
But, that is just you telling it as it is. I cool with that. Cause you the pof's only sincere tell it how it is guy. blah blah blah, no sugar coating lol right. But, you have been pretty tollerant lately. lol. Cmon, need the old whotook back lol. Getting too soft. lol
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/30/2007 11:37:37 AM | | My testimonials are from friends. One is a long time friend I went to college with, and we shared lots of laughs. The other is from a friend I met here on POF. Both of them state that I am a family person and here for the forums, for those guys who don't get it the many times I say in my profile that I do not want a date. It has cut down on the number of emails of people trying to strike up more than friendship. Both are great guys that I think deserve wonderful ladies. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/30/2007 12:40:26 PM | I could care less if A:someone has 100 testimonials or B if they have zero nor do I care how many I have.Is it a poularity contest?I dont see it that way, but some might.If I get one, thats nice and appreciated but Im not gonna cry in my beer cause Billy has more teste's than me,wait I mean testimonials I would get upset about the teste"s thing.
I do wonder about the favorites list , for strangers its one thing but what if youve met someone and hung out and add them to your favorites ,but dont get added back,would you consider that a polite "hint"? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/30/2007 12:59:35 PM | | yes they can be turn offs, i hate it when a guy/girl writes nice things about the opposite sex friend and then promises violence if you hurt them. grow up, and nice mentally unstable friends you have there. some are cackblockers as well. but then again some can be very nice. shag | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:50:13 AM | Testimonials are a turn off IF...
they're describing the person as a FABULOUS LUVER...we've all had partners, that's a given, do you really want a testimonial on his/her abiliites in bed ? IN ONE SMALL WORD...."EW"
Not only are those type of testimonials a turn off - but I regularly delete myself from favs if I don't know them nor speak with them nor feel an interest to make such contact.
WHY do people keep themselves on favorites of 50+ lists?? Does that really make you feel good?
Holy smokes...I JUST WANT TO BE SOMEONES #1 | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 2/15/2007 8:50:05 PM | Well, MY testimonials are certainly not a turn off for me. I so rarely view my profile and when I do and my friends have written how they feel about me for everyone to share....MAJOR TURN ON!!!
This site has brought so many people together, whether lovers or friends and I don't see any reason that their opinions shouldn't be shared for others to see. All it does for me is make me realize how very blessed those individuals are to have so many wonderful friends in their lives ~ and how very blessed I am most of all for all the beautiful, incredible people who have captured a piece of my heart!  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 2/15/2007 9:01:03 PM | | Depending on how you wrote your profile, the testimonals can attest to what you've already written. Like the seal of approval, anyone who thinks a testimonial is a turn off needs a shot in the head, give me a break, would you rather want people to write all the negatives about ones self? Oh, that sounds like a much better idea! Puuuuulease! Take a chance be an adult and take shit for what it is. Jesus, people find the dumbest things to complain or contemplate over | |
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