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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/9/2007 6:02:55 PM | is this guy on pof I would love to have alittle comunication with him. I'm older and divorced and very old school, jerks like that well it wouldn't be polite to write what i'm thinking get away from him you deserve better.... good luck | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:55:38 PM | "Things have really escalated and we see each other often"
Okay, as a guy, as soon as a girl calls me names or directly insults me she is history with no chance of reconciliation. NON!!!!!!
If you still see this person at this point, I would think you need to reconsider your issues and why your tolerate this "ABUSE"!!!!! YES IT’S ABUSE!!!!!
I have a no tolerance policy for abuse, male or female...it's not necessary at all!!!
Name calling is for the weak minds who have nothing intelligent to say….sorry but ya hit a nerve. | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/9/2007 8:04:51 PM | It's really simple, for him, you became a scapegoat to lash out to, which is just wrong. He is showing his true self. We always want answers to feel better about situations, but at the end of the day: actions speak louder than words. Sometimes why really don't need to know why, we just need to be shown the true nature of someone, That in itself is the answer.
Don't ask why, just say goodbye. | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/17/2007 9:17:06 AM | | hi,it sounds like hes playing mind games with you ,do like tom likess,(i thunk thats how you spell it)well,hes on az radio 101.5fm(tell the stud to get OUT,OUT,OUT,GET OUT) thankyou,leon.ps,ill bet you 2dollars that you dont stay a way from him | |
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Mia828
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/17/2007 10:54:51 AM | I'm sorry to hear that happen to you. Don't even listen to him.
You are very pretty and NOT fat.
Maybe he has mental health issues or just a jack a**
Like I tell my friends....Most people just SUX.  | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:09:25 AM | It’s quite impossible for a nice guy to become a jerk in 10 seconds. It is very possible however, for a jerk to do his very best to be a nice guy but that usually lasts that 10 second and in your case 30 days.
He was looking for something in that 30 days and you were not prepared to give; he then as expected morphed back into his own reality of being the jerk he always was.
You know a nice guy by the people he surrounds himself with, how he treats his family, his mother and the average guy giving him a menu!
Hopefully, the next time you will actually find a nice guy…. those are the ones worth hanging on to. Let this one go, call it a relief and let him get what he needs elsewhere. | |
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M2k7
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Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 58 | |
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Suje
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Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 59 | |
| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:43:49 AM | | I'm the other end of the scale, I 'spoke' to someone on here, we got on and met briefly, then arranged a day out - god it was lovely, we talked, laughed etc, people saying we looked like we'd known each other ages, and bearing in mind I'm from the older end of the scale he was my age and interested in what I was biking/diving, then the next day nothing...........nor the next etc......................no explanation nothing - he is no oil painting then again neither am I, but he won't tell me anything!!!!!!! He won't even anser the phone!!!!! Yet whilst driving we was talking and talking, we was like 2 halves of the same penny. Then he treats me like this ..........................................it hurt and still does cos he hasn't said what the problem was....................he hasn't contacted me at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So 'the big h' please tell me, what happened????? Cos I can't fix what I don't knows is broken!!!!!!!! | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:22:50 PM | I think underneath all nice guys have another side to them and it has nothing to do with you personally. Certain nice men can only hold it together for certain amounts of time. You never know when the nastiness will surface so beware. Name calling is mental abuse and it really hurts and could remain with you forever after it happens.
Once it had happened you are going to be walking on eggshells wondering when it will happen again.
Move on.......this is not proper behavior...... | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 3/17/2007 4:08:37 PM | 2 options:
1) He found someone else and finds it easier to be an a**hole to gey to dump him than him having to dump you
2) he is abusive and is now showing his true colours
Not knowing the whole story, I'd think it is #2. That means he never was a nice guy. I remember a girl I knew in high school fell for a football player. Many could not figure it out. I knew him to be a real jerk. But, she said he made her feel beautiful, wanted, and adored. He showered her with attention, took her to the nicest places. About 2 months in, he started being abusive - calling her fat, ugly & stupid. Every time she said she was thinking of breaking up with him, he bought her flowers or did something to make her think he was sorry.
It is a pattern. Abusers do this once they think you are "theirs"
Kick him to the curb and into the gutter where he belongs. | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:39:02 AM | That's awful!
Why would you want to continue to see someone who thinks it's OK it disrespect you like this even one time ???? If it happens once, it will happen again. This is not just him having a bad day. Once would be quite enough for me.
Kick this jerk to the curb and find someone who treats you well, the way you deserve to be treated - ALL the time, not just when he feels like it.
Sorry, idiots who treat women like that really make me  LOL | |
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Posted: 8/8/2008 4:27:34 AM | Hey I don't know how to start a new thread but I need help...
Sorry!
I met this guy and we met up once or twice and then we just chatted online for almost a year. Now he sends me text messages at 2 in the morning for booty calls. If I sleep with him (which I really want to because it's been a while since I got any action) will it only ever be sex?
Is there anyway for a booty call situation to evolve into something more?
Can anyone help? | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:52:53 AM | | if someone i was barely seeing called me hooch and fat i would drop him like a bad habit i might put up iwth crap from family and even friends but not a man i've been seeing becuase there is plenty of fish in the sea no pun intended | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 8/8/2008 8:26:52 AM | OP:
IN HIS delusional MIND something connected with you has provoked his outburst.
I'm not saying it was anything rational or that it is your fault. Absolutely not. Someone could have looked at you, said you're beautiful to him or perhaps your hair for a moment draped itself same way his ex's hair did.
Those people are not normal, understand this please.
There is nothing you can do or say to make him see how ridiculous he is.
Let it go, when you see him walk away. Trying to use logic with his type is a waste of energy. | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 8/8/2008 11:56:11 AM | I wonder if this is not a test, to actually see how you would react, I know some women that would knuckle under and try to prove that they were not all the terrible things you were called, I also know other women would call him a pig and make a quick exit to the left. So I guess my question to you is Why are you even considering, and reacting to what he said or why. When he should be history, as no one needs abuse for what ever reason.
Some times we have no choice but to be in the company of jerks, but when we have a choice, then think of your self first. | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 8/8/2008 2:47:55 PM | I suspect he has found someone better and is trying to push you out.
If he really cared about yo uhe wouldnt abuse you that way.
I think its time for you to move on.
People who blow hot and cold have serious issues. | |
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| From nice guy to jerk in under 10 seconds
Posted: 8/8/2008 6:54:30 PM | | Its called respect and if someone does not respect you or who you are, they are not worth your time. There is better things out there if you give it a chance. Sometimes dealing with someone like that wakes us up to reality. Good luck! | |
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