| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/13/2007 9:31:42 PM |
I'd like to know how a deaf person would call for help if he had car trouble. A cell phone wouldn't help.
Most people would just like to know how a deaf person is able to drive. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:47:38 PM | dcofca: If you had been there and listened to enough of her mindgames you would see that was not the issue. If she needed to hear me better than how come we had over half a dozen phone calls without her needing assistance prior to that?
Just because she is deaf it does not give her the right to play mindgames nor does it give you the right to judge me and if you'll get off your high horse for a second and check my profile you'll see I am in a similar boat.
I dropped knowing her because she was a liar, manipulative, and liked to play mind games. And she was a better driver than most people with all five of their senses.  | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 1:19:19 AM | I started loosing my hearing 25 years ago but it's never stopped me from living my life to the fullest. However, as a deaf woman (I do not Sign..I lip read and always carry a pen and small tablet) I've found a lot of men, when I tell them, disappear.
Yes, it hurts, for a little while, but then I figure they're more 'handicapped' than I am.
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:28:35 AM | hi there... I'm hard of hearing too. I wear both hearing aid. Since I was born premature. I can lipread very very well. I can spoke four diffence language, like Polish, Ukrainian, English and Sign Language . Also I can use phone very difficult understand on the phone. But I couldn't use cell phone, But not strong enough to use my hearing aid. So I use Black Berry. I relly love that. You can call 911 for help? Well Take care and Good Luck for Search.
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:58:51 AM | | my ex-girlfreind has a cellphone . the deaf mostly text message everyone . they drive cars like you and I . sex with them is awsome . one reason the deaf and heairing don't work is that deaf people want to stay in the deaf world . and the hearing stay in the hearing world . | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:53:48 AM | >>Most people would just like to know how a deaf person is able to drive
It isn't really that big of a deal. The law allows a completely deaf person to have a driver's license, with no restrictions (at least in the US).
True, they can't hear people honking their horns--but aren't there times when you wish you couldn't either??
As for fire trucks and other emergency vehicles, well, they have lights. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 12:03:12 PM | | Wow! Your post brought back a memory! When I was in high school (we still had drive-ins back then), I met a young man who was hearing impaired (not totally deaf). My girlfriend and I spotted him and I thought he was so darn cute! He had driven his Mustang to the place, we were in one of our parents' cars. She was much bolder than I was, and said we ought to talk to him. We went over, started talking and figured it out rather quickly (his voice 'sounded different' than fully hearing people). She told him, much to my embarrassment, that I thought he was cute and that I 'liked' him (oh the days of passing notes and having your friends communicate for you). He smiled and asked me to go out with him, which I did. I had a great time. I don't remember the reason we stopped going out...maybe it was because he was moving away to go to college; I honestly don't remember the exact "why". When I worked with occupational therapists, one of the many skills they could learn was signing. I often wish I was a more disciplined person, because signing is something I would like to learn but never take the time to do so. Maybe it's the part of me that doesn't like formal and traditional lessons...I'd rather have someone teach me in a relaxed atmosphere that could include "fun" (this means there are no tests and no perform-on-demand commands). | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 12:15:09 PM | >>I met a young man who was hearing impaired (not totally deaf).
Just FYI, the Deaf don't like the term "hearing impaired", because it is ambiguous.
Like most politically correct terminology, it sucks the meaning out of language.
Your old flame was hard of hearing.
Actually, if his voice sounded different, he may have been deaf. Hearing loss has to be pretty extreme before you can't hear your own voice, and he may have been able to fool you into thinking he had some hearing by lipreading.
And by the way, learning ASL *IS* fun, even in a classroom. IMHO, anyhow. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 12:16:11 PM | | I dated a deaf guy for a short time.. and became friends with him for a long time.. They have special phones systems.. that they type into and a live operater says what they are typing.. and when I answered .. the operater typed my reply back to him.. It took a bit of getting used to.. but I at least got to talk to him when I needed too.. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 1:25:44 PM |
the deaf and heairing don't work is that deaf people want to stay in the deaf world . and the hearing stay in the hearing world .
Yes and no. I personally have a huge issue with this. I have a lot of hearing and deaf friends who I have known for a very, very long time. My deaf friends criticize me for having hearing friends who they believe should be fluent in ASL by now. They can sign fine to carry on good conversations, but they can't sign ASL as smoothly. As a result, in a group setting, my deaf friends tend to stay in a group away from my hearing friends who also are in a group. My hearing friends feel frustrated because when they try to talk to my deaf friends, they get 'bored' quickly and lose patience with my hearing friends. I argue with my deaf friends that they should just recognize the efforts my hearing friends put in, instead of ignoring them and complaining about it. I'm actually siding with my hearing friends on this issue, because my deaf friends are ignorant for looking down on hearing people for this reason.
I don't blame my hearing friends for feeling this way. I also understand where my deaf friends are coming from. It's just that I can't force the hearies to learn more, as you know how they say you can only lead a horse to a pool of water, you can't force the horse to drink. This issue has gone on for years. I just wish my deaf friends understood better why my hearing friends are hesitant to talk to them, instead of blaming them and complaining about it.
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:10:25 PM | Smith, you're right..... Deaf prefer deaf, not "hearing impaired". I also hate the term "hearing problem. I have no problem - I can't hear! And some deaf seem to understand- but don't always. Sometimes I feign understanding, usually if someone is making an off comment to me in passing and my underrstanding or not has little or no consequences.
I am profoundly deaf, and can't hear my voice, but I am told it is "normal" or "sounds much better than most Southerners". lol But to those who know the deaf, they can detect a "deaf voice" but its faint. That's a couple of years of voice lessons plus I was born hearing and gradually became deaf. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:15:17 PM | | Personally havn't dated guy but was friends with guy and personally nicest guy i have ever met. Ya sure was abit difficuly to understand eachother at first but once ya get to know the person becomes easier. Just like anything anything in life. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 4/28/2007 11:44:02 AM | >>But to those who know the deaf, they can detect a "deaf voice"
There's more to it than that. I can usually spot a Deaf person before they even talk.
It's hard to put my finger on exactly what I am responding to.... | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 2:22:08 AM | I'm Deaf and when I was younger, no one knew I was Deaf until I told them. I had friends for years that never knew. One day, I told some, and they, oddly enough vanished from my life!
So, for many years I didn't tell people I was Deaf. Now that I'm single again, I'm am awestruck by how many men are willing to give it a try with a deaf person.
Granted, Drew, with out any sign language it does present communication barriers to a person who doesn't lipread well. I speak well, so communication on my part is fluent. If you are patient, and the woman is a good catch, you will find yourself wanting to learn some sign.
However, I've had men pick up sign language amazingly quick. I have a sidekick, so if there is a word or a phrase I cannot pick up, I hand them the side kick to type on.
There are web sites online that teach sign by free video you type the word and the video of a person demonstrating the sign pops up.
It is really wonderful to sign in noisy crowded places. You don't have to yell or strain to hear someone. In college or school you can cheat with friends (wink, but I didn't need to of course) during tests.
When you are around inlaws and friends you can fight or talk about them in silence (hehe you can sign 'my mom's getting on my nerves, lets get out of here'). During meetings and seminars you can discuss 'points' in silence.
Needless to say, if two people like each other enough, where there is a will, there is a way. But, yes, in the beginning it may present some stressful moments, but then, don't most dates?  | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 5/15/2007 2:28:09 AM | It is hard for another deaf person who doesn't know asl! I have a Deaf ASL friend and it is frustrating and yet funny because I'm Deaf, too, so I can understand the frustrations, but we still have fun together.
We just have to use the sidekick more often than a hearing person because deaf people don't move their lips as often as a hearing person. I do admit, we are comic when we are together.  | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 5/15/2007 2:41:30 AM | Hahaha where in the world did you get your information? We don't want to stay in a particular Deaf or hard of hearing world. It is called discrimination.
Yes, Deaf people are more likely to work for Deaf people because of discrimination factors. Hard of hearing people are more likely to remain jobless because they often lack another communications skill, and deaf people will discriminate against them, too.
I'm an advocate for people with disabilities, and I'm Deaf myself. I have consulted with many governor's commissions, organizations for Deaf and Hard of Hearing etc. . .
Communication problems, and lack of it are number one job killers when it comes to getting a job. It is very expensive to accommodate a Deaf or Hard of Hearing person, so they are more likely to remain unemployed then a person with a different type of disability. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 5/15/2007 6:46:58 AM | I am a Sign Language Interpreter and have dated a deaf person. There were positives and negatives to the relationship. The thing that I found hard was that I often felt obligated to interpret at times when I just wanted to relax, such as watching tv.
This was before closed captioning became so common. If I laughed at something - I felt guilty about it until I explained why I was laughing, which can be exhausting. I think it's a good experience for deaf and hearing to socialize, but if there is going to be any serious dating-there has to be a pretty good communication system for it to work. There has to be a lot of understanding and willingness to learn, on both sides. | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 5/15/2007 12:11:08 PM | chicgurl1974, I am guessing you are deaf, not Deaf.
For one thing, you imply that it is a disability...and I can't really tell from your posts whether you sign or not. I'm guessing not?
>>We don't want to stay in a particular Deaf or hard of hearing world. It is called discrimination.
No, some Deaf do want to associate mainly with other Deaf. Stop speaking for everyone. I've run into some anti hearing prejudice among Deaf people.
pinkdaffodil, I'd like to write to you privately, but you have me blocked. Write to me and that will lift the block.
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 5/17/2007 4:00:44 AM | It's Deaf not deaf - as a culture - really depends on how you use the word - it is offensive to some Deaf to say the deaf. I don't imply it's a disability - it's how you interpret it.
For those of you who want to understand more about Deaf and deaf please read http://deafness.about.com/cs/culturefeatures1/a/bigdorsmalld.htm
And yes, I do know know sign language | |
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| Dating experience with Deaf person before?
Posted: 3/24/2008 10:05:51 AM | hi :)
iam hearing impaired, i was born deaf (not bad tho). well like deaf or hearing impaired ppl some can talk n hear, n some may cant at all. so i dont think its a problem for hearing ppl :)
i had a hearing bf...broke up last mth. wit me n him have no problem wit me bein hearing impaired, tho i can talk n hear, i also can hear on mobile n some home phone. it depends on hearing person if they r happy wit tha deaf or hearing impaired...as long as they get along n have understandin wit eachother thats all that matters hey :)
ma ex bf (hearing) he understands me well, tha only time i cant hear much at all is wen im not wearin hearing aids...especially durin tha night lol!
so anyways im more of a hearing side than deaf world, tha reason is cause i grew up wit hearing all ma life, i dont do sign language much unless if i do wit a deaf person :) some of tha hearing ppl they didnt realised i was hearing impaired until i told them cause ma hearing loss isnt that bad. so to be honest i have never date a deaf guy in ma life at all n
i prefer date a hearing guy more cause i get along wit hearing guys more than deaf guys.
so cya ppl n have a good one :)  | |
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