| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:44:47 AM | OP ~ are you talking about average guys w/ a great personality who can hold a good conversation?
Or are you talking about the 'hot' guys who you want to date but aren't interested in you?
I'm pretty sure the average guys would date you in a heartbeat! & I'm also pretty sure the reason you're not interested in them is that you're 'just not attracted to them'.
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:49:08 AM | Your intelegence could be coming off as**** and all that!
don't change... just don't go after the guys who are brainless jocks... oh yeah and as long as you are over generalizing... that can come of as less than cool as well.
As you get older you will get hit on more, PWP (people with personality) are a more mature... tired of picking up the brainless hotties... type of people... so your time will come! | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:20:57 AM | i dont just go for one type, every woman has her good qualities
and bad......have found even if a woman
doesnt know how to take apart a rocket engine she may have
other endearing qualities--not to say i sleep around,i'm too busy taking
 apart rockets.....but i generally do
stay away from those who are so ditsy they're careless about
stepping on people's hearts without
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 3:51:09 PM | Why do men go for brainy, heavy girls?
Why do men go for blondes and not brunetts?
Why do men go for large breasted women?
Why do men go for tall slender women who wear dresses?
Why do men go for athletic women that have a tad bit of tom boy in them?
I guess what I am saying is when i look around this world I see men chasing all kinds of women and find this topic as an invalid statement. Perhaps what you wanted to say is why did the man you were crushin on decide to go after a skinny, ditsy woman. If that were the question then we could disect to come up with a better answer. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:26:35 PM | To the OP-----
They are separate women.
Thin= attractive.
Ditsy= constant entertainment from her ignorance and/or naivety.
The younger the man the more like *looks* are more important than *brains*. The older men get the less significant the looks are and more important brains are.
Never forget a man can ALWAYS find something he enjoys with an attractive bodied female regardless of his age.....
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:32:59 PM | >>Never forget a man can ALWAYS find something he enjoys with an attractive bodied female regardless of his age.....
Hey! Who gave you permission to give away secrets?? | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:54:55 PM | "Hey! Who gave you permission to give away secrets??"
So sorry, I wasn't thinking. (bangs head against desk)
Had I not made that public women would never have known.... | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:17:04 PM | im a 20 yr old female, and i have noticed that guys would rather date the thin brianless girls with no personality, rather than having an average girl like me with good looks, GREAT personality, can hold a intelligent conversation. why are men like this?
I dont think intelligence is weighed by the pound. Does that mean overweight men are also brainless ? Sounds like your problem is your so called "GREAT personality". | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:27:54 PM | Well Sable19,
You have to be honest with yourself. This sounds like a case of sour grapes to me. Are men really dating thin brainless girls with no personality? Maybe those "other" girls are smart and thin, and in shape...all men appreciate that. Maybe you are just angry and bitter because you see other women that have what you dont. How do you know that you in fact do have great personality and can hold an intellegent conversation? It would seem to me that if you did have a great personality you wouldn't be trashing other women just to pump up yourself and blame to whole situation on men by complaining "why are men like that?" Maybe you should really take a close look at yourself and ask youself "why are YOU like that?"
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Now you are young so hopefully you will change whatever it is about yourself you don't like. If you are overweight...change it! If your angry and bitter...I gurantee you, you don't have a good personality.
If you don't change, you'll be just one of a million angry, bitter overweight women who want to blame their problems on men instead of looking at themselves and figuring out why they aren't popular with men. If you don't change your thinking now, you'll be 40ish, angry and bitter and your best friends with be 20 cats. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:35:36 PM |
...pretty sure the reason you're not interested in them is that you're 'just not attracted to them'...
Sable 19 - I am sure you would disagree with that comment, why else would you want to meet them? Maybe it is just that tho. You may be picking guys who are 'hot', who in turn are probably looking for women who are like them (serious about fitness, serious about appearance, just young and having fun for now, etc.). If you are really seeking someone who isn't like that, then be more specific on your profile. You need to be very honest about your own view of yourself (do you think you are super athletic/fit or average?) and pick men who are within your own view of yourself. You are young and have lots of life to experience, lucky you! Spend the time getting to know yourself and become comfortable with who you are before deciding who that special guy will be. Good Luck!
jcl3 - her opinion is valid, just as yours is... not all girls voicing an opinion about men seeming to prefer thin/ditsy women are overweight or stupid or destined to be bitter old ladies with 20 cats for best friends... Your advice is sound, although poorly delivered and whiny in it's own right. How do you know you have a great personality and can hold an intelligent conversation? Geesh...
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Posted: 1/22/2007 7:05:16 PM | I don't get along well with thin brainless girls at all. If you aren't reasonably intelligent we aren't going to get along well. Average to me means many different things. proportion is one of the most important things. Slim all the way to voluptuous . It could be any hair color or height. It's all about intelligence and proportion.
From your pictures and profile it looks like you don't have much to worry about ! Very Cute!
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Posted: 1/23/2007 5:21:42 AM | Well Reeltreble,
You seem to be adding things I never said. I never talked about girls being stupid did I? That's what you added. And to say it's "poorly delivered" or "whiny" is your opinion. I'm not whiney and I meant what I said. So, Once again, you might be decribing who YOU are. Most of the time I have found when people use words such as "whiny" and "poorly delivered" You are actually decribing yourself. I'll be willing to bet that you whine alot and are bad at communication skills. You can only understand the world as far as you can understand yourself. And to the corrupt, the whole world is corrupt. Yes, the question is valid. She said she has a great personality and can hold intelligent conversation. That's not for her to decide, that's for others to decide. She might think she's intelligent, but others obviously don't or they wouldn't reject her. And yes, I have never seen another woman use the words "thin and ditsy" except for other women who are in fact overweight and jealous. And yes, if you spend your life jealous and angry and bitter and blame your problems on men and not understand it's you who are turning them off, then yes, you are destined to be alone and end up with 20 cats. How many cats do you have already? | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/23/2007 4:07:02 PM | I don't ! I like my WOMEN nice and curvy with hips, breasts, and a nice full butt. I would hate to cut myself on a sharp corner... | |
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Posted: 1/25/2007 6:04:52 PM | | the fact is not all men are like that. and girls have to stop looking at it that way. I am no skinny mini girl. I am toned and work out and stuff to have an okay body you know. People need to take more care of themselves and not let themself get to the poiny of being majorly overweight. Dont use your dating life as an excuse to eat more even if u are depressed. Their are ways to get around it and alot of women have over came that and have their sould mates now. So it only goes to show. Not all the time some men tend to like the fuller women and women are the same. you have to be physically attrached to a person because that is the first thing you see but they have to have something to go along with it you know. | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/25/2007 6:26:04 PM | some quick observations that raise alarm bells:
-you're into 'metting' someone special
-you have a picture of a kid in your profile without clarifying it's not yours
-you're posting a self-promotion/self-pity thread on POF
It has nothing to do with your size. I'm personally into bigger parking spots and know lots of guys who are too. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 4:03:21 AM | Msg 52 - Smith
Ok so by aged 12 I had incresed my IQ score month on month with practice....
So I of course began to question the definition of IQ and if and how it can be taught or improved.
IQ depends on your culture, class and gender because of the way tests are written.
And I am of course well aware that the "IQ test" as we know it it is designed for our Western culture and society...and has been proven beyond doubt that it is biased towards certain types of measures of intelligence and certain races, cultures and societies...
Originally the tests was designed to "prove" that black (negros) people had a smaller brain and were genetically less intelligent than caucasians - and were controversially used in the 1920's to assess the suitability of immigrants for US citizenship! (The tests haven't changed much since then!)
The modern day IQ test measures a variety of different types of ability such as verbal, mathematical, spatial, memory and reasoning. The test is then 'pre-tested' on a group of people representative of the wider population. Then it's graded so that the majority of people will be get between 90-110.
- Now like a crossword - as you become more familiar with the types and style of problems / questions and the approach they are taking -and once you are familiar with that - you will improve...
It is considered by many these days that there is not one kind of intelligence, but at least eight different types, including verbal, spatial, general and emotional intelligence.
Whether IQ tests actually test general intelligence, (g), is debatable (obviously). Many see IQ tests as an assessment of an individual’s problem solving ability rather than general intelligence. However, they are not even a comprehensive test of someone's problem solving ability. Although they may assess analytical and verbal aptitude well, they aren't an accurate test of creativity, practical knowledge, and other skills involved in problem solving. So how can IQ tests be seen as a measure of intelligence? Some argue that they just show how good the individual is at IQ tests! (I'm inclined to agree!) :o)
In an attempt to avoid a slant that favours a particular culture, intelligence tests were devised that focused on mathematical and spatial skills rather than vocabulary. But even these tests are not exempt from cultural influences - increased use of video games improves spatial awareness and reaction time. Also some cultures possess skills that we have lost in western culture that aren't really measured at all.
Better schooling, parenting and increased leisure time for activities are believed to have influenced improved IQ scores across the board. Good nutrition means an individual is able to function well both physically and mentally. Although many believe this plays a role in intelligence, it is very difficult to assess. A balanced diet will provide all the foods required to maintain the correct balance of neurotransmitters - and your diet, sleep etc etc can effect the results of an IQ test - (I did an IQ test after 48 hrs sleep deprivation and my score was significantly below my average..(10 points)
And of course IQ does not take into account EI which in itself matters too...
EI (emotional intelligence) involves motivation and being able to focus on a goal rather than demanding instant gratification. A person with a high emotional intelligence is also capable of understanding the feelings of others. Culturally, they are better at handling relationships of every kind. Without self motivation and focus there are no results - so clearly intellectual intelligence should not be the only measure of overall intelligence...
Just because someone is deemed 'intellectually' intelligent, it does not necessarily follow they are emotionally intelligent. Having a good memory, or good problem solving abilities, does not mean you are capable of dealing with emotions or motivating yourself.
Highly intelligent people may lack the social skills that are associated with high emotional intelligence. Savants, who show incredible intellectual abilities in narrow fields, are an extreme example of this: a mathematical genius may be unable to relate to people socially... or may not show any particular genius in any other area...
Both emotional and intellectual problems are more easily resolved when in a good mood, which to some extent depends on emotional intelligence. Self-motivated students tend to do better in school exams.
The ability to interact well with others and having a good group of friends, means students are more likely to remain in education, whereas those with emotional difficulties tend to drop out.
On the negative side, low emotional intelligence can affect intellectual capabilities. Depression interferes with memory and concentration. Psychological tests show feelings of rejection can dramatically reduce IQ by about 25%. Rejection increased feelings of aggressiveness and reduced self-control.
It is this quality of self-control, rather than being impulsive, which is regarded as necessary to perform well in IQ tests. So a low emotional intelligence may limit intellectual performance.
Too many factors, variables, social and cultural, genetic, emotional, educational and dietry and lifestyle elements are not tested or accounted for in our modern western IQ tests for me to take them too seriously....and funnily enough - all of my friends who have scored in the top percentile tend to agree...it means very little or nothing to them at all as a measure of intelligence.........
So......... thumbs down for me... :o)
I personally dont see myself as "intelligent". Just not "stupid" (whatever that may be) ...but it all depends or who you are talking to - so to an extent it's relative too... :o)
How are we rating inteligence anyway? On results? academic or financial? On survival ability? On displaying exceptional ability in one specific area? Or a good general ability in many areas?
Not forgetting of course that the study of the mind - psychology - is NOT a science and the theories about thought and the mind put forward based on studies can not be proven either way -
Psychology is theory...open to ongoing debate and suggestions - and as a scientist at heart - its just not enough for me :o) | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:22:06 AM | Msg 87
Because we need to ensure the gene pool is nicely sorted..
She has the brains - she needs good physical attributes to add to the gene pool...
Well thats my reason! :oD - Tastes better too ;o) lol
Stephen Hawkin - excellent - now imagine him with the body of adonis... what more could a woman want for her offspring :o) | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 4:48:00 AM | Msg 104
Most choices will have an element of the subconscious and genetic driving them - although the individuals will not be aware of this...
Its about your gene pool - and theirs ultimately and nature is driving you on those basis (plural?)...
As for why blondes over brunettes - to do with fertility etc etc - traditionlly womens hair would be lighter in youth and darken once she has had offspring... (back in the day of course!) So the blondes were the ones ready for mating. Blonde hair - attracts a mate
Big breast - same thing. They simulate the shape of the a*** (originally the sexually stimulating area for the male when we were on all fours) The breasts evolved in us when we became upright. Round sensual full breasts - attracts a mate.
These evolutionary drivers still exist subconciously thats why certain things do have an overall appeal generally to both sexes.
Yes these are shaped and affected by culture, society etc etc these days... so of course no one behaviourism will fit all....
But - your choices in partner - whilst socially, emotionally affected will also be driven by pure genetic requirements and compatibility....whether you are aware of this or not.
OP- Just to add - Men in different cultures go for different things too! (Fatter the better in many cultures outside western civilisation - where thin is deemed unhealthy and not too beneficial for conceiving, healthy offspring or the continued survival of the species!)
Globally you will probably find that thin women being seen as "attractive" is a minority view (a western one! (We live in a bubble in our western world and are only 10% of the global population - I doubt MOST men in the world do find our image of "the perfect thin woman" perfect at all!)
*Even of our 10% - lets for arguments sake half (5%) are male - If half of those like a certain type of woman (thin, ditzy lets say..) we're looking at 2.5% of the overall male population - so its not really most men at all :o)
*This is a not mathematical or scientific based assessment - so no grief about the figures please! :o) (Just a lesson in perspective and perceived opinion!) Ta x | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 5:06:27 AM | Msg 56
Sorry - we're usually very good at making sure that you don't! My mistake :o)
It is a man's world.......but (as we ALL SHOULD know!) It means nothing without a woman or a girl! Listen and learn!! :o)
Smart men know this already.. :o) - and we love and respect them for it..
Its having to pretend around the disillisioned ones that think they're calling the shots that's hard work! (funnilly enough this group tend to have a lower IQ than the former!)
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Posted: 1/29/2007 6:27:13 AM | Sable,
I think it's more the guy's you find attractive then all guy's. From what I see, you are a attractive girl who should have no problem finding a decent guy.
Most guys that find thin brainless girls attractive, are pretty brainless themselves. Maybe you find brainless guys attractive, I don't know. Keep fishing though and broaden your horizons, Mr. Right is out there.
Peace,
John | |
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| why do men go for the ditsy thin girls?
Posted: 1/29/2007 9:04:43 AM | | just because they are thin that doesn't mean they are brainless. If you are indeed a good person you will find someone who will love and care for you. Sure looks matter initially but then in talking with a person you learn about them. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 12:43:49 PM | "Why do girls who aren't thin always accuse thin girls of being brainless and lacking personality? Average girls don't have a monopoly on those things. He doesn't want you, suck it up princess"
Yeah that's right | |
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