| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/6/2007 1:50:34 PM | I think it is a popular myth that women do more than men.
Pretty much every couple that I know (relatives , friends) .... the man does as much if not more than the woman. I know that I always did my share.
I think that , just like with everything in life , things should be fair and equal . If the guy works hard outside of the home for long hours ....then it is only fair that the woman does more around the house.......and vice versa . | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/6/2007 2:57:55 PM | ^^^ you should have words with my ex bf...during the last 6 months of our relationship i became so frustrated by his laziness i actually decided to write up a schedule of chores for each of us to do on alternating weeks. up until then, i cooked, cleaned, did laundry, did the grocery shopping...and his only contribution was to make a big sigh when i inconvenienced him (interrupting his online gaming) by asking him to help me carry the groceries from the car to the apartment. even the schedule didn't work, so eventually i chose to stop picking up after him til he finished his week of tasks...the place turned into a sty, but i proved my point, and shortly thereafter i broke up with him. i assure you i won't put up with that again.
pfft! no excuse for either partner to be lazy. | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/7/2007 3:04:36 AM | | Couple of years ago my ex husband was going thru divorce and had no place to stay so he came over for holiday to see my kid...day before holiday I was cleaning house and he was there and he got up and vacummed...I just about fell out....I was thinking...(wow he sure has changed)....I dunno...think he was wanting me to take him back...we were married when I was younger and I didn't know how to straighten all those things out back then (house chores)...live and learn... | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:57:01 AM | Whether you are a man or woman, people have to be practical. If you give your partner a situation where they are better off being single than with you, they are going to kick your ass to the curb eventually.
I know a guy who got married and as soon as the ring was on her finger, she stopped cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. And she did not work. So he'd come home after a hard day and dinner wasn't there. She wanted to "go out to eat" She smoked, talked on her cell phone, watched TV and did nothing. No that's not true, she saddled him down with her college loans. At some point, the guy realized that his wife provided him no upside to being married. He was basically doing the same thing he did when he was single except he was taking care of someone else. So he divorced her.
People have to use common sense in a relationship. If you are guy and you just got laid off from your job, start cleaning and cooking. Don't be stupid. If your wife or girlfriend is floating the bills while you are getting back on your feet, don't take it for granted. On the flip side, if a man busts his ass all day long to bring home the bacon and the girl is in school and trying to get her career started, maybe it's a good time for her to shut her face and go in the kitchen and bake him a pie. People need to see the upside in being with you, and that upside changes with real life circumstances.
It's more work to cry about what you don't want to do than to just do it and realize that how much you can leverage your partner comes down to how much you add to the relationship. | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/7/2007 10:13:59 AM | "Whether you are a man or woman, people have to be practical. If you give your partner a situation where they are better off being single than with you, they are going to kick your ass to the curb eventually"
This so true ! My biggest problem was that after I cleaned the house, my ex - (we both worked) we say something like - you missed a spot ! God that used to drive me up the wall. Or he would find a dirty spoon and point it out to me - for god's sake man just wash the damn thing again ! Also, numerous complaints about what I cooked for dinner - he once told me that I should cook two dinners each night - (two meats and six veges) and he WOULD CHOOSE WHAT HE WANTED ! and guys wonder (some guys) why we don't want to cook and clean for you?
I want a man who would like to fix stuff, work on cars and work in the yard, etc. and I will be happy to clean the house and cook (if you are not picky and a complainer). But if you can't fix stuff then pick up a broom or dust - anyone can do that ! | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/7/2007 2:58:54 PM |
Oh Cj, Do we at least get a frilly or is just the bra and panties it.....
Oh no. She would get proper treatment for her sensuous efforts. It would be disrespectful not to. | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/7/2007 4:31:33 PM | [Quote] Oh no. She would get proper treatment for her sensuous efforts. It would be disrespectful not to. [Quote]
Well thank you so much for clearing that up. I just was really curious since it seems like she was the one doing all the sweating.......
mmmmm going to close before I get into trouble again
Oh before I forget dang I can't go off topic.... I still think it should be a 2-waay street. If I am expected to cook then he can take the garbage out. Check the oil all that good stuff. Kill the spiders. ......... | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/8/2007 1:15:18 AM | the women i was with, i did everything. i walked to the store to get her cigs, i did her laundry, cooked her food, and she spent just about all my money.
i dont know, i just have this kinda thing in my head, "clean up after your own ass" and there wouldnt be a problem. | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/8/2007 1:24:04 AM |
the women i was with, i did everything. i walked to the store to get her cigs, i did her laundry, cooked her food, and she spent just about all my money.
how long did it take you to grow some balls and tell her to do this stuff herself?? lol
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 9/8/2007 8:53:15 AM | from living at home with my parents my mum is the best she just waitstill my brothers make such a mess then when they r ready to leave my mum is like excuse me did you walk into the house today looking like someone threw a handgrenade into the living room then they say no then my ma is like well knock your self out and get your crap lifted lol my mother has such a good way with words | |
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| Expecting your sweetie to do housework for you
Posted: 11/22/2007 6:34:02 PM | | Dunno what to tell ya there. I've never just lived with a guy, but both times I married, I worked and did all the housework...didn't mind it, was raised to believe it was my place to (and yes I know alot of people don't feel that way, just how I was brought up). My first husband was good about doing all the outside stuff tho, but my second husband...pfft. He did offer to help out inside, but not bein used to it, it just got on my nerves. I'm one of those odd ones that had just rather do it myself. | |
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