| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/4/2008 9:23:20 PM | not all thin girls are ditsy=========or do you know all of the thin women in the world to make that judgment? dont think we've met= i'm 54 yr old 126# not one pound overweight- and also can cary on a intelligent conversation, great personality,
been told many times i'm pretty- but i do have a pic- i'm not for everyone and definatly not every man is for me= even if they are fit= i' stay fit because I want it for ME=
not to impress anyone else=-but ever hear the saying= if you dont watch your figure nobody else will either????????? not trying to sound rude= this is online=cant hear tone of voice-etc= just making a statement=dont be so judgemental=-thats a turn off more than a few extra pounds ( shaking hands and smiling not being rude ok! ) | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/4/2008 9:29:27 PM | Some women have the same problem as some guys do, in labeling very outgoing people as "idiots" or "ditzes" because of their extroversion with the opposite sex, either out of jealousy, anger or general lack of understanding.
Then, other times, they really are idiots, in addition to being extroverts. Go figure. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/7/2008 7:09:43 AM | In my opinion, the answer most people seek with not be found on any forum. The answer everyone seeks is acceptance with a particular sex or companion. Initial attraction has to be based on looks, especially if you are going from a profile and not from a hand shake or cup of coffee. In person, scientifically speaking, attraction is about chemistry and not whether you "click" but whether your pheromones match. We are, in any sense of the word, just animals, though highly evolved... and if meeting in person, sometimes a person's type can be overwritten by a pheromone. Anymore, its not thin people that is the issue... its the fact that every where men and women look, a sickly size zero is the norm and the want. It used to be attractive to be in the average of a size 9-15 (for woman) because curves were the accent of a woman... now, bones are. It also used to be, that larger women were thought to be better wives for breeding. It all comes down to how you look at it, some can say, people want curves, others they want thin (ditsy) people. But it is more or less a product of the times. You can't expect everyone to love you and find you beautiful.. but if you find yourself beautiful it is all that matters. I am not a thin person, though most of my habits are healthy and I live an active life style... but some people have an average weight for them determined by genes and lifestyles. Just be happy with yourself and you will be able to find someone else to be happy with you.
But I could be wrong.... just my opinion. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:37:17 AM | | Op...why do women think they have the right to decide what should appeal to a man and the right to judge his character if he doesn't go along ? you might also tell me why people in general seem to beleive that it's all about what they think and perceive of themselves and not what others think and perceive.The fact is in your own mind you can be all that and a bag of chips but if the other person doesn't want all of that and hates junk food you're done. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:01:57 AM | Why do you say that. Maybe for the 20 year olds yes, but not for women that are in there 30's, 40's and 50's. Most woman in these years have had children and they have probably had c-sections which doesn't help your stomach muscles. It is something I have learned to live with and the other thing is having a little bit of "love handles" on them.
Next time you see or date a man ask him this: Would you sooner have a lady that was a "10" for looks and a "2,3,4 " for intelligence, romance, and cooking or would you sooner have a lady that was a "7 or 8" and have "10's " in all areas. That should be a simple answer, the one who is a "7 or 8". | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:11:55 AM | | becaause they are young and immature and would not know a good thing if it hit them right in the nose..good luck, you will find someone good for you.. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:17:37 PM | | All men do not like thin and ditsy woman...I like a woman that has a great personality...Looks are not everything to me...I need an attraction but other then that There should not be any crazy unrealistic expectations.. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:25:21 PM | I vastly prefer the women I date to be Brian-less.
The less Brian, the better, especially if Brian happens to be a jealous ex-husband, or uncontrollable misbehaving offspring. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:59:26 PM | "Ditzy really has nothing to do with it. In fact, if given the choice between a thin, hot girl with a brain and a personality and one without a brain or personality, 9 times out of 10, a guy is going to take the former. We do like sweet and intelligent girls. But not at the expense of femininity. "
Can't a girl be smart, thin and feminine? I don't think femininity has any correlation to intelligence. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 2:40:10 PM | | Just like countless women before her, the OP is a hypocrite for this very reason: she would not be single if looks didn't matter to her, yet here she is raggin on guys who dare to have their own standards that don't include her. When will these idiots learn.... | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 2:58:09 PM | Hi Heh,
First let me say that you are among the Cincinnati online women I would most like to meet because you are very attractive (which for me includes thin) AND you seem very nice and respectful AND you clearly are intelligent (AND we both share a background in Education). That said, I want to challenge your assertion that femininity and intelligence are uncorrelated! ;-)
If we can agree that there indeed exists a common "g" or general intelligence, and that it follows a normal distribution, can we also agree that femininity -- the quality of being a girl/woman or womanish (dictionary.com) -- is partly behavioral, i.e., a function of society? My point is that while meeting feminine, intelligent women like you remains a joy for me (and many other men), social forces continue to exert greater pressure on women to be feminine than to be intelligent, so we can expect there to be at least a slight (negative) correlation. Agree? | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 3:11:23 PM | In correlational studies, there are many variables to take into consideration; however, the most important factor to keep in mind when using correlational statistics to prove something is this: correlation does not equal causation. For example, there is a correlation between ice cream sales and drownings (i.e. as ice cream sales go up, so do drowning deaths) why? Because more people but ice cream in the summer and more people swim in the summer - so obviously more drownings occur. So there you have it, a positive correlation occurs, but they have nothing to do with one another - meaning neither one caused the other.
Thanks for the compliments by the way!!
I meant to say "buy" ice cream not "but" ice cream - nobody wants butt ice cream- yucky | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 8:20:13 PM | Hmmm, I think you're think you're digging yourself in deeper! You first argued that there was no correlation. Are you conceding, then, that there may be a correlation, but perhaps no causation? I'm not suggesting that intelligence tends to CAUSE lack of femininity (or vice versa)! I certainly hope not, since I want both in a date/girlfriend/future spouse! I just think there continues to be a wave of anti-intellectualism that is somehow connected to being considered desirable to the opposite sex.
BTW, you're showing your colors: feminine, attractive, intelligent AND funny! (Email me anytime for a no-pressure ice cream date -- no ifs, ands or ... oh, never mind....) People may not want butt ice cream; however, many do want their ice cream to taste "buttery".... | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 9:34:47 PM | Ditzy comes in all shapes and sizes. I am not into the Paris Hilton ditzy
but Suzanne Sommers in Three's Company.....that's definitely a different
ditzy. (say that 10x fast)
I think you've overrated yourself. (I'm kidding!) You're probably dealing with
guys within your peer group so it doesn't surprise me if they go for the Cheerleader.
We all come around eventually but in the meantime.......perhaps your personality
needs a little tweaking for wrapping guys and thin women into a somewhat critical
package. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/8/2008 10:04:01 PM |
im a 20 yr old female, and i have noticed that guys would rather date the thin brianless girls with no personality, rather than having an average girl like me with good looks, GREAT personality, can hold a intelligent conversation. why are men like this?
Why do women only like musclebound guys that only have enough brains to eat, sh*t, and workout. You do see the similarity in how dumb our statements are? | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 9/9/2008 12:03:31 AM |
Can't a girl be smart, thin and feminine? I don't think femininity has any correlation to intelligence.
That was exactly my point. The OP set it up to sound like intelligence and attractiveness were mutually exclusive, which they're not.
Like women, men generally want the total package. We prefer women that are smart, thin, and feminine with great personalities. But as the value hierarchy goes, femininity and thinness rank higher in priority than intelligence and personality.
Given the option, we'll take all of those qualities in a mate. But if you're giving us an either/or situation like the OP did, the thin ditzy girl generally wins out with most guys due to the natural attraction process.
I meant to say "buy" ice cream not "but" ice cream - nobody wants butt ice cream- yucky
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