| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:08:55 AM | I do not see testimonials as a turn off but a great tool to be able to learn more about the person. I have a testimonial on my profile from someone that I met on the forums and had to chance to get to know a little better.
If it is not something that you are interested in reading then by all means do not read it. Simple. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:17:44 AM | | The point, Kewlwest, is that sometimes I may think I'm looking at an interesting profile, until I see a testimonial that blows my initial impression out of the water. I'd say if somebody wants to post a testimonial, they should run it past the subject first (and past a spellchecker). JMHO | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:18:04 AM |
sometimes I may think I'm looking at an interesting profile, until I see a testimonial that blows my initial impression out of the water. I'd say if somebody wants to post a testimonial, they should run it past the subject first (and past a spellchecker)
All of my friends who have written me testimonials have heart. Most of them are literate, but a few are "spelling-challenged". I don't hold that against them. If they were writing for a literary periodical, I would EXPECT and DEMAND proper spelling and grammar. But I'd rather have a friend with heart and soul than someone without those rare qualities who can (nevertheless) dot the proper I s and cross the proper T s.
Bottom line is that my friends consistently warm me with their comments not because they promote me, but because of who they are. I'm lucky, but I'm also "deluded" and vain enough to think that like attracts like.
The people who prejudge on such superficial and assumptive ignorance only show their own isolated, false superiority. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:40:14 AM | Sunny,
Well read and decide what you want to do. If it bugs you that much then skip to the bottom and read the testimonial first LOL. it is all up to you.
As for spelling, I am not going to hold it against the person that posted a testimonial with spelling errors. I think that is what I understood from your post. Unfortunately not everyone is the spelling bee champ of the world. They are posting from their heart and what they have seen of that person and thats what is important.
The basic goal of testimonials are to share about the person. What gets shared is what makes things quite interesting. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:47:21 AM | Everytime I read a testimonial to a woman written by a man (or vice versa) I always ask myself the same question:
"If she is so damn great, why don't you keep her for yourself?" instead of pitching her to other guys. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:54:23 AM | Testimonials like favorites lists seem to lead some to wild assumptive leaps about the individuals. Like viewed me, another feature that's largely misunderstood.
But I guess it's easier to start a thread than to either read an FAQ or just ask someone. For the people who regularly post on the forums, most are friends they've made through the forums and maybe a few they've met at an event or visited. There are the obvious cut and paste testimonials, but those are few.
Any feature can be used in a way it was not intended. It's simply a gross and erroneous generalization to think everyone who has many on their favorites list or testimonials is either an attention whore or promiscuous. I've never had someone write me that thought I wouldn't write back because of my favs list. I don't know where someone comes up with that silly idea. I don't write everyone in my yahoo contacts every week, I don't call everyone in my phone list every week either. I guess there may be some who do write the people in their favs list every week or even every day, that doesn't mean everyone does.
Just another example of those who think well just because I do it or think like that, everyone else must, too. I don't need to say how false and narrow minded that is, but well I just did.
Reading these threads is amusingly pointing out those who embraces such a limited mindset. It's very kind of you to do the rest of us this helpful service.  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:57:07 AM |
Naturally they are always full of praise(who's going to write a negative testimonial?)
Oh, but negative testimonials do indeed get posted. They just don't stay on the persons profile for long.
After all a testimonial is a form of advertisement and who is going to leave negative advertisement up on their profile.
Which is exactly my point.
As long as the profile owner has the option to delete less then favorable testimonials then the entire testimonial subject itself is about self promotion. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:20:31 PM | | I had a friend contact me on here because there was a male pervert harassing her on here because she did not want to date him,,,guess what ,there are 3 women on his profile that wrote him testimonials to say what a great guy he is....he has gone as far as threatening this women,,so much for testimonials...he is 55 from Cape Breton NS, he has many pics on his profile, and one is a shirtless pic....and he also has a goatee .I hope she contacts the adm ....so people watch out for this idiot...he also has many pics on his profile...she has kept many of his emails and I have told her to show them to the adm...so once again so much for testimonials... | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:38:28 PM | | Someone emailed me, and I saw they had a testimonial attached. Some almost tear-jerking lamentation about that they are no longer together, and how good of a time they had and how nice of him was to fix her computer. I didn't even want to talk to the guy, because to me to have a testimonial like that attached means he is reveling in someone's attention. Also, I don't want to know someone's romantic/dating/sex history. I guess an argument can be made that if a guy has some quirks to be avoided. But I don't suppose anyone will keep an openly negative testimonial. Overall - thumbs down t the idea. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:53:44 PM | Yes they are big time. Anyone who needs a bunch on their profile to advertise for them is bull. NO I haven't contacted admin yet but I will. This creep has changed his name at least 5 times and sends me stupid little messages with innuendoes in them, demanding that I change my profile and blah blah blah and these women with the testamonials on his profile. Hard to believe really, he's creepy, he has almost made it full time job to watch where I go and what I type in the forums lol.. seriously get a firmer grip on reality. JMO  | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/29/2007 11:06:17 PM | Okay, so clearly in the eyes of the majority I am a "bad guy" for being shallow and judgemental. I stand by what I said....like attracts like, illiterate ramblings attract illiterate ramblings, and I want no part of them.
Guess I'm a judgemental ****, so be it; I know what I like (and dislike). | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/30/2007 5:58:02 PM | The testimonials can mean many different things to many different people.
The majority are pretty much the same in word and thought which I find a bit much and lame and not from the heart.
Some of them remind me of a Dear John letter's in reverse,
then there are the one's who profess there love and warn us that we treat him or her right or how lucky we are or yet a least we are friends or that they lived to far away, great! aka sounds like they are telling me they had there chance and now is your turn. red flag? sour grapes? lol who knows...
Sheezt, or maybe she will give me another chance if I ramble my chase?
right on Romeo.
I do like the one's from the heart,which are honest and genuine. For me they are quite obvious and they to me are one's who give and make this site better.
They speak on a even keel, they are unbiased ,knowledgeable and have moved on with there life and are not here to toot there own horn.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/30/2007 6:23:43 PM | To me they're not a turn off! They are a total compliment!
I would be interested in a guy who has testimonials!
I have them on my profile. A couple of the guys I've met from POF when I first got on here six months ago, decided after our first date to write what they thought of me. That’s all it is…their opinion of what they saw in me. I for one, feel honored to have made such an impression! (I had no idea I was doing so!)
I didn't ask them to do it, but I've had mixed reactions from people who have contacted me since then.
Some guys are crude and ask “gee, what did you do to them to get them to write that about you?” (Totally showing where their mind went) This of course won no brownie points with me.
Some guys have contacted me just to say “great testimonials!”
Either way…all they are is someone’s opinion of you.
Take it for what it is…a true compliment! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/30/2007 7:56:33 PM | | agree that a testimonial is a compliment. i have several, all were totally unexpected and made me feel really nice. it is up to the reader to decide if they are genuine or not, there is no obligation to write to anybody so if people don't like them they do not have to read. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/31/2007 11:32:59 AM | well i dont know what i expect to read in a profile but if i see a womans profile and it has lots of guys writing how sexy she is etc and how wonderfull she is and how lucky some other guy will be who "snaps" her up..........yuk
the same goes for a guys profile with lots of teen girlies all saying how gorgeous he is and how fit he is and how they wish it could be them with him.
what !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
its so nicer ( personally speaking) to read nice sensible testimonials writing about their friends and of when two people have actually met each other. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/31/2007 11:55:05 AM | | I agree with summer999 totally. Testimonials do not mean that the writer is not interested in the person he/she wrote it for. I have chatted with many nice ladies on this site, and some not so nice (which are, by the way in the minority). True, sometimes testimonials are shallow, but often they are well meaning. I would not judge a person to any large degree based on testimonials until I learned more about the person. Negative testimonials would seem to be a waste of time, as they only fuel anger and bitterness on both sides. I would take testimonials with a grain if I was viewing a profile, in the same way the # of favorites is often rather meaningless. The testimonials I have received were compliments that I appreciated. I did not ask for them. Similarly when I post a testimonial it is because I want to compliment the lady based on the contact I have had with her. I also think a person should not add another as a favorite with no contact. This is not a popularity contest for most of us. Just my 2 cents. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/31/2007 3:32:24 PM | OK then ROMANTIC.SOUL why do you continued to ADD ME at least 5-10 times a day as a favorite and I kept asking you to please stop it and I kept all the emails and why did you continue to send me emails that were unwanted. You post in this forum because you know I am talking about YOU.!!!!! You are following my forums and basically harassing me to the point of me removing my profile from something that I find entertaining to me. WHY because you don't take rejection well ? I find it extremely interesting that you would post in this forum for one, and extremely embarassing for you that you would have the adaucity to call me out and think I wouldn't come out and say what you are doing.
I have the email where I ask you to please stop bothering me and quit adding me as your favorite, you changed your name from dudelove55 to caperforever to romantic.soul,, shall I continue to call you out here in this forum ??????????????????
YOU SAID
I also think a person should not add another as a favorite with no contact. This is not a popularity contest for most of us. Just my 2 cents
WHY keep adding me to your favorites list.. I am not here for a popularity contest I made you well aware of that from our first conversation.. now STOP and leave me alone and quit following my forums and my posts... GROW UP please. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/1/2007 3:48:22 PM | Q T Patutie are you serious about your last post.......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i think its also down to choices too, some say they like testimonials......some dont.
hey lets just get on with things......things far more important than testimonials....lol | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/1/2007 3:59:42 PM | | YES!!! Finally someone who thinks the same about testimonials. When it comes to testimonials about the men, I find it's usually women who are writing them, and more interesting to me is the fact that they themselves are usually members of POF; so the first thought that goes through my mind is...."if he's so great, why aren't you dating him?" Not only that, but I prefer to form my own opionion. What one person likes in someone, may be the reason someone else breaks up with them...so I don't put too much stock in testimonials. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/1/2007 4:30:04 PM | not everyone who writes a testimonial is writing about some one who is either their partner ( which would appear silly on a site like this ) or some one they want to bed.
i have wrote a testimonial about a female friend of mine and vice versa......but neither one of us wants to bed each other.
i do tend to aggree tho that it appears to be mainly women who write the majority of the testimonials.......usually about guys they see as fit or " hunky"......lol.
not everyone who writes a testimonial wants to actually have sex or even date that person they are writing about, there could be loads of reasons why some people write their testimonials.......but in some cases if one actually reads the testimonial....the answer can often be found in the testimonial its self.
a lot of the testimonials written by younger women ( often written in text speak ) about guys they tend to think of as "fit" or "hunky" are really funny to read.
personally if i see a womans profile with loads of testimonials from guys it tends to put me off that person especially so if all her testimonials is stating how gorgeous she is.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:15:20 PM | I've read some really great testimonials,most are by women
about their friend. That's alright who would now the person better than their
best freind.
Most of the ones I've read are from guys,
that are pi$$ drunk at 4 am,
I don't put much value in those.
All in all it seems like a nice thing to do for a friend,
If you're trying to help them out. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:35:37 PM | I belive the testamonials are a good thing.If a person has more than one ,its more than likely that they haven't found what they are looking for yet in these people but made some freinds along the way that want to let others know how nice they are and all that. I dont belive sexual encounters should be posted though. Thats definately a turn off to know that they haven't picked any one person yet, but sleeping with many.Not Atractive at all. | |
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