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blkgld
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Joined: 9/29/2007
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/7/2007 7:25:39 PM | because they're human? if an attractive person walks by, you look.
I was in a situation where the wife went WAY overboard when her hubby flashed me a thank-you smile for moving out of the way of his stroller. i politely smiled back to acknowledge his gesture & she yelled at the top of her lungs "did you see the way she looked at him?" then she scolded him in front of everyone. i felt bad for the poor guy. after that i bet he wasn't so nice.. i cant stand insecure witches. she should be greatful that she married such a cordial, appreciative person. NOPE, she dogged him for it. | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:28:06 AM | We as a species are attracted to beauty, pure and simple. If the symmetry is there, we look. Both men AND women have a chemical reaction that compells us to look at the opposite sex (or the same sex :)) if they appear visually beautiful to us. Biologically, everyone is compelled to look,... just don't touch. We don't need no drama folks.
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/8/2007 2:58:24 PM | Men will sometimes take more than a quick glance as they are imprinting the image of an attractive woman. Sometime this occurs simply because the woman is attractive, or perceived as 'sexy' in one way or another. We are primarily visual creatures, at least at some level. A longer look provides a better imprint for later recollection.
However, the intent behind a stare can be intimidating. Especially when groups of men stare, as described by OP. In that situation, it would be amusing if she had simply approached all three men with a funny comment. I am willing to bet the situation would have changed dramatically. Of course ladies, choose your targets well when you do this. However, a confrontation in a furniture store with wives present sounds pretty safe and potentially quite humorous.
On a different note, do ladies always assume that a couple is together? As a single male with numerous female friends, I am often in public with a woman. Before reading this, I might smile at another woman in public even though I was with a platonic female friend. To me I was implying that I am single. Now I wonder if they are reading the scenario differently. | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/8/2007 4:34:29 PM | Well it could be one of two reasons:1. Maybe the wife doesn't know she has a husbandbecause of other priorities, or 2. Maybe some of these "sluggers" haven't looked in the mirror lately to notice that they resemble a Sumo wrestler! | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/8/2007 5:04:03 PM | | I think it is in really bad taste to stare if it makes your spouse insecure. On the other hand I think it's a wonderful thing if both of you are secure and you're able to tease each other about as a form of foreplay. The unfortunate part is men are horribly worse about the reverse happening. How many guys have you seen loose it if they feel their wife is being checked out? | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/8/2007 6:32:19 PM | Maybe after your married to your husband for 5, 10, 15 years or longer you can answer this question for yourself. For me, this reminds me of asking Daddy, "why do we look at the stars in the sky?" Answer:" Because they are there, and they are pretty."  | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/12/2007 9:57:11 AM | Sometimes I look at women when I'm with my wife because she says things like..."Look at her! Is my butt better than hers? And what about that hair style?"
We people-watch together. It can be very interesting seeing all the different kinds of people there are. | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/12/2007 1:37:54 PM | | awww hell why does it always have to be disrespectful? i look..always have always will. i forewarn women that yes i will look...if you're with me or not. would she rather me try and be sly about it and her catch me or be upfront about it? there are 6 billion people on this rock we call earth and i'll be damned if i'm gonna spend the rest of my life only looking at one person. lookin is lookin. as long as u don't try and talk to someone else...no harm done. god gave me eyes for a reason..why not use em | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/12/2007 4:35:02 PM | I'm absolutely sickened by the stupid, facetious and downright uncaring responses from most of the men n this thread. I see you trotting out the same tired old excuses for disrespectful behaviour, time and time again.. eg.. 'We're visual' Its in our nature... I'm always gonna look, doesnt mean I want to do anything'. BS!! Why then, in a beginning of a relationship, does a man hardly ever take his eyes off you and rarely checks out other women? If he can hold it together then,.. why not when he's married or in a LTR? It is disrespectful to his partner.. and as a woman.. i do not want to see other women disrespected like that. I've been blatantly checked out in the same manner.. and I've had disgust for the the disrespectful men who do it.. and felt so sorry for their partners.. NO i dont and will never take it as a compliment.. its disrespecting his partner,.. and he's disrespecting me.
As for you guys who think its all posessiveness and insecurity on the womans part if she doesnt like her partner looking at other women.. consider this... when the two of you got together.. you take your sense of identity and merge it with the other persons, therefore keeping your sense of self, and also having a sense of the TWO of you. When one person breaks this feeling of it only being the TWO of you, by blatantly checking out the sexual attractiveness of another.. then the emotional investment made in the TWO of you is harmed. Its not funny, its not harmless fun.. its just pure selfishness on mens parts to think this behaviour is fine. If it was ok,.. why do so many women object to you staring. Would you mind if it was your woman that men kept staring at? I think you would, especially if your partner kept checking out other guys when shes with you. Disrespectful... yes.. and moreover.. tacky and an indication of the fact that the man who's staring at another woman in front of his wife.. is capable of doing so much more when shes not with him. decent women who respect themselves and other women will not find this behaviour at all acceptable and will look with contempt upon men who do it. DA | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/13/2007 6:14:32 AM | god damn devils advocated...you've thought about this one before huh? a little too long perhaps. and when the hell did identities start merging? i was not sent a memo! maybe i don't want my identity playing with the other kids. he's a danger to himself and others! yes staring can be just harmless fun. i stare...and i encourage whoever i'm with to do the same. i'd be a hypocrit if i didnt. hell if she sees a good lookin dude...point him out! i point out the good lookin females and am man enough to admit when another guy is good lookin. if a woman objects to men staring at them.. well your only recourse is, don't leave the house...ever!! are my eyes meant for just watching TV? would i mind if other men are staring at my lady? not at all. remember...not a hypocrit. and here's a shocker... in all my years of staring..it's never lead to anything else. i've never talked to another woman. asked for a number...flirted, etc. sounds to me u might be speakin like a burn victim.
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/13/2007 11:03:34 AM | | To Cornbread.. No not a burn victim.. I wouldnt allow anyone to get away with that sort of behaviour,.. so no, its not personal,.. and as for the 'game' you and a few others on here play, of spotting the hottie,.. well,.. i have to wonder at thereasons why you would do this. What sort of exclusive relationship is it that celebrates the two partners checking out other sexually attractive people? Oh, i'm sure you see this as open, and secure, and mature,.. but it just seems a bit naff to me. I for one, would not like to think I'm investing my emotions and love into a partner who can ride roughshod over my feelings by blithely pointing out the hottest female on the pavement,..and expect me to laugh about it, and do the same. makes me wonder if you even care about your partners, if you pick out the people you and she find attractive. Seems like thats a game with some serious undercurrents there. i suppose it come s down to this.. some men realise this is bad mannered and discourteous.. some men will never have any sort of good manners or courstesy about them.. and will always engage in boorish behaviour. DA | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 120 | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 121 | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/13/2007 10:16:06 PM | | DA, you would not "allow" anyone to get away with that behavior? what are u prison warden? u must be one of those chics that likes to run the relationshp with an iron fist. either that or you're one of those women who damn well better find a husband...cause you're probably already a wife. you have eyes. you're going to see people. unless you mean to tell me that when u walk down the street u have your head down as to not look at anyone. you're gonna pass by and see dozens or more people everyday and you're not gonna look at a single one of them? and if u do look at them you're not gonna think to yourself "that person is attractive"? if not..well u got a dull life ahead of you toots. and as for ill-mannered and discourteous? those are a few of the more nicer traits i offer. | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/14/2007 5:32:24 AM | To Cornbread. You think you're well mannered and courteous? Adressing me as 'toots' is'nt what what I'd call corteous. i've had the good manners to address you by your name,.. but it seems you wish to try and denigrate me by de personalising me to 'toots'. So much for the manners and courtesy you offer Cornbread.
Its all about degrees Cornbread. You know as well as I that sometimes, just to get from A to B, you negotiate a path around people on the street. if I am with a partner,.. then no,.. I wont be looking, staring or checking someone out as I pass,.. because funnily enough, when I have a partner,.. I only have an interest in them. I have enough respect not to be rubber necking at 'hottie' as they walk by. Simple as that. And no, I would not continue to see anyone who blatantly checked out others whilst with me. thats what i meant by not allowing it. I would, nt be nudging them, arguing, or causing a scene. i'd simply tell the partner that i found it disrespectful, and if they felt they simply must gawk at others, and check them out blatantly in front of me, then my choice would be to end that relationship. A relationship with no respect is not going anywhere IMO. | |
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| Why do married men stare at you when they are with their wives?
Posted: 10/14/2007 8:17:04 AM | well DA you have fun with that whole thing u got going on there. just please be careful not to trip over your feet as your walking around not looking at anyone. or maybe invest in a guide dog? and hopefully one day the stick can be removed succesfully from your ass. or at the least get it trimmed. and re-read my post darlin...i said i offer ill-mannered and discourteous. i'm also known for chauvinism, arrogance, and on my good days a blatant ***hole.   | |
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